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So lately I have been having problems liking girls. I start to like them and like them for a month or so then my feelings fade away and get annoyed by them or get really picky of what they do.
I dated this girl for 11 months and she cheated on me and treated me like shit, about a month later or so I found a new girl and I liked her alot then as I said my feelings just disappear and I get annoyed.
This summer I found a good girl who genuinely liked me for me. I liked her a lot for about 2 months then one day was just sick of her and no feelings for her.
Why is this happening and how do I make it stop? It use to never happen to me. I was usually pretty spot on when I liked a girl.
Any help is appreciated! Thanks :) (link)
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Do you think all this happened because you were cheated on?
If so, then you probably have some unresolved issues and maybe you're afraid of it happening again. You know that if you don't get past this, you might pass up a nice girl who might be perfect for you.
Are you still in school? Maybe try talking to a counselor. It's good to get it out and then see what they can do to help you.
I think you should just take a break from looking for girls or talking to them as more than friends. You'll have more time on yourself and figuring out what's going on.
Even if you start having feelings for another girl. If you stay at the friends stage, you might like them longer and get to know them better before you guys jump into the liking each other stage. Then maybe you won't be annoyed or lose feelings.
Or maybe none of these girls are right for you. Maybe there are some things that you just don't like in them that are deal breakers and made you lose feelings.
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So ive always felt that the reasons we're here or the best way to spend your time and feel good is to help others. And ive bee trying and trying to do this, but idk what to do. I joined this website in the beginning of the year cause i was always really upset and i thought a good way to feel better was to help people and i love giving advice so i tried this and it was okay. And then i helped my friend with something, but i cant really help her anymore and i just i dont know. I dont have a lot of money so i cant really donate and one day if i have money i will but i dont want to just throw money at people. I like interacting and talking to people but i feel like i havent been through enough to really connect with people about a lot of things and really help them with anything. I dont know maybe i can make people laugh, and one day i want to write books but i dont know how much that can do and i dont know how much my books will really help anyone. I dont know i want to this cause i like making other people feel good, it makes me feel good and not like a total piece of shit who's just wasting their time with other shit and yeah. Please help me with what i can do. Btw im 16/f (link)
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The first thing I'll suggest is volunteering. There are tons of places that you can volunteer at. You'll have to look into what places are nearby.
Homeless Shelters-You'll have to look online for some places near you but you might be able to help feed the homeless or give them clothes.
Pet Shelters-Most of them have a volunteer program. They might have you clean up or walk the dogs.
After School Programs-Where I'm from, I notice a lot of places are looking for people to tutor young children.
Reading to children at hospitals or libraries.
Visiting a convalescent home-A lot of the elderly don't have family who visit so it's nice for them to have a young person to talk to. I used to go sing with a group of girls with my church and they all loved it.
Hospital volunteers-Some hospitals have volunteer programs to help patients. It's good work experience if you want to get into the medical field.
Those are just some ideas. There are tons more.
Other than that, be a good friend, help around the house, and be there for people.
Those are some good places to start.
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thanks for ur advice .. I know u r ri8. but i love him so much really. he is a nice guy and not so religious but he don't like that his wife is not a virgin.After knowing my past he started behave like this. all the time he teasing me about my past and tell that i deceived him ,used him.i tell him all the matter of past and how much i suffer mentally and physically but he doesn't have any care foe this. his only question is why i told him lie ! i lied because i think he don't accept me and leave me alone.so i hided it. i know i hurt him.but i ll try my best to improve our relation but he don't give me the chance and tell me that if i leave my study and marry him and being loyal with him. then he again love me if i proven to be a good wife to him.i feel very lost. he is 34years old m 20years. he behave like a child !!i told him that i love him truly n deeply. but he has no faith on me. he thinks that m telling lie to him. i m so confused and feel very bad.I tell him everything that how much i suffer in past.but he don't believe me. and say that i used him and play with his emotion. i say sorry to him about 100times in last month, also cried before him. but he has no care for me. (link)
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He should not tease you about your past or use any of it against you. You lied, you said you were sorry, it's his turn to forgive you. He's over doing it by demanding you to leave your study. He is in the wrong right now.
