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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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I have B cup boobs, wide hips, small waist, long legs, and a medium size butt. Is this good or bad?

Sounds good to me. Since you didn't give your age I will assume your a teenager and add this.

As long as you are going through puberty, which can last into your early twenties. Your body will continue to change. Based on what you have written I would say your body has made the major changes and now will refine them. TO put it another way you're somewhere between 85% and 90% of what your going to be and now your body will smooth things out so to speak.

Based on what you wrote I would say you have a steaming hot body. DO not try to change a thing, just let nature take its course.

I have really bad acne and blackheads on my face, chest, and back. What are some good drugstore/cheap products I could use?

There is an old saying, "You get what you pay for." Meaning cheap over the counter products have proven to be just what they are, "cheap" with the results being far from satisfactory. If you have a bad case of acne and want to clear it up properly then you need to see a dermatologist. If you or if you are covered under your parents health insurances. Then your treatments will most likely be covered under the health insurance plan.

If you want to know just what your coverage may be or what the insurance will cover and what you may have to pay for each visit. On the back of the insurance car is a customer service phone number. Call them and ask them if your insurance plan covers treatment by a dermatologist for acne. If so ask for detail and they can even give you a list of dermatologist in your area that is covered by their plan.

There are many causes for teenage acne one being hormonal or triggered by the new hormones caused by puberty. It takes a doctor trained in this area to diagnose what the cause is and recommend a course of treatment. If an over the counter treatment will work the doctor will recommend so or may include it in a course of treatment.

The worst thing you can do for you condition is to use the wrong product, the wrong treatment or some of the old wives tale treatment. To do so could cause more harm than any good.

See a dermatologist first before you do any harm to yourself.

I am about to get a new phone for my birthday and I can't decide what I want. I either want an Iphone 6 or a Samsung Galaxy S7. What should I get?

I've had both an Iphone and a Samsung Galaxy. I prefer the Samsung over the Iphone. While at first I missed the ITunes store and some of the Apps and music downloads. Once I learned to use the Android system I wound it far easier and more useful than Iphone. Iphone is to restrictive on what you can access whereas the Android system allows you to access everything but ITunes and there is probably a way to do that I just haven't found it yet.

The Samsung updates load much faster and the software to protect it is far less expensive than Iphone. There are definitely some nice options on the new Iphone that are nice though I just don't see the need for them overriding the pluses of the Samsung.

Australian, Year 9, female.

Hi,
so I have been thinking a lot about starting online school. I've spoken to my parents about it and they seem slightly reluctant (as I expected), but I'm sure with good reason and persuasion they'll allow it. The thing is, I don't know if I should or not. I find myself constantly thinking of reasons why I should start online school. I really am not liking school, I don't like how teachers emphasise the 'importance' of tests, I don't like all the cliques and the 'popular' people (which also, is a reason why I am not very confident), I don't like that they make us do sport where balls are being thrown around everywhere, yes, I do active things, I just don't enjoy ball sports. I like to teach myself how to do things and I don't believe I need a teacher to do that for me, I am quite independant, it will be more free time for me - I can focus on other things I want to learn, have a part time job (I can make more friends that way too), write, read, make videos, etc. and I have self discipline. I come up with more reasons as I'm at school, just thinking now I can think of a few more reasons, but I don't want to bore anyone reading this.

I don't know all that much about online schooling, so maybe even if someone has done or is doing online school, they could give me a bit of an insight as to what it's like, the pros and cons. Solutions to some of the cons, and cons that don't really have a solution. We do have exams soon, I'm not sure how that works with online school... I just don't know how I would make friends in online school. I do have a group of friends at school at the moment by the way.

Thanks

Online schooling or home schooling as it is called does have its place. Mostly it is an alternative to public schooling when public schooling is not available; a hardship for the students to get to or a student is unable to attended school for medical reasons.

Here in The USA home schooling is normal in certain parts of the country. In many parts of the State of Alaska for instance many children live in outposts so remote that it is impossible for them to get to a school. The state provides them with home schooling materiel and they attend classes online. In Middle America in what we call the farm belt. It is a hardship on many of the farm children to actually attend a brick and mortar school as it could be over a 100 miles to the nearest school. These children are either home schooled by their parents with the help of a home school program or on-line through a state program. The problems with these programs are that while you get a good well rounded education. You miss out on other things, call them the non-educational things schools provide that is very much needed some of which you touch on in your writing.

