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Im 16f. I have one brother that is eighteen in December and one sister that is 10. Anyhow, my brother just graduated and is the jerk of the house. He is the troublemaker, he bums around the house most days, backtalks, blasts his music, does what most teenage boys do. He does have a job now that he goes to most days which is a plus on my behalf. Hes not around much anymore so hes not really a problem to me now.
But, My sister is a momma's baby, she talks to my mom as if she is still three most of the time, my mom is her personal chef and waitress when she is around, and she gets her way practically all the time. Heres where the main problem comes in, i'll give an example of something that actually happened: My sister accidently hits me with a tennis ball she is throwing around, and in defense i say "hey". My mom gives me heck because I 'yelled' at my sister, and then my sister goes 'haha' and so i gently bump her on her butt. Then my sister throws a fit (she gets mad instantly sometimes when she is tired) and starts hitting me with the tennis ball, so i grab her hand so she cant hit me, which ends up in me getting yelled at for holding her hands.
Its just so frustrating when i get in trouble for stuff i didnt do. My mom said i was backtalking to her today and got a bit frustrated at me, when she asked if i knew where the remote was and i said 'no. I havnt used it all day'.
My sister never gets in trouble because she is the youngest and my brother just gets told 'not to do something' even though he just does it again a while later.
It just gets on my nerves. I try ignoring my sister when she does have her 'tired/mad' times, but she usually ends up smacking me and then i have to hold her hands, if you know what I mean.
What things can i try to show my mom that she is really the instigator, and im just defending myself.

Your sister is 10. While it would be nice if she could be held to the same standards you and your brother can, she can't be, and if she was she would appear to be a spoiled, violent brat every time.

Similarly, your brother is an adult. He can get away with things that you and your sister couldn't, because from a legal standpoint, he would/should be the one shouldering the consequences.

Of course, you shouldn't have to suffer just because she's immature. I suggest you avoid her until she hits her teens and (hopefully) matures at least a bit. Problems like this have no real quick fix, and the solution is to let time and personal growth do their work.

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So I'm about to have sex with my boyfriend who is 16. We have been dating for about a year. I am a f/15. We love eachother very much and I'm excited/nervous to do it; but, I am also very self conscious. I mean, I have hair in places, and pimples or white dots on my nipples? What do I do, they won't go away? Plus, I'm not even sure what to do when we are about to do it or attempting. HELP PLEASE.

Hair in "places" and pimples/white dots on the nipple are all common, normal, and harmless. There is nothing to be worried about, and I doubt your boyfriend will even notice dots on your nipples.

"Plus, I'm not even sure what to do when we are about to do it or attempting" sounds like you're looking for how-to advice, which Advicenators unfortunately doesn't allow. However, I can tell you to try to relax before/during sex, as you'll have a much harder time enjoying yourself if you're freaking out and nervous about what to do and such.

As always, be safe, etc etc

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alright well i downloaded some music off myspace from local bands who i can't find their music anywhere else to download but when i download them, they get saved as like an internet sound file which are not able to be put onto a CD or onto my ipod. any way to convert them so i can?

"Internet sound file" types don't exist, so that doesn't mean anything to me. Chances are, the file you downloaded is a .mp3, and in that case you should have no problem putting in your iPod or on a CD.

Even if it's not an .mp3, most CD-burning programs support a wide variety of file types (Nero is the one I use, and it's never told me I can't make a CD because of file format). iPods support: .mp3, .aac, and a few other mpeg layer file types. If what you downloaded is something weird and unreadable, try putting it through GoldWave (http://www.goldwave.com/). It's a fantasic conversion program and I've used it myself extensively.

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Okay so I work at Subway and have for about three weeks. Lately people have been really mean to me: I was never trained in much except making sandwhiches and so this one girl whose my age sighes heavily every time i need her help and makes nasty comments about how mad she gets with me, talks about me to everyone, and is unfair with me more then anyone else. Now two other workers are talking about me, when they think I can't hear, and i got a knife flung at me for apparently just ' standing there' when there was a bunch of people in line. There is only two people who are nice to me at all, people who don't stop talking as soon as i walk into the room. I've been treated terribly by almost every single person there and feel like quiting because their driving me out. Am i over reacting or does this sound reasonable?

There's a line between minor workplace drama (which is to be expected) and getting knives flung at you.

Talk to your superior. If she/he is no help, keep climbing the ladder until you find someone that will listen. No paycheck is worth getting knives thrown at you.

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Hi, I am a singer and I would like to start putting my songs on myspace music..but I need some kind of program to record it. I have a microphone built into my computer, and I have the program sound recorder, but I get soo much backround noise. Is there a way to reduce the sound, and make it sound more professional?

In recording, you are limited most severely by the equipment you use. A cheap PC mic and software audio mixer will give you sub-standard results compared to professional set ups (Which can run well into the tens of thousands).

It all depends on how serious about your singing you are.

