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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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we got together when i was 15(yes 15,we were together for 3 yrs,got married and divorced after 9mths.stayed divorced for 18 mths,i did my thing,he did his,but he always wanted me back it was me that said no,i did terrible things but he accepted it and now 15 yrs later hes bringing it up,& i dont remember alot of the things that happened back then,& he keeps insisting i just dont want to tell him.plz give me some advice


One thing I disagree with Karen is it was not sudden curiosity. If he has bought up something 15 years later then it has always been in the back of his mind. Clearly he does not trust you and may never let it go. Time to move on and find someone who is living in the NOW not 15 years ago.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for half a year now, Im almost 15 and he's almost 20. He is a very hardworking man, who understands me like my own dad (I never had one). We did not have sexual intercourse because he respects my desicions and doesnt mind waiting. He works, and I go to school. I hang on well with school with good grades like a normal Teenager and plan on moving to America to study. My bf works and plan on moving with me. My mam is starting to be okay with him because he likes to help out in my house and help my mam with house chores. although my Adult siblings think he has no future so they're not okay with us being together. His family dont mind the age gap,and treat me like im part of their family already.:) He smokes, but when we met, I told him not to, so suprisenly he stopped. his family was shocked.
So as you see, were madly in love with eachother, he's perfect for me and dont plan on braking up.
But there is one problem.. Statutory rape.
Im scared that someone will sew him to prison for dating an underage girl.
what will I do so the age wont matter?!?! :(



In the eyes of the law he is an adult and you are a minor. Despite having sexual relations or not he can get himself in a lot of trouble for just be associated with you.

This man is clearly to old for you and just dating you he is putting himself in some hot water. You cannot change the law even if you think he is your prince charming.

To allow him to be with you knowing he is too old for you is enabling. You are allowing it too happen and if he gets in trouble you would also be partly to blame. Move on

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She threatened me with it yesterday. I don't know if she was serious but I'm a bit nervous about it.

Tom



Karate is a sport. If she can't be mature about it then I would talk about it with her mother. If it were my own child yes, she would no longer be attending. It is not something you abuse nor use against people in a threatening manner if not needed. Therefore, she has abused that right in my eyes.

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i am 13 yrs old,i am a girl. i am in bombay and i have a friend his name was ranjith we are just a frirnd. but one day he proposed me. since i liked him acepted it.once he gave me a gift inside there was condom.he asked me shall we have a sex.i am intrested to have sex with him.but i don't know what are the effect of having sex in 13. so i am confused.i need advise



You are 13,Too young to be saying yes too a proposal.

Also, if you are asking us what too do then you are clearly not ready for sex. Wait a few years

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Hello I am ARTA from Kosovo

I just need to tell my story in very short way because Im hurt and Im tired from all this feeling.
My (ex) boyfriend kicked me out from his house as I remember 10 times or more. We lived together more than a year. But I miss him I love him. That happened almost after every fight we had....same like for little and big things. I dont know what to think, what to do because I am very hurt.

We did lot of things together, we loved each other.

Please any advice???



If he has kicked you out more then 10 times then you need to realize this relationship is not good for you nor healthy. As long as you remain in contact with him you will never allow yourself to meet anyone else.

If someone kicked me out of my home so many times I would be burnt out. This guy clearly doesn't want to try and make the relationship work.

I do not believe you love him, I believe you love the good times you had with him. Also, if someone loves you they would not treat you the way he has. Relationships take work and communication. No relationship will work by just kicking someone out of anger. my advice is too cut contact with him and focus on you and your life. If someone kicks you out then leave, do not give them 10 chances. That is much more then he even deserved.

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15/F

Okay, well me and D (the guy I like) have liked each other for 4 years now. But, we haven't actually dated. A year ago he moved away like 4 hours away. He does keep saying we will date “soon”. I ask him why not now he says the distance and he's scared? I'm willing to date him when we live this far away... Why isn't he? Is it natural for him to be scared of distance or no? Why would he be scared?