You say, "I don't like how teachers emphasize the 'importance' of tests, I don't like all the cliques and the 'popular' people (which also, is a reason why I am not very confident), I don't like that they make us do sport where balls are being thrown around everywhere, yes, I do active things, I just don't enjoy ball sports. I like to teach myself how to do things and I don't believe I need a teacher to do that for me, I am quite independent." Most everything that you have written will follow you through life. You will find Cliques wherever you go in in life. It is a fact of life.

You don't like ball sports though it is important you learn about them and even how to play them if just badly. My son is a firefighter/paramedic something he is very good at and there are many people alive today because he answered their call for help. You would think that just being a firefighter/paramedic is all that he needs to be. Not true every year his departments along with many other departments in this country hold charity baseball tournaments to raise money for Muscular Dystrophy. They and other departments participate in many other sports and non-sports related charity drives throughout the year.

My company has us participating in the charitable organizations they support as well as the company my wife works for. It is these functions and others that come under the heading of socializing that is learned by going to a public or private brick and mortar school. While socializing is not taught out of a book it is learned in school at church and other public functions. You also learn some of it at home but you practice it at school.

Last but not least; you’re nine years old and while you may be very intelligent and smart. You have yet to learn enough in school to teach yourself and learn on your own. You need a teacher to lead you and that is what a good teacher does. While I do not know anything about the Australian school system I do know this about it. It is one of the world’s best school systems in this world.

Let me play the part of great grandfather for a moment as I am old enough to be your great grandfather. I know you feel you’re mature enough to make the decision to learn on your own. Trust me as I can tell from how you have written to us that you are very mature for your age. That you put a great deal of thought into what you wrote and how you wrote to us. Even with your advanced maturity you still have a great deal of growing and maturing to do before you take on these types of responsibilities. Your parents are not trying to stifle you by refusing you on this. They are trying to help you by seeing to it that you have every opportunity to grow and mature correctly so that as an adult you are prepared to go out into the adult world.

i want to know why a women need hard stroke during sex?

There are two types of women when it comes to how they orgasm. There are those that orgasm vaginally and those that orgasm clitorally. Generally speaking it is the clitoral women that wants hard and fast stroking during sex so that her clitoris is stimulated which doesn't happen as well with slow loving strokes.

If your a guy it is not hard to find out if your girl is clitoral or vaginal. Start by fingering her vaginally only. Stay away from her clit. If she does not reach orgasm, is not wet or is just not into what your doing. Then stimulate her clitoris with gentle strokes. If her vagina starts to get wet she is a clitoral women.

A little advice; most women know if the are vaginal or clitoral. If you know each other well enough to jump into bed together be a gentleman and ask her is she is vaginal or clitoral. Sex is like everything else the partners need to communicate with each other.

For sex to be great then you need to communicate your likes and dislikes. The sex must be consensual between two adults. If one says no to something it is no, end of conversation on that subject.

the following happened on 30th jan, me and my guy were naked. his penis was near my vagina. i have never had sex. so i dont allow him to insert his penis in my vagina. he was just touching my vagina with his penis. not totally near my vaginal opening but near the inner thigh and on my belly and he touched once above the clit. in between i was giving him blowjob and he was fingering me too. he came at the end when we were all done. i got my period (atleast i think it was) on 21st february. my period usually lasts for 6 days but this time it lasted for only 4 days. it was red and heavy but not that heavy too. in march i got my period on 31st and it lasted for 5 days. first day i had dark brown colored flow and the flow was less. on second day i had bright red colored flow and it wasnt too less or too heavy but definitely a little less than the flow that i usually have on the second day.
and both the times i didnt have cramps also like i usually do have. no nausea, no breast tenderness nothing. only from past two days im feeling very hungry. yesterday i had leg pain and i feel some discomfort in tummy. apart from that nothing else. am i pregnant? or its just my hormones? please help.

You have had two periods since the event you talk about. There is no way you can be pregnant if you have had two periods.

A period is your womb cleansing itself of its lining and preparing itself for the next egg to be fertilized and the egg to attach itself to the wall of your womb to grow. You have had two periods, two linings have been shed there is no embryo attached therefore you cannot be pregnant.

