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boyfriend is shy
ok so im 15 (gonna be 16) female me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months sept.12th he purposed to me basically, so were technically engaged. well he is really shy.he started holding my hand, and hugging me, and just recently like hmmm... last week he kissed me for the 1st time. he doesnt want to rush anything but finally he kissed me but it was just a peck, but i no it will be more later, it will just take time, well my question is how can i get him to be less shy, and talk more, and hold me and stuff by feeling more comfortable around me. please help me, i really wish he can be more comfortable with me, and how can i control my jealousy, i have this huge jealousy problem, i dont even trust him round my friends, only 1. =/ please help me, im even jealous of his girl cousin. i feel horrible
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Well considering your only 15, you shouldn't even be thinking about marriage. You still have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy life and leave your options open. One day, you'll meet the right guy that will be the one. You'll know the true meaning of love as you get older.
Think about this: If you were to marry this guy tomorrow, how are you suppose to have a marriage when there isn't trust and he's this shy around you? You're going to date a million guys in your life before you find the right person. Just take things slow.
But for boyfriend advice, it takes time for some people to open up. He might not want to rush into things with you right away. Try things like holding his hand when he leasts expects it. When you two are by yourselves, ask him questions to get to know him better & let him ask you some too. The more comfortable you two are around eachother, the less shy he will be.
Good luck!
x0*-Bryttnii
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Enagement and marriage aren't trivial matters, and they aren't for people who can't open up to each other or have jealousy problems.
First and foremost, my advice would be to put off any wedding plans until after you have your respective issues resolved. The shyness will fix itself in time, so long as you continue being loving and supportive.
The jealousy issue is a little more complicated. You need to learn to trust him, especially if you're going to be marrying this guy. Instead of telling yourself that horrible things will happen and that you can't trust him around your friends, tell yourself the opposite, and truely believe it.
Edit: It takes two to have an affair. If you trust him, there shouldn't be a problem. Believe that he is devoted to you as much as you are devoted to him, and believe that he won't fall for the batting eyelashes of every harlot that throws herself at him.
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ok first of all, if he's still shy around you, then you two really dont know eachother quite yet.
maybe you should consider waiting to be engaged/married because if you rush into it, what if you come to realize that he is not the one?
not only that, but if your having jeaousy issues then your clearly not ready!!! but if you want him to loosen up, try talking to him more. that should work...i mean come on its only been four months...right??
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