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Do people change?
I already know this answer, yes. People change.
People change their emotions, overtime they become and act differently then they may have originaly.
Now the reason why I am asking this
Me and a friend have gotten into and argument over this.
She says there is scientific fact and proof people NO NOT change.
And it baffles me somebody actually believes this cause it is the stupidest thing I have every heard in my life.
Now. I gave my friend examples.
I told her me, her, and three other people we know have changed dramaticaly within the year.
As in, style, attitude, thoughts.
Yet she still insists people don't change?
I googled "Proof people don't change"
But I didn't get anything even remotly close to this subject.
I'm asking for you're opinions. Do people change? Why or why not?
Is there proof? If so, where?
And last but not least, do not comment on way or how we gotten into this argument. That is none of your business nor is it any of your concer.
Thanks.
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People most definitely change. It comes with age, maturity, surroundings, everything. Anything can affect someone enough to change them so yes, people can change. Your friend is really stupid.
I can give you my own example. When I was 16, I was going nowhere with my life. A major death dramatically impacted my life, and I didn't even wanna breathe. I was letting people get to me even more than before, I was acting out more, and I even got kicked out of school. I was doing things that I shouldn't have been doing. I had few friends, and little to no relationship with my parents.
Now I'm 18. I moved out of my parents house, I have a job, I live in California with my boyfriend (rather than in NY with my family), and I'm back in school. I'll be in college by the Spring to study Psychology. I also have an amazing relationship with my parents now.
Sounds like I've changed, right? Exactly, because I have. While I'm not ashamed of who I've become, I am both ashamed & proud of the things I've done to get to where I am now. I'm ashamed that I acted like an idiot and fucked up my life, but I'm also proud I did them because if I hadn't done them, I wouldn't be who I am today.
Your friend has her head up her ass. People can definitely change. A lot of things affect change, and for her to think that people don't change is ridiculous. Don't even argue about this with your friend. Just accept the fact that you're right even if she won't. She seems delusional to the point that she'll keep arguing until you give up. But don't worry, you're definitely the one who's right in the situation.
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I agree, but i do not however think your friend is DUMB, slightly rude. but i do think that its possible she thinks this for a reason, maybe shes seen firshand that maybe someone she cared about never changed, and uses that as her base. But yes people do change, howeverinstead f disputing the fact why come to one cnclusion? after all an opinion can't hurt, so what if she thinks they dont change? it wo' affect anything truly, and wont affect your friendship, instead of trying to be right, just accept it iswhat it is :)
hope this helps,
miyuki-rini =^.^=
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I completely agree with you. Your friend is dumb. How can he/she think people don't change? Ask her how she acted in 3rd grade and compare it to how she acts now. People change.
Know how I know and why I so strongly agree with you? I've changed more this year than I have over the course of my entire life. I've learned so much about myself this year, especially this summer, and I learned that people DO change. Sure, there are some things about us that don't change, but for the most part, we do change.
-Laura (17-f)
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I think what she meant is that fundamentally, we don't change.
We can change certain things about ourselves, but there are also things that we cannot change.
We, early in life, form our personalities and our morals, based on social factors. That means our family shapes us, TV shapes us, school shapes us, our friends shape us, and everything we encounter shapes us. These morals and fundamental beliefs can change, but they ultimately stay about the same, if you think about it.
Of course, all of us change, but we also stay the same. The real answer to this question is a happy-medium, not one or the other.
--Jack
(17/m)
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People change early on in life because of the way they've been brought up, I guess. But yeah, people change. People they hang out with can influence a change of their lifestyle. People experiance different things, which may change the way they think of things. It's got something to do with the nature vs nurture. Some things we think/do, most believe it's to do with genes, but then it could be to do with the surroundings you were brought up in etc, both these things could influence what you think when you grow up. But then when you are older, experiances and/or a certain group of people can change what you think or do. So, basically yeah people do change.
Sorry if this isn't any help, I'm only studying soicialogy in gcse. :)
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