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Q: yeah i've had feelings for her for awhile now
Then I suggest you be honest with her. Tell her that you want to be with her. But you have to know that she may not feel the same way. It's up to you to decide whether or not she's worth the humiliation if she doesn't like you. Unless you can provide more information about you two, I can't make an educated guess as to how she feels about you.

Q: both cause i want to do this right i dont want to look like a jack***
Well, girls tend to be possessive of their friends in general, especially guys. We don't want to see them with other girls, because those other girls could hurt the guy, and we don't want that because when they suffer, we suffer. & Even if we don't have romantic feelings for them, we like being their number one girl. If you were to date one of the girls you hugged, she may be jealous of our friendship & you may choose the girlfriend over the best friend & we'll be broken hearted in a friend way.

If she does like you, well, that's rather obvious.

As for finding out, you can either be straight with her or hint around at it. That depends. Do you like her?

Q: do you think you can go in depth
Sure, but you have to tell me what you mean by that. Go in depth in how to find out? Or how she may be feeling?

Q: I'm 17/f and my boyfriend is 18/m and he doea not understand the meaning of time. He is constantly late to everything. And I mean everything! I used to put up with it (we've been dating for almost 2 years) but I just can't anymore.

About a week ago, my dad threw a party for his company and instead of going with my family, I went with my boyfriend. My family left for the patry and I left to his house. When I got there, HE WAS STILL ASLEEP! I got him up and he had to take a shower so he did that. About 30 min. later, his parents were leaving for the party and asked me if I wanted to ride with them. Of course I said no. My boyfriend and I ended up being an hour and half late to the party. My dad was really mad.

The next day, we were supposed to go to the mall at 2pm. Of course, he wasn't on time. It got to be about 3:00 when he finally got to my house. I told him that I didn't feel like going anymore and we got into this big fight about how he's always late.

How can I get him to understand that it's important to not olny me but to ohter people as well that he get's to where ever he's supposed to be the time he says he will?
He NEEDS to understand how important this is to you. Don't make empty threats. If you really mean it, make sure he knows that if he doesn't shape up, there's no hope for your relationship; that it's extremely important.

Q: hey so i like this guy and he lives 2 hrs away from me. and i saw him last weekend and i got nervous when i saw him and didnt know what to say. now he thinks im mad @ him. what should i say to him?? what could i say to him so im not so nervos???

i rate.

Hint to him that you like him if you think he may return the feelings. Otherwise, insist that you weren't mad & you were just in a weird mood.

Q: my boyfriend has recently dumped me. he said it was because we dont see eachother enough. it was a shock because things seemed to be going well. i was really upset and tried to talk to him to get him to change his mind. he said he still wants to be friends, and so do i. i just really thought we could have been more than that. ive tried to really get over him but everytime i see him i think about what we were. what do i do to get over him. and do you think there will ever be a chance for us to get back together?
I doubt there's much hope, at least for the time being. If he's willing to be friends so soon, things weren't as good as you thought they were. Try to be his friend, or distance yourself, get over him, then try again-- just friends. Maybe someday there will be hope, but for now...just try to keep him in your life.

Q: 14/m

okay background:
let's call her linda. i have known her since school started. she laughs at every funny thing i do and she doesn't hesitate to give a hug or a present or something. about a month into the school year she got a bf. another month passes and she wants to break up with him, she's a nervous wreck, comes to me for support and comfort.she gets mad when i hug on other girls.

i don't know if she likes me or if she is very flirtatious? can anybody help

She may just be possessive of her 'best friend'. Girls do that. There's a quote, "It's not that I want to be the one holding your hand, I just don't want her/someone else to be". I don't think she's just overly flirtacious. In one way or another, you're special to her & she's possessive of you. She may like to her about it. Even if it's like "so & so asked if we're dating" & watch her reaction.

Q: i have a huge problem....i am completely in love with my ex, but he has a girlfriend. i have known this guy longer then i have known anyone besides my family. he was even at my first birthday party. we were together off and on for 3 years and i cant get over him. i have gone out with several guys this year trying to get over him and its just not working. and like 2 months ago we had talked about getting together but then we just stopped talking out of no where and the my "bestfriend" went out with him and then cheated on him. so they broke up and now he is going with this nice girl but i have never really liked her anyways. i love him so much and i want to be with him more then anything and i knwo you are probably thinking he has a girlfriend so just get over him but i cant. he has my heart for the longest time and i dont want anyone else to have it, i think he still has feelings for me because he always choose me first over everyone and vice versa and he goes out with a lot of girls but never stays with them long but he did with me , we were together once for 6 months last time.... please help me because i need help so bad to get over him or get back with him.... thanks in advance
Honestly, I don't think there's anything we can say to fix it. I'm a firm believer in that you always have a special place in your heart for your first love. But since you guys have been consistently on & off, you need to try & remember why it never worked all the other times. Hard as it is, you need to move on. I think the only thing that'll work is cutting him out of your life completely. It'll be incredibly hard, but I really think it's for the best. Gradually you'll get over him.

