about

Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City.



I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.



I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.



I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.



For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)



Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.


advice

could anyone give me the program applesauce for AIM please helpp!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here you go, sweetie:


http://mythophilia.net/downloads.html
Go there and click Applesauce. In less than a second it should download.


If that fails to work try...
http://www.pinkie.nu/download.html
Same thing, just click Applesauce and it should download for you.


If that doesn't work either...let me know. I'll be glad to find more. By the way I have all those cool fonts and colors. I really love it!
Love,
Mandee

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Whenever I eat something in front of my boyfriend, I get all embaressed. I guess its because Im afraid I'll get food on my lips or face or something like that, so I only take a bite when he's looking away. Its so weird - I dont even notice Im doing it until he says something to me. I feel stupid eating when he's staring right at me tho. Does anyone have any suggrestions for what I can do to fix this ? Thanks a million.

He's probably just admiring you! He probably finds you stunning, he likes you, doesn't he?


Don't feel awkward about this, I understand...it happens to a lot of people. Sweetie, you should not have to worry about getting food on your lips or face when you eat. Eat around him like you would with a friend. He wouldn't judge you based on how you eat, unless he is a complete jerk. But in this case he is not, and he really likes you. My guess is that he is concerned because he said something to you about this.


You should try to eat out with him more, or just in front of him a lot. You'll start to realize that it's okay to eat and be yourself when he's there. Maybe you're just a little shy or worried about you. You shouldn't change anything about yourself...it's just knowing that you have the control to fix this. Feel safe with yourself and don't care so much about what you're doing or what you're eating. He probably wants you to feel comfortable with him. That's why he asked you about why you do that. Try telling yourself no one is there to judge you and that it is just a meal. You've ate all your life, so it's nothing different. If he stares way too much, and it's making you feel weird you need to tell him or else he might not stop. Stop worrying so much about something so tiny. I honestly think if you get used to eating around him you won't think as much about what you're doing. There's nothing to worry about! Have fun and enjoy yourself being with him..that's what is the most important!
Love,
Mandee


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ok to understand my question here is what happened before...Sorry it is long!!!

my friend kristina is dating this guy named richard. Well they dated for about 1 year before breaking up because he is constantly a jerk to her. He was possesive and always jealous. When she would talk to her friends while talking to him he would flip out and he would flip out if she talked to other guys. Well, many times before she wanted to break up with him but he would always say he loved her so much and that he would change but he never did. Even her parents hated himZ Well, right before school started he wanted to get back together with her. (**Me and Kristina talked every day**)She wasnt sure if she should because of how he used to treat her. I kept telling her not to because she would only get hurt again. Well, she is dating him now and she totally changed. SHe never talks to me or her best friend Kayliee anymore. We both said that if she keeps this up that when she needs we might not be there anymore. What can I do to make her see what is going on and that he is a jerk without hurting her feelings or anything.

Kristina is probably in a state of confusion. This guy she is dating says he loves her so much, but at that same time he is the one who is making her change and isolating her from everyone, right? Some guys take the relationship too far. You and I both understand that if Kristina has changed dramatically and only talks to her boyfriend she needs to get out of this relationship right away.


There is no way to break the news easily to her, it will hurt her feelings and might even offend her if you talk badly about this guy. But you should, because she needs to hear it from you since you are a good friend to her. She probably already knows that she is being pushed around, so that probably will not be new to her. The reason she is staying with him? She's scared. That is most likely why she is with him and not leaving. Tell her how she changed..before and afters. Example: How she talked to you everyday and now she questions if she should even talk to you because she might get in trouble. I think that you both should still remain there for her. Simply because she is your friend but she is going through a hard time right now. Be there when she needs you. If she keeps dating him she will lose her friends, and if she finally got over him and moved on, could you imagine what it would be like without any friends to come back to? I know this might be hard for you to understand, but put yourself in her position. She will be so thankful you have stayed by her side through the rought times. That is, afterall, what friends are for.


I have been through what she has. So, I do know how hard it is to break away from someone so demanding as he is. It really takes a lot of work, and you have to be strong. I knew that it was wrong of me to stay with the guy I was with who was abusive. I still stayed out of fear. It took me a year to realize that you need to make yourself happy and put yourself first in times like these. Maybe if you let her know that she needs to do this for herself. She wouldn't want to live in fear for the rest of her life or be pushed down by somebody else telling her what she can and can not do. She will come through though, I did and I know that she can too if she really understands how much pain he causes her. He is saying he loves her and that he will change, but some guys never do change. He is very demanding and he should not confuse her by saying he loves her when he won't change for her. It is all a bunch of lies. If she wants to she can stay single and if he does change he can prove it to her at a later time.