He doesn't have the unconditional love that everyone needs. His love is conditional so that if you make another mistake, he won't love you anymore. You don't want to marry someone like that.
I know you love him. But love isn't enough to stay with someone, especially someone who doesn't truly love you.
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Alright so I known this boy since 6th grade. I told him I liked him in 8th grade and also in 9th grade. We're in 10th grade now.. And we would seriously call each other every night. Text, facetime, snapchat, you name it. But these past few weeks have been different. I think it's because we just started school again & he may possibly like another girl. Him and I have study hall together & my friend, Sierra, joins our little group. They've got close. His wallpaper on his phone is Sierra. He wrote her a note and called her 'babe'. But I know they aren't dating. And the word going around is that he might ask her to formal? Well I've confronted Sierra. She said it was true. I was heartbroken. It's the fact that I wasn't even thought of. He knows how I feel about him & all of a sudden he ignores me. I don't know if she will say yes or not. But Sierra knows that I like him. I come to school everyday and tell her what he and I have been through. I could never look at them the same. But my question is..what should I do? I'm pretty sure that Sierra doesn't like him. But I have a feeling that he likes her. Should I not talk to him until he talks to me?
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I have never had a relationship before so I wanna be smart about this (link)
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It's good that you want to be smart about this. A lot of girls get dramatic and forbid their friends from dating their crushes because they still like them and don't know how to move on.
It does sound like he likes Sierra. I mean no guy just has a girl on his wallpaper, call her babe and ask her to formal if he doesn't like her.
Guys will stop talking to other girls when they like someone else. It sucks, but at least you know when someone has lost interest in you.
If she likes him, she's definitely not going to tell you she does. So I don't think you should hold it against her if she does like him. I know a lot of people get so upset if their friend starts dating their crush. But you really have to choose whether you want them as a friend or not and not let a guy get in the way of that.
You shouldn't keep telling her what you and this guy have been through. She simply might not date him just because she feels bad for you. And that's nothing something you want.
So yeah, don't talk to him and move on.
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Ok I'm 18 and my bf is 20 we've been together for a year now he decided to go down on me and I like it but I don't feel good about it after. I don't really know how to explain how I feel but when he goes down it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong but he always says he feels good about it idk what to do it seems like he gets more pleasure off of this then I do and I like it when he does but I don't know something in me tells me its wrong I don't know why is it because I don't love enough or if I'm selfish I don't really know. I also feel like I hold back all those pleasure/sexual feelings in me I really don't know why either whats wrong with me? (link)
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Well there is nothing wrong with oral sex.
I've also felt the way you have before too. I always felt gross or wrong after I had oral sex.
I really think it's because of society. It's not uncommon to feel that way. I mean growing up you'll hear so much about why sex is wrong. It does get in your head and you can't enjoy it when you're actually old enough to be smart about it.
There is nothing wrong with you. I just think you need more time to learn about what you want, what you think is ok, ect.
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soo is it possible to give my bofriend a boner while he's hugging me from behind since my butt is touching his thing .. i dont know if he had a boner but i think kind of feltt it not sure because my butt was really close weel it was actually touching his penis already this was at school we had clothes on of course !!... but yeah is it possible or else how can i give him one while hes hugging me from behind..? (link)
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I'm assuming you're in high school. Guys can simply get hard just by words, or even just randomly when they aren't horny or thinking of anything sexually.
Why would you want to give him one when you guys are at school? I definitely don't advise that. It's inconvenient for him and it's not like you're going to pleasure him or something so don't try to give him a boner when you guys are at school.
