not too long ago i was thinking exactly what you are right now...every word.
except to add on to it...i had a boyfriend that i could do it with. and my parents would do the exact same thing but i was seriously thinking about it, just like you.
well its ok to think about it because its true that its really something people enjoy but you shouldn't want to enjoy it with just anybody, but with the somebody that you know you really really love. so my thoughts kind of changed after an experience i had but i wont go into that. the point is that you dont have to have sex to be happy, i am still with my same boyfriend and we are doing really fine. its fine to think about it, but be sure that you are actually dating or Married to the person you loose your virginity to, because once its gone you can never get it back from the person who took it from you.
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ewww i hate loosing your voice..What A Pain!
unfortunately theres not much anyone can do. keep taking any kind of cough medicine you have and or cough drops.
also, keep drinking plenty of liquids and if you really wanna gag..but it really does help sometimes...gargle salt water. get some salt and a glass of water make it yeah pretty salty and as gross as it is drink some. dont swallow, but gargle in your throat for a while then spit it out and try it again.
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you'll run into a guy like this from time to time, and weather they want to admit it or not they are scared of girls. haha..who knew we were so intimidating, right?
well the truth is we're not intintionally that way, but almost everybody has been scared to talk to the opposite sex at sometime in their life.
i've had my fair share of guys doing this and i agree its very hard to know just what they are thinking!
what you need to do is just next time you see him, say "hey!, ____name" as you pass him in the halls. or if its the end of the day and your leaving and you see him just say have a good weekend or whatever. once you start doing that maybe he'll realize that he can talk to you and that you wouldn't mind, and you might even have to go in for the next step and make that move too. start talking a little more in more of a conversation. think of clubs or sports that both of you or just him are in, and talk about it. things you know he likes, it'll get him to open up. :)
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your right, thats deffinitly a tough situation. and by having a cousin who tends to lie, i know what you mean but once in a while they might be right. however, she could just as well not be telling the truth this time.
what you need to do is figure out without asking.

watch for signs from your boyfriend. lets say if you spend on average um..3 nights a week plus days at school together. then gradually, because of things he's doing the time you guys get to hang out decreases. listen to his excuses. they might be reasonable, or if he's less sneaky they might not be. but if its something that he has to go do ask if you can help. if he gets panicky and tells you no no no...you might want to secretly go anyways and see if he's really there, doing that. not that you shouldnt trust your boyfriend, but in this situation you need to do some investigating to see whos telling the truth:
boyfriend vs. cousin....
good luck i really hope i helped
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its when a guy sticks his finger(s) in a girls vagina and moves them around and what not. i think its gross when people do it and their not dating, but once you date and make out i mean you can decide what you think of it or if your even comfortable with it at all:)
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oh hun thats extremely normal.
dont worry, your deffinitly not the only one.
i think just about everyone goes through that during their teen years heck i started mine back in 6th grade and i still will space out for months at a time...and i know that a lot of my friends have that problem too and that it IS normal. so no, dont worry, just keep tampons or pads in your purse or backpack...something that can be with you at all times. and just be prepared for when it Does come. annoying as it may be, its part of being a girl:)
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how long depends on the brand of razor, but every one i've used anyway you can use way more than one time. usually about 4 or 5 before they start getting dull. you'll be able to tell...once they start not shaving very good just pitch it and get another one out.
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oh yes, sounds like he deffinitly likes you. not wanting to go to fast, but probably likes you. or maybe not going to fast isnt what he's meaning, but he just wants to get to know you better first. whatever the case, i think he is interested in you.:)
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let me just say my first kiss was deffinitly not the best..at all. like many have said on here.
it was one summer and me and some of my really good friends were all out under the stars and everybody was having a really good time. and my boyfriend at the time was also there. sounds like the perfect romantic spot, right? well, it could've been. but my b/f; lets call him bill; had been trying to kiss me for a while. but it was never right and i was afraid i'd be bad so i acted like i didnt notice you know? but then i actually kissed him we were laying on this blanket and the guy who is like my brother was right next to me but he's been through everything else with me so it was fine i didnt really notice him. and i leaned over and was planning to give him a nice plant on the lips soft and sweet. but as soon as i got there he started being like a fish or something and like licking me face i think he mite've been trying to french kiss but that is not at all how...so i pulled away pretty fast it was the worst first kiss ever.
but now im with a guy who i love so much, and the first time i ever kissed him (a sweeter story) it felt so perfect nothing about it was wrong. and i enjoy kissing him everytime so dont worry if your first kiss wasnt that great. the two of you will either get better in time, or you will soon move on and find someone who things like that and much more seem a lot more perfect with.
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oh it would most likely feel really good to him. if he didnt like it, he would probably try to switch positions or tell you or something. but most guys like it when you do this, and move up and down across that area. ;)it should feel good to both of you
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no there's nothing wrong with that. my boyfriend is only one year older than me, but i know a lot of people who date people a couple years older. i mean look at a lot of today's married couples, and you'll find that they are 1 to many years apart. so as long as your not just in it because the other person seems young and gullable and you can get them in bed whenever you want..then no i dont see anything wrong with you dating this person
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thats about the right weight for someone your height and everything, so maybe the reason you feel this way is not because you need to lose weight, just need to tighten up some muscels. so every night or every morning (or both) do some crunches, stretching, and if you have time go on a run once and a while. just to get those leg and stomach muscels in tact!
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thats an interesting one there, and different than what is usually posted on here too so thanks for the change!