You are a very good friend, and I'm sure she will be so lucky to have you there for her. You are doing the right thing by talking to her about it. But she might not listen, and you need to understand that she needs time to figure things out for herself. Sometimes the only way of getting through this is by experincing it for yourself, and that's what helped me. So let her go for a little, if it comes down to that. If she is a smart girl she will get herself out of this. If time passes and she still does not get the message you need to contact somebody who will help her. If you're still in highschool, teachers can help you, they learn how to get students help. So that mgiht be an idea. It's not safe...so please do whatever you can. You know she needs help and you're making an effort. That is really nice! Keep trying and stay sweet!
Love,
Mandee

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hey mandee thanx, uh if you know anyone who may be able to help me in Geometry or English, tell me

Hey sweetie, no problem!!! Geometry I suck at haha but maybe I can help you on certain areas on english. I think I'm okay at it. So if you wanna reach me AIM or e-mail. And I promise I'll do my best. For geometry just ask your teacher, Im sure they'd be willing to help you afterall, it is their job. If you know any friends who are good at it ask them. Those are my ideas, hopeffuly it helped you some more! Talk to you later babe!
Love,
Mandee

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Ok i need a lot of help. My parents think i am a complete lunatic. They know i am better then average and so do i. My grades in school suck cuz i just dont get geometry, IPC or English and i dont know Wat the hell to do!! please help me cuz i wanna go to a real good college!!!

I can't help you learn geometry and English, you have to do it yourself. If you want this really bad you'll work for it. Because you don't understand any geometry and IPC you need to get help from somebody. I'm sure someone will tutor you. Ask the teacher after class if she or he has any suggestions. Sometimes people learn better when it's just one on one instead of in a group. If you have some kind of study hall ask if you can come down whenever they have free time or stay after school so that they can explain it to you better. You are better than the average...and your parents probably know that. Once they see all of the effort that you are putting in to this to get better grades they will think you are very intelligent. You know that you can do it, and never ever lose that because you can get over this, I promise. It's hard and it may take you a few times before you get it right but when you bring those grades up youw ill feel better about yourself and your parents will be proud. Don't start slipping now. Once you get into college the work never ends and it's all up to you because no one else will help you, you have to do it yourself. So getting into the habit earlier is excellent and you'll be ready for future years. Always ask for help. You can do this! Haha, good luck sweetie.
Love,
Mandee

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I have sung since I was about 6 or 7 years old. I have never been too bad at it but I have always lacked in confidence. I can sing fine on my own when no one is around to hear me, but when it comes to singing in front of people, I can't. My friend and I have to sing a verse from a song together for a christmas concert. My friend always has a sore throat so she is generally out of tune and she tends to start laughing. I then have to stop singing because I am too nervous to sing alone. How can I over come this fear of singing in front of people, so that if my friend laughs in the concert, I can just carry on?

I'm assuming that if that verse of the song with your friend was being tried out you're a really good singer. Remember that YOU are very important because if someone messes up you'll be there to back them up. It's such a very exciting feeling to know that you have the opportunity to be a part of a concert. You probably already know that you shouldn't stop when someone gets out of tune so I won't go on about that. The key to getting better at something is to practice and eventually you'll work your way up to overcoming this fear. It does work believe me. Why do you think so many people say practice makes perfect? =P Try singing in front of your friends, their parents, your parents, your family..etc. It's scary sometimes but you'll be making yourself look good and this will help you when it's time for the concert. However, you still should keep singing in your room. Everyone sings better in their room or when they're alone in a comfortable place. Think of it as an honor to be in this concert and do your part. If your friend laughs or gets out of tune you need to be there to back her up. She'll be lucky that you were there for her, trust me. If she messed up and you both stopped it would confuse everybody and things like that are embarrassing. Part of being a preformer is knowing that something could happen at anytime, but you have to keep going with what you're supposed to do to hide it or fix it. And just let your friend know that she has got to try to be really focused on what she's there to do. Good luck at the concert, you'll do great! Keep practicing hunnie and be proud that you're in it! Haha =D
Love,
Mandee

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Ok i was just reading through the new questions on here and i read the question about singing where you answered something about "ranges" and how if your a high soprano you can't sing too low or if you're a low soprano u cant sing too high or too low and if your an alto you cant sing too high....well i sing in every range...like i dont juss sing 1 range all the time like it just depends on what song im singing....and all my friends say i sing really really good and i wrote 4 songs and i sang them to my friends and they all gave them 9's and 10's on a scale of 1-10...and each song is in a different "range"...so I'm not sure how this is a Question but i was just wondering if that bad that i dont sing in just one range???....plz answer =]

Hey babe, sorry it's been so long. I've been busy with college and such. Anyways, I hope this helps!

