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What do I do with a boyfriend?
Hi! I'm 14/f and I kind of like this guy friend of mine. We'll call him Dave. Anyway, as I said, I kind of like him...that way. And he recently told me that he likes me, too...that way. Except I'm kind of afraid of him asking me out because it would be my first real boyfriend, and I don't know what I would do with a boyfriend! It would be SO awkward going on a date to dinner or something with Dave, and I'm not really big on huge public displays of affection. And I think he has a few friends who don't really like me all that much. Any advice?? (I rate!)
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well what u could do is just relax...take a deep breath b4 u talk 2 him..dont worry EVERYBODY gets nervous on their 1st date...trust me i was 2...who noes it might turn out that Dave is as nerous as u r...
about Dave's friends, ignor them if the dont like u then dont change ur self 2 get them 2 like u...if they start calling u names and stuff then u can walk away..b the bigger person...
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GOOD LUCK!!! x3
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hmm i felt that way when i qwent out w/ my 1st real bf..... u say u cant imagin going out to dinner with him.....then dont. maybe to skating or go to a movie. personally i dont like going to dinner much either, u say u also dont know what u wud do with one.... well u could talk to him on the phone and exchange gifts (x mas is commin soon *wink*) and go places with him... u dont have to get real serious to where u have to go to his house or go to dinner, just do what u think your ready for. oh yea ps. it dont matter what his friends think..... if he likes u thats all that counts.
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theres a first time for everything right?? give it a try i bet u'll have fun and don't worry bout ne thing goin wrong itz just a first time!!! have fun with it!
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Well, don't be worried about his friends. They obviously haven't influenced him liking you so far. About the boyfriend situation, yes, it's understandable...but you're going to have a first boyfriend sooner or later. If you aren't ready to have a boyfriend, then tell him that. Don't go out with him if you aren't comfortable with the situation. However, it's normal to be nervous about stuff like that at first =) The question that you should be asking yourself is, is it the thought of having a boyfriend PERIOD making you uncomfortable, or the thought of having "Dave" as a boyfriend?
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To tell you the truth, I was the same way. But the first thing I did was go to the movies, that was kinda an icebreaker. Then just had conversations on the phone with the guy and got to know him better. I found out what he liked what he didnt like. My advice to you is, talk with him, in person or on the phone, see what he likes and go from there. I'm the athletic type of girl and if a guy I like is interested in basketball, a good date would be to a basketball game and then you can kinda go from there. You can kinda think of more ideas once you have some info from him. If you need anymore help, I'm here! ~4evaurs~
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ull get used to it... trust me i was the same way.. and im not a public affection fan either so i know how u feel... just let it go..it will work out and ull get used to it.. trust me!
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ask him 2 the movies so atleast u wont b 2 nervous if all ur doin is watchin the movie (b good lil 1 haha j/p) n let him make allll the moves! especially since its ur 1st date w. him i can c if ti was ur 3rd or 4th u makin teh moves btu let ihm do it all! dont stress ur self out if hes ur friend then hell understand!
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im 14 and i just had my first bf a little while ago. it was so nerve racking. you just have to have him make the moves... just have fun and act like it is one of your outings. dont change just bc you guys are going out it would deffenetly hurt the relationship. Also if he starts to make the "moves" on the first date i would reconsider going out with him... ne ways there is nothing to worry about if you act like yourself everything will be fine, yeah on the first date that is going to be acword but it WILL get better... i promise! good luck, have fun. hope i helped!
<3Amelia
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well my advice is to go out with him. say yes and just take it slow. you dont have to rush into things. just take it slow but definatly say yes if he askes you out. and who cares what his friends think. they rnt going out with you so why should they care. well sry not much advice but hope this helps.
alexxa and serena
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Hi, If you like this guy then you like him...there isnt much you can do about that, except "explore" those feelings. If you two go out then it will help you to grow as a person. as for the PDA its not necessary. You dont have to be all over each other in public, or even when you two are alone. Just take it at your own pace, if this "dave" really cares about you then he'll be ready when you are and he'll let you take your time. above all remember that he'll respect you more if you dont through yourself at him immediately. He may not only be suffacated by this but he much like yourself, may be shy about having a girlfriend aswell. GOOD LUCK
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I know everyone hears it alot but you have to do what your hearts telling you.Don't worry if its your first time, you just gotta let things happen as they go.Once you stop concentrating as much on the fact your b/f and g/f it seems you know what to do.If you both really like each other you should try going out.Talk to him and tell him that if it doesnt seem to work you feel better goign back to being friends.Hope i helped and good luck with everything.
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Okay...i no where you are comming from i had the same proublem!I think that you should wait till you compleatly comperable with him! And if you do then give it a shot..a boyfirend is just someone u care bout and cares about u the same way, they are someone to love and talk to! when you are on a date you dont have to kiss infront of people wait till your alone to do stuff! Let him no everything that you just told us and he will help you with it and you guys can sit down and talk threw it togther! Me and my b/f waited 2 month before we started going out because i didnt no what to do and i was scared to finally have a real "boyfriend" now everything is great and trust me you will love having a boyfriend better then being single! Hope i help you and let me no what happends! Love Ya Hunnii! *Sara*
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i think that if you both like each other, you should go out. you dont have to be big on p.d.a.
the only other advice that i can give is that if you do go out, make sure that you will still be friends if you might break up some time.
-erin
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