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Leaving early once the deed is done? (How do you feel when someone you had sex with leaves right after sex?)
So if you had sex with someone who wasn't totally a stranger (like a one night stand)but then left once the 'deed was done' and did not stay the full night and go to sleep, what would the other person (still in bed) be thinking? Or is this a fairly common occurrence?
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Behaviourists often say that if the male remains affectionate, enjoys cuddles etc and holding a woman closely after sex it signifies an emotional connection. He's subconciously saying "I'm going to stay around." A rather detached attitude after sex (or leaving completely!)of course gives the opposite signal. I'm not sure if you were the 'other person' or he was and I don't know of any similar studies of the female post-sex behaviour. Don't know if that's any help. The behavioural pattern statement in my reply is genuine. And yes, I believe it's a fairly common occurrence!
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When it comes to a one night stand most people feel it is just what the it infers. A quick roll in bed for some good hard sex with no strings or expectations beyond that. It may be exciting but maybe not be all that good. To have the other person hang around and face them in the morning may even be awkward. Especially if the sex was not up to expectations.
If the expectation is nothing more than to satisfy a need or urge. I feel it is best that the visiting partner leave as soon as possible after have exhausted your need for one another.
People who are after nothing more than a one night stand rarely fall into to relationships. For relationships founded on sex generally fail down the road when the excitement of a new partner wears off.
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It's just what a one night stand is.
Most don't stay the night or cuddle or anything. That's usually for people who know each other well or are in a relationship or who just plainly feel comfortable with it.
I think the person in bed who just expect it if it was just a one night stand.
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In my perspective, You got exactly what it was ( a one night stand) To some people that is just simply fucking and leaving.
It sounds to me like you may of had expectations or a different thought on the outcome. If you are offended by this then perhaps a one night stand isn't your type of thing.
You see, This can go a few different ways
A one night stand can be someone who is having an affair with someone and actually somewhat caring.
Or it can simply be good sex and thank you bye with no feelings.
Generally when people do one night stands, They don't usually cuddle. There isn't really supposed be "feelings" in the title.
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As to what the partner is thinking if you leave, it all depends on the person. If the both of you succumbed to attraction and just went for the sexual experience, likely the other person did not have any expectations. There is a period of time after sex when hormones are released that make most people feel good and feel closer to the person but it only lasts a few hours afterwards. Thats why so many enjoy cuddling and closeness after sex. But then again that's usually with someone you are dating, not a one night stand.
If the person leaving, leaves immediately after their orgasm, getting dressed and disappearing, gone in minutes....that would leave the partner feeling self conscious like what was the hurry to leave so quickly ?? Was it that bad? And their mind can concoct all sorts of paranoia. So if you get a bad reaction from leaving too soon, it may be the timing, not that you arent staying overnight.
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