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I am stll confused after my last question
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thanks for ur advice .. I know u r ri8. but i love him so much really. he is a nice guy and not so religious but he don't like that his wife is not a virgin.After knowing my past he started behave like this. all the time he teasing me about my past and tell that i deceived him ,used him.i tell him all the matter of past and how much i suffer mentally and physically but he doesn't have any care foe this. his only question is why i told him lie ! i lied because i think he don't accept me and leave me alone.so i hided it. i know i hurt him.but i ll try my best to improve our relation but he don't give me the chance and tell me that if i leave my study and marry him and being loyal with him. then he again love me if i proven to be a good wife to him.i feel very lost. he is 34years old m 20years. he behave like a child !!i told him that i love him truly n deeply. but he has no faith on me. he thinks that m telling lie to him. i m so confused and feel very bad.I tell him everything that how much i suffer in past.but he don't believe me. and say that i used him and play with his emotion. i say sorry to him about 100times in last month, also cried before him. but he has no care for me.
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No person that loves another should make them feel this way. We all have pasts and your partner should love and accept you regardless of what happened in your past. You should not have to apologize nor feel guilty for making choices in your life that may have felt right to you at the time. The fact that he is setting conditions in order to love you again is not right. If he truly loves you he'll be able to live in the present and move forward with the relationship; but you may have to present him with the ultimatum: either let go of the past or let go of me. If he truly loves you the choice should be simple; otherwise, your better off finding somebody that loves and accepts all of you.
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He should not tease you about your past or use any of it against you. You lied, you said you were sorry, it's his turn to forgive you. He's over doing it by demanding you to leave your study. He is in the wrong right now.
He doesn't have the unconditional love that everyone needs. His love is conditional so that if you make another mistake, he won't love you anymore. You don't want to marry someone like that.
I know you love him. But love isn't enough to stay with someone, especially someone who doesn't truly love you.
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