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Not quite sure about things..
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about two months now and it's great. We are both 15 and everything is new to us, so hopefully I don't have too much trouble trying to explain this. By the way, my name is Alyssa.
When I was over at his house yesterday (his parents were home, just upstairs) he was kind of being a little pushy wanting me to do things. He enjoys making out (kissing not sex) and wants me to all the time. Yes i enjoy it, but he wants it too much, what should i do? I also said that i wouldn't freak out on him if he touched my butt (he asked) I would just probably go really red. So he got me to dance with him in his basement and he put his hand on my waist and then on my behind. I jumped back because it suprised me and I was embarassed. All he said is "What?" with a grin on his face. I'm not sure how to tell him not to do that at the up-comming dance. Also, he does know that i insist on being a virgin untill I am married and he seems to exept it. What should i do? Any relationship tips for me?
Thanks.
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Good for you, waiting for marriage. It takes a lot of commitment!
So, to solve problem one... if he wants to make out too much for your liking, let him know that you want to cut down a bit, to keep it special.
Problem two... if he tries it at the dance, tell him that you're really not comfortable with public displays of affection. I know I don't like it when my boyfriend gets all touchy feely in front of people!
Always stick to your morals, no matter how persuasive he gets. Men have a tendency to think that they can get a girl to do anything, even if she's told him otherwise.
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i know exactly what your going through. what you have to do is just tell him exactly what the standards are and just put them down right in front of him. true you really like him and you'll make out with him but if he does something your not comfortable with, you need to tell him. 1) because you ARENT comfortable with it, and you need to tell him so you feel good about what you two do and 2) because he really likes you and if he's doing something you dont like he probably wants to know. if he tries to get you to go farther i know how hard it might be since you like him, but since you feel you arent ready and you have morals, tell him this exactly. if he really likes you he'll understand that if he tries to go somewhere you dont want to go, he'll be able to stop:) xoxo helpachick
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Tell him to knock it off. It seems alright to do it when you're alone. Just tell him your booty is off limits at any dances. :]
If he does touch you at the dance, remove his hands and put it on your waist.
Just say, "i know you enjoy making out but I need to breathe" and just laugh or something.
And change the subject.. and go do something together [watch a movie, play a game, something]
He seems really nice.. but yeah.. just a bit of a pervert ;]
Just communicate! :] it's the key to any relationship.
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