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is it normal to always hurt?
im 14 years old and have been with a couple of guys(they are all a couple years older an wayy more experienced) ive done alot of sexual stuff, but if its fingering or sex, it always hurts me, im not a virgin, but it always hurts, how come?
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No, guys are not for gratification.
You should not be having sex. You are too young and too immature, and from the sound of your problem your body has not finished developing yet.
People develop at different rates and start at different ages, but at 14 the normal kid your age is still in the early parts of puberty. During puberty the vaginal canal lengthens and widens in preparation for being big and developed enough to accommodate a penis. When it hurts all the time its because your body isnt as developed as it should be for what you are putting it through.
Climaxing is the same way. Part of that is mental. Women climax more easily as they get older and become more mature and able to handle the kind of emotional impact that sex has(or is supposed to). Also, as you get older your sexual body parts grow in sensitivity as your body prepares itself.
And no, "thats what guys are for" is not correct. Quite the opposite, if you are just horny you aren't supposed to go looking for a guy to scratch your itch. Sexuality between people usually involves some degree of intimacy, of closeness between partners. Its something that you share with another person emotionally. You've thrown that out the window and reduced sex to the equivalent of a pair of animals humping wherever you can for pure physical gratification. Whats worse is, apparently you aren't even getting that gratification, and you're being used by older guys for theirs.
Stop having sex. For a few years. Get ahold of a dildo or something and make do until you're old enough that you are having sex as part of the progression of a loving relationship.
Else you'll spend the next 20 years being little else than some douchebag's sex toy.
And I'm a guy telling you this, so I understand male motivations, you've had fair warning.
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In my experience, a girl is more likely to feel pain during sex if she feels nervous or is stressing out about something. If this sounds like you, it may help if you relaxed a bit before having sex or getting fingered.
As for the climax thing, give it a few years. It's a rare woman that can climax at 14.
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It might just take some time.
Depending on how experienced you are.
It's going to hurt the first few times, my mom told me that.
Your vagina hole might just be small, and thats okay.
It's going to take sometime to get used to.
hope i helped and if you have anymore questions drop them in my inbox.
-E
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It might just take more time for it to stop hurting for you. You may have a small vagina.
As far as masturbating goes, I wouldn't knock it before you try it :D you can learn better what you like and what feels good to you, and find out for yourself what it takes to make you climax (this could be clitoral or vaginal stimulation, or both).
Hope I helped.
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