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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

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when you are answering a question...how do you take like that part of google where its not a link, but you can actually type in your search...and it says

google___________________search

thanks!

Type

[ search ]amphibians[ /search ]

only don't put the spaces.

okay so to get one thing staright
I DO NOT HAVE HERPIES
but i've recently been having these bumps on my face
like around my mouth and lip
it's not like i've never broken out before
but never like this
and usually i can get rid of them pretty fast
but these are taking longer to get rid of them
i don't know what's wrong??
are they like normal bumps/blackheads??
and there not like i can pop them so i'm guessing there like white/blackheads

Seea doctor/dermatologist to be reassured that it's not a disease (or to have it looked at). But it may just be a reaction. I've heard of (and experienced) people breaking out when they switch toothpastes. So it might be something simple like that.

I am 14/f and i really want some pretty bras and underwear. the pretty fancy kind. mine r just regular and plain. my friends all have pretty ones too and i would just be really happy if i could have some. i also have a boyfriend tho and i dont want them for him-im not taking him anywhere right now haha so i dont want my mom getting the wrong idea plus i just dont know how in the world to tell her. and i want ones like from Victoria's Secret but my mom might think it innapropriate and uneccesary for a 14 yr old girl to shop there. Anywhere else i could go? Sometimes i get cute ones from Kohl's but most of the time my mom gets some for me. I need a bigger cup anyway tho so we are probably going to go buy some. i just need to know what to say. thanx so much :]

"Hey Mom, I want to get some cute underwear next time we go shopping"

Seriously, it's not as hard as it might sound. There's nothing wrong with wanting to wear something cute under your clothes, regardless of age/relationship status/what you've worn before. Still get some regular underwear though.. certain times of the month you may not want to wear your best pair. If you get what I mean.

And yes, Kohl's has lots of cute stuff, especially the new-ish Candie's line. Also try Delia's, american eagle, and Victoria's Secret. If you're concerned about what your mom might think/say, go in there with the goal of trying out a perfume, and then look at underwear and such. Plus, if you have the need for a convertible bra, or a really discreet one for a certain shirt, Victoria's Secret is the best place to go. All are very convincing arguments. If all else fails, buy what you want when you're shopping with friends.

-LM
[16/f]

My parents have been together for 25 year this year and i just wanted to do something for them.They aren't married just been together since about the end of highschool year 10 or 11.I was thinking of like a slide show of their life together.Wat else could i do??
Thanx

- Clean the entire house
- Give them a gift certificate to a nice but not overly expensive restaurant that they like (Outback, for example, as opposed to an uber-expensive french place)
- Give them a "certificate" redeemable for one night or weekend in which you stay at a friends house and leave them completely to themselves. If you have siblings, offer to babysit them for free for a day while they go out and have a day together.
- Make a photo collage of old photos (make photocopies!) and put it in a nice frame (or just use a piece of foam board and cover the whole thing). This would be a lot more... I can't think of the word... practical? than a computerized one because it would be much easier to display.

-LM
[16/f]

you know that clean and clear advantage thing
the one where you stick on your face and it gets rid of all bumps/marks on your face in just one day
does it really work??
and if does, does it work really good for a certain skin type??
and if your not sure about clean and clear, do you know any products that get rid of marks from pimples and get rid of blemiches??
heres a pic of it

http://ggfree.us/images/products/200/theCleanClearAdvantageAcneControlKit.jpg

I use the spot treatment religiously. I absolutely love it and I'm fairly certain it also helps with scarring.

I find the wash to have a disgusting consistency & it leaves a weird-feeling residue on my skin. Neutrogena Oil-Free Acne Wash is cheaper and better.

Also see my answer here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=510619

-LM
[16/f]

so im goin out with this pretty kool kid named mike, and he is really funny and super cute. But my X-boyfriend still has feeling for me, and i think i still like him.

what should i do?

He's your ex for a reason, right?
You're with Mike, and you obviously like him.
So I'd not do anything. Stay friends with your ex if you want to (there's no reason why you have to break up and become enemies).

-LM
[16/f]

for winterball coming up is at 7 pm.
my mom made my hair appointment for 2.
she claims it was the only spot open, but i don't even like the place she made it at. so thats really gay and i asked her to switch it, but idk.
anyway.
this is the look that i'm going for :

http://www.tigerbeatmag.com/dailydish/wp-content/uploads/2007/04/ashley-up.jpg

do you think it will last that long? the dance goes till 11

Probably. Just don't do anything too intense after you get your hair done; i.e.- running a marathon = nope. Sitting @ computer, doing makeup, taking pictures with friends = yes.

The style you want is basically loose waves, so it's not like it has teeny intricate curls placed in exact positions that'll fall out if you don't move your head like an owl all night.

Tell the people at the salon that your dance is at seven & it has to last that long. Stylists usually know what they're doing & have industrial-strength hairspray. =)

Have fun at your dance!
-LM
[16/f]

My hair is always staticy. It never fails. Everyday I put lotion in it and it stays down for about 5 mins. Then it pops back in to static-mode. I hate it so bad. Is there anything I can do about this besides putting excess lotion and hairspray in my hair?