Long distant relationships barely ever work. D may like you but may not want to do a long distant relationship.

Long distant relationships take time, trust and a lot of money. You are only 15, You should not be putting all your time into someone who lives a few hours away. Reality, it is just not going to work.

I dated someone who lived 3 hours away and as much as it was a hassle in distance we both tried everything to make it work. It didn't.

The traveling is expensive and exhausting. While 3 hours didn't seem outrageous it was 3 bus rides and 2 trains away up and back. Over time the distance played a big part of us just growing apart and wanting different things in life. I wanted someone I could see and spend time with on a regular basis without the distant hassle. Online relationships are also nothing but just a fantasy. Its not real, its not in person and most of all it is not a real relationship. I knew this person in person as I have attended classes but in the end we weren't meant to be together and neither are you and D.

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So I have a tattoo and I'm just curious about artists and who will work on what... Here's the deal: my tattoo is black and white and although I was very pleased with it at first, after a long while I realized it wasn't as detailed/shaded as good as I thought. Now I know tattoos fade, they need to be touched up and whatnot, but I've came to the conclusion that I'd maybe like another artist to touch it up/add more detail. The original artist wasn't bad, it just wasn't what I'd hoped in detail. Then oneday I happened to see another artists work and loved how he does his shading. Would it be wrong to ask this new artist if he could add more detail/shading to another artists work? Would a tattoo artist even do that? Any answers appreciated. Thanks.



Yes they will


I have a lot of tattoos and had them touched up by different people nothing wrong with it.

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if you do slept with 10 more guys is it possible that you can have an infection or possible infections in your vagina?



Yes


You can contract STD from having sexual contact with a person even just one.

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My dad wasn't home ... My dog ate my Reese's peanut butter cup is he going to die he is a Yorker and is 1 year old.



No he should be just fine.

My step dad has fed his yorkie Reese's for years ad treats. ( I have countless times tried to tell him not too) but his dog is just fine. Just be careful in the future! :)

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the condom split whilst my boyfriend and i were having sex,however he did not cum. i'd just after my menstrual cycle and im pretty sure im not pregnant, however i just want another opinion, help anyone?



We are not a pregnancy test...

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, everything was great until about 2 years ago he started being mean and getting angry about every little thing I did that he thought was wrong and kept bringing up my past with all the guys that I was with call me every name in the book, which always brought me to tears. The way he is now and him belittling me all the time, and living together he basically treats me like a slave, my family has been trying to help me out, telling me that I should just leave, but I know I'll still be in pain because he doesn't own a car to get himself to work and I don't know how to ask him to (we have joint bank accounts)sign his name so he's the only main person on the account so I wont get in trouble if he does overdrafts. The way things are right now and even close to Christmas he isn't easing up on anything and I just feel ending my life i'd be a lot happier, and would just like some advice on how I can get out of this bad situation.



You need to leave the relationship


You are causing yourself misery by staying with him. Until you leave him you are prolonging your pain and allowing yourself to be held back in his control. Nobody owns you or has the right to control you.

You go to the back and close the account. The money can be taken out and transferred into an account in your name.

End this now, first step close the joint account. You are in control of your own life and you owe it too yourself too be happy in life. You live once

Cut contact with the bastard

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12,,F

Hi. I'm sick (Just a cold, nothing severe) and I woke up and I felt fine. But an hour later, I puffed out my cheeks and my ears hurt! This never happens! It sort of feels like when you're traveling somewhere and your ears pop, I guess.

If I press underneath my ear, it sort of hurts. If I don't do these things, my ears don't hurt at all. I thought this may have something to do with my cold? I don't know. My mom doesn't come home until like 7 more hours, so I can't tell her yet.

I don't want to go to the doctor! They'll give me a shot! And also, I can hear perfectly in both ears. But I've ALWAYS had terrible hearing.. But nothing seems different with my hearing. Please help me as soon as you can!!!



Sounds like an ear infection. Should see the doctor!

