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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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okay well. i keep making excuses for a guy that wants to come over.
i think he has a girlfriend.
i dont think he should come over if he has a girlfriend.
but im nervous if he doesnt have one.
help!
i cant keep making up excuses.
its makin me feel really bad.

If you don't want him to come over, then tell him. He doesn't have the right to be there, and if you don't want him there, then tell him that.

Stop making excuses & tell him straight out you don't want him over your house. If he asks why, just tell him. Even if he doesn't have a girlfriend, I wouldn't let him over.

He keeps asking you if he can come over, and that's already making you nervous. He can't seem to take NO for an answer, so that sounds like bad news to me.

Hi,
I've been deciding for the longest time on whether or not to get my tongue pierced. It's not gonna be in the near future, but I'm thinking in a year or two. Can anyone give me any pros or cons to getting it done? Thanks!

Like stated below, there aren't really any pros for it besides it looking cool. That's really the only good thing about it.

The cons however? There's a ton. It can leave a scar, give you an infection, force itself out, chip your teeth. In some cases, if the piercer isn't careful, he/she can hit a nerve which will cause you to either lose all feeling within your tongue, OR to have you lose all your tastebuds.

The tongue piercing is one of the worst ones to get because there's so much that can go wrong with it. Your better off getting your lip, or your naval or something.

I am having these feelings about abnging any guy. I want sex but I am waaayyy too young(13)

Masturbate.

You're way too young to have sex. It's normal to think about because you're going through puberty & your hormones are raging. Wait though. Sex brings on a lot of adult emotions & consequences that no one your age can handle. It's better to wait because if you have sex now or anytime soon, you will most definitely regret it.

I was just wondering why my cousing got upset today even though he's autistic becouse his cheeseburgers were wrapped in white paper instead of yellow paper he got hostile about it.

Because he's autistic. Little things will make them mad because that's how they are. It's a characteristic that comes with it.

http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_whatis_char

I'm 15, I'm a girl, I'm in love with a 28 year old man, he is in love with me, we have never done anything, not even kissed, but we go on dates and meet up about 3 or 4 times a week.

Is this wrong? And does he just want sex? Because that is what I'd normally think, but we've been dating a few months and he's never so much as suggested anything. And we were friends for ages before that too. I don't know what to do.

And I know I'm young, and people say I'm to young to be in love, but I've never felt like this before.

Yes, this is definitely wrong. A 28 yr old man is in love with you. Don't you know how dangerous that is?

Even if you haven't done anything, it is still dangerous. You need to stop seeing this man. He's almost half your age and he should not be with someone your age. He should stick to girls who are in their 20's, not their teen's. That's disgusting.

Stop talking to him. You need to find someone who is your own age. What you and this man are doing is illegal and he can go to prison for a very long time. I don't care if you haven't had sex or done anything, he's still dating you & that's reason enough to the authorities to throw him in jail & let him rot there.

I suggest that for your safety you stop talking to him and stop seeing him. You can do better.

i love my boyfriend so much and i don't want to breake up with him ,but i am feeling he's breaking up with me .help me please

If your boyfriend thinks the relationship is ready to end & that there's nothing you can do to fix it. You can try & talk with him about it, but if his mind is already made up, then there's not much you can do.

You can't make him stay with you just because you still love him. If he doesn't feel that way about you anymore, it would be wrong of him to stay in a relationship with you. It'd only be giving you false hope and that's not a good thing.

If he wants to break up with you, let him. It is his decision & you can't stop him. Besides, there are plenty of other boys out there, and you can always find someone else.

I love this boy but you see he acts different when he is around his friends. I told him that he does but he doesn't listin to me and blams the whole thing on me saying i am changing and that im not the same person he feel in love with. i don't know what to do and my friends just seem to not know either. i need help. Do you have any advise for me?

Dump him.

He's doing the wrong thing & then when you confront him about it, he turns it on you & says you're to blame. Which in turn makes you feel guilty.

Dump him. He's an asshole. You shouldn't be with someone who's making you feel guilty for something so stupid.

im almost 16 ive never had a girlfriend im worried
my penis is quite small i dont know if any girl would want to be with me what can i do to make it bigger? will i be able to satisfy a girl?

