Member Since: July 21, 2006
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Last Update: July 21, 2006
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This summer while in Canada I met a really awesome girl, however I really really really..... screwed up our relationship. I cheated on her once, guilted her into a lot of things I shouldn't have, and I lied to her so many times. It was just in the last week that I was with her that I started to straighten my act up and realize how wonderful she was. I want to say sorry so bad, but I live 1600 miles away from her and don't have a planned visit there for 2 more years, also I want to do something bigger than just write her an email and hope for the best. We are kind of friends now, we talk every now and then online, but I still feel like this is still keeping us apart. If anyone has any ideas on how to say sorry for being this horrible I'd love to hear from you. Also, flying up there just to say sorry isn't out of the picture, its about $700. I really need something big that says I'm sorry and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to have you trust me again. (link)
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Does she know about the cheating? Are you two still together? When you say you're kind of friends, that's good, friendship is the best first step, even if its on the way to more. Honesty is the best policy. I wish there was some way to just take things back (I'm good friends with feeling guilty, esp right now). But the fact that you are so sincere and so sorry speaks volumes about this girl and your care for her. You always have the option of ordering flowers from the local florist in her town, flowers always warm a girl's heart. I know that a letter seems "not enough," but I think that writing it, being specific and sincere and open with her in a letter will be beautiful because of its genuine value. Tell her that you've changed (since it seems like you have) and how serious you are about doing it right this time. Say it straight from the heart. It says so much to a girl when a guy puts himself out on the line, no one forced him there. The letter is probably the most important thing in repairing you relationship. As for the "big" I'm sorry. Do you know what her favorite flower is? If you don't that's alright too. You can ask her, but it might subtract a little bit of the surprise. If you don't mind spending a bigger bit of money, you can always order a LOT of flowers, and ask the florist to put individual notes on each one, each expressing an apology, a reassurance of your deep care for her, and recognization of each trait of her beauty inside and out. If money is an issue, you can always get a friend who lives there to pick out flowers of your choice, even from gardens and you can handwrite the notes, (or pieces of the letter, along with the real copy) and tell your friend which notes to put on which flower eg: 'a daisy for...'. I feel like I should be leaving the creative things up to you though. So here's just some ideas to get you started: "play your strengths" Is music a strongpoint? Write her a song. Record it. You're not musical, but love music? Really search for songs that have lyrics that relate to how you feel. create a mix and give it to her. Art? create a portrait of her. Or use the letter and make it into a piece of artwork. English? Write the letter with all honesty and creativity. math or science? Figure exact numbers-how far away you are and how long it would take to walk to her house, how many roses it would take lined up to make a line from her to you(I know, super cheesy) but you catch my drift. History? Tell her about true love stories throughout history. Foreign Language? Record yourself reading the letter in whatever language you speak, and give her the letter in that language, along with a translating website that will give her the exact translation, or a copy of the letter in english that has a creative way for her to get to it, eg: ask a friend who lives there to hide it somewhere, after you create a sort of scavenger hunt for her to find it. (Or, just simply give her the English copy). None of these? Tell me what your strengths are. Then, play her strengths/loves. Same idea. If you still need ideas, tell me. I think I've written way too much. haha, sorry. The most important thing is still the letter or tape or video, just however it is you choose to express your feelings to her. That will mean the most to her. i hope this helps, and isn't too unbearably long.
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