It's possible to sing in all ranges. But be sure that you can. Because you may be able to hit the notes, but if you need to struggle to get it out then you know it's out of your range. You want to make sure you can sing in all ranges, it's important...if you sing out of your range you're strecthing your vocals cords to produce a sound higher or lower than it normally goes. That's not good because it will hurt your vocal sound and production. So I would definitely advise you to practice to see how low and high you can go. If you play piano or take any instrument then you'll be able to play and see which notes you can hit.



Think of altos being in a medium range they must be careful because they can not sing too low or two high. And sopranos depending if they are a high soprano or low soprano should not go too high or too low. To see which notes you can hit, and to find out if you can hit all ranges play from the middle C on your piano. Then sing down the scale. The notes that seem easy to get out are the ones best fitted to your range. Altos ranges typically are a C below the Middle C to G. And a low soprano can hit G to a B. Higher sopranos can sing from a G and they can hit above a high C. Think or it like this...lower note belongs to altos, low sopranos are kind of in the middle so test all the note ranges from an alto to a high soprano. And the high sopranos obviously hit high notes.



Just to let you know, the singers that you hear on the radio or on music videos, concerts..etc. usually go beyond what they can produce as far as range goes. This is sometimes why Christina and others need to get their voices taken care of. When they sing their songs they normally give it all they got, it isn't good because that means that they are pressuring their sound by screaming or screeching out the notes. It's very harmful for their voices. Example: Ashlee Simpson--- because of the way she sings notes it caused her to have a voice problem. You might have seen it on her show. So remember when you are singing your favorite songs, take care of your voice and try to control singing the note correctly. Just a few reminders! :D
Love,
Mandee

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okay.. i went out with this guy.. and he is really hot.. but.. okay.. we broke up because it was like nobuddy wanted us together.. but we are still friends.. but anyways.. the other day.. i was in the hall.. and i kissed him.. and then the next day my friend said she was going out with him.. and i was like.. "omg.. since when?" and she was like.. since two days ago.. so.. he cheated on her with me.. and i dont know if i should tell her or not.. should i?

You can tell her or not. But if I was in this situation I would tell her. (That's just my how I would handle it) You could tell her about it. Maybe you would want to do this because she deserves the right to know. If he cheated on her so early in the relationship, he might do it again. Think of you being in her place. If he cheated on your with one of your friends, you would want to know. And if you found out later because no one told you about it before, you'd be more mad, right? Or you could not tell her. Simply because you're afraid of her reactions. It might seem like she won't get hurt, but think about it. She'll probably get hurt either way. Her whole relationship would be a lie if she found out later that he was cheating on her. And that's a possiblity because rumors occur and people talk about those things. Even though you and him only know, someone might be able to find out. But if you wanted to you can leave that up to him to talk to her about. She might be mad at you because you were part of it even though you didn't know. Anyways, do whatever you feel is right! :D Good luck!
Love,
Mandee

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I've been "going out" with this guy ever since this party where we had to kiss for truth or dare...
we liked each other and talked every day for several days.
when we were talking on the phone, I asked him about the things he didnt like, and he said his siblings and gays.
His mom had made this one kinda racist joke that i heard abot african americans, and his brother had called me a name (I'm Jewish)
Could it just be a coincidence about his family? (I'm not gay or anything, but I believe in rights of minorities, being one).
Should I break up with him, or what?
(sorry for it being so long)help!
(his family is kind of the rich white christian type but he seemed sweet)
-HeLpMe-

