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well, im 13 (almost 14)yrs old, im 5'8", i have brown hair w/ light brown highlights and green eyes, um ya... thats about it.

so, quit reading this and ask me a question!!
-erin


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I can never have a good day at school. I have alot of frieds but being that i have to get up in the morning i get cranky and when i get cranky i am just really quiet.. i know you'll tell me more sleep.. besides that what else could i do? because i sleep from 10:30-7:15

ok... i know this might sound stupid, but just try it!
well if you eat something for breakfast that has sugar in it (like syrup on pancakes) or drink coffee in the morning it could help. if that doesn't help, then the only thing that i can think of would be to get more sleep. even if you went to bed @ 10 instead of 10:30 it might help some.
-erin

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I am 16 years old and I have been through hell and back! My mom was with a guy for nine years and I was molested by him. Now every year she is with a new guy. In February I was raped by my brother in-law and my mom didn't believe me at first, I was called a liar and I was told that I asked for it, the cops didn't even believe me until I took a polygraph test! I eventually got away from my mom because she hit me one day. I was living with one of her friends which kicked me out of her house for smoking cigs (She knew before I moved in that I was a smoker and I NEVER smoked in her house or even on her property!) I tried to kill myself because I didnt want to go back to my mom, i was placed in a mental institution for 4 months and now I am living with my mom again! She of course is with another guy. In the last few weeks my mom has had two strokes because of her boyfriend yelling and threatning her! I can't take it! I have enough problems of my own and the other night I tried to kill myself again! I dont want to end up back in the hospital and my moms new boyfriend is cool as long as they aren't fighting. I am scared that my mom is going to get hurt and I am going to end up dead because the slightest things make me want to cut, burn, or die! I still don't feel close to my mom, but I spent so long fighting her and finally gave in. I have no where to go but back to the hospital and I dont want that! WHAT DO I DO!

wow... well, first of all, im really sorry that you've had to go through all of this. im really sorry if this doesn't help but here it is...
look on the positive side... theres only a few more years until you get to go to college and if you live in a dorm then you won't have to worry about living with your mom and her hurting you. as far as the cutting and trying to kill yourself goes, when you feel like you need to do that, then think of anything in your life that makes you happy (ANYTHING AT ALL) and thats worth living for. as far as being raped and molested goes, its in your past now and you have to try to forget it (like you said, your mom's new boyfriend is cool so hopefully you won't have to worry about that with him). Please Just Don't Kill Yourself, You Sound Like A Really Great Girl!
hope i helped and everything works out fine!
-erin

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months and we always have a good time when we are together and he does the littlest things that are so sweet and at times he just can really gett on my nerves.. hes constantly going to this girls house named whittney. but i guess he also plays ditch and then goes there. and these 2 girls were over at his house a couple days and ago and i dont remember very much but i think he said something about them hangin in his room.. but i dont know it was jus him n them in the house and all the sudden hes breakin out street lights and gettin the cops called on him for goin on pplz property late at night and makin loud noises wen playin ditch the hole ditch thing doesnt bother me but he is eggin houses and stuff but wen i did ask him if he was doin that just to b cool and try n fit in with other ppl.. but he jus sed he hadda go.. last night i asked if people say he flirts with others and he says people do say he does flirt but he doesnt know he's flirting.. so do i trust him? and alot of people say they dont know how me and him have held on so long.. my brothers are constantly telling me that.. its hard to let go of a long relationship and some of you may noe that...

if this boy means this much to you then you should tell him that the things that he's doing are bothering you so much. if he really cares about you too, he'll stop (or at least try to). if he doesn't stop when you ask him to, and it really bothers you, then you should probably break up with him. i no that it might be really hard because you really do care about him, but i think it would be the right thing to do. i hope i helped and everything works out fine.
-erin

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well see in my religion its a sin to pluck or wax eyebrows but the thing is everyone i no who are also muslims pluck/wax their eyebrows except my mom and sister.. im almost 14 years old and i think its my choice wheater i touch my eyebrows ... and tonight my dad is goin to get his hair cut and i want to go w. him to get my eyebrows done wut cud i say to my mom to get her to say okay?

tnxs..ill rate u high

just tell your mom that its realy important to you. you may not want to be the same as your mom and sister and you dont necessarily have to be. just talk to your mom about it and you might find out that there is some special reason why she doesnt let you do it.
hope i helped
-erin

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i have a bad self esteem issue and i want to fix it. how do i convince myself that i am not fat and ugly? i really think i am, and i dont ever say anything about it, but my friends always call me pretty and stuff, i want to be confident in myslef.

maybe if you start to exercise (or more if you do already) and even if you don't lose weight or anything, it may make you feel better because you are doing something to change it. it may help you to get your self esteem back.

