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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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my bff likes this boy and i dun think he likes her but i like him too b/c i feel like he turns me on in a way but idk wat to do...Help Me!!

Leave the boy alone. Plenty of other boys will come your way, don't let a boy get between you and your friend its not worth it.

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Okay-- there is this kid.. who liked me for about a year now. Every time he's signing off. .he says *iloveyou* an if i dont say it back, he gets all pissed and says stuff liek "Wat you dont love me anymore" so then i feel like i have to. Cuz one time, he cut himself because he heard that i had started to like someone else. hes one of my best friends.. but idont want anything more. And i reallly REALLY dont want to hurt him. .. help.

~ dont wanna *love*

So dnot love him. You dont have to love him. You are fine. Its that kid who needs help.

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What do i do...theres this guy whos one yr older than me and he is the most gorgeaus guy ever! but he likes this grl who doesn't like him (i've talked to her about it) and i rlly like him...b/c theres more to him other than his good looks...i want him to be mine rlly badly but i dun know how to tell him b/c he might think im stupid...how do i tell him how i feel...help me!! i rlly like him

Just tell the guy you like him and ask him if he would like to hang out some time. Then you can make your move on him.

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My sister is a lesbian, and I am good friends with her girlfriend. When I am introducing the two of them to other people I always find myself saying "this is my sister and her friend."
I know I should say girlfriend, but I never can get it out.

Is it alright if I just say friend to avoid akward moments and let coversations to contiune to flow, or do you think it is affending to my sister and her girlfriend?

if she hasn't said anything about it then she probably doesn't mind

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Hey everyone, I need some advice on a situation I'm in. So me and this kid went out on and off for about a year and I was madly in love with him. I had never loved a boy that much in my entire life. So after the last time we broke it off, I was obviously devistated. I turned to one of my best friends to help me through it, and for some reason she wasn't very supportive of the whole deal. A few days later the two of them were all over each other and hanging out on a regular basis. It killed me to see them together. So I pulled my friend aside and had a long talk with her about it. She promised me on our friendship that she would never ever go out with him, because she knew how much I loved him. I was so relieved, but not convinced. By the end of that month they were going out. I was rippin mad at my so-called "friend" that I wouldn't talk to her or look at her for days. We finally talked about it and she apologized, but it didn't change my feelings. Now, about 2 months later, they have broken up, but I still have so much hate for her. I consider a friend someone who I can trust, and I have lost all of mine for her. I don't even feel the need to talk to her anymore ever again because of what she did to me. Am I overreacting? I'm not gonna lie about how I feel, but I don't think I should be friends with a lying bitch. Should I let this ruin our friendship? Or was it never even there ..thankss

There is no reason why you shouldn't feel how you do. You're friend is a liar. If she made a promis on your friendship and broke it, then she obviously thinks shit of your friendship. There is no point in becoming friends with her again because there is no way you can trust her. If she did this to you once she will probably do it again.

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My friend is a suicidal massicist. She cuts her wrists. She was molested when she was younger. She also does drugs and gets drunk a lot and likes it. Her mom is suicidal and her dad is a pot head. She went to a therapist before but stopped because he was annoying and cost too much. I think her life is taking a large turn down into a huge pile of shit, but I don't know how to help her. She is insecure, clingy but outspoken and is willing to fight anyone who makes fun of her, and that is admirable. She is also bisexual which has caused other probs. Can I do anything?

I know it sucks but you really can't do anything to help your friend. She has to realize she has a problem and help herself. Good Luck! :)

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My boyfriend has been smoking pot for a few years now.. and we just hooked up a lil over a month ago. I have already talked to him about it.. and he lied to me and said he quit. Then one night I was with him and he was hittin pot again.

Is there any way I can talk to him or convince him to quit or even lay off of it a lil bit without him getting mad at me?

You knew what he did before you were with him, which means you knew what you were getting yourself into, you should just accept him for his ways.