You should probably consider breaking up with him if they continue to make fun of you because of religion or beliefs of race and such. Never should you feel uncomfortable or out of place in a relationship. If you feel this way it's best to get out of it. Just because you have different opinions on something does not mean you should brak up. Example: people that are gay. But if it gets to the point that he and his family pressures you into believing what they say or put your opinions down you should definitely think about moving on to some other guy. You've probably heard already that you should never change yourself to capture a guys attention. This goes for your beliefs too. Always listen to yourself, and respect the beliefs you have, never ever reconsider to do that for some guy. Try talking to him to get a better uderstanding of things. Ask him if having different views on things are okay with him and his family. They should respect your beliefs, but remember they don't have to agree with them. If it becomes a problem whereas they might pressure you into different ideas, then you should talk to them about it first. If nothing improves, it's time to find a new guy.
Love,
Mandee

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I love my boyfriend dearly and everthing and I mean everything is going great and I am as happy as ever. But somehow I just feel like something or someone is gonna break us up...Like somethings gonna keep us apart... It makes me feel depressed...Maybe I feel this way because whenever I was in a relationship a guy, he never took it seriously...could this be why? and if it isn't then why do i feel this way?
Thanks in advanced :)

You're not alone. I relate with this very well, because of all the relationships I've been through I felt the same exact way. You shouldn't neglect your feelings. But your feelings may not mean that it's actually going to happen. It might be that experince with that guy who never took the relationship seriously. The only other reason I can think of is that we aren't used to a perfect world. And when something good happens in our life it seems too good that it's surreal. We worry about some bad things that happen because that's natural for everyone. No one is used to everything being so perfect. But like Siren said, you should talk about this with your boyfriend. I'm sure he has thoughts about the relationship too. But I think if you talk to him about your thought it'll be less stressful and you'll probably be able to work it out. Enjoy having your boyfriend with you, and try to make the best out of it!
Love,
Mandee

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im going out with the best guy ever his name is paul i love him 2 death he calls me almost everyday and i just love everything about him. I dont know if my friend is jealous or just mad. Well my problem is im sick of hearing that my friend says the me n paul are like married just because we hang out we go 2 eachothers houses, go to movies,mall, and friends house's. i mean i think she is jealous bc her bf austin doesnt call her talk 2 her or do anything with her the only thing they have dont together in the 5 months that they have been going out is that they say one movie and saw eachother at a foot ball game well i just want 2 tell my friend 2 shut up bc she's jealsous but i mean i dont want 2 be mean bc she is my friend i just dont know wat to do help me plz

Aww, I know what you mean. Your friend probably is jealous because she wants the relationship that you and your boyfriend have. You have to be really considerate to her feelingts because she might be going through a lot right now. I'm guessing the reason for her acting the way she is has to do with her boyfriend. It's sad that she has that kind of boyfriend. So maybe take that into heart and try to picture what she's going through. I know you love to talk about your boyfriend but be aware that if you talk about him all of the time that might be what's getting her mad. This is a time she might need you. Maybe try to talk to her and tell her your sorry about her relationship with her boyfriend, but you loves yours with your boyfriend and it's important to you if she can accept that. It's a good thing to talk to her about this. You need to be able to feel comfortable with your decisions, and you've found the right guy for you so it's always helpful to have her support that. If her comments make you mad you need to speak up and tell her that they do, otherwise she'll continue to say those things. Offer to help her out if she needs it though. You should be really fragile when you talk to her about her boyfriend. It's likely that she's not having the best time with him, and she really wants what you have with your boyfriend so bad. Even spending some time with her may help. I know it seems like I'm referring to your friend more than you, but understand that you're needs are just as important as hers. So you should tell her how you feel and get it out of your system. If she still doesn't get the hint or come around, just let her settle down for a couple days and go enjoy your time with Paul. Keep staying happy, hun!
Love,
Mandee

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I've been having these visions in my sleep that it's going to become the end of the world by next Friday. I wake up in a cold sweat and see pink gay bunnys everywhere. Then all the sudden the damn rabbits start making out with my pillow. Then the frisky lil things take out bb guns and start shooting my TV. My house then catches on fire, causing the next house to burn up too (some how, i don't know how, though). ...and so on. Then the whole US is on fire. Our president, bush, thinks we're getting bombed by iraq so we go to another deadly war. Then china launches a gigantic nuclear fusion for the hell of it, and the world blows up.
But some how I manage to survive bc/ i can breathe in outter space. Then, I rule the universe! Muhahahaha



What should I do about these dreadful nightmares?