There's nothing you can do to make it bigger. Those male enhancement commercials are scams.

And yes, you can satisfy a girl. Pleasure is not about size, it's about skill. Remember that.

And if any girl ever dumps you or doesn't want to have sex with you because the size of your penis, she's a shallow little bitch and doesn't deserve you anyways.

hi!
im in grade 7 and there r these 2 guys from my skool who ive both gone out with then dumped both of them but they keep askin me out again and again its gettin really annoyin.ive told them to stop there not harrasing or anything i just want some advice.and plez dont tell me to talk to teachers or parents.i need some really good advice!

hannah

Tell them you're not interested and if they keep asking you're going to stop talking to them.

I already know this answer, yes. People change.

People change their emotions, overtime they become and act differently then they may have originaly.

Now the reason why I am asking this
Me and a friend have gotten into and argument over this.
She says there is scientific fact and proof people NO NOT change.
And it baffles me somebody actually believes this cause it is the stupidest thing I have every heard in my life.

Now. I gave my friend examples.
I told her me, her, and three other people we know have changed dramaticaly within the year.
As in, style, attitude, thoughts.

Yet she still insists people don't change?
I googled "Proof people don't change"
But I didn't get anything even remotly close to this subject.

I'm asking for you're opinions. Do people change? Why or why not?
Is there proof? If so, where?

And last but not least, do not comment on way or how we gotten into this argument. That is none of your business nor is it any of your concer.

Thanks.

People most definitely change. It comes with age, maturity, surroundings, everything. Anything can affect someone enough to change them so yes, people can change. Your friend is really stupid.

I can give you my own example. When I was 16, I was going nowhere with my life. A major death dramatically impacted my life, and I didn't even wanna breathe. I was letting people get to me even more than before, I was acting out more, and I even got kicked out of school. I was doing things that I shouldn't have been doing. I had few friends, and little to no relationship with my parents.

Now I'm 18. I moved out of my parents house, I have a job, I live in California with my boyfriend (rather than in NY with my family), and I'm back in school. I'll be in college by the Spring to study Psychology. I also have an amazing relationship with my parents now.

Sounds like I've changed, right? Exactly, because I have. While I'm not ashamed of who I've become, I am both ashamed & proud of the things I've done to get to where I am now. I'm ashamed that I acted like an idiot and fucked up my life, but I'm also proud I did them because if I hadn't done them, I wouldn't be who I am today.

Your friend has her head up her ass. People can definitely change. A lot of things affect change, and for her to think that people don't change is ridiculous. Don't even argue about this with your friend. Just accept the fact that you're right even if she won't. She seems delusional to the point that she'll keep arguing until you give up. But don't worry, you're definitely the one who's right in the situation.

My bf n i have been together 8 months n im pregnant he doesnt know yet n i dont know how to tell him no one knows but me n my friend... i had a prego test done at planned parenthood... but i had implanon ..a form of birth control my bf n i still used condoms 98% of the time but a few times they ripped n a couple times none was used... hes a good guy but im worried itll change us i know i cant keep it for several reasons...my heart is extremely weak just had surgery... my future his futrure our families n we dont each other well enuf to raise a baby itd break us apart etc.. but im also worried hell think im lyin or that hell wanna keep it possibly, he knows how much i hate girls than lie bout it but our friends gf has been lyin bout bein prego so im wooried hell think i am ...would i be better off havin an abortion n not tellin him or wat im worriedL

You need to tell him about this. While he may want you to keep it (some guys do want that), he needs to realize that while this is his baby just as much as it is yours, that it's your body, and ultimately your decision to have the abortion.

You said you don't know each other well enough to raise a child. If you don't know each other well enough to raise a child, then you don't know each other well enough to even be dating or having sex. You shouldn't jump into relationships & sex so quickly because situations like this happen & then you're stuck with a feeling of having nowhere to turn.

