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stop being thought of as one of the guys
Can someone help me to stop being treated and thought of as one of the guys by my guy friends and by the guy I'm crushing on and I've already tried changing my appearance many of times.
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Being thought of as "one of the guys" isn't about your appearance. It is more about the way that you interact with the guys and talk like them. It is very hard to get out of this category because your vibe is like one of the guys, so dating you would initially seems like dating another guy. So, I would just go for it and talk to this guy you like. Tell him how you feel straight up. Tell him what things you did/said just to fit in more with the group. See what he says. If it doesn't go your way, just sit back and observe. Sometimes things might not go our way initially. But let things work out organically after the intial talk. Good luck!
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Listen to the advice Justafriend1234 has given you as it is good advice.
I'm guessing you and these guys have all grown up together gone to school together and probably all live in the same neighborhood. I'm also guessing there were few if an girls for you to hang out with as do not say you were a tomboy.
Changing your appearance is the biggest thing. Start wearing skirts and blouse, dresses, shoes with heels, stockings. If your hair is short I would suggest you let it grow. Most guys like girls with short hair.
What you need to do is soften your appearance to look more feminine. Being a guy I cannot tell you exactly how to do that though I can tell you what guys like in a girl.
While it is great if you are into any of the girls sports in school. Of the field you want to look as feminine as possible. Now there is a fine line between feminine and cheap which starts with how much makeup you wear to much makeup makes you look cheap. If you look cheap you will get the wrong type of attention from the boys. Every girl has a natural beauty that just a touch of makeup will enhance. You mom will be a great source of how to use makeup to enhance what is naturally there.
Another way to get the boys to see you as a girl, if your not playing a sport. Would be to tryout for cheerleading. A cheerleading uniform will definitely let them know you are a girl. Read some of the girlie magazines like 16. My sister read all those magazines while in High School.
One other thing is if the neighborhood is short on other girls to talk to about girl things then talk to mom. Remember she was once your age and she can help you be more girly if you ask her.
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my guess is that you either have a lot of boy siblings, so you're used to being around them, or you just like being around guys. But having a guy, especially your crush say you are like their little sister sucks.so i am going to give you tips to help you kinda get put out of that name-"one of the guys"
Tip #1 = work on your scent.As ridiculous as it may sound, boys like a girls that smell good. This doesn't mean lather yourself up in the strongest perfume, but it means that if you've been supporting your body's own musk, it would be nice to spray a couple of spritz of a nice perfume
Tip #2 = Change your look. So as an empowering woman, no woman should have to change their look to please a man, but if it is to your crush its okay to go from boot-cut jeans, to some skinny jeans and a blouse or even some dresses
Tip #3 = DONT WEAR A LOT OF MAKEUP. contrary to natural belief, there are very few guys that enjoy a woman with a freaking face of makeup on. Now im not saying that it's not okay to put on a little mascara and eyeliner here and there, but you don't need to do a full blown makeup session every morning either.
Tip #4 = Forgo the farting and belching. If your one of those girls that has had farting and belching contest, STOP IT RIGHT NOW. because that will push you further into the "one of the guys" name.
Tip #5 = Entice him. Okay i don't know how old you are, and if your under the age of 16 don't use this tip. But if you are 16 or older this helps a lot. Make him want you, if there is ever a time when y'all are alone, lightly feel him up and down. give him that sexy vibe without touching his NO NO square. if he's not interested, then you will know that
and some of these tips might not work because crush is too scared to admit that he likes you back because he doesn't want to ruin a good friendship, so if he does that and your really in need of a relationship, find someone else to date. i am also not saying that you should god ate someone just to get over your crush, that's just wrong. I hope my advice helped you
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