LMAO well umm...if the pink bunnies are all gay and the rabits are making out with your pillows I would definitely consider to find a pimp hat to put them in. That way it will prevent movement. You should become strict and take the guns right off of those frisky things. That will solve the animal problem. And my last advice for you is to check in to some hospital who treats patients that see little bunnies making out when they wake up because that's where you belong. :D

Remember, if you ask a stupid questions, you'll probably end up with some stupid answer!

Peace out,
Mandee

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ok, i really like to sing, im ok i guess... but id really like to get better on my own w/o voice lessons or w/e. r there ne good methods for strengthining my voice and making it sound better?
*~*thanx a ton*~*

Hey, I've been a singer for six years so maybe I can help you. First of all you need to find your range. Sopranos sing high and altos sing low but they sing in a lower woman range. It's tempting to push voice, but you need to understand that if you do this it will damage your voice range. If you're a high soprano you can sing very high, but if you start singing lower than your range it's damaging to your voice. If your a low soprano try not to sing too high or too low. And altos try not to sing in a manly lower voice or in a high soprano voice. Practicing is the best way to get a better singing voice. It's very difficult without vocal lessons because the people who teach them are very professional and they will train your voice and work up to your goal. But if you have chorus at your school you should sign up. Not only is it free, but your teacher will instruct you on what you should know for singing. You'll be able to find your range that way too. If that is not an option, I think you should start warm ups everyday. If you practice every day and dedicate yourself towards singing, you will become better at it. So if you know what your range is keep practicing singing within that range. When people have access to vocal training they learn how to breathe right when singing. Breathing is very important when you sing, because you need to be sure you can control the amount of air your breathe to hold on to the pitch and the notes for a long period of time. For practice on this find songs that have long notes. When you realize how difficult it is to hold that note you'll have to breathe right. This will be hard for me to explain without hearing you sing and giving you examples. But what I can tell you is that you need to try not to breathe in the middle of a note. Try to get through a sentence or two without a noticable breathe. There are so many other sings for becoming a better singer. Tone quality is important. But if you're just singing for fun then just find your range and keep practicing and you'll be fine. If you want to make a career program as a singer you must learn every importance about singing. If money is the problem with vocal training there are free options out there. Anyways, I'm sure you'll become better as long as you practice. Much luck!
Love,
Mandee

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should i lose weight to make a guy like me? i mean i AM little overweight and my parents think so too and ive gained like 10 pounds, so im like 15 pound overweight! so i am wondering because i think guys havent asked me out yet is becuase of this! i know 2 guys who already liked me but they thought i was funny and nice and everything.. im not wow fat, but should i lose weight now? because is this the last straw?

Sweetie, you should never ever change anything about yourself just to make a guy like you. With that said, if you're going to loose weight do it for yourself and not for anyone else but you. If you have a great personality guys will see that and ask you out. Guys are usually shy in their teen years and they can be afraid to ask you out. Don't expect that your weight has to be the reason why guys won't ask you out. Age might have something to do with it. Usually guys don't feel comfortable with girls until they are about 15 years old. That's not how it is with every guy, but sometimes that's what happens. Even if you're older...guy are very hard to understand, it might take a year for a guy to confess he likes you. It all depends on what the guy thinks, and how he approches a girl. So seriously don't beat yourself up because he hasn't asked you out yet. If he likes you, he'll ask you eventually! Don't worry too much about it, you'll be fine!
Love,
Mandee

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i went shoppin with my friend the other day and we kept running into my dad there and everytime my dad would ask me a question shed answer for me. well a little later my dad got rly annoyed and raised his voice at her and told her off for doing that. i got a little pissed because he had a point but i didnt like the way he was talking to her. so i told him to not yell at her because shes not his kid and he took her home just because i said that. then later he told me how my friend is a liar and she bossed me around and she takes advantage of me and all this shit. i kind of agreed with him on some parts but some of the other things she said was totally out of line. now i dont know what to beleive because my dad got me all confused. is it fair what he said and am i being bossed around? ill rate high because this is so long. thnx

I don't know how your friend acts towards you, so it's hard for me to say if you are being bossed around. I think that you'll be able to find the truth. You can tell if someone is bossing you around because they will act like they know everything, and they won't really care what you say. Normally they'll have you doing things for them, and they'll tell you what to do, where to go, etc. If she takes advantage of you, she'll use you. She might use you because you might have something she likes, or maybe when shes bored that's the only time she'll ask you to do something with her. Now you dad had the right to say what he thinks about her, but I agree with you, yelling at her is way too much. You should talk to you dad and ask what are some of the things that she does to make him feel the way he feels. You'll know the answer, it just may take a couple days. Answering for you could be a sign that she is a little bossy. Anyways I hope you have a fabulous Thanksgiving! Love ya!
Love,
Mandee

