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Hi, alexis girlie, this isnt really a question as much as an answer, but im the girl who asked, does he really love me, about 'tyler' and thank you you really helped. sorry I couldnt rate I didnt have an account yet(it wouldve been a five). But I featured you as my own personal favorite columnist today :) ps: me and 'tyler' are doing great, but do you know how I might be able to get him to make a move?(as in kiss me)i am female and i refuse to tell my age on this site but i am older than 11 but younger than 15

Probably the best way to get him to kiss you is by touching him and flirting with him. That worked for me. I wanted my bf to kiss me so badly, and I hugged him a lot, and smiled at him romantically.

It worked better than I thought, because he took me to a corner and we couldn't stop kissing lol!

Good luck and I hope your first kiss is as awesome as mine was ;)

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I'm so confused. My husband is the most wonderful person in the world and would do anything for me when things in our relationship are good. But when he gets upset it's like he can't handle it. He completly looses his cool. He yells, and tells me the lost horrible things to get to me. But when we are not arguing he's a completly different person. He can go from being nice and happy to being angry. He acts violent to other people when he gets mad. He has gotten into a fight with his brother numerous time over stupid things. He gets angry over very stupid things. He'll throw a tantrum, scream, cuss, punch holes in the wall and knock things down. He goes from being the nicest person ever to very mean and angry. He tried to fight a security guard at a scool event (he's a teacher/coach) because he went through a metal detector and he forgot he had a knife in his back pocket and the security guard wouldn't let him into the track meet. He always has a pocket knife in his back pocket. He got suspended from his job because of it. When he gets angry he has this scary loosk in his eyes, it's like he loses control and becomes a different person, he just acts crazy, but only when he gets mad. Other people have called him crazy and bi-polar. One minute he's happy then he'll turn around and start shouting at whatever ot whoever he's mad at, screaming & cussing. Do you think he should see a Dr? Is there something wrong with him. Do you think he has a mental disorder or something else?

I'd like to correct the person below me. Bipolar people can be very violent and dangerous while manic. I am bipolar, and I know a lot about the illness.

Those people aren't doctors, so they can't decide that your husband is bipolar. There is definitely something very wrong with him, and both you guys are suffering terribly. You shouldn't be. If he has bipolar and it is not treated it will only get worse. Do yourself and your husband the biggest favor, and take him to see a psychiatrist. He needs help, whether he has anger issues or bipolar.

Good luck :)

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iam in love i cant suffer no more problems with my love and i cant live with out her. she wanna break up my relationship with her i have tried two times to die but unluckyly i escaped from that can u please give me esay way die please give better solution for me

Your current situation is extremely painful, and I don't blame you for being really depressed and not seeing a way out. But suicide is not the solution at all.

You are a wonderful man, and you deserve to be loved and supported no matter what. If this girl doesn't recognize you as the very special person you are, she doesn't deserve you.

No one in the whole universe can replace you, your charming laugh, your unconditional love, and your incredible kindness.

Don't give up on your life! You do not deserve to die! Don't you rather want everything to work out for you, and find a loving, wonderful girlfriend? Wait until you find her, and she'll show you that there is every reason to live.

I understand where you're coming from. In fact, I nearly killed myself a few months ago, but today I am so glad I didn't. I have many friends who have attempted suicide, and nearly died, and they really regretted it. Today their lives are so wonderful, even when they didn't believe it could be.

Please go get help for your awful, unbearable pain. It's not fair that you should have to live like this. Right now, you aren't even alive. Your heart is bleeding very badly, and you want to bring an end to this terrible pain, but you don't know how. Suicide is not your wish. Do not fulfill a wish which isn't yours! You want everything in your life to work out. You want your girl to love you...

Call 1800.273.TALK, and let those wonderful people that care about you help you! You can also visit my website: www.survivethesuicideurge.org for more great tips and articles.

You have every right to live a good life. Fight for it, don't chicken out! You are so much stronger than the challenges that try to break you.

Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. You can leave a message in my inbox if you need any support whatsoever. I am always here for you :)

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ok, so just to let you know, i am an eleven year-old girl in seventh grade, blond hair, blue eyes,and im petite. my boyfriend, *tyler*, tells me i'm beautiful and funny and that he loves me everyday/night, (i know what you're thinking, oh, how cute!) but he used to have a gf who broke up with him. (she is now my bestie) the thing is, when he broke up with her, he said, (and i quote) 'ill never love again! id be too sad.' so im not so sure if he lied to her or me, and its really confusing. please dont answer by saying, 'you're too young to date!' because i really love this boy. ps: *tyler* is not his real name and he has brown hair, blue eyes, and he is also skinny

I don't think he's lying at all. It sounds like he really loves you. I've been through several break-ups, and I can tell you that it's totally normal to feel like you'll never love anyone again. But once you find that very special someone, those feelings fade away.

You should feel very special, because "Tyler" obviously saw something very special in you that convinced him to give love a second chance.

Good luck and I hope you are happy together :)

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What does it mean when a guy asks you " What are you up to tonight"? OR " What are you doing tonight"? When he has seen you with friends and then he replies back saying " oh okay cool". End of conversation. This can not be a conversation starter because it ended it... :0 I mean why can't they just ask you to do something if they really want. What is up with this?

I mean why do guys ask this question and It can not be a conversation starter because this ended the conversation overall :0

And he is 24 and I am 24 years old as well....so we are not like in our early teens or kids.
He asked me this while he was working after we had talked a bit.

It usually means that he's interested in spending the night with you.

If he gets the message that you're not available, he'll reply like "oh okay cool".

The chances are, he likes you, and he'll ask you again.

What it can also mean, is that he sees you with your friends, and politely inquires what you guys are up to...

Thanks for asking alexisgirlie :)

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Im 19 and my boyfriend is turning 20 soon.. And He's been treating me like SHIT..,:( what kind of boyfriend would lock a girl up in his car without air? He didnt even bother to open the window who would do that?!! He never heared any complains about how he treats me. I tried to confront him but he never listen he only thinks what he feel.:(( the most painful part is he told me he never care what i feel., and he doesnt need me.,:( it hurts me so bad :,( i told him if am i ugly or not pretty enough? I did mu best to e his best gf :,( i never talked looked at other guys., i never told him
How im in pain right now :,((

Your boyfriend does not deserve you. He has no right to treat you like crap, so don't just overlook it. I believe you should openly confront him with your feelings, and if he doesn't listen or doesn't improve after your talk, then it's time to break up with him.

It will be extremely painful for you, because you harbor such strong feelings for him, but in the long run it will pay off. I had to break up with my boyfriend, and it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I was really really sad afterwards, but it was worth it.

You deserve to be loved unconditionally, and you deserve the best man out there, who will treat you like a princess and bring out the uniqueness in you.

Don't ever settle for anything less! You come across as such a devoted and loving girlfriend, and this jerk doesn't deserve to be with you for another second!

Good luck, and I hope all works out for you :)

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20/f. I have been with my bf for 18 months now, and sometimes I contemplate whether or not we will be together forever or if I am wasting my time. We have so much fun together and definitely lots in common, but we also have very big differences as well, such as some of my friends obviously don't like him, and my family is not a fan of him either. As for his friends and family, they love me. There isn't a really solitified reason why some of my friends and family don't like him, it just kind of came to be that way. I'm also very outgoing and social, with lots of friends; he has one good friend, and two other casual friends. It may not seem like a big difference, but it is when it comes down to making plans and lifestyles, etc. As my last point, sometimes I think he can be a bit immature for our age, but only with his not having a job reasoning, and how he never pays EVER when we go out. Actually, I pay almost all of the time, unless he brings money, then we pay separately. I have listed a lot of negatives, but there are lots of positives as well. I just don't know what to do or what to think. Any opinion would be very appreciated, thank you! Sorry this was long.

People can be very successful together even with loads of differences as long as there's respect for the other person's opinions, and the two love each other.

The question is, how important is your boyfriend to you, and how important are those differences. No two people agree on everything. The key is to learn how to overlook these differences and make it work.

Remember that love is not who you can see yourself with, but who you can't see yourself without.

Can you be yourself with your boyfriend? Does he make you feel like a princess? Does he love you for you? Does he make you happy?

If you answered yes to all the above, then I believe you are very lucky to have him, and the rest doesn't matter.

