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turning into a slut because of being abused
Ever since I started being abused I started chasing after guys and stuff and I don't know why I keep doing this.I feel like I can't live without a boyfriend! Even if I don't like someone I'll date them! I don't know why but I just love the attention you know? I used to do anything a guy asked me to but now a guy asked to have s*x with me!I'm 12 by the way !
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You need to talk to somebody. I'm sorry you've been hurt physically and emotionally, but now you're being self destructive. Certain men are not the gentlemen that they should be. They just want sex and once they get, they could care less about how you feel. Men will not respect you unless you start respecting yourself first. Put yourself first and get yourself right emotionally before you start looking for a boyfriend. And when you look for a boyfriend, make sure he respects you and loves you as much as you love yourself.
Stay strong.
~Andrew~
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Hi sweetie,
You don't need to chase guys to get attention. It may feel that way but you should be chasing friends. Find some girls your age and spend your time with them. It's okay to have a boyfriend but not to the point where you are submissive to him at all costs. Set some standards for yourself, it's better to be a lady with integrity than one without. You're too young to trade in your V-card. Try to wait until you're older for adult activities. Sex is not always safe. Being abused, you should want a better future. I was abused, too. A lot of people are. Try for a better life, don't go throwing everything away because you were hurt. I understand how it feels to act on your emotions. It's not wise to act on everything you feel. Every time you have sex with a guy, you're ripping away a part of you and giving it to him. Find some adults you trust and talk about your abuse and how it makes you feel. Consider seeing a therapist if you can't talk about it to anyone. I really hope somebody can help you.
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It's really great that you realize that this is a big problem, and you are trying to change that. I congratulate you on that. You are an intelligent girl, who is very hurt, and I believe you should go for professional help. It's not fair that you should deal with this alone. It sounds like you are craving love, and are willing to go out with anyone who can provide that. But they don't really love you, they're just trying to use you up. I know this sounds harsh, but wait until the right guy comes along. Someone who will love you for you, and not for what you can do sexually.
I believe you should report this guy to your parents or an adult you trust. You aren't even at the age of consent yet, and he is an awful disgusting person for asking that of a 12 year old. He could prove to be a huge danger to you and your mental health.
Get help for your pain. You'll be so glad you did. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon :)
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Having been abused is no excuse to become a slut,you do it just because you want to,not because of some traumatic experience which should actually make you feel afraid of men,not attracted to them,you ought to look for some professional help and stop doimg this.
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