i kinda had to think about that one for a second, and i decided (this is just what i believe) whether you belive in god or not i dont kno..
but to go to heaven you have to have been a good person and done good for others and all this. those people who seem to be religious but are really bad people, probably wont be going to heaven if they keep their lives that way, no. but i think that as long as your a good person you probably will make it to a good place after you die. xoxo helpachick

um yeah..yeah you would. first of all drinking not enough to get drunk could make you just a little tipsy anyways..and even if your not it doest matter if you drink before hand or not weed is gunna make you messed up. but both at the same time..you be messed up by both, not just one =D xoxo helpachick

i'd get a laptop first of all because their smaller and you can carry them around and you dont have to put aside a specific place to keep them at. as to what brand well im no big computer person but i know a lot of people have dells and they always seem to work really well and you can get really good deals on them. =D xoxo helpachick

sounds like your pretty excited for him, so why not spoil him a little bit?! since he's a kitten, he'll probably like something to play with so you can get that at any pet store or walmart. usually something that rolls or jingles is good! also he'll probably like some sort of bed, place to call his. so you can make one out of old pillows and box or you can go buy a cute one at a store. oh and also he'll need something to eat out of so make sure you have a bowl for food and a bowl for water...box with kitty litter in it. tidy cats is what i use for my cat's litter. and as far as kitten food goes, you could give him some variety. get some dry food made for kittens (says it on the bag) and you could also get some of the canned food for cats too. i'm not really sure if there's one specific brand thats better than the other, so just experiment. if your cat is picky like mine, he might not eat one brand at all and love another. so just see! some good names hmm well its hard to think of those off the top of my head since i dont know your kitten. try watching him and seeing some weird things that he does, or a special marking on him...you'll figure it out once you get to know your cat! xoxo helpachick

dont worry about falling totally in love with someone on a first date..your usually just getting to know them anyways! i know how this goes because when i first met my boyfriend of now, i didnt like him at all and thought he was a jerk because of some things that were said. but i finally went out with him once because there wasnt anything else i was doing and he hAd apologized....and things just sort of went from there. i liked him for quite a while and things started building =D so give it some time and see her a couple more times if you enjoy being with her and everything, and you might just make a good friendship off of it or it might grow into something more! xoxo helpachick

i know exactly what your going through. what you have to do is just tell him exactly what the standards are and just put them down right in front of him. true you really like him and you'll make out with him but if he does something your not comfortable with, you need to tell him. 1) because you ARENT comfortable with it, and you need to tell him so you feel good about what you two do and 2) because he really likes you and if he's doing something you dont like he probably wants to know. if he tries to get you to go farther i know how hard it might be since you like him, but since you feel you arent ready and you have morals, tell him this exactly. if he really likes you he'll understand that if he tries to go somewhere you dont want to go, he'll be able to stop:) xoxo helpachick

actually i havent shopped for my mom either, but i've got an idea for you that i know most moms would probably like! since she likes buying things herself, get her a gift certificate to a store that she really likes or goes to a lot. and with that you could make her something like christmas cookies decorated cute, or something that you made yourself, maybe a picture frame with a favorite picture in it... have a good cmas! xoxo helpachick

oh yeah, unfortunatley, this is normal..nuff said.


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