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I first met this girl, she was nice, we liked each other.I proposed her and she agreed ,she tells me that she loves me so much and is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. after years i found that she lied to me about her past that she don't had any relationship in past and a virgin. but after i found the truth she ultimately tell the whole truth that she had a relationship with a guy who was tortured her mentally and physically and abused her.and she is not a virgin. i feel very bad , angry with her why she lied to me.she tell me that she was afraid that i after knowing her past i leave her,so she hide it from me. but now i can't trust her. i don't like it that my would be wife is not a virgin. i think she used me. but now she say sorry to me, wants to be with me.and wants to marry me. I LOVE HER ,but i feel very bad.and can't trust her.i feel that she is lying to me. but she is nice girl,very intelligent and very bright student,and not demanding. I don't know what to do, is there any one that will talk to me? Any advice appreciated thank you. (link)
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I can understand how this is hard for you. Being lied to is always hard to handle. It might have been wrong of her to lie to you. No one in this world is perfect. The thing is, you have to look past this and look at "Why did she lie to me about this?"
Women who have been abused don't want people to know about it. It scares them and it makes it hard for them to trust other men. The fact that she has been with you and has had consensual sex with you, means that she trusts you and decided that she can trust you with that awful burden she's been carrying.
It is wrong of you to judge her for this. She didn't choose that to happen to her. Women don't want to be tortured or abused. They want to forget about that and they don't want that to affect their future relationships.
I don't see how she used you. A woman with a past like hers, why would she use you? She had sex with you because she loves you and trusts you. You're overreacting a bit with that.
If you can't understand the torture and pain she went through and not at least try to feel some sympathy for her, she needs to be with a man who won't judge her for this.
Just because someone lies about one thing about their hurtful past, doesn't mean they are lying about everything.
If you can't learn to trust her, you need to let her go. She doesn't deserve any more pain from a man.
You need to forgive her for lying, help her heal from her past, and be a good man to her. If you don't trust her, she needs to find someone else.
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So I have a boyfriend I've been dating for 5 months and my parents have met him but they don't know we're dating and they think where just friends and I'm not sure if I'm even aloud to date but this boy means the world to me and I only get to see him once a week at church and every time I do I have to be sneaky.......and I want to see him more and not have to be sneaky.....and my parents are super overprotective and strict...I'm 14 years old...........so how do I tell my parents that I'm dating him?
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When I was 14, I was dating a guy and my parents weren't ok with me dating at such a young age.
They haven't talked to you about dating yet. So I wouldn't suggest saying that you've been dating him for 5 months.
I think you should talk to them, and tell them that you like him and you want to go on a date with him or have him over for dinner or something.
A lot of parents aren't ok with their kids dating at 14. I mean it is young, but it might be hard to change their mind especially if they're very strict.
So talk to them, see what they say, and if they're ok with you getting to know him slowly instead of jumping into a relationship, then there you go. I'm pretty sure they'll be a little surprised if they find out you've been in a relationship with him.
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Would it be bad if i write a letter and give it to a teacher to give to a student that tells them how i feel? (link)
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So you're asking if you should write a letter telling another student how you feel about them?
I think that's fine. I just don't think giving it to the teacher to give to them is a good idea.
They might find it a little weird. Telling someone how you feel is very scary but it's best to just get the courage and hand them the note.
It's best to do it when they're not with their friends either.
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Hi,
I'm a thirteen-year-old girl, and I hate my life for several reasons. I'm going to focus on just one reason right now so you don't have to read a super long question. This question is already long enough as it is with only one reason why I want to die.
One thing I should say is that I like girls. I just don't see guys in that way. I have a girlfriend too. She is my only reason to keep living right now.
Then another girl tricked me into cheating on my girlfriend. She lied to me to get me to do it. The fact is, I didn't even know what cheating was until this happened. After educating myself a little bit on what is and isn't acceptable, I realized what she had gotten me to do. Now I hate myself even more than I did before this happened.
I told the girl that I do not want to be a disloyal person. She told me again that what we were doing was not cheating, and I explained why it was actually cheating and why I didn't want to do it. She got all angry at me about it, and then she said that I had to tell my girlfriend.
But I talked to my mom about it, and she said that I shouldn't tell my girlfriend. She said I had already learned my lesson about cheating and realized that I had been lured into it. And she said that I would only hurt my girlfriend if I told her. So I decided that I would rather listen to my mom than the other girl.
After that, however, the other girl said that if I didn't tell my girlfriend, she would. This really stressed me out. My mom thinks I shouldn't tell my girlfriend, but if I don't, the other girl might tell her.
