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breakin the news
My bf n i have been together 8 months n im pregnant he doesnt know yet n i dont know how to tell him no one knows but me n my friend... i had a prego test done at planned parenthood... but i had implanon ..a form of birth control my bf n i still used condoms 98% of the time but a few times they ripped n a couple times none was used... hes a good guy but im worried itll change us i know i cant keep it for several reasons...my heart is extremely weak just had surgery... my future his futrure our families n we dont each other well enuf to raise a baby itd break us apart etc.. but im also worried hell think im lyin or that hell wanna keep it possibly, he knows how much i hate girls than lie bout it but our friends gf has been lyin bout bein prego so im wooried hell think i am ...would i be better off havin an abortion n not tellin him or wat im worriedL
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You need to tell him about this. While he may want you to keep it (some guys do want that), he needs to realize that while this is his baby just as much as it is yours, that it's your body, and ultimately your decision to have the abortion.
You said you don't know each other well enough to raise a child. If you don't know each other well enough to raise a child, then you don't know each other well enough to even be dating or having sex. You shouldn't jump into relationships & sex so quickly because situations like this happen & then you're stuck with a feeling of having nowhere to turn.
I am completely against abortion, but I'm not here to force my beliefs on you. If you think you want to get an abortion, then that is your decision but you need to make sure that you are completely positive about this. Abortions are very expensive and very emotionally draining. Lots of women who have them usually feel guilty after & can even go into a depression because of it. So you really need to make sure that this is the right choice for you.
You have to tell him about the abortion if you make the decision to get it. The baby is his also, so you can't just get the abortion & not tell him. But like I said earlier, he must respect your decision to get this abortion because it is your body, not his. After this abortion, I seriously recommend you guys stop having sex and end the relationship. If you don't know each other well enough to raise a child, then you don't know each other well enough to be dating & have sex. Simple as that.
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Ok,
First of all, this baby is 50% his baby and you can't just get an abortion without telling him that he has a child that would be VERY wrong.
Secondly, you were mature enough to have sex, so you need to be mature enough to handle the consequences.
You need to go to the doctor, and ask him straight up, if your body can handle the pregnancy. If not, he'll tell you what to do from there. Don't just assume you need an abortion and kill your baby in haste.
Im not trying to sound rude but this is a serious thing! If you weren't financially ready for a baby you should not have had sex! I know it feels good but it comes with a price....
By the way, an abortion can hurt your body to the point where you cannot have children later, there are always complications.
Im sorry you are going through this. You need to tell your parents as soon as possible so they can start helping you get the necessary steps taken care of.
They will probably be mad at first, most parents are, but they will get over that quickly and start helping you.
You can't NOT tell your parents. The fact that you have only told your friend is irresponsible, tell your parents, have them go to the doctor with you and start asking him some questions.
Hope this helps. Again, im sorry if I sounded harsh, I just really care about you and want you to take good care of yourself.
Steph =]
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i would NOT just not ever tell him and get an abortion behind his back and never let him know. if i were you i would talk to him seriously and just be really calm about it, i mean i know its obviously not a calm thing but try not to make it a big deal and tell him you must have slipped up and that you get tested and that you are in fact pregnant and you are not sure what to do and you want his input and than yall can decide on options from there.
im hope everything goes well, i wish you the best of luck!
-maddie :)
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