15/f

Hi, I can't believe I'm talking to strangers on the internet about this; it's so embarrassing. I'm sorry if this offends you since I'm not at a great age to be talking about it. I'm not sexually active (haven't been at all yet) and I've had my shots for cervical cancer and things about two years ago.

I never really worried about it until I heard that lumps can be a bad thing. It's quite high up on the inside of my vagina - I'm not good at distances so I'm really sorry - I can't quite reach the top of it with my finger. It's fairly large as well with a dent or something in it as well as being slightly off to the left.

I did a quick Google search but none seem to have something like mine and/or sexually active and have been for a while. It's been there for as long as I can remember but I don't think a large lump is very normal. (I'm also pretty sure it's not THAT spot). It doesn't hurt and I don't think it's irritated. I'm just really worried about it. I don't really want to tell my mum about it until I'm 100% sure I need to see a doctor. It's not exactly easy to say something like this to your mother and the story of how I found it, no matter how close we are.

Thanks for replying if you do. :)

First, I do not think you have anything to worry about. We are not doctors so and even if we were we would have to examine you which can't be done over the Internet. Any advice we give you is just that, our uneducated advice which mine is you need to see a doctor to get a real diagnosis.

With that said there are a number of things that could be in play here. Given your age it could be s cyst caused by hormones. If could be a bowel protrusion, especially if the bowel is full as there is only a thin wall between the vagina and the anal canal. Whatever it is cancer of the vagina itself is extremely rare. I would not go there if I was you.

Now it is up to you I you want to tell you mom or not. By law you can see a doctor without her permission, I will explain below. If you found this lump through masturbation and that is the reason you’re afraid to tell mom how you found this lump don't be.

There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is not a sin and most religion do condone it. Masturbation is a healthy outlet for the sexual tension that puberty brings with it. No one has ever gotten pregnant from masturbating. Why parents tell their children not to is; that we all feel masturbation leads to wanting the real thing. Just for the record, statistically 3 out of four people masturbate and this includes all adults which would include your parents. The only difference is when parents do it; it is called foreplay.

There is a Federal Law called HIPPA passed by Congress. Within this law is a section covering young people ages 14 and older giving them Medical Confidentiality over their Reproductive Systems. What this means is and what the law says is. If you have a problem, concern or a question about your reproductive system that you won't take to your parent or are afraid to take to a parent, you may go to any doctor, clinic or hospital emergency room for treatment and not be turned away. You do not need parental permission to make the appointment, see the doctor or be treated by the doctor. All records of this visit are totally confidential and cannot be seen by anyone without your written permission.

Your parents’ health insurance will pay for the visit. Even though their health insurance is paying they still have no right to see these records or any records concerning your reproductive system. Mom cannot be in the exam room with you during any doctors’ visit where your reproductive system is being examined unless you invite her. All you need to say to the doctor is, "I invoke my rights under HIPPA" and mom will be asked to leave.

Those are your options. You can tell mom or not though you do need to see a doctor.

I am friends with my crush on Facebook and I posted something saying that the first to like I would tell who my crush is and my crush liked it first so what do I do. I am 14 and a female

First there is nothing wrong with masturbation, It is actually a healthy and safe way of relieving sexual tension. No one has ever gotten pregnant from masturbation.

There is also nothing wrong about fantasizing. We all fantasize about things; some sexual and some not. The none sexual fantasies are generally called dreams. For example if we dream of what it would be like to be an Airline Pilot it may be a dream but it is still a fantasy.

There is nothing wrong with any fantasy that helps you relive your sexual tension. I know some girls who have rape fantasies though they would never want to be raped but they think about what it would be like.

For the most part fantasies is your mind allowing you to experience to experience that which you would never allow yourself to experience. There is nothing wrong with this just like there is nothing wrong with masturbation. Just for the record, statistically 3 out of 4 people masturbate.

Greetings,
I'm Jane.
I have been bleeding for 3days now and I'm not on period!
We were having sex, and I felt that vagina got cut after sex I was peeing and burning sensation I touched and there was blood. I looked I saw a tiny cuts too. It was burning and bleeding for a day. The next day it wasn't burning anymore but it's still bleeding. put my hand down there and looked at my had and it gushing blood. I had to put a pad on due to the amount of blood that was coming out, the next day i started to get symptom of my time of the month, but it is a little different. I am on day 3 still bleeding and not sure if it because of cut or period( which btw wuld be too early.
How to stop blood? I'm so afraid
Please help me.