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Hey-i was reading through your column and i really liked the advice you were giving so i was wondering if you could help me out with a situation i have:
alrite so beginning of this year (i was still a junior in high school) i met a guy (a senior in high school who's now a freshman in college) through my best friend's boyfriend and one nite after all 4 of us hanging out i ended up hooking up with him. When it started out, neither of us was looking for a relationship, i was just looking to gain experience so i figured it was a great idea. Long story short-i went pretty far with him and got attached-towards the end of the school year we found out we both really liked each other, we went to prom together and were hooking up monogamously for about 4 months but he never asked me out-finally middle of summer he said he didn't wanna lead me on but he really didn't want a gf when he was gonna be leaving for college in a month-i told him i understood but naturally i was heartbroken. So i didn't see him the rest of the summer, i've just heard stories about him hooking up with other girls which killed me...literally but i finally finally got over him (its been a long long road). Anyways he's back for thanksgiving break and i haven't gotten play in awhile-so this friday we are getting together-im really worried cuz when i see him i don't know if i will have the strength to turn down hooking up with him, but i definitely know i don't have the strength to get over him again-at the same time....i desperately need play LOL. What do u think i should do?!?!

thanks

Awww thank you so much, that is such a sweet compliment!

It's so hard when someone who you just got over comes back because your unsure of what to do. This happened to me before with an ex-boyfriend and I think I handled it very well. But I have a few questions for you. Do you know for sure that he wants to hook up with you? And do you want to hook up with him again?

If you don't want to hook up with him, you have to find your strength. You definitely have strength because you are a strong girl for getting over it. It takes me like 4 years! Haha. I would personally ask myself if I'm that desperate that I would hook back up with him. Heres my opinion: if you choose to start seeing him again and end up doing it, you could become severly depressed and the cycle will start over again. If he still doesn't want a relationship and you're still attracted to him it will lead you into getting your heart broken again. I believe that everyone should deserve the best out of life. If you want to find somebody, find someone who will love you and not confuse you. You'll become so happy! Trust me.

I don't think he is really sure of what he is doing either. He's confusing you a lot, and you don't need all of that confusement. When he comes back try to keep it on a friend level. If you notice he has become more sure of what he wants you'll know what to do. If he seems interested and tells you that he does wanta relationship then you should go for it. If he doesn't I don't think you should put yourself through all of that shit again.

Don't worry, there's a lot of hott guys out there! ;D Try to find new guys and start a new relationship. Sometimes you just got to move on. And that is one of the hardest things in life. But you'll be okay and you can get through this. Have a Happy Thanksgiving!! Try to make the best out of an awkward event. Love ya! Take care of yourself and do what will make YOU happy and stay that way!

Love,
Mandee

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ok..most older sisters r mean to their younger sisters when they follow them around or sumthin annoyin like that. i try to stay away from my sister b/c all she duz is yell at me! and i really dont do nething!! i hate yelling at ppl so i dont want to yell at her back. ne advice on wut to do??

Hey! Well first of all Happy Thanksgiving sweetie! Secondly, if your sister is a teenager chances are she is going to have a lot of mood swings. And because she's older she'll feel like she can tell you anything, and you'll have to listen to whatever she says. But that is not right, and you need to let her know that. Have a heart to heart talk with her even if it seems impossible, you'll have to try. For once, she has got to listen to what you have to say. If you don't tell her what's wrong she will continue to yell at you and it will become more dramatic. Her main problem might be the privacy issue. Having someone follow you can be very annoying, you're right. But if you do look up to her let her know that. Respect her privacy but try to create a good relationship with her. She needs to try to do this to or it will get you know where. But don't worry, as she gets older and matures she will understand that what she did to you was very mean and she will see that having a younger sister is precious. (lol) Really, it happens. Just give her space let her cool off but try to start conversastions with her daily. Try to build up the idea that she can talk to you about anything and you can tell her anything. It worked for me! Happy Thanksgiving again, Love ya!
Love,
Mandee

