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How to say I'm Sorry
This summer while in Canada I met a really awesome girl, however I really really really..... screwed up our relationship. I cheated on her once, guilted her into a lot of things I shouldn't have, and I lied to her so many times. It was just in the last week that I was with her that I started to straighten my act up and realize how wonderful she was. I want to say sorry so bad, but I live 1600 miles away from her and don't have a planned visit there for 2 more years, also I want to do something bigger than just write her an email and hope for the best. We are kind of friends now, we talk every now and then online, but I still feel like this is still keeping us apart. If anyone has any ideas on how to say sorry for being this horrible I'd love to hear from you. Also, flying up there just to say sorry isn't out of the picture, its about $700. I really need something big that says I'm sorry and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to have you trust me again.
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Does she know about the cheating? Are you two still together? When you say you're kind of friends, that's good, friendship is the best first step, even if its on the way to more. Honesty is the best policy. I wish there was some way to just take things back (I'm good friends with feeling guilty, esp right now). But the fact that you are so sincere and so sorry speaks volumes about this girl and your care for her. You always have the option of ordering flowers from the local florist in her town, flowers always warm a girl's heart. I know that a letter seems "not enough," but I think that writing it, being specific and sincere and open with her in a letter will be beautiful because of its genuine value. Tell her that you've changed (since it seems like you have) and how serious you are about doing it right this time. Say it straight from the heart. It says so much to a girl when a guy puts himself out on the line, no one forced him there. The letter is probably the most important thing in repairing you relationship. As for the "big" I'm sorry. Do you know what her favorite flower is? If you don't that's alright too. You can ask her, but it might subtract a little bit of the surprise. If you don't mind spending a bigger bit of money, you can always order a LOT of flowers, and ask the florist to put individual notes on each one, each expressing an apology, a reassurance of your deep care for her, and recognization of each trait of her beauty inside and out. If money is an issue, you can always get a friend who lives there to pick out flowers of your choice, even from gardens and you can handwrite the notes, (or pieces of the letter, along with the real copy) and tell your friend which notes to put on which flower eg: 'a daisy for...'. I feel like I should be leaving the creative things up to you though. So here's just some ideas to get you started: "play your strengths" Is music a strongpoint? Write her a song. Record it. You're not musical, but love music? Really search for songs that have lyrics that relate to how you feel. create a mix and give it to her. Art? create a portrait of her. Or use the letter and make it into a piece of artwork. English? Write the letter with all honesty and creativity. math or science? Figure exact numbers-how far away you are and how long it would take to walk to her house, how many roses it would take lined up to make a line from her to you(I know, super cheesy) but you catch my drift. History? Tell her about true love stories throughout history. Foreign Language? Record yourself reading the letter in whatever language you speak, and give her the letter in that language, along with a translating website that will give her the exact translation, or a copy of the letter in english that has a creative way for her to get to it, eg: ask a friend who lives there to hide it somewhere, after you create a sort of scavenger hunt for her to find it. (Or, just simply give her the English copy). None of these? Tell me what your strengths are. Then, play her strengths/loves. Same idea. If you still need ideas, tell me. I think I've written way too much. haha, sorry. The most important thing is still the letter or tape or video, just however it is you choose to express your feelings to her. That will mean the most to her. i hope this helps, and isn't too unbearably long.
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Wow flying up there is acctually pretty big try and so somethining nice maybe get a video camera and tell her what you feel on it then send it to her im sure she wuold love that.
Conor
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i think instead of an email or a letter, you should videotape yourself apologising to her and telling her how you feel. then send it to her along with things that you know she likes( like a stuffed animal or something of the sort) then a note that says email or call me after you see this.
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I'm a girl but i will try and help u ok
i would (if i was a guy) i would give her some roses with a card that says im sorry and i would go and see her every chance i got to hope i helped
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Dear HTSIS,
Your name is the title of your subject. It sounds like your not trying to win her heart back which is a good thing, because I doubt she will. Not to sound so cruel, but your the one that did this to her. If she wants to be friends with you then I think she will accept an apology from you. You can fly there, if you want to, and have the money. But, maybe either calling her, even though you have talked to her on the phone, just call her up and tell her how sorry you are and whatever you want to say. Or you can send her a long forgiving e-mail, and talk about all the GOOD times you had with her and then tell her how soryr you are. Or you can send her some flowers and a teddy bear (or whatever kind of animal she likes) and tell her your sorry on the card. Those are just some idea's. I'd go for the flowers and animal idea best. I wouldn't give her candy because it may seem like your wanted her back for a girl friend more than a friend.
Hope that helps! Tell me the results as soon as you get the results.
~miSSc~
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I think you need to like save up your money and make it real fast so that you can just go down there for a few days! And if you cant... Then send her flowers! And a card that tells her everything i'm sure she'll really enjoy something sweet from you! Good luck
-holly-
hope i helped
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Well if your willing to do whatever it takes then fly over there. Go to her house dressed in a tux with roses and sing outside her window one of those "I'm sorry... I love you" songs. She will think you are so crazy and pathetic she will just have to accept your apology.
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well i know you cant do anything about what you did, but if you meet an awesome girl, dont screw it up. girls rele get self contiuos when boys cheat on them. they wonder whats wrong with them that made you cheat. if you love her, dont go to other girls! well send her an ecard or flowers or somethign to show her your sorry try writting her a poem or something or your own to show her how very special she is to you.
hope it helps
~TiNa~
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I think you should fly up there. Right before you do, tell her you have a surprise for her but dont tell her what it is. keep her guessing, and then show up to see her the next day when she doesnt know!!!! then tell her you came all that way to apologize for all the things youve done, and you wanna start over again.
<3 Amber
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WELL IF ALL YOU CAN DO IS WRITE EMAILS RIGHT NOW THEN DO YOUR BEST TO DESCRIBE TO HER HOW YOU FEEL THROUGH THEM! IF YOU EVER DO GET TO SEE HER...SIT HER DOWN ALONE AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL....ITS MUCH BETTER IN PERSON...BUT ANYTHING WILL HELP!GOOD LUCK AND KEEP ME POSTED!
J.J.
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Maybe send her flowers, or chocolates, teddy bear,etc along with a letter maybe
Any girl would love that. Something that comes from your heart is best.
Two years sounds like a long time..who knows what can happen inbetween that.
Hope it works out
-Melissa-
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