Q: My boyfriend and I are constantly getting into debates about everything, especially religion and politics. We usually don't get that worked up, but I'm afraid it's going to do our relationship damage in the long-run. Is debating normal? Or should we avoid doing it in case we start fighting and potentially ruin our relationship? Do other people have experience with this...?

As long as you remain respectful, you should be fine. If you're going to cross the line when debating, you need to promise each other that you'll sit down & stop. There's nothing wrong with debating. I think it's healthy, but I debate with my boyfriend constantly myself.

Q: i'm a guy, 14 yrs. old. here's my dilemma. this girl has a boyfriend right, and everyday in class we hug and talk till class starts. she doesn't even act like she has one. my question is what do i do now, i'm totally clueless.
She probably just thinks of you as close friends. It's hard, but since she has a boyfriend, you need to respect that & stay out of his territory.

Q: heyy! ok well this guy that i know pretty well goes to my school, and hes in the same grade as me. well he cheats on every single girlfriend he has... and see last year, he would try and hold my hand, touch my thigh, and touch my butt...he was touchy feely... hahaha. well anyways, this year, like 2 fridays ago.. i kinda started to like him... and well i gave him a HUGGEEE hug when the football game was over! like me and him were linked together... we were flirting big time... i just dont know if i should go out with him ((if he asks)) cause like i like someone else to... PLEASE HELP!
will rate 5's((if good))
I wouldn't do it. Every girl wants to be the one that changes the player, but the chances of that happening are slim to none. Rather than knowingly set yourself up to get hurt, pursue things with the other guy.

Q: I went to visit a guy that I'm friends with at his work. When he saw me his face lit up and he started winking at me. He was talking to another guy who I remembered from a party. I started talking to this guy and called him by his name. Anyways, I new that my friend had to get back to work so I said goodbye to both of them. The guy that I didnt know very well smiled and said goodbye, but then my friend glared at me and said BYE! angrily.
Does this mean that my friend was jealous I was talking to the other guy? He's not my bf so maybe his feelings run deeper for me than I thought? What do you think?
I think he's definitely jealous, but I can't tell where it's rooted. He may just be possessive of you as a friend & perhaps his friends has a reputation as a womanizer & he doesn't want to let you become one of his 'victims'. Of course, that's far-fetched. The more likely answer is that he may very well like you, but the only way to know is to ask!

Q: how do you know what kind of kiss your partner is going to do like wen he leans in to kiss you how do you know what kind of kiss to do?
i rate 5's
Let him lead when he goes in for the kiss; you lead when you go in for it. Follow his lead & you'll be fine. If his mouth is closed, then he's just going for a peck. If it's open, he may just be going for a soft, open-mouthed kiss, or he could be going in for a French kiss. Don't assume what he's going to do & just stick your tongue out-- surrender yourself to the moment, let whatever he does surprise you, & take it from there.

Q: I'm a 14 yrs old girl, my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 2 months now and he's changed. He also thought i was cheating on him because i thought we were broken up so i told another boy we would talk. well I know my boyfriend still likes me and i still like him too. He never shows emotion like i never kno if he's mad sad or if he even cares but i know he cares. Since i don't kno he gets mad a lot. We also hardly talk and now he's talking about sex. Which i've been thinking about but why should i give him what he wants if he doesn't give me what i want someone to talk to. Should I stay with him to find out why he acts this way or if somethings going on that I don't know? or Should leave him alone and find someone new? but you have to keep in mind he doesn't tell me alot so there is alot I don't know about him.
Your relationship is going nowhere fast. You don't communicate, he's jealous, & yet he's asking for sex. Those are key ingredients in a failed relationship.

You need to talk to him & get your feelings out. If he won't talk, then I think you should end things. Communication & trust are key in a relationship. You need to have a successful emotional relationship before establishing a physical relationship, unless you're set on getting hurt. Right now, you don't even have the emotional foundation, so a physical relationship is just going to hurt you more & ultimately tear you apart.

Q: 14/f. My friend Kate introduced me to one of her close guy friends about 3 weeks ago named Warren. I sort of like him now but I'm not sure if he likes me back. Kate said that Warren considers me one of his friends, but I don't want to just be his friend. I'm afraid that if I get too far in this friendship with him, we could never have anything more. Any ideas on how to turn this around so he knows that I'm willing to take things further with him? thanx. I RATE.
Get to know him better. Getting into a relationship when you've known each other for such a short period time is only going to complicate things. If you date him, you're going to be risking a potentially great friendship here. If you get to know him, really get to know him, not just what you learn in three weeks, & your relationship evolves from there, the relationship will be more likely to be long term & successful.

Let him know that you're interested in him, but if he likes you back, you want to take things slowly.

Q: Backround: My mom's best friend's son is the guy i love. His name is Matt. We went to the beach with him last August for a day. He is 15 years old and lives in Merrick, NY with his family.

