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ok sorry if this gets long. ok so theres this boy(chris) and we went out awile ago but we continued to mess around. i love him. and i told him this and he said we are to young to know what love is im 15 and hes 17. i know i love him. we dont mess around to much aymore b/c its hard to see each other b/c he moved about a hour and a half away. but we talk online once in awhile. well he was drunk one night and i wasnt online but he was talkin to one of my friends and told her he loves me and wants to be with me bt its hard b/c of the distance. and he also told her not to tell me b/c he doesnt want to get my hopes up b/c we cant be together b/c of the distance. but my friend ofcourse told me this. i want to talk to him about this but i dont know how to do it. if he wanted me to know he would tell me wouldnt he?and how do i talk to him about it b/c im not supposed to know?
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It sounds like he may be afraid that he'll hurt you because of the distance, & that's why he doesn't want you to know-- he'd rather just not have anything with you, because in his eyes, that's not as bad as how he could potentially hurt you if you were to try the long distance thing.
Bring it up yourself. Tell him that not being with him hurts more than anything & ask him if he's willing to try having a long distance relationship.
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just being it up on your own, ask him "do you love me and do you want to be with me" obvioiusly not that blunt btu something along those lines. you know him better than i do so you'll know how to word it better. and i know you think you love him but there will so many loves in your life. so dont base your entire life on just this one guy. good luck!
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he did tell your friend, so you knowing should be expected. keep in mind he was drunk... i've said a lot of things while i'm drunk. yes, most of the times the truth will come out when you're drinking b/c it's what you want to say but never have the guts to. chances are he really does love you, but is afraid of getting tied down too young. maybe just say your friend slipped and mentioned it to you, and you think that the two of you should start a loose relationship. tell him you want to talk more and see him whenever possible... when you can drive it will probably be easier to see him cause you could meet him halfway or something like that... good luck!!
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