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Do you think my brother's gay? He got caught looking at male porn once and hasn't had a girlfriend.. he's 23..

Well, maybe you should ask him. There is nothign wrong with a person being gay, and if this is the case then maybe he's even been afraid to come out to your parents about it. If you really think he's gay, it's not a big deal. If he isn't gay, well, then you asking him that question could be a little akward - but no one else could really tell you his sexual preference. He's you're brother and I'm sure you love him, and he'll know that. That's really all that matters, anyway.

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ok well i like someone alot and that person likes me alot too, i wanna ask the person out but everybody tells me not to that i should wait for the person to ask me...should i just ask the person or should i wait? cuz it does seem like the person is gonna ask me...what should i do?

Who says you have to wait? Go ahead - if you have the confidence to do it, then I say go do it. It's great you have the guts to ask this person out - don't let anyone stop you!

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I just went to the dentist and he gave me some shots, procliaming that the lower left side of my face, upper lip and the upper left jaw would be numb, also numb by the bottom of my nose. I'm really sensitive to numbing crap and the numbness has extended to half my face and has reached my eyelid and blinking feels funny. I HATE this sensation, i can't eat anything either, does anyone know how to make numbness go away any faster? I am about to rip my face off!

Man, that's rough. Call your dentist and ask them what they recommend, because the only thing I could think of would be to wait it off. Use straws when you drink, that coul d help at least a little. Sorry to hear that, really.

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I am 23 years old. I just moved to California from Alaska with my boyfriend. The problem is, i do not think i love him. I am still in love with my guy friend back home. I am very unhappy in my current realtionship. I told him i wanted to go back home to Alaska. He agreed, but i am afraid once we get there, I will not want to be with him anymore. I want to be happy. My guy friend back home loves me also and i know that he would be with me and we would be happy but i do not want to break my boyfriends heart. What do i do to make this easy for us all?

Sounds like you have to really think on the choices you make. If you made up your mind, and really believe you love your friend back home, then go for it. As for your boyfriend, there is little you can do to soften the blow. Some important things to hit are why you want to end the relationship and why you aren't happy. There really is no way to make it 'easy', because you are probably going to break someone's heart one way or another. Sit with your boyfriend and explain to him what's going on inside your head. It'll be hard for him to take, so try to be sensitive. Don't be too harsh if it's specifically him that you have a problem with in the relationship, but try to tell him the truth, he deserves to know it.

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What's a good place to find good shoe sales? I live in Southlake TX if anyone knows a local place. Thanks bunches.

Just make your own shoes, out of rusty nails, cotton balls and old chewd bubble gum.

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Omfg I was just outside, and its raining really hard. I was just sitting out in the rain. Is there somthing wrong with that?????? Please tell me if there is a problem with liking rain..bcuz when somone saw me they fucking went crazyyyy. They were yelling get the fuck inside, and acting like i was going to kill myself!!!!!! I am sooo mad!! It was my fucking brother too. TEll Me the truth. IS it wrong to like the rain and go outside when its raining??? I mean this is the first time iv done it but everyone in my family acts like its sooo damn horrible!! plz help. They make mee feel so fucking stupid. like im crazy or somthing for doing that. My bro thoguth i was trying to get struck by lightning!!! AHHHHH is wut i did sooo wrong????

What? That's just silly. I love the rain. Whenever it rains, I go outside. There's nothing wrong with it. You just don't seem to see things the same as your family, perhaps they are afraid you'll catch a cold. Don't worry about it, you'll have many more fights with your family over stupid things I'm sure. Don't let it get to you too much, and keep doing things that make you happy.

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I need help. Fast! I'm going to my cousins tomorrow until friday and I was just talking to her and she told me about when she was swimming in the lake these 2 guys came up to her and she knew them but..they kept touching her and one of them hit her and left bruises and..then one of them went behind her n took her hands and held them behind her back and the other one took down her bottoms...then she kicked them but she cries all the time! She's scared to tell anyone..and she told me to promise not to tell...and I'm scared and I don't know what to do!

PLEASE help!

You're friend has to tell a trusted adult. You said she knows who tehse two guys are, so I'm assuming she knows their names, or what they look like. What they did to her was sexual harrassment, and there is no excuse for any girl to have to go through that. Tell her she needs to speak to an adult about this right away and try to give these jackasses what they deserve.

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Hi, MFS here again...

This is not really a question, but a request...

Can we please stop it with the "I rate" and "Rate me!" crap? Are getting ratings THAT important to you? Does it somehow make your life complete? This site isn't a game, people... ratings are not for keeping score. There is no competition - just advice. The ratings are supposed to be for keeping the bad advice off the site, much like we have the moderators in place to help keep the really bad questions off the site.

I mean, when I see a question that says "I rate!" in the body or even subjet of it, it just screams "OMG! PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!!!!!" It is getting kind of pathetic, as we're seeing it ALL THE TIME!

Let's give it a rest.

Thank you, at last somebody said it.

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is it a good think when a guy calls u a barbie?

Only if it's good to be a disproportioned plastic molded abbomonation.

Kick that asshole in the gonads if he says it again.

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how do u make urself throw up. i no that i lean over and stick ur fingers down ur throat and cough.. is that rite..what else do u do
-just wondering

I think the more important wuestion to ask is...