I can't believe how stupid I am. I don't have any common sense. I just want to die. I hate so many people right now -- especially myself. Besides, my girlfriend is my only reason to live anymore, and who knows what I would do if she broke up with me?
One thing I should add is that I have made plans before (you know, plans to kill myself), but they were ruined every time. And I have struggled on and off with cutting for a while now. If that helps anything.
P.S. I'm sorry for the length. And sorry that this didn't make any sense. (link)
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It's good that you know now what you did. But you honestly shouldn't be in a relationship when you don't know what cheating is.
Anyways, why are you still talking to this other girl? She should be out of the picture. You cheated with her, now she wants revenge because you're not doing what you were doing with her, you're letting her manipulate you.
Cut this girl out of your life.
It's completely up to you to tell your girlfriend about this. Most people can't live with the guilt and then it comes out later and hurts even worse. Just keep that in mind.
But seriously, you're 13. You're only reason to live should not be your girlfriend. That's extremely unhealthy. When I hear people say that their significant other is their only reason to live, I'm extremely disappointed.
So, my advice would be to not be in this relationship. It's not good for you right now. You need to talk to your mom to get some help with your suicidal thoughts and cutting.
When you're in a relationship, you need to know what cheating is.
Also, what if you this never happened, but her feelings had changed and she didn't want the relationship? You can't just end your life because of that.
You need to get your life on track first. You need to get help. Make sure a girl isn't the only reason you're living and then you can be in a healthy relationship.
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I am a 14 year old "girl." First off, I'd like to tell u I'm very mature for my age and I attract people from left to rite. Also i do NOT like being the center of attention. My mom, little sister and I were at my mothers friends' house and she had a little son. He was about 3 and he kept chasing me, wanting me to hold him and of course I did..I didn't want to hurt his feelings anyways but every time he sees me he whines and wants me to hold him. My parents are divorced, I don't like admitting that btw but every weekend I come back home from my fathers(which is very early in the morning) my sister will always get out of bed and start kissing me, hugging me and my mother tells me I'm all she talks about when I'm out of her sight. The same with my two little cousins. Whenever they see me they are all over me, they keep hugging me, wanting me to play games with them, encouraging me to. They always invite me to come over to their house. Also my pastors wife told me one night that she felt in her heart that I am very important to God and I need to read Jeremiah 29:11 and put my name in that verse. My loved ones have even said they have always felt God has something really special for me. Another thing, I am creativingly inclined(so they say) I play guitar, saxophone, clarinet. I also enjoy singing, dancing, sports, photography and making things. I am also very modest, self conscious, and sweet.. I've also always felt like Earth isn't where I belong and I'm from somewhere else...and no matter how much I love or work hard in a relationship I'll never be good enough.. One more thing.. Satan has tried discouraging me soo many times but I've always defeated him with verses from the bible.. I am very close to God btw and I am on a Praise and Worship Team at my church. Sorry for the lengthy description but Thank u in advance(: (link)
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This is hard for me to answer since I don't believe in reincarnation. But, if you do, then who knows? Maybe you are. I think you'd have to look more into it.
In my opinion, you're just a very lucky and blessed girl who is happy with her life and the relationships you have with people are very good.
Although I know people who have close relationships with other kids and always invite them over as well, have many talents and a good walk with God. So I think you're one of the blessed people in this world.
It's good that you have a good walk with God and good relationships.
The main religion that believes in reincarnation is Hinduism. It sounds like you're a part of Christianity though. So I guess you're looking into your religious beliefs as well.
If you believe in reincarnation, you should speak to someone who also believes and they can help you out.
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So if you had sex with someone who wasn't totally a stranger (like a one night stand)but then left once the 'deed was done' and did not stay the full night and go to sleep, what would the other person (still in bed) be thinking? Or is this a fairly common occurrence? (link)
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It's just what a one night stand is.
Most don't stay the night or cuddle or anything. That's usually for people who know each other well or are in a relationship or who just plainly feel comfortable with it.
I think the person in bed who just expect it if it was just a one night stand.