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ok i have a problem, well whenever i get tp the bathroom mirror, i started popping my pimples, i can't control myself. and then the next day it looks soo horrible. how can i stop? my pores are HUGE, and i have blackheads........, so i always try and sgqueeze the stuff out of them. what are some good products or ways to get rid of stuff on your face. i've tried everyhting from oxy to clearasil to nuetrogena to stridex to clean and clear and biore ... + plus lots more. any tips? oh andis it true if u eatr chocolate and greasy foods you get more break-outs? oh and btw does water *REALLY*help clear out break-outs?

i was exactly the same way... the one thing i have to say is...
PROACTIVE!!!
proactive is the best that there is, it gets rid of pimples, blackheads, everything!
-erin

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what are some good ways to let a guy know you're interested? or some good ways to flirt?

i really like this guy, but i may need to step my flirting skills up a few notches, so any help you all could offer would be great!

just go up and start talking to him... make sure that you smile so he knows that you're happy to be talkin w/ him. to get the conversation started, do something like complement him on his shirt or something like that.
-erin

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my best friends sister just got diagnosed w/ cancer! my closest cuzin just died last year of cancer. i always talked to her about my cuzin and now i totttally regret it cuz i really dont want her sister to die!! her sis is 18 and she soooo nice. the bad thing is that my best freind and i are 13 and its that time when ur family treats u like ur garbage. and her sister is teh only one who was nice to her and always there for her. thats y i feel sooo bad. and ive been comforting her but evrytime i do i hafta stop cuz i get teary eyed cuz i think of my cuzin. and then she gets teary eyed and i just dk wut im supposed to do.

signed ~teary eyed 1~

its really hard to have some1 that you know be diagnosed w/ cancer. my grandma was diagnosed last year.
my advice to you is not to talk about your cousin... because
1) it reminds you of her dying
2) it will make her think about her sister dying
there are many people the survive cancer and later on live perfectly normal lives. think about lance armstrong-- he survived cancer and still wins the tour de france...
-erin
i hope u & ur friend feel better and her sister pulls through!!!

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(16/F) Alrighty then, there is this guy that I've liked since last year. (name is...Frank) I have told Frank that I like him three time to his face, and we are not going out. I was wondering if it would be weird if I got him a Christmas present. I know its not Christmas yet, but I want to figure this out before hand. Please tell me what you think. Thanks in advance.

Signed-
Just Wondering

of course you can get him a present!!
it would be really sweet of you and it wouldnt be weird at all. just get him something that he is interested in or something that shows him how much you care.
-erin

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I've had this problem for years. My parents and my sister always accuse me of talking too much and see nothing wrong with interrupting me in the middle or end of my sentences to tell me to shut up and that I talk too much. I respond by telling them that I was already done talking and that they should'nt assume I'm going to say more, and that it is rude to interrupt someone even if you don't care about what they are saying. At least if it's someone you care about, you should find a nicer way to tell them. They don't listen, they just keep telling me to be quiet when I try to tell them how I feel. I sometimes end up in tears, and then they tell me I'm being grumpy or silly. I'm 35 years old and I'm tired of being treated this way. How can I get them to listen? It's especially embarrassing when they do this in front of others, like my daughter, husband, other family and friends. I'm I partially to blame? Please help!

you are right that it is VERY rude to cut off someone in the middle (or any part) of their sentence. i had a friend who was the same way... her nick-name was "motor mouth". she hated being cut off in the middle of sentences and she decided that something needed to be done. she stopped talking for a whole week and then everybody noticed. her family was really concerned so then they listened to her. she told them how she felt and then they finally understood. im not COMPLETELY positive that it will work for you, but it can't hurt to try!
-erin
hope everything works out!

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How can you fade jeans? I need some way`s to do it, but not bleach, I`ve tried and it doesn`t work.
I`ve heard that cascade dishwasher suff work`s, anyone who`s heard about it know how to do it? Any help is appreciated !!

i have heard about the cascade, but i have found out that putting a little bit of cascade on sandpaper and rubbing down the jeans with that will distress them easily.

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ok my boyfriend and me have been going out for 3 weeks now and it seem like we arnt going anywhere. i mean we have gone to the movies 2 times and out to eat twice and then ice skating and we held hands during both movies but he wont kiss me or anything. is he afraid? what can i do to get him to kiss me? his friends and my friends have told him too but he wont. what can i do to get our relationship going. or is he showing me signs that he has no feelings for me? please help me. thanks.

make sure that he feels comfortable around you
if he feels like you/friends are pushing him to kiss you, he probably gets nervous about doing it. so just make sure that hes not being pressured to kiss you, and it will happen naturally on its own.

