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Okay, I'm pregnant. I chose to see my family dotor who has been my doctor for years to go see for my checkups. The problem is everytime I have an appointment and go to tell my in-laws about it they are always comparing my doctor to thier family doctor. Like they say "well Doctor So&So would have never done it that way". And they compare the hospital I'll be delivering in to the one they go to as well. You know, it pisses me off because I think it is my decision what doctor I decide to see, especially in this time of my life, I trust my doctors because i have known them for so long. And I refuse to change doctors because I shouldn't have to. This is my choice. The problem is lately I've been trying to bite tougue my in-laws oppinions but its is getting harder. I don't want to say something mean because they are very nice to me and do alot for me and I don't want to come off disrespectful, so what can I do to keep myself from blowing up at them?
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Maybe you can bring it up with them nicely and tell them you dont appreciate them judgeing your doctor because sometimes people dont notice they do it. Hope I helped! :-)
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i thynk u shuud just tell them and be lyk.. " thanks for ur advice.. but i really lyk mai doctor and i would lyk to keep going to him with out trouble.. and im not trying to dis respect you or anythyng.. i just wanted to let ya kno" l0l.. yea.. sae that! :-D
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Hi there,
I don't blame you for being pissed off. Its an age old story isn't it, nuance in-laws. Personally I wouldn't keep my mouth shut. How dare they have the audacity to question the skill and ability of a medical profession for no apparent reason. What medical qualifications do they have after their name? The way I see it - if you speak up now theirs more chance you will be polite and sensitive than if you wait and let your stress build up and up. Be definite and let them know that this comments are not helpful nor wanted, or it'll just go on and on.
Good luck with the baby, god bless
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Derfel
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You have every right to get pissed off. This IS your decision and they should have no say in it.
However, all you can do (since relatives never shut up, no matter how much you want them to) is know that it IS, in fact, your decision, and they have no say in it whatsoever.
You may want to kindly ask them to please keep their opinions of your doctors to themselves, if you're so determined not to sound disrespectful. Remind them that you trust your doctors, and that even if they don't, it's not their problem - it's yours.
I hope this was helpful!
-Siren =)
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Well maybe you can tell them politly thank you for your concerin but I trust my doctor. If that doesnt work maybe you can get your husband to talk to them they are his parents... and he doesnt always have to be nice. He can say its not you that said something to him that he gets annoyed of the fact that they are always bothering you with it. Good luck and I hope the pregnancy goes great!
-holly-
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Revell in the fact that these people have boring enough lives that they want to make you feel bad for a choice of doctors? Okay, maybe not.
It seems these people might actually be concered, they might actually think that their doctor is better for your health and your safety and your baby's safety. But they are wrong, because that isn't their decision to make. They might not realize that what they are saying is bothering you and they may just be saying it so you will 'see things their way' and change to a doctor that they think is best for you. By doing this, THEY are being disrespectful of you. I think you should say something, and it doesn't have to be mean, just mention that it upsets you that they don't approve of your docotr or your choices and that by saying these things to you, you feel that they think you can't make proper decisions for yourself. It would be better for you to calmly say this to them rather then eventually exploding in anger and telling everyone off or something equally scary. If you talk to them about it now, you won't ever have to worry about blowing up.
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They are probably just being concerned. Don't take too much heed to it. Some people are just like that, they probably don't even know that it bothers you. Hope I helped. :)
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Try politly tellign them that you thank them for their concern but you feel mor ecomfertable with your own doctor that knows your body and what you liek or dont. If they get mad, they'll get over it. theirs nothing you can do if they continue but talk to your husband have him tell them whats up. rember you cant please everyone.
hope it helps
~TiNa~
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When you in-laws say a comment about your doctor or something, just swallow it, try and let it go. In-laws always do that. Like the show 'Everybody Loves Raymond'.
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