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My boyfriend and I had sex a while ago and we didn't use a condom but he didn't cum in me and his dick was only in me for about 5 seconds. I think he popped my cherry cause I bled a little bit. I'm 2 days late on my period and I'm starting to really worry. Am I pregnant??:( (link)
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Yeah, there is always a chance to get pregnant when you don't have protected sex.
Precum does have sperm in it, which can get you pregnant.
Although stress and many other factors can add to why your period is late. So if you keep stressing, you won't know. You might want to get a pregnancy test and follow those directions.
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Hey guys.. I'm super excited because my one year anniversary with my boyfriend is coming up this Saturday. Problem is I don't know what to give him because he is doing well financially and he can basically afford anything he wants.
I only came up with this- puting my favorite picture of us(from a studio photo shoot)into a nice frame.
Or..buying lingerie,candles and wine and having mind blowing sex :-)
HELP. (link)
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My two year anniversary with my boyfriend is on Saturday too! :)
Anyways, anniversaries are to celebrate the two of you. So definitely give him something that revolves around both of you.
Last year I got him a nice picture frame and put a picture of us in it and gave it to him.
He will obviously really love the lingerie, candles, wine and sex though. You can never go wrong with that.
For valentines day I got him a little gift basket and put a bunch of stuff in it. Like little travel sized things you find in the store, I also made him a card, and I made him heart shaped cake pops and heart shaped brownies.
Guys love food so..
Or get him tickets to somewhere you both can go together. Sports games, concert, movies, ect.
You can write him a letter, or reasons why I love you. It's cheesy but it's cute.
Then of course you can take him out to eat or something. As long as you think he won't try to pay for you or he's not planning that. If not, a picnic is always nice and sweet.
Pretty much anything that involves both of you.
Good luck!
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i am a 16 year old female. Im going to be honest and just sate that im a teenager, im bored, im really shy and spend alot of time alone. Im not the best at socializing so being alone just seems more comfortable for my personal persona. Now that i have that out of the way heres what happened. I have an ipad, and i downloaded an app. The app is a video chat room, the kind where you meet random strangers. Yes it sounds bad, but its just seeing your face. Id never even give out my full name let alone personal info. There was no reason for me to just not go on this because ive heard its bad even though i was seeing first hand its fine and its honestly really fun, plus i wasnt participating in dangerous activities.. Im sorry, but its true. well i never gave my mother any reason to be suspicious of me and i had no reason to think someone would snoop through my personal stuff. Occasionally i would take screen shots just for whatever reason, or leave the app logged on because i didnt assume my mom would be reading it. I mean, if ny mon read everything, every text, listened to every conversation i had, id probably never be allowed to leave my room from all her paranoia over innocent things.well when i was sleeping my mom decided to go through my entire ipad. She read all the conersations, sometimes sexually explicit. She saw every photo i had that was only for me and my eyes obly to see. If nobody was to see them, tere would never be a problem. Since my mom saw these things its like my entire life, and the universe around me seems to have blown up. What makes this SUCH a bug deal is how my whole life my biggest fear is my mother to think of me as anything but an innocent angel. I just cant live with her thinking of me poorly. Because i try so hard to maitain this perception the downfall of all this, which is basically my whole lfe because as i said i really dont have much else in my life like friends or other things to keep me going. I would never want anyone to see these things, they are personal and harnless untill of coarse seen by someone else, which they shouldnt have been. My mom is probably disgusted with me, who i am, and the perception shes had for 16 years that just now is ripped apart, and its too late to ever change it. The fact she saw this probably makes her mad at me. its her fault for looking. She had no reason to. I hate myself, my life, and i dont know how to feel about her. Im un so much pain. I cant leave my room to even eat. I wouldnt ever want to "talk" about this with her because the dynamic of our relationship has always been that everything is very taboo, even mentioning this would make me look all types of disgusting. she has mentioned it non stop. She wants me to delete everything which i will but the thought that she even is aware of things she doesnt approve of makes me want to vomit. I feel sick. I blame myself but i cant see any way to solve this. I cant say i wouldnt have done this beause it remains harmless if it was not brought to her attention. I took those pictures out of boredom, yes they were innapropriate but what harm does it do if no one sees them. She invaded my privacy. I understand shes my mother and what she was doing. But i went from being a girl who she probably thought never even knew any of this type of stff to looking like a perverted whore. I just cant deal with this. Its too much. Way too much. Im so lost and i feel sick to my stomach. and all that and my mom still has this knowledge in her head now. I just....i want to die. This problem is bigger than my entire life. My life was so simple and i had one value and that was to not let anything even close to this ever reach my mothers knowledge. Of coarse i would do the exact opposite of what she thought of me to be previously because im a kid and thats what people do. I valued my mother judgement enough to spare her of this, but she took it upon herself and read right into my personal life. The fact that she continued to rea and look bothers me...why didnt she stop. Why does she act so disgusted and make me feel horrible when she didnt have to continue to look.... I just really dont know what to do. What do i make of this situataion.... (link)
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This is what moms do. They do it even if they have no reason to do it. You don't have privacy when you live under someones roof. They pay for pretty much everything and since you are her child, you don't have any right to privacy, even if it would be nice to have.
