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Promise Ring
I bought a promise ring for my boyfriend of two years. He works at a hotel, and I want to give it to him in a very spontaneous way. I was thinking of post-it noting his car while he's working, getting someone to call his work phone and telling them his car was getting towed, and when he comes running out, I was going to jump out from behind the car and telling him I love him and even though I made some mistakes, I want to give him a promise that I want a forever with him when we're older/can afford it.
Does this sound like a good idea? Do you think he'd get in trouble? I was going to do it towards the time he gets off.
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The only folks I know of who are into promise rings are the Christians. So unless he is from a church going christian family and aware of what a promise ring is, it may be a shock to a guy to have a girl present him with a ring, ask him to wear it, promising to remain a virgin until his wedding night with her? If I were a young guy christian or not, I would be freaking out.
I may be totally misinterpreting what you wrote so if I have this wrong, I apologize. I can only answer based on how I interpret what you wrote.
I don't mean to burst your bubble. You sound like a romantic. But theres not enough info. in your description to assure me that you both have professed love to each other and having discussed marrying in the future.
You say you love him, not that he feels the same way back. You may think he does, but if he hasnt come to the conclusion in his mind that he is in love with you, giving him a ring and saying that this ring means you promise to each other that you will marry some day. Thats a lot of pressure on a guy just starting his own life. I don't know how young you are. I don't know what these mistakes you made are. If giving a ring is your way of apologizing, I think it may be better to just have a conversation and apologize. I hope you both have had many conversations up to this point on the topic of your love for each other with both of you imagining the future of you both together. Cus if you have, then it would be appropriate to surprise him with a ring, not at work, just going out to a nice intimate dinner should be sufficient. Its not the setting that will make it any more special for him...guys aren't like that. It maybe means something to a girl if a guy gets creative in giving her a gift, not so much for guys.
If on the other hand, the two of you have not openly professed to each other that you love each other, and you have never told him, and this is how you want to tell him that you love him for the very first time..., not a good idea.
But then you don't have to believe me. Follow your heart, go ahead try it and find out for yourself how he reacts. If you scare him away, then I suggest you start buying and reading books about the differences between men and women like one example "Men are from Mars, Women are from venus" but there are many others that teach how to understand the opposite sex better and how to use that knowledge to have a better relationship communicating to each other without misunderstanding, and misinterpretations etc... that can lead to fights and arguing
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I wouldn't do it..
Like, it's kinda cute in a cheesy way but to make him think his car was being towed, it's not cute.
I like the whole idea with the ring though. I just think you should plan a sentimental moment with him. I wouldn't disrupt his work time or anything. I mean he might not get in trouble, but who knows.
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It's a real bad idea to call someone's work phone for a non emergency.
I think it's cute that you have a ring, I don't think it's cute to give it too him while he is at work or to call his work phone number to disrupt him on the job. Why not take him out to dinner or even make a dinner at home and give it too him?
Okay, Okay, I will be fully honest.
I think the idea of hiding behind a car and saying his car got towed is not only an asshole way to do it but sort of cheesy.
I would go with a park, dinner or something that is romantic and on a time that is convenient for the both of you and not on a work schedule.
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