We are not doctors and even if we were it would take an examination to discover why you are bleeding.

You don't say how old you are so I will ask this one question. Is it possible this was your first sexual penetration, virgin, and your Hymen was intact. If so the bleeding would not be unusual for a day or even two. But for three days and now possibly longer you need to see a gynecologist.

Even if you were not a virgin when you last had sex. Bleeding from your vagina other than for a period needs to be seen and evaluated by a gynecologist as there is no reason for it.

Now it is very possible your boyfriend cut you with a fingernail while fingering you and during intercourse expanded the cut. I'm just guessing here. In any case if you are still bleeding a doctor needs to find out why and intervene.

Some questions for 365 messages in a jar for boyfriend

I believe we need to know more about what type of message jar your BF is making before we can make any suggestions.

I'm 21, and currently a full-time college student at a college I just transferred to this semester from my hometown. It took me 3 months to find my current job and by the time I did I was almost out of savings money so I really needed it.

It took me some time to get into the swing of things, but now I've come to enjoy my job and the people I work with more than any previous jobs. The problem that arose was that even though it pays enough to cover my basic bills, it doesn't allow me to save any money or even start to pay tuition and housing. So if I run out of scholarships I'm going to be in big trouble (which is very possible). Another issue is that it's in retail management for a new company so the chances of moving up are bleak as is hope for good raises.

Anyways, I started interviewing for other jobs this week and I wound up being hired for 3/3 of the interviews I went on. I accepted the first job offer out of fear I wouldn't get the others, but now that I can be picky I've realized I really liked the second job so I called them back and accepted the position. It's a great company that I can move up in and is right up my ally of skills. They also work with a lot of Fortune 500 companies so I have opportunity to make business connections.

During the interview they mentioned to me that the office isn't open on the weekends and it seems like they'll be using me for morning hours mostly. Well I got to thinking about it, and my current job mostly uses me to close (night shifts) and on the weekends so even though I was hired at a new job today, I also still went in to work my regular closing shift at my old job.

I gave it some serious thought during my closing shift, and realized I do really care about my old job. I want to see the company grow and the people in it. I don't love everything I do there, but I like most of it and I think that's more than a lot of people can say.

Now I feel like I'm in a dilemma because I don't think I could work two 20 hour jobs and also pass all my classes (which I'm taking four of), but I don't want to give either job up or any of my classes.

Another thing is that I have an interview with my school in a few days for a position there too, and if I get that one it will cover my summer housing expenses (which I really need). I don't want to bet on getting that job though because tons of students are applying for it. However, if I get that job I probably won't be able to work any other jobs and will have to quit two jobs I didn't work for very long at which will look bad on a background check and burn bridges. I don't know what to do, I'm really confused!

Any advice helps!

I think you need to step back and look at the bigger picture.

Lets look at each position individually.

Job 1: Current Position, new company, covers basic needs.

Job 2. New Position, Makes use of current skills, works with fortune 500 companies, allows you to make future business connection. Morning hours, no weekends. May pay more, room for advancement.

Job 3, School position, will cover summer housing expenses.

Now write these down on one side of a piece of sheet of paper. Draw a line down the center of the paper. On the other side write down the cons.

Job 1. no growth potential and poor chances for raises. Job covers basic needs with no leftovers for savings. Retail position.

Job 2. You didn't write anything that identifies as a con but if there is any put it here.

Job 3. School position, will cover summer housing expenses. Does not cover any other expenses, assumedly a one time position that ends when you leave school. May not use the skills you have effectively or at all.

Not knowing anymore about the 3 positions this is all I can list pro or con. You of course know more about the jobs. Fill in whatever is missing pro or con. Then look at which position offers the most pro and the least con. This most likely is the best position for you.

One thing you might be able to do with job 2 is offer to work weekends for your job 1. Friday Saturday or Saturday Sunday. You should leave one day for yourself. All work and no play is not good for you.

Okay so I am writing this post argument, might be still a bit angry but here goes.

I am dating and in love with a coworker. The company we are in has absolutely NO policy against employees dating, there are even some that are married. However we are quite high in the executive ladder I should say we work directly for the owner. So when this started because we didn't want our boss to judge or think decisions were biased, we kept it on the down low.