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I'm a 18 year old Female.
I think i may be pregnant, and i really do not want to raise/give birth to a child. There is no abortion clinics around the area i live in, and i have no ways of getting to a close one(the closest one is 4 hours away). Me and my boyfriend are really not expecting a child, we both how alot of our life ahead of us. So getting to my question, since theres no way i can get to an abortion clinic, are there other ways that i can "abort the child", or "cause a miscarriage"? I'm too scared to confront my parents about this, and don't really know if it's possible i can make an appointment with my family doctor without my parents finding out.
Any answers are appreciated, and i know, i shouldn't be hving sex, because i know this is a consiquence of it, and i also am agaisnt abortion myself, but there is no way i can go on with this pregnancy,(if i am infact pregant) i know for sure i will not be able to raise it, and i would not be able to give it up for adoption.
Thanks.

First and foremost, make absolutely sure you actually are, in fact, pregnent, before you panic or make appointments with anyone.

I'm not going to tell you if you should abort your child or not, because that's not my decision to make. It's nobody's decision except yours. Frankly, you shouldn't give two shits if your boyfriend, your parents, or other advicenators are pro-life. It's not their place to decide for you.

That said, if you plan on getting an abortion, a four-hour drive should be the least of your worries.

Site rules prohibit us from telling you how to have a DIY abortion or miscarriage (I was briefly banned for giving such advice). As much as I'd like to help, you're going to have to ask elsewhere if you want information like that.

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whats bloated mean?? is it bad

It's a gassy feeling, as if your stomach is over-full, but full of something gasous, not liquid or solid.

It can happen for a wide number of reasons, but constapation and menstation are two common causes.

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Has anyone seen this movie?
Is it good or not?

I want your opinions on it!
Thanks :]

I liked it, but then again I like Morgan Freeman and that other guy.

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15.f

i want to boost my energy for school because last year i was very drained (maybe it's because i rarely stopped at my locker and i was carrying an extra 30 pounds on my back all day!). i am eating fruit salad everyday with grapes, mango, blueberries, and strawberries and it's helping a bit.

(1) although i haven't started school yet, what can i eat in the morning, during lunch, and right after school to give me a quick burst of energy without making me crash?

(2) are there any energy supplements i can take that work or any other suggestions?

(3) should i go to my doctor & ask them what's best for me? that might be a little awkward cause i go to the doctor every few months cause i get frequent stomach viruses...

i did get enough sleep but most days i was so tired i'd finish my homework and sleep for 3-4 hours, wake up for dinner, and go back to sleep until the next morning. i really want to avoid that this year.

i also heard that exercise helps boost energy, but i tried doing that last year and it would make me even MORE tired and all i wanted to do was sleep! i can't exercise in the morning because i don't have enough time to exercise, then shower & get ready all before school unless i wake up at 4 am.

(4) so if i do exercise, won't it make me more drained? or should i start out slow and easy first and either keep it that way or build it up slowly?

(5) is gym alone adequate exercise for a girl like me? (i'm 15.f. 5'3" 115 lb, so i'm pretty happy with my body and i don't want to lose weight / get MUSCLE-Y!)

(5) i have an elliptical, but what sorts of exercises can i do do boost my energy?

thank you so much.

Exercise drains your energy in the short term (obviously), but regular exercise boosts energy in the long run by conditioning your body to provide more energy for your day.

A good exercise to do would be swimming. Most gyms have a pool, and (at least for me) it doesn't even feel like a workout but like something I would be doing for fun. That, and it's fantastic cardio while working most of the main muscles in your body. Plus, Micheal Phelps does it, so you know it's cool.

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I got this scarf from H&M the other day.
It's quite a thin fabric, but it's like 2m by 2m big.
So quite huge...
What are some ways I could wear it as a scarf?
Thanks!

1m x 1m makes a square, and most scarfs aren't square. Unless I've misunderstood something. Are you sure those measurements are right? Are you sure it's a scarf?

At any rate, if the fabric is thin enough, try folding it over a few times. If it really is square (1m x 1m) and it really is meant to be a scarf, it was probably designed to be folded.

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ok so im 15 (gonna be 16) female me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months sept.12th he purposed to me basically, so were technically engaged. well he is really shy.he started holding my hand, and hugging me, and just recently like hmmm... last week he kissed me for the 1st time. he doesnt want to rush anything but finally he kissed me but it was just a peck, but i no it will be more later, it will just take time, well my question is how can i get him to be less shy, and talk more, and hold me and stuff by feeling more comfortable around me. please help me, i really wish he can be more comfortable with me, and how can i control my jealousy, i have this huge jealousy problem, i dont even trust him round my friends, only 1. =/ please help me, im even jealous of his girl cousin. i feel horrible

Enagement and marriage aren't trivial matters, and they aren't for people who can't open up to each other or have jealousy problems.