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ok i really feel like i have an awesome boyfriend! he doesnt drink very often, and he doesnt do drugs (like weed)... which is something pretty much every guy my age does around here! well about a month ago my sister had a graduation party and my boyfriend came... there was a lot of alcohol there so we drank a lot and both got pretty drunk (its ok my parents were here to regulate!).. well about a week ago i found out that at my party my cousin gave my boyfriend cocaine, not a lot..i guess he was out of it so my bf licked the bag clean or something? just a little powder.. i dunno i dont get it. but anyways, my boyfriend doesnt even smoke WEED! so it was really hard for me to accept... and when i asked him about it, he denied it & said he didnt remember! and other ppl at the party say they think he was pressured into it.. i kinda just let the whole thing go.... do u think theres something else i should do about it?

Well maybe he was so trashed that he really doesn't remember trying the stuff. Hopefully, he was just trying the stuff. If he is using, you will notice, trust me. But if I were you i really wouldn't sweat it. Good Luck! :)

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okay this guy i like only likes me as a friend and he knows i like him soo what should i do but he is like a year older than i am so plzzz some 1 help!!

thnks
confused-gurl

You can't make anyone like you either they do ro they don't.

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Ok, over the past few weeks a lot has been going on. I'm fixing to make some big transactions and I'm going to have to leave a lot of my close friends behined to move to a different location. Something that's always been very hard for me, is dealing with CHANGE. I know it's like that for a lot of people, nobody really likes change yeah yeah. But I always get extremely depressed when I have to change things in big ways, especially if I love the way my life is going. I just feel like everything is going to fall apart. So, I guess what my question is, is has anyone ever had a hard time with change, and overcame it.. if yes, then how so.. I mean if there even is an awnser.
Thanks.

It is always hard dealing with change. I'm sure you will call your friends from your old home like every second at 1st. But eventually you get used to things and enjoy them. Change isn't always bad. You never know what could happen to you in your new way of life. Good Luck! :)

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Recently, I broke up with my boyfriend because I was always thinking of someone else. I know it's a lame excuse for breaking up with someone, but, that's why I did it. Do you think it was wrong to do? Because..my ex still wants me back. Believe me, he's tried everything he possibly can. I just..I can't do it. I know that if I go back to him I'll never be thinking about him, but another guy. And to be honest, I'm not too fond of my ex, but he's disgustingly obsessed with me. Oh my god, seriously. Lmao. So someone help me, here.

Tell him ITS OVER. And don't feel bad for the reason you broke up with him. It is an honest one. It would be uncomfortable to be with someone when you really know you want someone else. there is nothing wrong with you. Its your physco ex that needs to be seeking advice. Good Luck! :)

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ok here goes...

i like this kid let say his name is steve..and i hooked up with him last year and he asked me out but i got scared because yah i liked him alot..so i made up an excuse and said some1 told me he was a player..and he got real mad and we stopped talkin then this year we started talkin again..and he told my friend that he has liked me since the day he first saw me...and he never stopped liking me...and he is soo sweet to me..but hes an asshole to everyone eles but hes soo hottt...and the other day his friend lets say bob..said to me u kno i like u right..and i didnt kno what to say cuz i love steve..and i only like bob as a friend...and 2 of my friends that kno them have diff opinions
1st friendd...go out with bob hes a good bf i kno that and steve is a jerk (juss keep in mind steve hates her)
2nd friend...steve is wicked hot but an asshole
bob is ugly but nice

then bob told me to chill with steve and see what happens between us...but i dont wanna waste my time if something doesnt happen...but i think i love steve

Girl you are confused. Look who cares who Steve is mean to, as long as he is nice to you is all that matters. And if Bob is nice then thats a plus too. Just pick one. But since you say you love Steve then I think you give him a chance and tell Bob you just wanna be friends. Good Luck! :)

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ok well what would you do if your boyfriend told you that they though someone who is 4 years older then them(hes 15, shes 19) is "bangin"? with me it kinda hurts...but i dont know what to do about it. do i just ignore it or what? please help. it would be nice to have someone to talk to about it...thanks

Just ignore it. What the hell is a 19 year old girl gonna want with a 15 year old boy. He's just drooling over something he can;t have, don't stress over it. He's with you.

