Cut him out of your life completely. Get your friends to help you, because it'll be hard, but worth it. You have to question the feelings of any guy who cheats on you-- especially if it was more than once. You're probably feeling attached to your boyfriend because since you love him, you're subconsciously hoping that he'll change & it'll go back to the way things once were. But you're perfectly aware that he's using you-- you need to get out of that relationship! Since he's such a big part of your life, it won't be easy, but it's best for you. You'll find another guy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

The only way to know is to ask. Consider this though-- if he really liked you, wouldn't he ask you to be his girlfriend as opposed to just hooking up with you? If you hook up with him, you may end up getting hurt if he doesn't like you the way you like him-- & you can't make him like you by hooking up with him. Good luck!

Maybe once he gets over it, but I doubt it. It depends on how much you meant to him. The more he liked you, the more what you did hurt him. Try apologizing to him. I don't think that what you did was right, but if you want a friendship with him, try making the effort.

It sounds like he may be afraid that he'll hurt you because of the distance, & that's why he doesn't want you to know-- he'd rather just not have anything with you, because in his eyes, that's not as bad as how he could potentially hurt you if you were to try the long distance thing.

Bring it up yourself. Tell him that not being with him hurts more than anything & ask him if he's willing to try having a long distance relationship.

This may sound stupid, but my boyfriend did this when he asked me to our dance & it was really cute.

Take him on some sort of scavenger hunt. Give him a clue to start with & have it lead him to something, say a letter or an object symbolizing the dance or something. With each new object, include another clue until he has found all the objects. Make them really obvious (which is why I suggested letters, my boyfriend just spelled out "V-dance?") so that he'll figure it out.

He's not being fair to you or to his girlfriend/your friend. He can't be with her just because you're not there-- long distance relationships *can* work if you're both putting in the effort-- & that's not fair to her that he's with her but would drop everything for you if you were to move back.

You need to talk to him & make him figure out what it is that he wants. I don't think you're in the wrong here-- you can't help having feelings for him. He's the one who needs to decide what he's doing. Either way, someone's probably going to get hurt, but sometimes you just can't avoid that. If he won't break up with her & try something with you, then you need to move on. He's not worth your time if that's the case.

There's really nothing you can do about it except wait for the feelings to past. Try to avoid him-- don't go blatantly out of your path to avoid seeing him, but don't make an effort to talk to him or watch him or act like you're having fun just in case he's watching. Find something else to occupy your time. He moved on, & now it's time for you to do the same.

You're young. The chances of you marrying anyone you have an interest in now are slim to none. Don't be worrying about forever just yet, just enjoy being young while you still can.

I think you should break up with your boyfriend-- not because you can't see yourself marrying him, but because your heart isn't in the relationship. If the other guy is always on your mind, you're not being fair to your boyfriend despite your good intentions. Regardless of whether or not anything happens with the other guy, it's best for everyone if you break up with your boyfriend.

Usually, you can't get over a problem if you don't recognize it (and by recognize, I mean know that there's a problem, accept it, & try to improve/correct it). I'm living proof that you *can* fall in love with your best friend-- so don't think that! I thought the same thing with my guy, but I was completely wrong. Don't just assume that because you're friends, he'll never like you "that way".

Take his word for it if he says he likes Erin. Considering that you're his best friend, you probably talk about crushes all the time, so why would he lie about it? You could be his ticket to getting to know Erin better, so I don't think he'd lie to you.

I really think you should tell him, even if it's just in a joking way so you can gauge his reaction. If it seems like he thinks the idea is crazy, then you'll know it's time to get over it. If you just sit there & insist that it's impossible for him to have feelings for you, you're not doing yourself any good.

You answered your own question-- you need to talk to him before just asking him out. Initiate conversations, let him get to know & love your personality, & *then* go for it. Chances are you're just going to be crushed if you go for it now-- why would he say yes if you never even talk? Getting to know him beforehand will make it less awkward for both of you.

Please don't listen to the Hitch advice. Good movie, but come on now.

Just go for it. One of you has to make the move, and why not you? A lot of guys like it when the girl makes the first move-- it takes the pressure off of him. You've got nothing to lose by going for it, even if it's disastrous you can just laugh about it. By now you must be comfortable with him, so just make the move!

He's probably just shy. Typing "I love you" is a hell of a lot less intimidating than saying it in person. It sounds like you'll need to take the initiative in the hand-holding & kissing. The more you do it, the more comfortable he'll be, the more naturally it'll come, & then it won't be a problem anymore.

Everyone has a chance. The more confident you are, the better your chances. If you're going to hide in the corner at the dance all night, then you're right, your chances will be slim to none. Don't get your friends to help you in the sense that they ask you for him. Ask them to encourage you to ask him & give you a shove in the right direction if you get nervous. Just go for it! If he's a nice guy, which he must be if you like him, I doubt he'll be rude even if he says no. It's better to suffer a little humiliation rather than regret not asking him & always wonder "what if?" Good luck!

It's possible that he was just joking about the "fuck you" thing. My guy friends say that all the time & it means nothing, & since you're friends..

Of course, it's quite possible that he is trying to make you jealous. Talk to your friend about it-- sometimes people flirt inadvertantly. I doubt she'd knowingly do anything to hurt you, espeically when she has a boyfriend. Just let her know that you still have feelings for the kid & it makes you uncomfortable when they're flirting right in front of you.

If you're just "seeing" each other in the sense that you're not exclusive, I wouldn't do anything with him. He got his reputation for a reason, & guys who live up to that reputation tend to be excellent sweet talkers-- they know what they want & exactly what they need to do & say to make you feel comfortable. Really, it's up to you whether or not you want to do anything with him. Don't think about it in the sense that you're comfortable now-- ask yourself if he ends up living up to his reputation & breaking your heart, if you'll regret doing anything with him. Until you're sure that no matter what, you won't regret it, watch what you do.

He may be too big/you too tight, or you may not be wet enough. Try using lube?

Whatever you're comfortable with.

I definitely think it's possible. I've been dating my best friend for a year now & it's amazing, but he never told me beforehand that he could never see us being a couple.

The only way to know is to ask-- the sooner the better-- if he likes you, you'll have something great even better, & if he doesn't, then you'll be able to start working on the process of getting over him rather than constantly wondering if it's a possibility. Good luck!

Are you freaked because you're nervous, or freaked because you don't want to do anything?

Really, there's no way to tell if he's "like that". Whether or not he'll make a move depends on how shy he is, how long you've been together, what you've done already, & other factors.

If you're just nervous about it, don't worry. Just go with the flow. Just remember not to do anything you're not comfortable with!

Express your concerns to him. It's best to be honest as opposed to bottling up your irritation & potentially destroying your relationship. Remind him that in order for your relationship to be successful, you each need to maintain separate lives & not do everything together & essentially become one person. Encourage him to spend time with his friends & enjoy being with them rather than pine for you the second you leave.

My name is Kailey. I'm 17 years old & a senior at a high school in Massachusetts. I'm told that I'm mature for my age, but I'll let you be the judge of that. I love giving advice, but I'll tell you the way I see it, so you may not always like my answers. I especially like giving relationship advice. I don't claim to have all the answers, but I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now and I feel as though I can give good advice on the subject.

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