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lots of differences
20/f. I have been with my bf for 18 months now, and sometimes I contemplate whether or not we will be together forever or if I am wasting my time. We have so much fun together and definitely lots in common, but we also have very big differences as well, such as some of my friends obviously don't like him, and my family is not a fan of him either. As for his friends and family, they love me. There isn't a really solitified reason why some of my friends and family don't like him, it just kind of came to be that way. I'm also very outgoing and social, with lots of friends; he has one good friend, and two other casual friends. It may not seem like a big difference, but it is when it comes down to making plans and lifestyles, etc. As my last point, sometimes I think he can be a bit immature for our age, but only with his not having a job reasoning, and how he never pays EVER when we go out. Actually, I pay almost all of the time, unless he brings money, then we pay separately. I have listed a lot of negatives, but there are lots of positives as well. I just don't know what to do or what to think. Any opinion would be very appreciated, thank you! Sorry this was long.
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Okay I guess the real question here is do you truly love your boyfriend?
If the answer is yes then you will be able to overcome these differences and they shouldn't matter so much.
When you are with someone for so long it's completely natural to question things and notice their flaws and what not. But sometimes the real beauty of a relationship is not agreeing 100% or being totally compatible.
It would be nice however if he paid once in a while It's always nice to be spoiled. Me and my boyfriend usually split the bills but every now and again when he can afford it he will pay for dinner and movie.
I think you should sit down with your boyfriend and voice your concerns.Talk it through. It helps a great deal. However you also must realize that you can't change a person.
Are these differences you are willing to accept and live with? Such as your family and friends not liking him that's pretty hard to deal with.
You need to decide if your love for him surpasses these differences. Can you overlook them or are they going to always weigh heavily on your mind and heart?Because if they are you might want to seriously think about the relationship,and if it's worth the stress. Have a talk and see where you stand then.
Sometimes these little doubts go away on their own and you become more accepting but other times it just doesn't work out.
Go with your heart it's almost never wrong! As cliche as that sounds. Chances are deep down you probably already know the answer.
Good luck and much <3
Jess 18/f
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People can be very successful together even with loads of differences as long as there's respect for the other person's opinions, and the two love each other.
The question is, how important is your boyfriend to you, and how important are those differences. No two people agree on everything. The key is to learn how to overlook these differences and make it work.
Remember that love is not who you can see yourself with, but who you can't see yourself without.
Can you be yourself with your boyfriend? Does he make you feel like a princess? Does he love you for you? Does he make you happy?
If you answered yes to all the above, then I believe you are very lucky to have him, and the rest doesn't matter.
Good luck :)
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