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Needy/Clingy
I recently started going out with a friend of mine who I have known for about 2 years and really liked his personality, however I have only been going out with him for about 4 days and he has already become really clingy and needy, saying he misses me a lot and saying things like he only wants to talk to me. Its really putting me off him so how can i tell him without hurting his feelings to stop being so needy?
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well first of all, no matter what you do, dont break up with him, maybe hes just confused about how he should act. ecspecially if he hasnt had many girlfriends before you. or maybe he thinks that you want him to be that needy and clingy. i would just say " ya know "babe, hun, whatever you call him" you dont always have to talk to me, i want you to ahve a life too" or "i really like you and still want to be with you but we dont have to spend every moment together" but just make sure he knows that you arnt dumping him because then things will get bad and he will get defensive and you will end up single.
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I know exactly what you are going through my ex boyfriend was just like that. We lived like 2 hours away I know crazy to even date a guy who lives that far away, but he would call me like every single waking hour of the day and we wouldn't even talk about anything and alls he would say is that he loves me and misses me and can't wait to see me. At first it is cute ,but it can get really annoying right? I would tell him either write him an email or something and explain to him that you need some space and time to yourself. Hope everything works out well!
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It's probably best if you sat him down for a chat. Tell him how you feel, but be really nice and polite about it.
"I like you alot, and I'm happy to be your girlfriend, but since we've been you've been kind of clingy and needy. I didnt except that from you, and I just need for you to be less clingy. If you can work on that, then we can still be together"
something like that. If he can't agree to try and change, then you should probably break it off. Likewise, if he doesn't change and isn't trying very hard to give you space it's probably not gonna work out.
Hope things work out!
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If his behavior continues, talk to him one on one. Try not to say anything that will be too mean, but don't be too sweet either. You want to show him that your serious about this. If he continues acting the way he does, maybe you should reconsider your boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with him. Maybe you too were ment to be friends
hope i helped!
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Just tell him nicely you really care for him, but the relationship cant be a clingy one. Just tell him occasionally you need your space and you dont mean to offend him. If that doesn't give him the hint, then maybe he's not for you.
Good Luck && let me know if you need anything.
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ok he probaly liked you before and wants to push it just next time he says that say we have only been going out for about 4 days dont you think thats kind of rushing it. if you tell him this and he doesnt change in about a week tell him you have been thinking about breaking up with him.
hope i helped!!
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Express your concerns to him. It's best to be honest as opposed to bottling up your irritation & potentially destroying your relationship. Remind him that in order for your relationship to be successful, you each need to maintain separate lives & not do everything together & essentially become one person. Encourage him to spend time with his friends & enjoy being with them rather than pine for you the second you leave.
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