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i think my boyfriend might be cheating on me.....
my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my boyfriend roosevelt is 16 years old and my cousin atraci says that he wrote her a letter saying that he said that she was more prettier,sexier than i was and that he said that he would have sex with her over me even though she's only 15 but my problem is i don't know who to belive becouse traci has lied to me in that past and roosevelt says that he didn't do it but i want belive traci becouse she's my cousin and i mean why would she lie to me about something like this?
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Have you asked your cousin to see the letter? If it is true what she says...she would keep the letter as evidence, ask her about it. If she claims, she has gotten rid of it...it makes her story less believable.
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Teacup
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Here are some answers to if they were lying...
Traci is lying= She could be lying because she is jealous of what you and Roose (hope that's okay that I'm calling him Roose) have together. She may want Roose. Talk to her about this and see if this is the reason she might be lying to you. She also just might be jealous of you period. Maybe she see's what you have and what she doesn't. She wants something of yours and you haven't let her have one, but the second she see's one thing she might be able to have she'll take it. So be aware she might just want to be even with you. And because she's fifteen this could really be the reason. She hasn't quite matured yet.
Roose is lying= Maybe to hime you're not giving him enough. But if this is the deal than you shouldn't worry about that and break it off now. He should take you for who you are not for what his desires are. Talk to him about this and make him tell you the truth. If he is really into you he will end up telling you the truth. Sounds stupid but if he says yeah he did write it he is probably feeling guilty about it and you might wanna give him a second chance. But if he lies and you find out later dump him quick.
You shouldn't have to put up with any of this. If your cousin is lying there isn't much you can do about it but try to get over it with her. If Roose is lying you can get rid of him easy. So do what you think is the best. Try to work this out with either of them.
Kelse Kaye
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Yeah, if he really did write a letter and your cousin cared so much about you to tell you all about it, she wouldn't just tell you. She'd show it to you! She would want you to see it. Ask her to show it to you. If she says "I threw it away" or "I lost it" she is definitely lying. If this had really happened and she wanted you to know the truth, she would know that your boyfriend would deny it and that letter is the only piece of evidence of anything. If she threw it out she would be covering for him, not telling on him. That is too contradictory to be the truth. If she does produce a letter, compare it to your boyfriend's handwriting and if it doesn't match, make sure it's not in her handwriting either. Who knows. Maybe somebody else entirely wrote it as a joke and nobody's lying. Be assured though that your boyfriend didn't do anything. If it wasn't just some stupid joke by someone else, this sounds like a typical case of jealousy. Your cousin is either jealous that you have a good relationship and she doesn't, or jealous of you because she likes your boyfriend and wants him for herself. Boys tend not to write letters. Has he ever written a letter to you? If not, he's probably not the letter writing type. Plus, why would he write a letter if he was cheating? Cheaters do everything in their power not to leave any proof. They can get caught by things they overlook or accidentally leave out, but to actually write a letter is ridiculous. It really, seriously sounds like something your cousin made up. Just because she is your cousin is no reason to trust her word. Why would she lie to you about this you ask. Well, why would she ever lie to you at all? Because she is a liar. She's done it in the past. Some people are just liars. It's as simple as that. That doesn't mean you can't trust her, you just have to realize that you have to take everything she says with a grain of salt. Don't get too mad at her, I'm sure she must be in a lot of pain about something or she wouldn't have done this to you. Try to figure out what's going on with her. She may just be feeling really down on herself and making you suffer a little was the only way she could think of to feel better. I hope all this gets straightened out soon. Good luck. :)
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Where is this letter? She should have shown you it, because it is the proof. I would ask your boyfriend straight up what is going on and tell him you already know about the letter. Maybe he will confess or maybe he won't. You need to try. Your gut feelings are usually worth paying attention to.
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your right, thats deffinitly a tough situation. and by having a cousin who tends to lie, i know what you mean but once in a while they might be right. however, she could just as well not be telling the truth this time.
what you need to do is figure out without asking.
watch for signs from your boyfriend. lets say if you spend on average um..3 nights a week plus days at school together. then gradually, because of things he's doing the time you guys get to hang out decreases. listen to his excuses. they might be reasonable, or if he's less sneaky they might not be. but if its something that he has to go do ask if you can help. if he gets panicky and tells you no no no...you might want to secretly go anyways and see if he's really there, doing that. not that you shouldnt trust your boyfriend, but in this situation you need to do some investigating to see whos telling the truth:
boyfriend vs. cousin....
good luck i really hope i helped
xoxo helpachick
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