So you took some inappropriate pictures on your ipad. Your mom will still love you because she is your mom and I'm sure she doesn't think your are %100 perfect. No one is. You will hurt her, she will hurt you. Everyone is human and we all make mistakes and learn from them.
This will not ruin your life. You're just hurt because the image you had set for your mom is shattered and you think she looks at you like you're disgusting. This will keep bothering you until you talk to her about it.
She didn't stop reading because she's your mother. She wanted to know it all.
Here's an example. When a girl sees messages from her boyfriend to another woman, and clearly in the beginning you can see that he has been cheating, but she goes ahead and reads it all. It's just what people do.
Anyways, you need to talk to her about it. This is hurting your relationship and it will continue to bother you until you finally forgive yourself. This kind of thing doesn't make a mother stop loving their child.
My brother had condom wrappers all over his room, stole things (our money, jewelry, cars, ect), drank, smoke, did drugs, ran away, ect but my mom still loves him nonetheless. She was hurt, but it doesn't make someone stop loving them.
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( Im 16 year old female. I feel like i hurt my mother. If shes disappointed in me and you want to say she'll always love me but i dont care. I dont want love. I feel selfish wanting love from someone who i hurt. I didnt even hurt her, she saw something that wasnt related to her at all and she went through it. Why did she stop is a question i cant bring myself to think about. I get sick to my stomach. I could pass out from the pain ) I want to die. Im sad. Im scared. Im worthless. I have nothing to do. Nothing to give. I cause other people pain just by existing an i dont want to do that. I dont want to hurt people. I stopped doing everythig. Its hard to just get myself to sower. Whats the point. Some of the reason why i honestly didnt cause. I feel like a whole other part is the result of my own doings. Something so small and an invasion of privacy led to my whole life crashing down in seconds. What is left. I dont feel bad for me. I cant. I hate myself too much. This isnt something i can just learn from and move on. Its somethig that was invaded of my personal life, and i hate hurting others. Why was seen hurt somebody. It was never ment to be seen. I cant live with myself. I hate this. I dont deserve to waste more time and space of those around me. This is my punishment i guess. This is my pain inflicted upon me. This is whats happening, it is what it is. I cant change it. Maybe I dont deserve to be able to. I feel like this will never end. I cant die but i want to. somebody please, have mercy on me. (link)
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I'm guessing this is about your mother, although it runs deeper than that.
If your mother is a good mom, she will love you no matter what. Children will hurt their parents eventually, sooner or later, but it's just life. Parents will also hurt their children.
We're all human, none of us are perfect. We will always hurt people even if it's unintentional. We just know how to make things right and to forgive.
You're only 16. You have so much life ahead of you. You can do great things and help people.
You can also use this experience to help people who feel the same way you're feeling.
I think you need to talk to a professional though. Someone who specializes in these kinds of things. See a counselor or therapist. They will help you find a way to deal with your problems and get through the underlying issues you're having.