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my best friends sister just got diagnosed w/ cancer! my closest cuzin just died last year of cancer. i always talked to her about my cuzin and now i totttally regret it cuz i really dont want her sister to die!! her sis is 18 and she soooo nice. the bad thing is that my best freind and i are 13 and its that time when ur family treats u like ur garbage. and her sister is teh only one who was nice to her and always there for her. thats y i feel sooo bad. and ive been comforting her but evrytime i do i hafta stop cuz i get teary eyed cuz i think of my cuzin. and then she gets teary eyed and i just dk wut im supposed to do.

signed ~teary eyed 1~

Awww babe, that is so sad! Cancer is something that cannot be cured, there is a possiblity of living with it for a long period of time though. If your best friend's siter got checked out in an early stage of cancer she may be able to keep it in some control. But I don't want to get your hopes up, I'm being really honest when I say this. Depending on the kind of cancer she has it will become very hard for her to stay alive, and when she is living she will never be the same as she once was. You are doing a good job of comforting her because you know exactly what she is going through because of your cousins death. Even if you have to cry that is fine. She is going to need as much support as possible. You both are only thirteen, and it is such an advantage to hand an older sister to help her through the struggles she may have. So understand that losing her big sister is going to be the hardest thing in her life. You should try to spend a lot of time with her just enjoying life. But do not ignore the fact that her sister has cancer. If you notice she seems depressed you should ask her if she wants to talk about it. If she says no back off, and wait until she is ready to open up. Death causing a large amount of depression, you, as her friend should try to keep her in a healthy state. There is not too much you can do, just being there for her is more than enough. I am so sorry for you and your friend. Please, take care of yourselfs and try to enjoy the time you have with her and her sister. But keep hoping that she will make it through this. Never give up hope! Happy Thanksgiving! Love you!
Love,
Mandee

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So I'm doing the South Beach Diet and I cant have carbs for a while. Well I've been on it for 5 days, but yesterday I decided to cheat. Well this morning I woke up and my stomach felt gross. I was about to eat lunch and I looked at the food and wanted to throw up. I really love food but today its grossing me out. Of course, I cant go out with food so I'm forcing myself to eat but I dont know whats wrong! My stomach just gets grossed out when I see/eat food. Is this because yesterday I decided to cheat and have carbs and my body was just getting used to the no-carb deal? I dont know..Its confusing me and yeah. Do you know what could be wrong?

I'm not really advanced on this type of thing, but here are some of my thoughts: It's likely that you have the right idea about your body. Because you were going without carbs for a while your stomach adapted to that and you're confusing it by putting back these carbs. If you start ending your carbs and continue doing that for a period of time, you will become used to doing that. But when you get off the diet your body has no way of responding sensibly because you are switching on and off of something. It is best to stay in one eating habit. Think of it like this: You get confused if you learn something from what you've been taught, but suddenly there is a new way that someone wants you to understand. Your body is the same way. You are mixing up the types of foods you are eating which is causing you to have those gross feelings when you see or eat food. That is what I believe is the reason to why that happened. Anyways, good luck!
Love,
Mandee

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ok im kind of a shy person and recently i started making friends at another high school so im mainly with them. they are all so pretty...a lot of guys like them and they're so nice.i just want to fit in with them because when when im with them,i feel like the outsider. i want to b able to open up more...basically what i want to know is how to open up more!? plz plz help i really need it.

Good Morning! (lol I know that is very early to answer this, but I'll give it a try). Reading your question, it caught my attention that you think your friends are better than you. And that's not how you're suppose to view your friends. So obviously you're not comfortable with them yet, and it might take you longer because you are shy. Try to take it one step at a time, because you're not used to this yet. To open up, try to listen to what they're saying and if you relate to something or know what to do about whatever they said let them know! Sitting there not saying a thing doesn't help very much and they may take it the wrong way. So try to say a little bit. You need to practice a lot to open up to people. You might need to force yourself to tell people more abouut you. Try talking to different people to, this will let you be much more confident. You need to realize that, they are very equal to you. If you see yourself as an outsider than you will have a lot more trouble being more confident and opening up. So it's important to understand yourself first. And never think less of yourself. I'm sure that they wouldn't want you to think of them as being a bigger person than you. Maybe it's the fact that they're more confident in what they do and who they are and that is what makes them seem so nice, and why guys like them, etc. You can fit in, but it's not all about talking, it's more about being confident and leting that shine through. (lol) You'll be fine! Much luck!

Love,
Mandee

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