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No I'm NOT going out with him. Stop asking.
(15/f)
There this guy I've know for a couple of year. We recently switched from our old school for a more advanced program at another school(He was the only other person I knew who transfered and vice versa)We're pretty close friends, so a lot of people were under the impression we were going out, and by a lot, I mean practically everyone we know.
Question 1: What's a good way to answer when people say stuff like "How long have you guys been going out for?" or "You guys make such a cute couple!"... It's incredibly ackward to respond to those o_O Especially since he has somewhat of a fanclub within the female population.
I don't blame them for getting the wrong impression though. For example today at lunch, he was practically sprawled over me while reading a book, and I was reading over his shoulder. And he has nicknames for me that he uses constantly. And many other reasons... The thing is I actually like this guy, and have for quite some time. But he keeps on sending me mixed messages about whether he likes me or not. He switches from staring into my eyes for no particular reason to avoiding me.
Question 2: Any ways of finding out if he likes me in that way, without being too blatantly obvious of course because I AM friends with this guy.
Good grief, this is a rather long question. Thanks in advance :D
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Answer 1: Just laugh and say "Oh, we're just friends" or something like that.
Answer 2: It's hard to tell, all guys are different. Maybe ask one of his friends.
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Maybe he's not sure whether he likes you or not and/or more likely he doesn't want to jeopardize the relationship (/friendship) you guys already have.
By that I mean It's tough to be friends if you two were to break up, (because a majority of break ups aren't mutal, at least one person feels hurt from it). I'm not saying it's impossible to do, just that it's hard and maybe he doesn't want to worry about taking such a risk with such a close friend.
As for confronting him/ asking him that question, be easing going about it/ don't be awkward. The last thing you need is him worried that his answer will affect what you two already have.
Last but not least, it sounds like even though you like this guy, you are also content being 'just friends' with him which really is great because that not only eases the pressure off him, but you as well. This doesn't sound like an ultimatum so remember not to make it sound like one.
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this happens to me ALL THE TIME. seriously like i liked this one guy and we went on a field trip together and three people came up to us and asked if we were going out. now since i liked him i didn't mind that much. but then i have this other guy friend that i definitely only like as a friend, and people think we are dating all the time. we just kind of brush it off and say no we're not dating.
ok back to you lol. when people ask if you guys are dating NEVER answer with "no, we're just friends". because then people go ooh "just friends" thinking that you guys do like each other. and i know that you like him, but you don't know if he likes you back yet. to me it kind of seems like he does like you, but he might be getting scared at some points and backing off. he might be getting scared because people keep asking if you are dating, or because he is actually realizing that he DOES in fact like you.
now for your answer. just causually say no were not dating, and then change the subject. don't make a face and be like ew no we're definitley not dating. because then he will think that you would never want to date him.
GOOD LUCK with everything :]
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Ever heard of the song "Lets Give Them Something To Talk About"..? If you haven't, you should. Maybe you guys give off a vibe. Secret liking, you know? :) Just ask straight out if he does.
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