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Hi one of my friends is way bitchy and she always tsarts arguments like if i have a reason to be mad at her instead of saying sry she just turns the table on it and gets mad at me! what do i do and dont say*taklk to her blah blah because it didnt help!

Fine then if you don't want to talk to her then stop being her friend, that will get the bitch out of your hair

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What do you do if your friend always gets mad at you for the littlest thing, but everytime she does something mean to you and you get mad she always expects me to forgive her right away...but i can get her mad and she never forgives me whenever i say i'm sorry.I always have to beg for forgiveness and then were close friends again, but I'm tired of begging what do i do?

Don't freakin beg. You shouldn't have to stoop that low just to get your friends forgivness. Its not worth it. Your friend is acting really selfish, and if I were you I'd get a little selfish too and give it break with her for a while. Find a friend who won;t have to make you go through all that crap. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)

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ok so theres this guy who said he liked me and i was like totaly excited and ya no how it is so yea he asked me out but then was like were not going out and then was like we are so i just ignored him for the last 2 months and i just recently started talkin to him again and we've been talkin and well now he keeps say he loves me and i dont believe him cause of last time adn hes always saying this when hes at a friends house but he dose it at his too but hes more calm about it...i dont trust him and i really dont believe he likes me but some of my friends do! OH and also hes gone through all my friends well most of them saying he wants to "hang out" which i no means more cause of what was said to me by him...ugh i have no idea what to do and i dont want to talk to him about it cuase its like AHHHHHH lol what should i do!?!?!?!?!?


HELP
BB

Okay well if you really don't trust the guy then you don't need to be with him. But if you really think you should give him a chance, talk to him in person, not over the computer or phone, and ask him to be staight up with you about how he feels. Good Luck! :)

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My family came over my house for while because i haven't seen them in a while and i asked my mom if i could go see my friend and she said no so i went into my room and watched t.v. After they left she got mad at me and told me i couldn't go to my friends bday party....wat do i do to convince her i have to go..?

Tell her your sorry. but she isprobably pissed because you didn't sit and spend some time with your family that you havn't seen in a while. She probably thought it was rude that yuo asked to go to your friends. And then she probably thought it was rude that you stood in your room, instead of down stairs with the company. You got alot of apologizing to do. Ask your mom what can you do to make it up. It might not be easy cuz she seems pretty mad. good Luck! :)

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i was at my friends house and her brother invited 2 friends over and they were being soo friggen annoying and the brother was annoying the sister in front of his friends...wat would you do?

smack the brother upside the freakin head and tell him to go find something to do with himself

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my ma wont let me have a tattoo how can i convince her to let me have one

how old are you?

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Okay, I'm pregnant. I chose to see my family dotor who has been my doctor for years to go see for my checkups. The problem is everytime I have an appointment and go to tell my in-laws about it they are always comparing my doctor to thier family doctor. Like they say "well Doctor So&So would have never done it that way". And they compare the hospital I'll be delivering in to the one they go to as well. You know, it pisses me off because I think it is my decision what doctor I decide to see, especially in this time of my life, I trust my doctors because i have known them for so long. And I refuse to change doctors because I shouldn't have to. This is my choice. The problem is lately I've been trying to bite tougue my in-laws oppinions but its is getting harder. I don't want to say something mean because they are very nice to me and do alot for me and I don't want to come off disrespectful, so what can I do to keep myself from blowing up at them?

They are probably just being concerned. Don't take too much heed to it. Some people are just like that, they probably don't even know that it bothers you. Hope I helped. :)

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