Good luck :)

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im looking for a 9 year old girl to have sex with help me

Apparently you don't even care what this is gonna do to the 9 year old. But for your own sake, before you say that, know that this is a huge crime that will land you in prison, and leave a scar on your reputation and your life forever.

I was sexually abused at 16 by a 30 year old, and his life is totally destroyed now, all for a few moments of pleasure.

Don't think you'll be able to deny it. One DNA test can easily find the culprit.

I am not even gonna begin to tell you how sickening and disgusting this is.

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I'm 18/m.Now it's been almost 10 months for me an ma girl's relationship.During this 9 months we've gone so far.In the sense we've got really close to each other.She is an attractive nice girl.So there are a lot of guys who is coming after her.Since we started going out 6 or 7 guys have asked her out.And even few of the know that she is not single.Once I logged in to her FB account and she has been talking to a lot of guys.I really trust her.But then y'day when we were talking she was like 'this guy told me that I've a nice figure and an ass'.This guy has been flirting with her.After all she is a girl.And she is not single.I have never told her anything when it come to other guys.But now I'm a little bit upset with her policy about the other guys.I'm clueless.But I know she loves me a lot.But that has been bothering me.

It really hurts to go through something like this. I believe you should have a frank talk with her about it. If the flirting really gets to you, then she should stop it. You need to feel that she loves only you, and won't ever betray you.

Don't feel guilty for what you feel, I would feel the same. Open communication and trust is the key to a good relationship.

Good luck and take care :)

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I'm not sure if this is peer pressure but anyway.my boyfriend wants me to have sex with random guys infront of him but I don't want to. He says he will brake up with me if I don't and my friends say they won't be my friends anymore. I turned 12 a few days ago and he is 16. I don't want to be a little slut but what am I going to do without my friends? And I really love my boyfriend. My boyfriend always wanted to have sex with me and to finger me but I always said no and he didn't mind but now he does mind and I don't know what to do!

These people don't really like you. I know this sounds harsh but BREAK UP with your "boyfriend". Find yourself a guy who really loves you for you, and sees something special in you that attracts him to you. Not some crazy loser who tells his twelve year old girlfriend to have sex. You aren't even at the age of consent yet!

I wouldn't call this group of disgusting creeps my friends. Don't let them take advantage of you! Like Andrew said, you need to stand up for yourself and your beliefs.

You are a wonderful person, and those people don't deserve you. What they are doing is despicable; don't let them get away with it!

Good luck, and I hope things work out for you :)

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12/f
im thinking about telling my bf ive thought about commiting suicide but im not sure how to break it to him. he is very protective over me so im not sure how to say it to him.
please i need advise about this.

You are so young sweetheart, and you have your whole life ahead of you. I've given lots of advice to people like you. You can read them in my advice column.

It's terrible to live with suicidal ideation, but remember that it's not your wish. You want to be happy. You don't want to be in so much awful pain. You want everything to work out for you. I'm sure you prefer that to death. Right now you are not even living. You are in a dark, dreary place, and you're screaming out for help, but no one seems to hear. Well, guess what, you are not alone! I understand what you're going through, and I care. I've been suicidal a lot in my life, and I'm young too. I know what it feels like. But I also know that if you get help, it is possible to survive it.

Now about telling this to your boyfriend. If it's not relevant anymore, you don't have to tell him. If it is, then come straight out with it. Tell him in how much pain you are, and how you need his support more than anything now. I believe you should also tell him how much you love him, and wouldn't want to leave him. If he is like the caring wonderful guy he comes across to me, then he'll understand and won't blame you.

I've had to tell lots of people I care about, including my boyfriend that I wanted to kill myself. They were very upset, but in the long run it paid off, cuz now I have their support. No one can deal with this alone!

Remember that the key to being happy is being grateful. Write down a list of five good things that happened to you that day. They can vary from "I have the best boyfriend in the world" to "dinner was delicious"...

It makes such a huge difference in your life, and makes you feel so blessed!

Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. Thanks for asking alexisgirlie :)

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girl aged 13
i havnt started my periods yet but i just went to the toilet and there was like this goey red thing on my knickers;it looked like snot and blood mixed together...
was that my first period??!btw ie been having discharges for the past 6 months so i thought id be getting it soon.
im really worried now and its kinnda akward cos we have friends sleeping at our house tonight and tomorrow night..!

