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I am 15/f.
There is this guy who I almost went out with... we hung out almost every weekend for months...then he went out with someone else and I got over him. We stayed friends. He just turned 18.
Yesterday I saw him at his graduation, and he asked me to hang out. It was already around 10, and he was going to be hanging out with a few other guys, and that he would take me home. I said, "I don't know..." because I felt it would be awkward with just me and his guy friends. (Not that we would do anything bad, at all.) He said, "It's ok if you don't want to."
So I didn't, and I kind of wish I did.
But anyways, i am going to have a boring weekend.
So should I ask him to hang out?

yeah. he asked you to hang out so you should ask him. just be like i changed my mind and i think hanging out would be fun.

it shouldn't be weird at all that you ask him to hang out since he asked you first.

just go for it :]

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I am redoing my room this summer and i have a queen sized bed, and i might get a full instead.
I am looking for really good sites with teen bedspreads on them. I have googled a lot, and i have only found one bedspread that i like (Seventeen seascape). I dont want anything with a lot of flowers. Polka dots are good and so are some stripes. I like these colors for it: Green, orange, pink, blue. (if there is beds with other clors and those i mite like it) does anyone have a any good sites for me to look at?

try this site:

http://www.pbteen.com/

it has some really cute stuff :]

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i think i just wanna leave this world and
never come back. i HATE HATE HATE HATE my
family.you just dont know what ive been
through. its untakable. i just turned 13
a couple of months ago and im too young
to be dealing with this. my parents are
cheap selfish people and they wont buy
me ANY clothes. and thats against the law
you know. they have to provide me with clothing
but they dont. i already have 2 jobs but obviously
they cant pay for all the clothes i want.
all of my clothes have rips in them and they
arent even summer they are longsleeves and i
think im gunna fricking sweat to death in them.
this just isnt fair to me. i already pay for
EVERYTHING i get but clothing? thats just not
right. and theres no money problems in my
family whatsoever because my moms a lawyer and
my dad is the vice president of a bank. and how
selfish can they be to not even provide necessity
item to their daughter. im 13 i just dont think i
should be going through this. its ridiculous!
whats a number i can call to help me ?! no i would
never kill myself but ughh my parents ruin my life.


='(

don't take this the wrong way or anything, but your kinda being selfish as well. i know you might need clothes, but you can't be getting picky and say you need clothes from abercrombie & fitch and hollister ONLY.

if you needed clothes that badly then you wouldn't be so picky.

try going to target or kohls for some nice cheaper clothes. or even forever 21.

sorry if that was mean, but its the truth.

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Hey.

Okay for someone who is 5'8 1/2" is 160-165 a good weight..like flat stomach? Because I only need to loose about 5-10 pounds.

But I was wondering is it possible when you first start a diet if you eat right and exercise well you can loose ABOUT 5 pounds once a week the first 2 weeks of your diet? (so about 10 pounds total) and then it slows down to about 2 pounds a week?

Thanks!

ok well i plugged in your height and weight in a BMI calculator and at 160 pounds you are at a normal weight. but at 165 you are on the very edge of being overweight. but this doesn't neccisaraly mean you are overweight. also a certain doesn't mean that you will have a flat stomach or not. someone might weight a lot because of muscle and be considered overweight, yet they could have a very flat stomach.

right when you start a diet, yes it is possible to lose about 5 pounds a week because your body isn't used to the diet yet. but after a couple of weeks your body will get more used to the diet and then you will only be able to lose about 1-2 pounds a week.

hope i helped :]

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ok this girl just asked my boyfriend to go to a water park with her and some other people. she knows that we've been going out all year, and i know her a little bit, but she didnt invite me. at first i thought she was just inviting him cuz shes friends with him, but my mom said that her inviting him like that, without me, means she likes him. do you think thats true? i would never invite someone else's boyfriend to do something like that, so its kind of weird to me. should i be worried?

well i don't know this girl so i don't know for sure. but i have this group of friends and we hang out all the time. there are two guys in that group that currently have girlfriends, but we never invite their girlfriends along because we don't really know them.

I don't really think she is trying to steal him. because he is allowed to have other friends. I just think they're going with a bunch of friends, and since she doesn't know you that well, thats why you're not invite.

so nothing to worry about :]

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Ok, i am 13/f and i dont know if i should shave down there. What are all the other girls doing, shaving it all, some, or none?

well i'm 15 and all i do is trim and do the bikini line.

i tried shaving it all off once and i didn't like it at all. it was itchy and to me it felt so weird to have no hair there.

so i suggest just trimming & doing your bikini line. it is easier and quicker :]

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what are some movies/books where people struggle for money, homes, foods etc.

i am writing an essay about how we take advantage of things we have, and i need examples from literature.

thanks a bunchh! help is appreciated

try reading some books/literature about the Great Depression. I'm learning about that in school now and people DEFINITELY were struggling for food & money.