Now, im 13/f and I totally fell for him. He's so funny and made me smile so much. He's not the hottest guy in the world but his personality elevates his hottness. My family only sees him once in a while as in every couple of months. I don't have his SN or e-mailaddress or anything! One night I missed him so much, that I searched on Myspace for an HOUR AND A HALF searching for him! He is so much like me! He is only going to be about 5 foot 2. I'm supposed to be 4 foot 11. Yes im tiny...hes tiny...PERFECT!! The thing is...we don't know eachother that well. I'm so shy around people I don't know well, so i just smiled. We talked a little bit, nothing interesting. Since we were at the beach, i was in a bathing suit. I chose to wear a one-piece because i didn't want to be a slut around him. What do I do? Don't tell me I don't know is for all ages. As I said...i don't like him for his looks. I hope to get to know him but i need some tips for out next visit!!

Thanks for reading this long question...i'll rate honestly!
This isn't what you want to hear, but you're going to get it anyways. You don't love him-- you don't even know him well enough to love him. You like him; you're infatuated with him; you don't love him. You're in love with the idea of being with him, with who you think he is, but you don't love him. You don't love someone because you're both short. That's absolutely ridiculous.

That said, get to know him! Ask your mom for his number & call & talk or ask for his screenname/email & become friends.

I'm afraid that at your age & in your situation, a long distance relationship is not going to be successful. Focus on being friends with the kid, & if things go from there, keep what I said (about the long distance thing) in mind.

Q: ok well im 13 and i like this guy and me and him have been hanging out alot and he was my first kiss,first makeout,first person to finger me,first person to eat me out all this in like 3 months that we have known each other. he isnt a virgin and he told me that he wanted to be my first everything and i said ok because i really do love him and he claimed that he loved me and he swore to god that he wasnt using me. well the last time me and him hung out was like 3 weeks ago and that was like the 4th time he fingered me and i swear im not a slut but now hes ingnoring me because one of my friends got him really mad so he took it out on me and now he doesnt like me anymore but i want him to and i try to get over him but i just cant.
what should i do??
First of all, you're young. Don't go rushing into these things, especially sex. Could you handle his kid if you were pregnant? I'll answer for you-- you're 13 & can't support yourself, so that's a negative.

The kid is a jerk if he'll fool around with you, then ignore you, then take his anger out on you. Time heals all wounds-- you'll get over him eventually.

Q: 13/f...there are two different schools in my town. i go to one, and my bf goes to another. lately hes been acting really weird and i think he's interested in someone else. How can i keep an eye on him if we're in different schools all day? and how am i supposed to know if hes flirting with other girls? please help, i rate good answers.
You need to ask him about his feelings. Don't try to win him over again or keep watch over him & who he's talking to-- no one likes the obsessive girlfriend. Be up front with him about your fears & handle the situation like an adult.

Q: Okay I'm 13/f and I have liked this one guy scince last year. Me and my one friend talked to him about it. He said that I'm prude and weird to my friend and when I asked him about it he said that He loves me and never would say that. Then he asked if I could give him a hand Job. At first I said sure but I didn't really feel like doing it becuase I was neruves. After that he asked my friend if I would let him eat me out and let him finger me. Then my friend asked me if I would and I said I dunno and she told him IDK[I odn't know] and then he asked if I would give him head[blow job]. I wanna do this stuff to him. Like I've fingured my self before and like I want him to do it. I'm just kinda worried. Would he like it shaved. Would he like me after. Should I do it?
You don't sound ready. You're young, don't do something stupid that you'll regret, just enjoy your innocence while it lasts.

If he "loves" you, why aren't you together? If you're comfortable with it, then go for it, but to be perfectly honest, you don't sound ready. Don't rush into these things. Don't do it as a way to try & get him to like you. It never works out & you'll be setting yourself up for heartbreak because chances are, he's not going to like you after-- & really, who would want someone to like them just because they fool around with them? You want him to like you for you, not for what you do to him.

As for the shaving, do what *you're* comfortable with, not what he wants.

Q: how long should someone wait to have have sex(are b.f. and g.f.)
There's no set time period. It depends on the ages, maturity level, & beliefs of the two people involved. If you can't have a mature conversation about it-- who will be responsible for birth control, your fears about it & how it may change your relationship, what you'll do if the girl was to get pregnant-- then it's my personal belief that you shouldn't be having sex.

I wouldn't have sex until I was on birth control & could handle a child if I got pregnant, but that's just me.

Please just be safe & don't be pressured into anything you're not 100% comfortable with.

My name is Kailey. I'm 17 years old & a senior at a high school in Massachusetts. I'm told that I'm mature for my age, but I'll let you be the judge of that. I love giving advice, but I'll tell you the way I see it, so you may not always like my answers. I especially like giving relationship advice. I don't claim to have all the answers, but I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now and I feel as though I can give good advice on the subject.






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