Looks like it, big girl ;)

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Two nights a go I screamed in horror as I watched my dad choke my mom and then chase her with a knife. I cant stand this anymore. Alcohol is killing him and he doesn't want to admit it
he needs help but if he doesn't want it I know he won't get better. Im holding on to the last thing I have,hope. So far it hasn't helped. What can I do?

Let me start off by telling you how proud I am of you. Not many people would stand this strong in face of such an awful occurence.

You need to tell this to an adult you trust. Neither you nor your mom should be dealing with this anymore. Your dad needs to get help.

Good luck, and I am so sorry you need to deal with this...

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Ever since I started being abused I started chasing after guys and stuff and I don't know why I keep doing this.I feel like I can't live without a boyfriend! Even if I don't like someone I'll date them! I don't know why but I just love the attention you know? I used to do anything a guy asked me to but now a guy asked to have s*x with me!I'm 12 by the way !

It's really great that you realize that this is a big problem, and you are trying to change that. I congratulate you on that. You are an intelligent girl, who is very hurt, and I believe you should go for professional help. It's not fair that you should deal with this alone. It sounds like you are craving love, and are willing to go out with anyone who can provide that. But they don't really love you, they're just trying to use you up. I know this sounds harsh, but wait until the right guy comes along. Someone who will love you for you, and not for what you can do sexually.

I believe you should report this guy to your parents or an adult you trust. You aren't even at the age of consent yet, and he is an awful disgusting person for asking that of a 12 year old. He could prove to be a huge danger to you and your mental health.

Get help for your pain. You'll be so glad you did. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon :)

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Okay well does any-one know of a website that is free forever and has phycoligists that I can talk to 24/7 I was sexualy abused by my brother in-law and I don't know how to talk about it.by the way I'm 12 and he started it when I was 9 turning 10.I really need help urgently please

Rainn.org is a free website where you can get free help 24/7. RAINN stands for rape, abuse, incest national network. You can have a live chat with a professional or call their toll free hotline 24/7: 1800.656.HOPE.

I was sexually abused a few months ago, and they've really helped me and given me great tips on what to do when I have a flashback, like standing up and putting my feet on the ground. It makes me feel secure and protected.

I am so sorry you were abused. I know how that feels, and it is so so awful. If you need any support, I am always here for you. You can send a message to my inbox anytime, and I'll get back to you. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. You really don't deserve this.

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12/f
i know life is short and i shouldnt but am considering it.
my life is horrible, but i have a bf, we have been going out for the past 6 months. its like he is the only person that loves me. i have cought my self fixing to commite suicide and stoped myself thinking of Devin. i feel cruel cause if my dad died i wouldnt cry as much as i did for my dog when she died. the only reason i dont is because of Devin. he makes me happy, we never fight, but if i tell him, this may be the first fight.
i know im to young to even think about it cause i havent even been introduced to the teen years.so please help me i dont know wht to do?
any advise ill be very thankful!!

Hey there, sweetie. I can feel your pain. I've been there not too long ago, and I can tell you this. Suicide is not your wish, it's the wish of the animal that has taken you captive, and it is so hard to deal with him.

In order to conquer him, you need to get help for your unbearable pain. Right now, you are not even living, and you can't see the light, but with the right help, and hard work on your part, you will be happy again, and glad to be alive. Trust me, I am talking from experience.

I know what it feels like to be suicidal: the bleeding in your heart, the silent screams for help that no one hears, the delusional world you live in, and the overwhelming UNBEARABLE pain, that no one who hasn't felt it can relate to.

Remember that you are irreplaceable in this world, and you light it up just by being here. No one in the world can replace your charming laugh, your unconditional love, and your incredible kindness.

Think about this: do you rather want to kill yourself, or do you want everything in your life to work out? The second option outweighs the first a million times.

There are lots of people out there who really care about you. There are great reasons to choose life over death, and there is a way to feel better. Call 1800.273.TALK (8255) or 1800.SUICIDE (784.2433), and let us help you. You can also visit my website: www.survivethesuicideurge.org for more great tips.

