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I need love advice
ok....i'm 19 and.about a year and a half ago, me and this guy chad started dating but i had to move a few months later so we broke up becuase we had to, not because we wanted to. then i come back home to visit some of my friends about 3 months later and hes dating one of my best friends, which i thought i was ok with. she felt bad. but then the past few months i realize how much i still love him and he talks to me all the time and calls me baby and cutie and i know for a fact he still wants me back and if i were to move back home we could be together but i dont want anything to happen to my friendship but i love this guy with everything i have. what do i do?
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He's not being fair to you or to his girlfriend/your friend. He can't be with her just because you're not there-- long distance relationships *can* work if you're both putting in the effort-- & that's not fair to her that he's with her but would drop everything for you if you were to move back.
You need to talk to him & make him figure out what it is that he wants. I don't think you're in the wrong here-- you can't help having feelings for him. He's the one who needs to decide what he's doing. Either way, someone's probably going to get hurt, but sometimes you just can't avoid that. If he won't break up with her & try something with you, then you need to move on. He's not worth your time if that's the case.
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This is easier than you think it is. There is an unspoken code that is universal between friends 1) You never say anything bad about their relationship and 2) If you are in love with their partner never show it publically and where it will hurt, get back to them etc.
Obey the code! You are screwed if you show feelings for this guy in front of her or let it be known. If he wants to be with you he knows what to do and to break it off. Even then give her a grace period of a month or two before jumping all over the opportunity.
Their relationship will disolve on its own for now sit back and do nothing or risk losing both. Also, you mentioned living too far away for this guy anyways without moving back. I would wait and see what develops here as he may prove not to be worth it for you and or your friend.
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Well, even though you two seem to have strong feelings for each other you have to keep this in mind: he has moved on. You'll find other loves in your life and hanging on to him may not be such a good idea. I don't think he's as committed to you as you are to him, which can be dangerous. He may not love you like you love him and there are lots of guys out there that you can have a great relationship with. Even if he does love you, love is different from compatibility. You two, because of distance, and because he's found someone else and you haven't, don't seem to be completely compatible to me. Seeing him triggered old feelings and memories because the breakup was peaceful, mutual, and for reasons other than the lack of strong feelings or love for one another. Remember the reason(s) why you broke up with him and how it was for the best. Maybe later in life you two will end up together, but don't count on that. Start seeing other people like he has when you are ready to. Believe me, you can find another love. I wish you all the best and good luck. <3
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