Whay do you want to make yourself throw up? Let me tell you, it isn't a very good idea. If you're trying to lose weight, it is an even worse idea. Not only will it ruin your health and make you sick and weak, but the acid from your stomache that is constantly coming up your throat will cause bloody welts all along your throat and insides. Not fun.

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i really like emo music and i wanna know some more bands & awesome songs. does anyone know any good emo bands?

There are no good emo bands. Start listening to different music, you'll find something good.

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Why do people ask stupid questions they can't read about on the internet? Google will do wonders!


-The Clown Prince

Inetersting, I've been trying to compile a worthy theory of why this happens as well. I have thought it out and I think we can all agree that something has devoured these poor people's brains, leaving them drooling and mindlessly surfing the internet, annoying us all.

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Does anyone know what kina of pills make people feel high or halucinate when u take more than ur sopposed to?????

The kind that will damage your organs if you overdose enough to make you hallucinate. I don't suggest this.

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ok the other day my lil brothers painted turtle laid eggs in the water of its tank. but we didnt know what to do! so we did what my grandfather told us to do. we buried them in the dirt and we r waiting for them to hatch! is that we did right? please i need help fasst!!!!!

Painted turtles are not like the huge sea turtles that bury their eggs in the sand. You could have kept them in the cage, but unless you have a male and a female turtle in the cage at the same time, these eggs were not going to hatch anyway. A male has to be there to fertilize the eggs. If this was the case, then the eggs are most likely damaged, but you could try to save them.

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How do you tell if you have breast cancer? Where are the lumps usually found?

You can only know if you have cancer if you get tested for it. But it's not hard to at least do a breast exam at least once am month so you know if you need to get checked out. You can ask your Doctor to show you how to do a breast exam in person, but the basic jist of it is pretty easy. Here's how my doctor described it:

Lie down on your bed, a couch, or the floor.

Put your left arm behind your head, and with your right hand, feel all around the our edge of your breast, working closer to the center. Feel for a small bean-like lump that seems out of place. Do the same thing on the other side, this time with your right hand behind your head and use your left hand to examine. Your breats should be symmetrical so if there is a small lump in one, and it is in the same place on your other breast, then most likely it is perfectly normal. If there are differences, see your doctor.

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hey when my friend is on her period and she keeps telling me to do stuff forher and her excuses is always " I am on my perios and i dont feel good" and i cant help but do it for her cause i am just that good of a friend. Should i tell her to do it her damn self or keep on being a good friend?

Why should you have to do anything for her just because she's on her period? NO, tell her to do it her damn self. People have jobs and do errands while on their period and they do just fine. If she's really in that much pain, tell her to go to bed.

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I've been having these dreams that are really weird and I don't understand them. First, last night I dreamt that I was being very intimate with this guy. It wasn't anyone that I know, but this is kinda weird but I dreamt that I was kinda having sex. I've dreamt it before and I just don't understand. Maybe you could help me out? Please..these are really bothering me and I've been having them more often now. Also I dreamt that I was going to marry this one guy that I know and he lives far far away from me. But the thing is I barely know him! So I'm confused. I don't exactly want an answer about that dream just the ones where I'm being very intimate. Thanks for your help!, If you need anymore info, IM me at AnnaxBanana45 or email me AnnaBanana146@aol.com *Love Me*

Although it could just be teenage hormones running through your body, most sex dreams have nothing to do with actually wanting to have sex with someone. Marriage and sex dreams may have to do with you fearing getting into a commitment of some kind, maybe it has to do with going to school, taking up a sport, or making any other decision that could be going on right now. Try to think about anything that might be bothering you, write down your dreams and see if there are any details that could help you find out what you're trying to figure out through dreaming.

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How come everytime your with a boy and a "sweet" car goes by.. they always know what it is.. how do they fucking know the year of a car and stuff.. i mean there always like oh, thats a 46 blue honda..or whatever i mean honestly how do they know thats the year it was made and ugh i break my cars down into like 3 groups.. bus..car..truck.. its that simple.. o yeah and i mean i know what toyota's and stuff are and like fords but other then that i dont know what a car is unless it states what it is on the back of the car.. wow i really wanna know why they always do this please tell me lolol..

Different models of cars will have a certain 'look' to them, and the year they were made will also make a difference in the characteristics of the model.

My boyfriend knows absoultely nothing about cars, their models, or even basic repair work. So when I see a particularly awesome car, I will point it out, but that doesn't necessarily mean he knew what it was beforehand.

Maybe some of the boys you hang out with just simply like cars - just like you are probably interested in things they know very little about.

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ok well im a guy that no girls like cuz i am ugly. all the girls around where i live r shallow. none of them like boys that have freckles, redhair, and very very lite skin. what should i think of myself? as an ugly person or a cute person juss ppl cant see that?

Ugly? That's pretty harsh, don't you think? You're right, it is shallow to judge people just based on how they look. If that's the case with all of these girls anyway, then who says you need to impress them? You're personality is far more important, not to meantion that there are many people out there that have the same features as you. Don't worry about what these girls think and just go about your business as usual.

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hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on???

It really depends on the girl. Maybe you could suggest opening the door for her, and if she seems annoyed at that, you know not to do it again. If you go out to eat or see a movie, offer to pay - ask her. If she wants to pay for herself, or split the bill, then you know that's how she wants things done. Personally, how a guy treats me or whether we have a good time is more important than him always picking up the bill.

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