You can't ignore the pain, because it's there, and it won't go away on its own. You are so young, and shouldn't be dealing with all of this alone. There is hope, and there are great things in store for you! Don't end your life here.

Good luck, honey, I really hope you feel better soon. You can send a message to my inbox if you need any support whatsoever :)

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God? Family? Friends? BF/GF?
Hahaha...
I can't trust anyone...
and i'm just so plain old alone.
So trapped here.
Nobody even knows the real me.
I DON'T EVEN know who i am anymore.
And i would end my life... except i fear death...
Ironic, huh?
So i'm stuck here.

And my only question is...
not what can i do to feel better
or can someone help me...
but...

my question is
simply
has anybody else felt like this?
This lost? this broken? this empty? this alone?

Well, have you?

I can totally relate to your situation. I am in a similar situation right now. I can't do much to help myself, other than taking my medication because I'm bipolar. I find that the best thing to do is get help, and count your blessings. Being grateful is the key to being happy. You also need to know that you deserve the best life possible.

It's hard to trust when you've been betrayed and your heart's been broken so many times. In order to heal, you need to start from the very beginning. Learn to love yourself. That way, even when you're all alone, you are confident and comfortable with who you are as a person, and that attracts others to you, and you'll see that there are good people out there who are trustworthy.

This really sucks, but this too shall pass, and if you go get help for your depression you'll be a new person with a new lease on life. Don't settle for this! Fight until you are happy again. Don't give up; if you give it the chance, your life will be great again. Trust me.

Feel free to e-mail me at: alexisgirlie@gmail.com or leave a message in my inbox if you need any support whatsoever. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon :)

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon :)

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a guy called stacy asked me out he super creepy what do i do????

Don't go out with him. Tell him you're not interested, and that's all. You deserve the best guy out there, don't ever settle for less. Good luck :)

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Would the cat miss me if I killed myself right now?
Aunty would look after him. I probably won't be around to read the answers.

Not only will cat miss you, but so will so many people. Don't kill yourself, because you are already dead inside, rather bring yourself back to life. You are in terrible pain right now, and you've been taken captive by the suicide monster. But don't fulfill a wish that isn't yours. Don't you rather want everything in your life to work out, and be happy again? That's so much better then committing suicide. I have so many friends who've attempted suicide, and they all regretted it. It's not worth it. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You are a wonderful person, and you don't deserve to die!

I understand where you're coming from, I used to be suicidal all the time, and I nearly killed myself a few months ago, but I'm so glad I didn't and so proud of myself. Today I am living again, and life is really good! Trust me, if you get help, and give it the chance, the sun will shine upon you again. You will be a much stronger person as a result of what you went through.

You can visit my website www.survivethesuicideurge.org for great tips on how to survive the urge, and things to do when you feel down, or call 1800 SUICIDE. Lots of people out there, both who know you, and those who don't, love you and care about you. You are not alone! Talk over your pain with someone who can help. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon :)

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There's this girl I like from school, she's graduating and I still have one more year. I'm always shy, but somehow I was able to introduce myself to her and whatnot, we've only had like one conversation after that. She's very quiet and doesn't talk much. I added her on Facebook and sent her a message asking if she was going to school for any tests. She never replied. She said happy b-day on my wall about a week later. So I asked her through comment when she was coming to school, she answered. Later I sent her another message, no reply. I saw her the day she came to school, I talked very little, then somehow harnessed the energy of the universe and got her to give me her number, but she doesn't reply to the texts I sent so far. So, there's possibilities like the number being wrong, or not having her phone. But it seems that the more probable explanation is that she's not interested at all. No reply to two FB messages and no reply to four texts. One part of me wants to stop trying, and delete the number and unfriend from FB, another part is telling me to just be patient and to not send anymore messages yet. But it seems that either one could have an unwanted outcome. Plus, I'm trying not to seem desperate or creepy.

Sending her lots of messages may come across as desperate. I would stop that for a while. Try different ways of letting her know you like her, like telling her she's beautiful and smiling. Be kind, and let her know you're there for her and care about her. That talks to a girl.

As for giving up, that depends how much you love her. Remember love isn't about who you can see yourself with, it's who you can't see yourself without. If you really want her, don't give up! Show her love, respect, but most importantly give her space. Good luck, and I hope things work out for you ;)

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