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Hi! I'm 14/f and I kind of like this guy friend of mine. We'll call him Dave. Anyway, as I said, I kind of like him...that way. And he recently told me that he likes me, too...that way. Except I'm kind of afraid of him asking me out because it would be my first real boyfriend, and I don't know what I would do with a boyfriend! It would be SO awkward going on a date to dinner or something with Dave, and I'm not really big on huge public displays of affection. And I think he has a few friends who don't really like me all that much. Any advice?? (I rate!)

i think that if you both like each other, you should go out. you dont have to be big on p.d.a.
the only other advice that i can give is that if you do go out, make sure that you will still be friends if you might break up some time.
-erin

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i hav a bf..had a for kind of a while now. but thi year i started liking one of my best guy friends. like..i like him ALOT. i like my bf too of course. everyone basically likes my bf and everything..and just a little while ago i started to realize how much id give up if i lost my bf. the problem is...i dont want to giv him up cuz ik id regret it...but i really like my friend. he used to like me alot..idk if he still does, becuz he nos i hav a bf and now i heard he likes me and this other girl. he might go out with her, and that wud suck if i dumped my bf then he had a gf. im just so confused..idk what to do. this might be confusing but i was wondering if u cud help me out. thanks

im not sure that going out w/ your best friend is a good idea. if hes a really good friend of yours you might not want to rist losing him as a friend if you break up.
i guess that your decision should be based on which guy you like the most. just make sure that you look @ all the positives and negatives of dating either guy.

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I have extremley bad cramps... only the problem is i dont know how to swallow a pill. The advice I want is NOT how to swallow a pill but if you know of any really good chewable types of medicine to realive the pain (I'm 15 years old if that helps). Thanks!

just buy the liquid tylenol... so you dont have to worry about the swallowing

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k im 15 and ive kissed but never made out b4 yes sad i know. anyways i was wondering, exactly how do u do it? and am i the only 15 year old who hasn't?

your not the only 15 year old who hasn't... my best friend is now 16 and she still hasnt made out w/ a guy. if you are the same way that she is, then you probably want to wait for the right guy to share that experience with... there's nothing wrong with that.

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-- Yea wll Hey.... I have a friend that likes this guy, but i just found out that I like him to. Well actually I'm not sure that she likes him cause she was saying some shallow things why she doesnt want to go with him. And he is all confused and said he lost interest in her. But then he was upset when i told him he didnt like her. But then he starts flirting with me ... and out of no where he goes and asks me do i like him.. well i go,Yea....As a friend....I want to tell him so so so so bad that I like him but I am afraid of rejection, im afraid i might hurt my friends feelings if he really likes me and we go out and crap, & also im afraid .. well im basicly afraid of rejection...this year really isnt so great and i just want someone or something to hold onto and to care for....and i really care for this guy...
So what should i do??? .. Should i tell him how i feel... or what... cause ..idk... I dont want to get rejected... But if i do tell him.. how do i tell him??
---Signed ~Confused Heart~

well, if he asked you if you liked him, then that probably means that he likes you...
i think that you should tell him how you feel about him. you mite also wanna ask your friend if she is ok with you two goin out if you do decide to do that.
-erin

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Hey yall I'm going to a school dance soon and I was wondering what to wear. My friend and I need some help so I'll describe us to you. I am a blonde with blue eyes shoulder lenth hair and pale skin. My friend has pale skin brown hair down to her back and green eyes. Please tell us what to wear. I'll rate high. Thanks.

if its more formal, u should probably wear a blue dress that will match your eyes and your friend should wear a orange dress (trust me i have green eyes and orange looks really good w/ them).

if its not as formal, find a nice top or skirt in those colors and a black or white skirt/top with it.
-hope i helped!-

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Whenever i straighten my hair, there's always a dent from the straightener @ the roots (where my part is). How do i get rid of the dent/prevent it? thanks i rate high!!

if you tilt your head to the side, you can get closer to the roots so there won't be a dent and it will completely straight!

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well heres the story...my friend went out with this guy and then they broke up so we went out but they still liked each other so he dumped me and went out with her...i mean i know i should be supportive and all but i feel horrible...i love him....and he just kinda left me...and so about 5 mins after he dumps me he asks her out and to make a long story short their going out....but i want to tell her that i still love him but shell take it the wrong way and wont understand....and he would never let me tell anyone when we went out...another reason i think he was ashamed of me....i cant get over him....everything thing i look at makes me think of him and how happy he made me....but i guess i have no choice because im old news now...i think i was just rebound action....*sigh* this is so complicated...

Amanda (icabluesponge)

IM me when you get this...bye

hey amanda!!!!!
maybe you should tell your friend how much you like this guy b/c if you dont tell her, she'll never know. & think about this...
if he USED YOU on the rebound... he isnt good enough 4 u!
-erin-
feel better por favor!

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