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Jealousy and Love and Confusion.
This is going to be really long, so please stick with me.
Last week, I found out that my boyfriend was flirting with someone that hangs out where his sister works. I was kinda sorta okay with it, since I know that he means nothing by it and its just his personality. But then one of my cousins went to go get her hair done by his sister while he was there. My boyfriend doesn't know my cousin. Well, this girl was really like seriously flirting with him and he was just trying to tell her that he loved me and would never cheat on me and to stop flirting and all. But she didn't stop.
Well I'm death in one ear, and 50% in the other, so when I talk on the phone, I can only hear what the person who is talking on the phone is saying. Well, he called me and she (the slut) was flirting with him and yada-yada. And I heard her say, "If you didn't have a girlfriend, you know you would want to hit this" and he said, "Yes, but I have a girlfriend and I love her and wouldn't want to hurt her" Well then she said, "even if you did?" and he said "never"
Do you think he will cheat on me with this girl?
Okay, well he goes to "trivia night" at a place around here with his sister, her husband and their friends and that girl went. Well, they ran out of chairs and she sat in my boyfriends lap. He didn't do anything about it.
Well, we had this really long talk about it and he said he wants to marry me and he loves me and never wants to hurt me again.
I told him that I called the girl and she said that he kissed her and he made her sit in his lap and he was always flirting never her. (I lied, I've never talked to this girl) He got really mad and upset about it. Well, a lot of rumurs go around about him and he said that I never believed any of the other rumours why should I belive this one? So, does that mean that my lie is really what he did? Or did he really not do anything?
He said he would never talk to her again, and I believe him. Just, do you think that what I lied about was the truth? Is that why he got so mad about it?
Please help, I really love him and don't want to loose him.
He is always telling me I'm the best thing that ever happened to him and he never wants to loose me, and when I talked about breaking up with him he got really scared and cryed. I'm just really confused. Please, help. Thanks.
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Your boyfriend seems confusing. Although he was telling her over the phone that he loves you and that he wouldn't ever hurt you. Which is good. But the part that gets me is that he let her sit on his lap. That shouldn't ever be acceptable whether they run out of chairs or not. It's hurtful and wrong toward you.
You both need to have another serious talk and not a cheesy and sweet one like, "I love you, I wanna marry you" and that stuff. You need to find a lot of time with him and come clean with your feelings. Tell him that you trust him, but you've been hearing things and you can't help but question him at times. I know made up this rumor, but if you are wondering whether it happened or not, you'll know the truth if he really does stop talking to her. If he tends to go back and forth with the flirting again, then I'd say theres probably something going on.
I'd love to tell you that this 'rumor' isn't true, but it's very questionable and you're doing the right thing to question as a girlfriend. Guts can tell you over and over how much they love you and throw all of that stuff that makes your heart melt, but you have to pay attention to their actions in order to see what's true and what isn't.
-TheTeenGirl
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You have to keep in mind that anything "the slut" (nice nickname for her, she sounds like one haha) says is probably a lie or exaggeration to make you feel jealous or to get you to dump your boyfriend. So don't listen to her. If he says that he loves you and wouldn't cheat on you, he probably won't. But if he's still agreeing with the slut when she says things like "if you didn't have a girlfriend, you know you would want to hit this" it's still innapropriate and you have every right to be pissed off. Tell him this.
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You're basicly asking an opinion here and I'm sure a lot of us have different things to say. Anyways, what that girl is doing is really mean. She obviously likes attention a lot. So, to answer your first question. I don't think he will cheat on you with this girl. He claims to really love you and he says he wouldn't do such thing. The problem is, you don't trust him. You made up that lie for no reason and don't belive the rumors you hear. People love to start drama and get involved with other peoples issues. When you told him that you called that girl and when he got mad, I don't think it's because it might of been the truth. He's probablly really agrivated that you won't trust him and that you think he would do something like that to you. That girl really wants to break you two up because she's jelous of what you guys have. Don't let her do that. I can't tell you if you should belive any of the rumors and what you should do. Just give this a little more time and see what happens. If you guys really love each other, you wouldn't let a jelous girl ruin your relationship.
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first off if he liked you he wouldn't be flirting with this girl. and if he got mad about your lie, it probaly was the truth. and if you really feel like you need to break up with him, then do so. he has already flirted with this girl and hurt you right? so if you break up with him, you would be even. and he would get what he deserves sooner or later. and from what it sounds like, he probably will or is cheating on you. but don't worry, there are plenty of other guys better than this one.
so i think you should break up and let him cry all he wants because he deserves it. (i know it sounds a little mean, but when you break up, you'll feel so much better. you won't to worry about him any more, or worry about a bunch of drama.)
hope i helped :)
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Well if you want to know and you really love him, be honest about it and tell him - tell him the truth and ask him if that is really what he did.
To be honest, I don't think he did what you said. I'm not sure why you would think so. Were all the other rumors true or just talk? None of us know if he did or did not do that...you have to ask him directly and find out for yourself. Really, if you want to hold onto a relationship you need to communicate, and now would be the time to do it. If you can't get past this now, then how can you get through other and bigger things that might come your way? So confront him, talk to him, ask him, and be open and honest. Hope that helped and good luck.
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