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i feel soo bad!
my best friends sister just got diagnosed w/ cancer! my closest cuzin just died last year of cancer. i always talked to her about my cuzin and now i totttally regret it cuz i really dont want her sister to die!! her sis is 18 and she soooo nice. the bad thing is that my best freind and i are 13 and its that time when ur family treats u like ur garbage. and her sister is teh only one who was nice to her and always there for her. thats y i feel sooo bad. and ive been comforting her but evrytime i do i hafta stop cuz i get teary eyed cuz i think of my cuzin. and then she gets teary eyed and i just dk wut im supposed to do.
signed ~teary eyed 1~
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Awww babe, that is so sad! Cancer is something that cannot be cured, there is a possiblity of living with it for a long period of time though. If your best friend's siter got checked out in an early stage of cancer she may be able to keep it in some control. But I don't want to get your hopes up, I'm being really honest when I say this. Depending on the kind of cancer she has it will become very hard for her to stay alive, and when she is living she will never be the same as she once was. You are doing a good job of comforting her because you know exactly what she is going through because of your cousins death. Even if you have to cry that is fine. She is going to need as much support as possible. You both are only thirteen, and it is such an advantage to hand an older sister to help her through the struggles she may have. So understand that losing her big sister is going to be the hardest thing in her life. You should try to spend a lot of time with her just enjoying life. But do not ignore the fact that her sister has cancer. If you notice she seems depressed you should ask her if she wants to talk about it. If she says no back off, and wait until she is ready to open up. Death causing a large amount of depression, you, as her friend should try to keep her in a healthy state. There is not too much you can do, just being there for her is more than enough. I am so sorry for you and your friend. Please, take care of yourselfs and try to enjoy the time you have with her and her sister. But keep hoping that she will make it through this. Never give up hope! Happy Thanksgiving! Love you!
Love,
Mandee
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You'll still be there for her..always. Don't think about the bad things that could happen to her sister, think about all the good things. Just talk to her. It's okay if you cry, and it's okay if she cries. You get your feelings out that way. Talk to her about everything, she needs to get it out. Always be there for her..and make sure she knows you'll be there if she needs you. I hope everything is okay..
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the only thang u can do is be there for her. U can cry its alright, tell her u have been throught the same thing and u know how it feels tell her whatever happens that she (her sister) is in gods hands , he knows what is right.
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Just try ur hardest to understand her and its better to cry then hold it in.. and its even better to cry w/ someone u trust..hope i helped.. (sorry bout ur cuz) =(
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i kno how u feel bec my mom died last year of cancer. i am 12 years old and at the time i was 11. it really sucks losing someone close.hope this helps
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hey hunny...you are doing so much for your friend already by just being there for her. make SURE that she knows that she can talk to you if she wants, or if she just feels like crying than your ok with that too. try not to talk about your cousin- it brings back bad emotions for you, and sometimes when peoples loved ones get diagnosed with cancer, they kind of want to think about them, and not talk about someone else. try to keep her thinking positive, and if she seems down, write her a note that will make her smile, or tell her you'll go with her to see her sister if shes put in the hospital. as long as she knows that you love her and will be there for her, thats the greatest thing you can do.
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its really hard to have some1 that you know be diagnosed w/ cancer. my grandma was diagnosed last year.
my advice to you is not to talk about your cousin... because
1) it reminds you of her dying
2) it will make her think about her sister dying
there are many people the survive cancer and later on live perfectly normal lives. think about lance armstrong-- he survived cancer and still wins the tour de france...
-erin
i hope u & ur friend feel better and her sister pulls through!!!
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Hey hunny :(
Alot of us know what its like to lose a loved one. I am very sorry. But what you are doing is so nice. Please continuing to comfort her now. I can she imagine she needs it a lot now. But thats so great where you can have a relationship to cry on someones shoulder. I have none of that, No one ever understands me. And my grandma died last May of breast cancer. I loved her sooo much. I got over it by not thinking of it as such a bad thing that she has passed. But as a good thing because I know she is in a better place, than this messed up world. Just hang out with your friend and STILL talk to her about it. Its ok to cry. if you don't let it all out you can get very sick.
Good Luck with your best friend. :)
Pura Morena
xo0x adriana
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