It has been two years now, in which I think our boss already might suspect something ( it has been a long time and he would be blind not to) but he hasn't brought it up. We havent made it public either at work its all professional.

This makes me think it really doesn't matter. The company also doesn't have any of the typical Human Resources department where you have to declare a relationship so we haven't.

Here comes the issue. The company we work for is owned by someone in high society. This is a society that my boyfriend was born into but I just recently came into because of this job. Not that I am poor or anything like that, it is just in a different country, a small country, and I am foreign. People have taken well to me and are really welcoming. However, my boyfriend keeps saying that in this society people are very judgemental and if they knew we worked and lived together they would judge and talk and gossip.

Not being from this country I don't know about this, and also, I don't care what people think. My boyfriend says he doesn't either, and he has introduced me to people , not saying he hasn't, but I keep getting the feeling that he thinks the situation is embarrasing and he doesnt want people to talk.....which obviously makes me not feel so nice.

The fight tonight was over a party, he was invited by some friends, some I haven't met, that are from that society, and he didn't invite or want me to go because of that reason that he didn't want to explain to people we worked and were together.

After two years of this relationship in which he says he loves me, it makes me angry and suspicious he still cares what people think when I know the company doesn't. His argument is that even though they say they don't care out loud they still judge and he doesn't want anyone to mess it up for us.

Now we argued for maybe 20 minutes in which he either saw my point of view or just got tired of arguing ( I cant decide which) and told me ok fine lets go you can come.

But to be honest by that point I didnt even want to go especially when he said " well its not a nice situation to explain to people". I didnt want to go anymore, I just wanted him to see my point. And he did, according to him so he invited me, but I didn't go. I dont want to be somewhere he will be embarrassed to have to explain me. To be honest Im debating wether its ok to be in a relationship someone is emabarrased to have to explain to society. Not his friends or family, they know, its just other people.

Did I act correctly, arguing a point and then not going??? I dont know what is right in this situation because its tricky. On the one hand, I don't buy this selective secrecy, after two years. And on the other, I really love this person and want to give them the benefit of the doubt they want the best for us. But I am not sure anymore.

Also I am not sure if I should have gone, but my feelings were just I really did not want to be somewhere I felt I wasn't particularly wanted, even if in the end he seemed like he agreed with me.

Another doubt is how do I act tomorrow. I stayed home, now I don't know what I should do when he comes home. I am pretty upset over this.

Advice?

From my point of view you are both right and both wrong. People in high society are generally big snobs especially people born into high society and wealth. Introducing someone from outside their society takes time and finesse. Lock at Duchess Kate. It took Prince William almost 10 years of dating her to get the British People to accept her. His mother we never really accepted at Court though the people of Britain came to love her for her Beauty, style and how she was raising her children.

Not making any excuses for him he has grown up in this society and while you may not have been poor you are still not one of them because you do not come from there. He was right in wanting to protect you but wrong for saying no after you said you didn't care what the said or felt. I don't think he was embarrassed to have you with him I truly believe it was an act of protectionism on his part.

Where you are wrong is after 2 years of being together and living together of letting jealousy get between you and not trusting him or his reasoning.

I believe you both owe each other an apology. If you apologize first I he should return your apology then you can kiss and makeup. We all know that make up sex is always the best.

My suggestion is that I believe it is time to bring your relationship out of the closet even at work. If as you believe the owner already thinks you two are in a relationship bring it out of the closet won't hurt anything. Being in a management position the last thing he would want is for one of you to leave and go to work for a competitor. Once you are out of the closet at work it will spread through society easier,

Hi, I am 12 years old female, 3 guys asked me out and I don't know what to do, I'm to nervous to say yes to one of them and to say no, I don't want to hurt their feelings and I don't think I'm ready to go out on dates, although that's what I've been wanting for a long time...

What should I do??

You are too young to date. If you were to ask your parents if you could go out on a date they would probably say no. That's your answer; "My parents will not let me date at this time, thanks for asking me."

Dating starts; real dating just you and a guy, when you’re around 16. Group dating starts when you’re around 14. A group date is when a bunch of you, boys and girls decide to all go someplace as a group. It is dating with training wheels as there is safety in numbers.

Still there will be questions asked of you no matter what type of date you go on by your parents. They will want to meet the boy. They will want to know how old he is. If he goes to the same school as you do and how you two met. They will want to know where you two or groups are going and you had better be there for you can expect them to check up on you.