Use a smoothing shampoo and conditioner, and use less hairspray. Overdoing it can make static worse. Also, I've heard that rubbing a used dryer sheet over your hair can reduce static. Try it =)

good luck!
-LM
[16/f]

do bath salts make your skin soft (for the entire body so putting on lotion is out of the question unless its sold in large quantities)? if not, what will? drinking lots of water?

is olay quench body lotion any good?
http://futurederm.files.wordpress.com/2007/10/103007-olay-quench.jpg

If you soak too long, the salt can dry out your skin, but for awhile it will help & make you skin smoother. Why not use lotion whever your skin is dry? You can buy inexpensive lotions at Target and such that are really nice, like Vaseline Intensive Care. I use this all the time & carry it in my bag for hand lotion. I haven't used Olay Quench, but their products are good so if you like the smell & aren't allergic to any ingredients it's worth a try. Bath&Body Works also makes wicked amazing lotions, but you'll pay more for them.

Drinking water is a good idea anyways, but it can make skin look and feel healthier if you haven't been drinking enough.

-LM
[16/f]

i've been dating this guy for a few months and he hasn't said "i love you" to me....when do you think he will? :/

17/f

He'll say it when he means it.

Seriously. If he's waiting until he truly knows how he feels about you you'll know it's for real. Isn't that so much better?

does anyone know how much it costs per minute that you go over youre plan. for example if my plan lets me have 700 minutes and i use 900, how much is it per minute that i used over my plan? please help! thankss

Depending on the exact plan, it'll be either 40 or 45 cents per minute. =/

The overage charges are on the monthly bill & also avaiable online, so you can figure out what you have in store for you at the end of the month.

-LM
[16/f]

how can you tell if someone is a bad kisser?
how can you tell if yourself is a bad kisser?

without people telling you i mean.

thanks!

Well, when you're kissing the person you can tell if you like how they kiss.
You can't just look at a person and be like, "Oh they have blue eyes so they're a good kisser". Doesn't work like that.

It really depends on what you (or other people) like. Some people enjoy long, romantic kisses, short and spontaneous, etc. Or both. Everyone's different.

-LM
[16/f]

this will sound stupid....but is this a PJ shirt or a regular shirt?
haha thanks.xxoo

Regular shirt, I beleive.
But I sleep in regular clothes, and wear my pajamas to school. So it doesn't really matter, pajama shirts are usually just a softer material.

lol i'm really sorry for asking this..16/f..i have a bf and he wants to kiss me..ive never been kissed..

is it like all slobbery and stuff?
just a pop kiss..maybe longer

Nope, it's completely and totally awesome.
Just enjoy it! =)

what size barrel is needed for hair like this?

http://dlisted.com/files/images/wenn1715063.preview.jpg

I'd say 1-1/4".
And then comb through your hair with your fingers to loosen the curls a litle.
Just don't dye it that color.... ew.

=LM
[16/f]

where can I get the cheapest party supplies? (cups,plates,decorations,ect.)

Go to a dollar store, wal-mart, target.
If you're having a HUGE party (or at least bigger than your average birthday party) a store like BJ's or Sam's could actually be a better deal. You can get packs of a couple hundred plates & cups at a time. To save money on the membership, find someone who already has one & go shopping with them. Otherwise you have to get a shopping pass, and pay an extra 10%.

Also, try www.orientaltrading.com for decorations & such.

Good luck!
-LM
[16/f]

Its the 2nd year I'm with my guy... I love him alot....
we've been through alot of problems through the last year.. but we love eachother alot and want to go on....

for this valentines i thought of burning some CD's full of love and romance movies along with some other presents...
I need help

please can you give me names of beautiful meaningful movies biased on love and romance???

in addition to that
something like a perfect guy movie would be great too..
also a movie that shows how two people realize they cant live without eachother would be great too

Please please help me..

I need names of many movies as possible biased on love and romance...

Fever Pitch would probably be a good choice. It's a cute story & unless he's a Yankee fan, he'll really appreciate it because there's sports stuff. Also, City of Angels, Must Love Dogs, A Walk to Remember, 50 First Dates (good for 'can't live without' because Lucy really relies on other people), and there's a lot more but I can't think of them at the moment =/

All these sites are blocked on the computer I'm using, but this search seems like it would help you out significantly =)

There's top 100, top 50 lists and such. With reviews.

Oh and don't go overboard on the love things. Get him something guy-ish, too. And edible. Guys love food =)

good luck! =)
-LM
[16/f]

okay so not so long ago i had,lets just say an accident with sissors.

i have extentions but there coming loose.

plus i really want a new hair style.

my hair is still kinda short

but its grown alot

its layered so different lengths

id day its maybe longest is a little past my chin or brushing it.

anyone know where i could find cute hairstyles?

Also look at magazines & such. There's entire magazines devoted to hairstyles of all types. Look for one called "999 New Hairstyles for 2008" or something to that extent. Good luck!

whats an online relationship?
like i know its a relationship online, but what consists of it?
Like do you meet the person online?
What goes on?

I've always considered an online relationship to be with a person that you've never met. If you meet someone in real life, but your primary form of communication is through the internet because of where you live, that would be a long-distance relationship (if you're boyfriend/girlfriend) or, if it's just a friendship, I guess you coulc consider it an online relationship anyways. Definitions will vary depending on who you ask, but if someone says "we have an online relationship" you can almost guarantee that they barely, if ever, see each other physically.

Hope that helped!
-LM
[16/f]

breaking benjamin - blow me away.

i wanna download it really badly. any site where i could download it? i've looked on walmart.com and on this other downloading site, but i still cannot find it, like, at all.

HELP

iTunes has it. I believe that it's on the Halo 2 Soundtrack, though. Try looking up by artist instead of title (because it's called something completely differnt sometimes when referring to the game)

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