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does anyone have one of those chi straightners because my birthday is coming up and i want to ask for one. is it worth it? does it work really good?
which one do you have ?

o yeah and my hair is wavy not curly buy not straight lol somewhere in the middle and its semi thick

i actually just bought one from this site thursday night:

www.folica.com

and it just came in the mail today! i'm so excited to use it tomorrow morning :]

but my hair is the SAME as yours and i bought the Chi 2" Turbo one. and it was about $130. i would definitely recommend buying one from that site because it has a one year money back garuntee.

also if you buy one soon you get free shipping, a free hot iron mat, and a free travel case :] lol i sound like an advertisment.

but i'll let you know how mine works :]

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ok so i dated this guy and then he went out with my best friend. i never stoped likeing him and now they broke up. and my friends are fliping out on my because they think i had somthing to do with it when really i dident! i mean he liked a nother girl and i alwayed talked to him on the phone and then theres nothing wrong because hes one of my best friends. and i dont want to loose my girl best friends over this but this has happened more then once!. i dont want to be friends with them! what should i do??

you kind of answered your own question when you said that you don't want to be friends with them. so find new friends that treat you better. if they were your true friends they would try to talk it out with you. trust me, you can find better friends out there.

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(15/f)
There this guy I've know for a couple of year. We recently switched from our old school for a more advanced program at another school(He was the only other person I knew who transfered and vice versa)We're pretty close friends, so a lot of people were under the impression we were going out, and by a lot, I mean practically everyone we know.

Question 1: What's a good way to answer when people say stuff like "How long have you guys been going out for?" or "You guys make such a cute couple!"... It's incredibly ackward to respond to those o_O Especially since he has somewhat of a fanclub within the female population.

I don't blame them for getting the wrong impression though. For example today at lunch, he was practically sprawled over me while reading a book, and I was reading over his shoulder. And he has nicknames for me that he uses constantly. And many other reasons... The thing is I actually like this guy, and have for quite some time. But he keeps on sending me mixed messages about whether he likes me or not. He switches from staring into my eyes for no particular reason to avoiding me.
Question 2: Any ways of finding out if he likes me in that way, without being too blatantly obvious of course because I AM friends with this guy.

Good grief, this is a rather long question. Thanks in advance :D

this happens to me ALL THE TIME. seriously like i liked this one guy and we went on a field trip together and three people came up to us and asked if we were going out. now since i liked him i didn't mind that much. but then i have this other guy friend that i definitely only like as a friend, and people think we are dating all the time. we just kind of brush it off and say no we're not dating.

ok back to you lol. when people ask if you guys are dating NEVER answer with "no, we're just friends". because then people go ooh "just friends" thinking that you guys do like each other. and i know that you like him, but you don't know if he likes you back yet. to me it kind of seems like he does like you, but he might be getting scared at some points and backing off. he might be getting scared because people keep asking if you are dating, or because he is actually realizing that he DOES in fact like you.

now for your answer. just causually say no were not dating, and then change the subject. don't make a face and be like ew no we're definitley not dating. because then he will think that you would never want to date him.

GOOD LUCK with everything :]

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ok i'm 13/f and its summer so i'm about to start babysitting. i wanted to put flyers up in the mail room because i live in an apartment. well the problem is, i dont know what to write on the flyers. can somebody please give me some ideas??
thank you!

how about this:

WANT TO GO OUT, BUT NEED SOMEBODY TO WATCH THE KIDS?
we'll [name here] can help. I am an extremely reliable and depent girl who is looking for some babysitting jobs.

you can reach me at [phone number here]

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im running for class president. 14/f. i need some killer ways to get people that im friends with and even that im not friends with to vote for me!
thanks

make a BUNCH of posters and hang them EVERYWHERE. and make millions of colorful stickers to hand out to people.

you should also come up with a catchy slogan to put on your posters & stickers.