It is not that they do not trust you it is the boy they don't trust. I never went and checked on my son other than the GPS locator on his phone. My sister being a single mother with two girls I become both Uncle and stand-in father when needed. Later her second husband stood in when needed. When the girls dated we both checked up on where they were suppose to be.

I suggest you sit down with your parents now before you start dating and discuss the rules they have for dating and they will have them. Better to get them out now while you are still too young to date so that you can discuss them calmly.

Ok so this is a bit complicated which is why I need some advice.

In January I found out I was pregnant , truth is I was using the timing and pull out method both not the best forms of birth control. I am 24 my husband 25 and not ready to be parents so we decided to terminate the pregnancy.

Since then I have been taking birth control and on top of that not having sex because in February we thought it was too soon and he was away on business all of March, until the end. He returned the weekend of the 26th of March and we made love then, and since I have been on birth control he finished inside. We continued to make love that Sunday and Monday in the same way.

The day of my last period was the 10th of March. Since then I started a new pack of pills and the active pills they just finished two days ago. Technically I should be having a period soon in the next three days but I am a little worried that I am not getting signs of it. We made love the first time again only 9 days before my period was due, and on top of that I have been taking my birth control not missing any days. The only thing I may have done is take it a couple hours late one or two days not exactly at the same time. But never missed.

It's too early to take a pregnancy test, is there anything I can do to induce my period sooner?
Are there any chances I may be pregnant??

Taking your pills an hour or two late is not going to make a difference. My wife has never been good at taking medicine when she is suppose to. When she was on the pill we never had a problem until she went off the pill to get pregnant. Then it took two months for the medication to completely leave her system before she was able to conceive. As long as you don't miss a day or two you should be fine in that area.

What I will say is this. IF YOU DON'T STOP WORRYING ABOUT BEING PREGNANT WILL MISS YOUR PERIOD. More women miss their periods do to stressing over being pregnant then actually being pregnant. Stress causes women to miss their periods.

Generally you can take a home test 10 days after sex. Go to the pharmacy and buy a test kit read the package before purchasing to make sure the kit is one that can test early.

Frankly I think you fine and are worried over nothing. You are taking your pills properly being an hour or two late is not a problem. FYI if you are taking any over the counter medications say for hay fever or a cold, any antibiotics a doctor prescribed. These things could also cause you to miss a period as well as the pill itself causing nothing more than spotting.

im 15 girl and this guy had sex w me but it barely anything like 2min cuz it hurt bad and the dick was keep coming out but he was wearing a condom and it didnt break,do u think i am fine?like not pregnant?

If the condom didn't break, if he didn't ejaculate or precum into the condom then there is no way you can be pregnant. If he did ejaculate or precum into the condom then statistically there is an 85% chance you’re not pregnant.

Now depending when your last period was you can figure out if you were in your fertile time of the month. IF you were not in your fertile time then there was no egg to fertilize and you can't get pregnant.

Most women are safe to have sex for 7 day after their period and 7 days before. The 14 days in between is when she will most likely ovulate and eject an egg for fertilization. IF you know exactly when you ovulate then you can calculate if you were fertile when you had sex.

If it is your intention to have a se life, which I cannot condone as you are too young. Then under a law called HIPPA you have what is called Medical confidentiality. The HIPPA Law is a Federal Law and within this law is a section covering young people 14 years of age and older giving them Medical Confidentiality over their reproductive systems.

What this means is you can see any doctor without parental permission for anything related to your reproductive system. Anything at all that you might be too embarrassed to talk to a parent about. It could be a problem, a question or you can ask for birth control. Whatever it is the doctor will see you, answer your question, treat your problem or prescribe the birth control which is right for you.

Your parents will never be told and cannot see your medical records for these visits. If a girl gets pregnant only she can decide if she will have an abortion or have the baby. Her parents have no say because pregnancy is a condition of the reproductive system covered under the HIPPA Law.

So if you’re going to have sex see a doctor. You can go to any free clinic and get birth control. You should still use a condom for two reasons. 1. Condoms are very effective at limiting the transmission of many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. 2. Using condoms with birth controls increases the effectiveness of preventing pregnancy to 99.995%.

Last; if you still feel you may be pregnant take a home pregnancy test. Under the HIPPA law you are old enough to by the test kit.