First and foremost, my advice would be to put off any wedding plans until after you have your respective issues resolved. The shyness will fix itself in time, so long as you continue being loving and supportive.

The jealousy issue is a little more complicated. You need to learn to trust him, especially if you're going to be marrying this guy. Instead of telling yourself that horrible things will happen and that you can't trust him around your friends, tell yourself the opposite, and truely believe it.

Edit: It takes two to have an affair. If you trust him, there shouldn't be a problem. Believe that he is devoted to you as much as you are devoted to him, and believe that he won't fall for the batting eyelashes of every harlot that throws herself at him.

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To make it simple: I cheated on my boyfriend. Twice. Once was with a boy I took a trip to Europe with. We made out after having a few too many drinks. This was back in April. Just a few nights ago, my friend and I went to our friend's apartment and we also drank, so I ended up sleeping on the couch with one of the guys, and we also made out and he tried to finger me but I didn't let him.

I feel like pure crap. I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. I don't even know why I did it, but I'm guessing it was just the thrill of being with someone other than my boyfriend for once (since we've been together so long and that 'infautation phase' has passed). I love my boyfriend more than words can express and he loves me too. There are very, very, very slim chances that my boyfriend will EVER find out about these mistakes. So, I chose not to tell him. These hook ups meant absolutely nothing to me, and were mostly the result of too much to drink (which I have only drank one other time besides these two).

Any advice on how to cope/what to do? I am not going to tell my boyfriend, but I just need some general advice and to know I'm not the only one in this situation. Thanks in advance.

You're not the only one in this situation, no. But that doesn't make it okay. You cope by resolving the issue and obtaining closure, and you get that by coming clean. Until then, you're going to continue feeling like crap (Unless you somehow manage to convince yourself that what you've done is okay or acceptable, in which case you're beyond redemption)

tl;dr -- Tell him, or the guilt will continue.

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If I go to Disney World in Florida would I get to see Miley Cyrus or the Jonas Brothers play/sing a song or two? I mean, if I go the right night? If so, does anyone know of specific dates of them being at Disney World?

I heard Miley Cyrus (aka Hannah Montana on Disney) goes to Disney World a lot, but is that true? When Miley Cyrus does go to Disney, is it to just have fun in "The Magic Kingdom" or does she sign autographs and sing too?

Do the Jonas Brothers go there too for fun or vacation or do they stay away from Disney World since they have a show on Disney too?

Thanks!

I really have no idea how you could expect anyone on this site to know where Disney Channel stars go on vacation. Perhaps your questions would be better directed at the Disney Corporation, the National Enquirer, or Google.

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how do i know if im having an orgasm? when my man and i have sex i think he makes me cum but idk.....

A good rule of thumb is: If you have to ask, chances are you haven't had one yet.

When it comes, you'll know it.

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Is there a torrent for the movie "True Confessions of a Hollywood starlet"?
Can I have the link?
Thanks

Is there a torrent? I'm sure there is. There's a torrent of basically everything you can imagine, and a few things you can't.

Can you have the link? Not over Advicenators, you can't.

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How likely is pregnancy from precum?

It's less likely, but still possible. Statistics vary on the subject, but I would say it's about 30%ish as likely as normal, although I've heard figures up to 70%.

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my bf says it's really hot when i finger myself, && i've heard it from a few guys..

i was just wondering. why is this so hot?

Different guys have different fetishes, and it just so happens that watching women masterbate is one of the (relatively) common ones. There is no universal reason as to why any given guy would have such a fetish.

If you really want to know why, ask your boyfriend -- He's the only one that could possibley know.

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howwww do you give a hand job and/or a blow job?

Firstly, giving detailed "how-to" sex advice goes against Advicenators policy, and could result in a ban for the advice-giver:
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=47

That said, there's an old saying that goes something like "If you have to ask, you can't afford it". Adapting it to your situation, it would read something like "If you have to ask, you shouldn't be doing it".

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It hurts when I have sex, and sometimes I don't even enjoy it. I CRIED ONCE BECAUSE IT HURT SO BAD. I feel horrible for not being able to let guys enjoy it as much beacuse I'm in pain. What should I do?

In my experience, a girl is more likely to feel pain during sex if she feels nervous or is stressing out about something. If this sounds like you, it may help if you relaxed a bit before having sex.

If that doesn't work, have your partner start real slow and shallow and work his way faster and deeper, and see where the pain starts.

Like younggrandma said, sex isn't supposed to hurt. If all else fails, see a doctor.

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im 14 years old and have been with a couple of guys(they are all a couple years older an wayy more experienced) ive done alot of sexual stuff, but if its fingering or sex, it always hurts me, im not a virgin, but it always hurts, how come?

In my experience, a girl is more likely to feel pain during sex if she feels nervous or is stressing out about something. If this sounds like you, it may help if you relaxed a bit before having sex or getting fingered.

As for the climax thing, give it a few years. It's a rare woman that can climax at 14.

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