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Hi I'm doing a slideshow for a project... I would like either a really young band-like the jonas brothers or naked brothers band- or like a cool r&b song like ignition remix (obviously innapropriate) just like a really sharp sounding song... if you know any young singers or good r&b singers could you tell me? If its R&b preferably a song that is about changing the future or helping the community.. just not any like sex songs or love songs. Also any young R&b singers is good too!

well you mentioned the jonas brothers. they have a song called "we're the kids of the future".

would that work?

here is the lyrics:

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/jonasbrothers/kidsofthefuture.html

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when teenage couples hug (guy/girl)
do the guys arms go around
then shoulders
or the waiste?
and same question 4
the girls? thanx

for me, it just kinda happens.
i don't really think it through like where do i put my arms!

but now that i'm thinking about it. normally if the guy is noticably taller than you, his arms will go around your shoulders and your arms will go around his waist.

but if you are about the same size it doesn't matter. i have this guy friend that is the same height as me and my arms normally go around his shoulders and his around my waist.

don't worry. there isn't a right or wrong way :]

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I have a spanish oral exam tomorow. It's basically me and my teacher having a conversation in a certain situation like if we were in school, or in the park, or at the grocery store, or at the movies, only we speak in spanish. Problem is, i can't speak spanish so i'm worried that i might say the wrong verb or whatever because seriously i don't think i'll pass this. The test is tomorow and so can anyone give me sites or things to help me review for it so i atleast pass with like a 65 or something? Thanks!

hello [:
i take spanish too, and i have to do the same thing next week.

what i do is i take my time before answering. like i will listen to her question, translate it into english in my head. then i think of the answer that i would normally say to her in english and then translate it into spanish. i know that is a lot to do in a short amount of time, but trust me it works!

just make a list of all of the verbs that might come in handy. like hacer, tener, salir, comer, hablar, ver, comprar, dormir, etc. practicing talking to yourself at home or with a friend and it wil come easier. but if you really need help here are some good sites:

http://www.quia.com/pages/paronspanish.html
http://translation2.paralink.com/
http://www.elemadrid.com/spanish_verbs.htm

or just leave a question in my inbox :]

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how do you make those hearts on your profile??sorry it isnt a serious question i am just dying to know!!!

just type this:

& h e a r t s ;

but without the spaces :]

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14/f
this is kind-of long, sorry. :/

me and my boyfriend jordan have been going out since may 1, and as of now, we've only held hands and hugged, not kissed or anything. but we went to this school dance on friday, and they played our song [ bless the broken road, rascal flatts (: ], and after they played it, he looked at me and went in to kiss me, and the moment seemed perfect and such, but i turned away. he said it got him confused becaus he thought it was the right moment, but i told him i just felt like it was too soon. so just a few minutes ago he told me he wants to kiss me tomorrow after school, but i don't know what to do, because i don't think we've been going out long enough.
so basically, have we been going out long enough for us to kiss?? and please don't say it's up to me, or that it's whenever it feels right, because i honestly don't know.

so is less than three weeks long enough to kiss?
and we're going to the movies on friday, so i know he'll want to kiss me and maybe even make out.

thanks in advance..

i know you don't want to here this, but it really is up to you. if you don't feel ready, then don't let him rush you.

your boyfriend obviously thinks its not too soon and is ready. but since you turned away, you must not be ready.

you can't let your boyfriend pressure you into kissing him.

in my opion, its a little early, but i wouldn't shock me if you did kiss at only 3 weeks. i know people who have dated for 4 monthes and still haven't kissed. this just goes to show how much they really care for each other since they can keep their relationship strong without kissing.

and in my opinion i defintiely don't think you should make out with him at the movies since you weren't even ready for just a kiss.

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15/F
I've liked this guy for a couple of months and a few weeks ago I found out that he likes me back. A group of my friends and one of my closest friends friends (Sorry if that's confusing) met up at the mall yesterday, and I found out from my friend that he's bisexual. And I still like him. I just don't know if I would want to go out with him anymore. I don't have anything against people who are bisexual, it's just that I've never dated a guy like that before and I don't If I would want to. Am I being unfair? I'm so confused. What should I do?

knowing that he is bi shouldn't affect your opinion of him. being bi just means that he likes guys and girls. and he just happens to like you, a girl. you said yourself that you still like him, so then i think you should still go out with him.

you shouldn't think of him any different then a straight guy. what are you afraid of? the fact that he is bi doesn't mean he is more likely to cheat on you, be mean to you, or treat you any different.

sorry is that wasn't what you are looking for, i'm just being honest :]

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Ok well when I always eat anything oily anf greasy my mom insists that I eat cucumber slices with it or after I eat it.

I found out recently that if I rubbed a cucumber slice on my skin, my skin will be oilly-free for a longer period. (Not rub but like the way how you would put blush on your skin).

Is cucumber for oily stuff? I thought I said it's a myth. What the part of the cucumber that gets rid of the oily-ness?

actually no its not a myth :]
there is something in cucumber that soaks up oil. just like if you applied lemon juice to your face it would make it less oily.

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i have a question
this is kind of embarassing
but is it normal to question ur sexuality at like the age of 15???? answer plzzzzzzzzzz

yes its extremely normal!
at age 15 you are just starting to mature, and definitely get interested in dating. so questioning your sexuality is completely normal!

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