Can someone help me to stop being treated and thought of as one of the guys by my guy friends and by the guy I'm crushing on and I've already tried changing my appearance many of times.

Listen to the advice Justafriend1234 has given you as it is good advice.

I'm guessing you and these guys have all grown up together gone to school together and probably all live in the same neighborhood. I'm also guessing there were few if an girls for you to hang out with as do not say you were a tomboy.

Changing your appearance is the biggest thing. Start wearing skirts and blouse, dresses, shoes with heels, stockings. If your hair is short I would suggest you let it grow. Most guys like girls with short hair.

What you need to do is soften your appearance to look more feminine. Being a guy I cannot tell you exactly how to do that though I can tell you what guys like in a girl.

While it is great if you are into any of the girls sports in school. Of the field you want to look as feminine as possible. Now there is a fine line between feminine and cheap which starts with how much makeup you wear to much makeup makes you look cheap. If you look cheap you will get the wrong type of attention from the boys. Every girl has a natural beauty that just a touch of makeup will enhance. You mom will be a great source of how to use makeup to enhance what is naturally there.

Another way to get the boys to see you as a girl, if your not playing a sport. Would be to tryout for cheerleading. A cheerleading uniform will definitely let them know you are a girl. Read some of the girlie magazines like 16. My sister read all those magazines while in High School.

One other thing is if the neighborhood is short on other girls to talk to about girl things then talk to mom. Remember she was once your age and she can help you be more girly if you ask her.

my 21 year old daughter is in prison for 10 years for killing her friend when she crashed while she was drunk driving. Her friend was in the passenger front seat. She was drinking too so if she had driven it could have been the other way around

We received an visit from her friends parents who are still angry at us and say that a ten year sentence is too light and it should be longer

Obviously, I have no defense for what she did. She did a terrible thing and ruined her life and is paying for it but ten years seems like a lengthy sentence

It is hard to say just what is the right sentence for any crime. It is really up to the lawyers and the courts. If you were able to afford your own lawyer then the sentence may have been less. Public defenders generally are not as likely to get a change in the charges as is a good private lawyer. The sentencing recommendation for vehicular homicide and vehicular manslaughter are very different though the difference is negligible in meaning.

I have spent my entire adult life in the fire service. I have responded to my share of MVA's with every conceivable cause. Like every other firefighter there is one call that will haunt me to the day I die. A single car accident related to speed.

The worst among the accidents are the ones that are alcohol related for they are the ones where the person that is drunk causing the accident, generally walks away unhurt or with minor cuts and bruises. We end up treating patients with life threatening injuries, broken bones or worse having to use the Jaws of Life to cut them from their cars. Sometimes we have to sit there for hours waiting for the medical examiner to come before we can remove someone from their car. At times this may require an entire highway be shut down until the medical examiner arrives and views the scene.

One drunk driver causes an accident that kills another and disrupts the lives of hundreds of others. Drunk driving accidents are avoidable by simply calling a cab or asking for a sober ride.

I don't know just what the proper sentence is for an accident involving alcohol that kills one and possibly injures others. I will say that while the parents of the other girl have every right to be upset their anger should be aimed at your daughter who is of legal age and responsible for herself not at you and your family.

All I can offer as advice is to support your daughter while she is incarcerated. Tell her to be on her best behavior and she could be out in less than 5 years.

I'm a sophomore in college in America and I feel like if I've learned anything during my stay, it's that college degrees are pretty much worthless here now because so many people have them and the baby boomers can't afford to retire so not nearly enough job spaces are open in areas that call for degrees.

So now that I've faced this fact, I'm basically asking what can I be doing outside of college, while going to college that will serve as a good alternative. By an "alternative" I mean maybe trade certifications I can get that will help me just land a middle-wage job but will be enough that I won't have to worry about how I'm going to afford a place on my own until I can actually get something in my degree field.

I know IT seems like the obvious answer, but that's already extremely flooded and being rapidly outsourced so I'm looking for other things too.

I currently work part-time retail management and although it is paying my current bills, it wouldn't be enough to support myself on.

What other things can I do?

Your outlook is not entirely correct. There are certain degrees such as a Liberal Arts Degree that does not equate to a good paying job. What it does do for you is put your application or resume ahead of someone without a college degree.