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I use 14-day contact lenses (Acuvue Oasys) and have a few boxes left for a prescription I was given almost two years ago. I still want to continue using them, it's financially difficult for me to get a new prescription and lenses, so I hope the ones I have will do. My question is, are prescriptions pretty much stable after 2 years? For about how much longer can I use my contacts before I absolutely have to get another prescription? I am 29 years old, so as far as I know, my vision should be stable and I should hopefully be able to use the lenses for a while longer, but I just want to make sure.
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I think it really depends. I go in every year for an eye exam and my prescription always seems to change.
I'm supposed to chance mine every month but I always end up wearing them longer.
I really don't want to give you bad advice or hurt your eyes or anything but this is just my experience. My prescription never changed dramatically though.
You usually know when your vision is way off when you start getting headaches or you're not seeing as well as you used to.
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i just hate this life i want to die i don't understand for what am i living i am a big loser i lost everything in life nothing is left i want to die i don't know what to do (link)
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You're not the only one who feels this way. Many people have gone through what you're going through and have made it out alive.
I'm first going to suggest talking to someone about this. Go to a counselor or therapist and they can help you figure out how to deal with the problems you have and the problems that are to come.
If all else, just go to the hospital and tell them you want to commit suicide and they will help you.
You have to talk to somebody about this. Someone that specializes in dealing with things like this.
We can just point you in the right direction.
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I love my boyfriend vry much,and wants to marry him. we r dating each othr for 2yrs. but i lied to him about my past that i don't had any relationshp in past. actually i had a relatn when i jst 13/14 years old. my x bf was very rude and tortured me a lot mentally and physically ..and aslo sexually. so i ended the relation.after few yrs i met in online with my present boyfriend.and started love him. when he proposed me i said yes to him. but i can't tell him about my past and i also tell him that i am a virgin.i was afraid to lose him bcz he is very orthodox.so i can't tell about my dark past.now he knows everything from a person.and asked me and i told him everything about my life. now he can't trust me,he call me a sl*t,, and he said that
i deceived him and used him.he now wants to break the relationship or IF I WANTED TO BE WITH HIM THEN I HAVE TO DO WHATEVER HE WILL SAY. AND ALSO LEAVE MY STUDY AND MARRY HIM AND BE A GOOD HOUSE WIFE.AND he tell me that this my exam. if i passed then he love me again .but i can't leave my study at this time. so he don't talk with me .I really love him a lot.i can't live without him.what can i do??? plz suggest me .. (link)
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You guys have been together for awhile, you thought you knew him but you didn't.
You should never have to lie to someone you are dating about your past. When you're dating, they should accept you for who you are and all the mistakes you've done.
He is right to be hurt that you lied to him. But he's taking it to the extreme. He should be a bit understanding considering the circumstances of what your ex boyfriend did to you.
A boyfriend should never ever call his girlfriend a slut. That is something that would definitely make me leave a man.
If you stay with him, you will be unhappy. You'll be knowing he truly doesn't love you or accept you. He is using you, being manipulative and controlling. These are not qualities you want in a man.
I believe that you love him, but you shouldn't be with someone who asks unreasonable demands from you. He's now showing love.
When you love someone, you love them with all their faults and mistakes. You don't use the faults against them. So he doesn't truly love you the way you deserve to be loved.
I know you can live without him. You can find someone who deserves your love and doesn't use your past against you. Don't settle for this guy. He's not a supportive, loving boyfriend.
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I bought a promise ring for my boyfriend of two years. He works at a hotel, and I want to give it to him in a very spontaneous way. I was thinking of post-it noting his car while he's working, getting someone to call his work phone and telling them his car was getting towed, and when he comes running out, I was going to jump out from behind the car and telling him I love him and even though I made some mistakes, I want to give him a promise that I want a forever with him when we're older/can afford it.
Does this sound like a good idea? Do you think he'd get in trouble? I was going to do it towards the time he gets off. (link)
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I wouldn't do it..
Like, it's kinda cute in a cheesy way but to make him think his car was being towed, it's not cute.
I like the whole idea with the ring though. I just think you should plan a sentimental moment with him. I wouldn't disrupt his work time or anything. I mean he might not get in trouble, but who knows.
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