I am completely against abortion, but I'm not here to force my beliefs on you. If you think you want to get an abortion, then that is your decision but you need to make sure that you are completely positive about this. Abortions are very expensive and very emotionally draining. Lots of women who have them usually feel guilty after & can even go into a depression because of it. So you really need to make sure that this is the right choice for you.

You have to tell him about the abortion if you make the decision to get it. The baby is his also, so you can't just get the abortion & not tell him. But like I said earlier, he must respect your decision to get this abortion because it is your body, not his. After this abortion, I seriously recommend you guys stop having sex and end the relationship. If you don't know each other well enough to raise a child, then you don't know each other well enough to be dating & have sex. Simple as that.

Im always deppresed and I want it to stop. I cant aford theropy and I refuse to take pills. Any ideas?

Depression is a serious medical & mental issue that needs to be taken care of. There is a way to get therapy that is affordable. There are mental health clinics that give discounts to people who can't afford the normal price of therapy. It goes by income most of the time. Usually if your income is very low, they just give it to you for free altogether. Chances are they'll try to prescribe you something because they can't always help you every second and the pills can help you until your next session. You can't ask for help & then refuse the only known methods that will be given. That's a little ridiculous.

In the meantime, get yourself a journal. Everytime you feel sad, go write in your journal. I can guarantee that writing your feelings down will help you sort them out & it'll also make you feel a lot better. I did that when I was younger & suffering from depression, and it really helped me. :) You also need to surround yourself with positive things. Being around the negative will never make you feel any better. You can also try turning to a friend when you feel sad. Friends can usually be of good help, even when they don't know what you're going through. The fact that they're just listening is comforting.

I definitely suggest that you go to a mental health clinic though. Depression can kill you if not treated and it'd be a shame to lose your life over something that can be helped.

what are some good stage names for drummers?

I really like when drummers use their own names.

Kinda like Alex Rodriguez from Saosin, or Aaron Gillespie from Underoath.

Your name is better than anything because it was given to you by your parents, and it's who you truly are. Going by a stage persona is annoying. And if you're going to have a stage name, use a nickname a friend or family member has given you.

i am obsessed with twilight and its kind of awesome but i like it so much it drives me nuts because i want to be the people in the book! its just so darn romantic, and its the first romantic book iv'e read. i used to be obsessed with it a long time ago and i would cry because i wanted their life and romance and blah blah blah. this time its not that bad but i hate that it's not real. what can i do? i dont want to get over it but i do? *NOTE: i am only 13.

While I've read Twilight & the other books, and I like them, I think this whole obsession you've got is ridiculous.

It's normal to want what you don't have. Trust me, I experience this feeling at least 5 times a day, everyday. But if you want this life so bad to the point where you're turning down guys because they're not like Edward, or you're starting to dress like the characters & start using Cullen as your last name, then you're never going to get anywhere.

Like Jack said below, Edward Cullen isn't real. Neither are the rest of the Cullens or James/Victoria & Laurent. Neither is Bella, or Jacob, or even her friends Jessica and Mike. None of them are real, and they never will be.

Once you figure that out, it'll probably be a lot easier for you to get over this obsession. Stop putting every guy up to the standards of Edward. No normal guy will ever meet them, and if you keep putting it like that, you'll never meet anyone & you'll only continue to be unhappy.

You need to get over it. It's just a series. It's not real. It's fantasy fiction. It'll NEVER happen. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll get over this ridiculous obsession. It's okay to like the book, but you're putting it on some pedestal and making it seem greater than it actually is.

How do you tell some one who has a girlfreind that you are completely in love with them?

You don't.

If he is in a committed relationship, telling him you're in love with him could ruin that. And while that's what you may want, you'd have to put yourself in the shoes of his girlfriend. If some girl told your boyfriend she was in love with him, how would you feel? Not too good, right?

Exactly. Wait until their relationship is done to tell him. Don't mess up his good thing.

okay so my bf wants me to get on top but im afraid but i want too. help

If you're scared, that's good enough reason not to do it. Don't let him make you do anything you're not comfortable with.