Certain degrees in Science, medicine and other areas are still open and seeking good applicants with good salaries and benefits. There are some field within the medical arena that can be learned through a technical school such as lab technician or x-ray technician. Then there is the instillation and computer repair field that is seeking qualified people. This is also a field that is learned in a technical school.

Being a Paramedic is another field that is desperate for help and pays as much as $25 an more an hour. The only problem with this field is that in most states the requirement to become a paramedic is a two year college level course in emergency medicine. Being a sophomore you may be able to minor in this course and you may already have some of the prerequisite courses completed.

Of course you can also look at being an EMT which requires a course that is anywhere from 80 to 120 hours long. Taught at most Community Colleges and if you join a volunteer fire department they will pay for it in return for you volunteering with them. EMTs earn anywhere from $12 to $18 an hour.

Then there's CNA, Certified Nursing Assistants. There is a course required for this. I will warn you this job has you doing all the grunt jobs the Nurses don't want to do and pays about the same as an EMT.

These are the jobs I know of that pay above minimum wage and are looking for qualified people as they never have enough staffing. What I also suggest that as a Sophomore you start looking for work in your field now. Look for internships in your field. There is no better way to get a job offer than to intern for a company and let them see what you can do.

BACKGROUND:I met this guy on tinder(wow ik so romantic) in November and we hit it off, similar interests, taste in music, quirky sense of humor. Went on our first date in January. He goes to a military college so we can only hang on the weekends but we text through the week(both of us sending 20txts at a time), snapchat, etc. Our relationship has never been defined, neither have felt the need to but it's been going great. To a degree casual as both of us still get on tinder but both of us have said we like the other and neither of us have gone out with anyone else from the app. On our dates We always end up laughing and talking about our ambitions, lives, everything. We always seem to make many plans for future dates based on random conversations we have or things we see.
This weekend we were supposed to go walk around art museums, stay in a hotel, just have a nice weekend together. It was getting close to Saturday and I hadn’t heard from him since Thursday so I texted him asking when he wanted to go. 1am I got a response telling me he recently found out his dad has cancer and that he needs time to process the news. No details and it was very stiff and polite considering the very lighthearted guy he is. I responded that I understood, that I was here if he needed me to be, and that I was sorry for the emotions and pain he was facing. I don’t know how much space to give, if he doesn’t contact me whether or not I should try to reach out. Honestly I’m wondering whether or not to expect him to end things. I really don't want this to happen as he is a really special and important person to me. Honestly everything about the situation is depressing me because there are so many things we talked about doing and it was starting to get more serious. Basically I'm looking for any ssort of perspective. If age matters he's 20, I'm 18

most Cancers are a treatable disease when caught early. My wife is a Breast Cancer survivor and we are convinced that attitude is 90% of the cure. Part of a good attitude is having good support.

Our friends, family and coworkers let us have a day or two to adjust to the news then the did not allow us to sit around and wallow in self-pity. Your BF needs your support just as much as his dad needs the support of his son to help beat this disease.

Of course at the moment neither of us know what the diagnoses is. But even with the worst diagnoses the doctors have been proven wrong and the cancer has reacted well to the treatment. Here again it is the attitude of the patient and the support system they have around them that makes the difference.

My suggestion is this. Reach out to your BF. GO visit him let him know you are there and he can lean on you. GO with him to visit his dad and while visiting don't be a guest be helpful. Help his mom with whatever she is doing. If his dad needs any type of care help your BF care for him and give his mom a break. Being a caregiver is very draining for the care giver. Both your BF and his mom will appreciate you help and you BF when he takes the time to realize it will also know how much you care for him and his family.

Right now he is in shock. Just the word cancer can send shockwave through us. This is probably where your boyfriend is at now, devastated and in shock. He really needs a shoulder to cry on which he can't do at a Military academy. If it is possible for you to go to him that is what I suggest. Don't wait for him to ask you to come to him.

If a guy has cancer and you swallow his cum do you get cancer ?

The only cancer I know of that could be transferred through sex like and STD is the HPV virus. The first thing to do is find out what type of cancer this guy has. Then check with your doctor. Your doctor ,not any of us, is the only one who can tell you with any certainty if there is anything for you to be concerned about.

Do not be ashamed to speak to your doctor about this and why your asking. I assure you your doctor has heard it all and in grand scheme of things what you will be telling the doctor is mild in comparison to other things doctors hear. Speaking frankly with your doctor is the only way you will get a truthful answer for your concerns.

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