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How do I get my family to repect me?
I've had this problem for years. My parents and my sister always accuse me of talking too much and see nothing wrong with interrupting me in the middle or end of my sentences to tell me to shut up and that I talk too much. I respond by telling them that I was already done talking and that they should'nt assume I'm going to say more, and that it is rude to interrupt someone even if you don't care about what they are saying. At least if it's someone you care about, you should find a nicer way to tell them. They don't listen, they just keep telling me to be quiet when I try to tell them how I feel. I sometimes end up in tears, and then they tell me I'm being grumpy or silly. I'm 35 years old and I'm tired of being treated this way. How can I get them to listen? It's especially embarrassing when they do this in front of others, like my daughter, husband, other family and friends. I'm I partially to blame? Please help!
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You are not to blame! This is your parents and sister dominating you. Is your sister older than you? If so, I can see why this is happening.
Find an infuention relative, like an aunt, or someone in the family who you get along with and - most importantly - will listen! Sit them down when they're in a good mood and tell them what the problem is. Explain it as fully as you can, and remember to tell them exactly how muchit hurts to be dismissed again and again. Ask them to talk to your family and try to make them see what they're doing.
If that doesn't help, just start doing it back. Interrupt them when YOU get sick of them, tell them THEY talk too much. (Word of warning: don't go overboard.) If they carry on talking regardless, do something else and act completely uninterested. When they ask why you're not listening, say, "You don't listen to me; why should I listen to you? I'm an adult now, we're all on the same level."
If THAT doesn't work, go to your confidente again. Just keep trying to get them to help you sort it.
Remember: they're the idiots. Not you! You shouldn't have to put up with this at 35.
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Your family is rude...you should not speak untik a person is done. As far as interrupting you..how about you interrupt them..and then tell the ..hey HOW does that feel.
Your family may never give respect...families are just not known for giving us what we want. Usually they make us feel WORSE about ourselves.
That is why you seek VALIDATION form your duaghter and hubby.
Trust me YOUR family..hubby and girl.think your relatives are gaint B**B's too..do not worry what they think..THEY love you.
Ps limit your exposure to them..to me they seem to harm you more than they help you.
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Hey hun. I'm only 13 and have the same problem...except they interupt me without making an accusation. When they interupt you tell them you're also a part of teh family and yes, YOU HAVE A SAY. Tell them you could care less about their problems, and until you get some respect..you'd rather not talk to them..hope everything works out.. <3Ash.
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no dont blame yourself. you try to sit your parents a side and if they say shut up stand up for yourslef. say bno i want you to listin to me and if they tell you that your being silly be like no im not being silly i want to talk to you and your like shutting me out. if you dont give me a chance to talk im leaving. you dont have to stand for that! if they wont talk to you then just go and talk to someone else and treat them the same way they treat you. and try to get them to see how you feel!
-lauren
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thats fucced up... i know they are ur fam and u love them.. but u dont have to take it ur 35 yrs old..and have ur own issues.. just dont talk to them... theyll get it
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you are right that it is VERY rude to cut off someone in the middle (or any part) of their sentence. i had a friend who was the same way... her nick-name was "motor mouth". she hated being cut off in the middle of sentences and she decided that something needed to be done. she stopped talking for a whole week and then everybody noticed. her family was really concerned so then they listened to her. she told them how she felt and then they finally understood. im not COMPLETELY positive that it will work for you, but it can't hurt to try!
-erin
hope everything works out!
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