16/f
This is a little embarrasingg but I have a heavy flow..my period is extremely heavy when ever its that time of the month..its so heavy that it'll fill up a large pad in an hour or less...its so embarrasing because it sometimes leaks out and gets on my jeans..and ill walk around with a big period stain till someone says something to me..I don't know how to control it. How can I slow down my period without taking any birth control..and how can I fix my leaking problem..

You can't slow down the flow of your period without the help of birth control.

Try using a tampon. You don't feel every leak drip out like you would with a pad, and it usually doesn't get on your clothes. It can happen sometimes, but I've been using tampons for almost 2-3 years now and it's only happened to me a few times.

Use a Super absorbency tampon. Since you tend to have a heavier flow, a tampon with that absorbency will work better. :) If I were you, I'd also just bring an extra pair of jeans & panties with you when you're out & on your period so that way if you do leak through, you have a back up pair of jeans/panties so you're not walking around with a huge, embarrassing stain.

My boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other after our one year anniversary about a month ago. This probably doesn't sound new to anyone, but our first time wasn't really as special as i thought he would try to make it (I wasn't expecting candles and chocolate or anything, I just thought he would spend the night or be more romantic), and he could tell i was upset because i was acting strange for a few days but I didn't want to try and talk with him about it because I'm not really a demanding girlfriend and our relationship is pretty relaxed; we barely even fight. But anyway when he confronted me, that led to us talking about our relationship and feelings and whatnot (which we never normally do, we don't really have a intense relationship). He said that I'm really special to him and that he doesn't know what love exactly is, and i just kind of played along like it wasn't a big deal because once again, our relationship is pretty chill and I didn't want him to know that deep down I'm pretty sure that I love him. And I really do understand that he doesn't know what love is; I don't really have a concrete definition myself (we're both only 18) so that doesn't seem to bother me.
So I'm not sure why every time we spend a night together having sex, I wake up the next day and I can't go about my normal day without crying, because I know that he cares about me but he would probably think I'm crazy or feel guilty if he knew how confused I felt about this, and I don't want to do anything to put pressure on him or mess up our relationship. Everything is perfectly fine between us, so my initial solution is to just get out all my upset feelings in private so I don't dump any baggage on anyone. I don't even know how I feel about any of this because half of the time I feel upset, and the other half I feel embarrassed for feeling upset over something so stupid; I tell myself that I'm overreacting, so I don't know why I feel so disoriented. Has anyone else ever felt like this? Is there anything I can do to make myself feel better or am I just overreacting?

To me it doesn't even sound like a relationship. What is a relationship without communication? I understand you guys are dating & that the relationship is relaxed, but if you can't talk about things that are bothering you, then you can't talk about anything really.

Problems within the relationship won't get better if you can't confront your partner & talk it out. If you guys really like each other, then talking it out will only help your relationship.

However, if you don't think you can commnunicate with him about it, then I'd just break up. I know you love him, but if you guys can't talk something like this out then the relationship won't ever get better & it'll only go downhill from here.

i've been a relationship with my ex-boyfriend for bout 3yrs and our sex life was great!! but since we broke up and we i have sex with my new boyfriend i dont seem to catch an orgasm it doesn't matter what we try i just can't seem to get off

You could probably be building him up to the standards of your ex, and to see that he isn't like that could make it harder to have an orgasm.

However, chances are that he just isn't as good, and that's fine. Not everyone is good in bed & you can't expect it out of them. You need to show him what you like because he isn't psychic. He'll never know what to do to get you off unless you tell/show him.

ok as i said we played truth or dare and now i want to know he likes me.cuz now he says hi and stuff he dump his gf cuz when we plaed we madout and he keep wanting to so what do you think dont teel any one.age 15 gender F

Just because he dumped his girlfriend and said hi to you doesn't mean anything. He's probably just saying hi to be friendly, and he probably dumped his girlfriend because he didn't like her anymore. That doesn't mean he likes you.

Also, you can't come on the site & tell us not to tell anyone. The site is worldwide meaning that anyone with internet can access this site & see your question. So you can't really tell us that when you put your issue out there for everyone to see, no? I mean, no one is going to know who you are, but they're going to see what you've done because you've told us about it.

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