Happy holidays :)

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Hello, F/17

I have been with my Muslim boyfriend for 6 months now. Although not a very long time, we are both very happy with each another and often talk about our life together in the future. I'm a white, non-muslim woman and he is a Pakistani Muslim. His parents don't know about us, I know we are very quite young, but I would like him to tell his parents about us, but I think he's just too scared. Obviously because I'm white, I would convert into Islam, infact I'd love to convert. He says his family would approve if I converted, but if I didn't then they wouldn't approve. Like I said, I'd love too. I'm unsure whether this is all worth it, I mean I do love him, we have been friends for years & now started to date 6 months back... How do I go about all this? Telling our families, working it all out as a family together?



You have been dating for 6 months and you are already talking about marriage?..


Yes he is scared because in the Islamic world they believe in dating in their own kind. They are about their culture, rarely do they date others.

To think about converting this soon is crazy. I dated someone Jewish for 5 years and didn't think about the possibility of converting until my 4th year. It is a very serious and long process that requires a lot of time and studying. This isn't something you should just jump into like that.

Another note; you have not even met his parents yet. Acceptance plays a big role on a relationship and while you may marry one...you marry the whole family. Slow down or you will ruin your relationship.

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OK i'm a 13 year old girl who lives in Georgia and i just broke up with my boyfriend who is 16 and lives in Illinois.

He was willing to cheat on me with my best friend. My best friend and I, were asking him questions to see if he wanted to be with me or my best friend. He wants to be with both of us, but my best friend doesn't really like him anymore, but its just the fact that he would be willing to cheat on me with her, which makes me so angry.

I was already really pissed at my best friend's little brother the other day. So my boyfriend was basically adding fuel to the fire, which was making me really mad and i didn't second guess myself. I cussed him out and I was so pissed I didn't have time to calm myself and think straight. I cried my eyes out last night when i broke up with him, and now I AM second guessing myself... I want to get back with him, but i'm so worried he will cheat on me... I've already sent an apology text, and he hasn't answered yet... I'm going to try to get back with him, so my question is:

How can i make sure he won't cheat on me, and how can I make sure we can be together for as long as possible?


Because i really do love him... please help! :'(




You arr putting to much time and energy into s relationship that is not going to work out.

You are 13, there are going to be many many more relationships.

No matter what if a guy is willing to cheat then he is not good enough to be in a relationship.

Let's look at the facts; you are in Georgia and he is in Illinois. Do you really think he is going to put full effort and time into someone who is a few thousand miles away?

Please dump him and move on. Find someone who you know in person and that likes YOU for who you are.

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one day in school at lunch i was heading back to my table to sit.as i sat,i noticed a girl i know having a conversation with her friend girls about a boy who sat at my table.now this boy-regularly has my lunch period and sits at my table, (we don't talk like buddies because hes not my friend hes an associate,just another boy like me and we talk about videogames sometimes at school).he was just sitting there to his self minding his business suddenly,i hear her say "oh so and so is so cute and stuff" right while hes sitting there as she faced her friends and him.i don't know if she notice but her voice was in a tone were most people sitting at the table could here.she then gets up walks around the table to the boy and play hit him once on the shoulder and smiles at him.she sat on my side of the table with her friends, and he sat across from me, so for example when she got up and went over to him you can see her across from me doing this.but whats odd to me is that he just acts normal like hes not paying her any attention to what she is saying.right after i ask her does she like him right then, she gets mad and tells me to shut up,then the conversation with her friends about him stopped,and she continued with her anger towards me. after,she got back to just chatting with her friends like she normally does.usually shes nice,whenever i see her regularly i say hi and she would do the same and i would give her a five. but that day at lunch she was acting different with me, the next day she was talking to her friends at lunch like she regularly does, and its usually just her and her friends talking. she talks with others but her friend girls are who she manly hangs with.the boy who sits at my table,is someone she knows from class but they don't talk like that either.she just knows him because he has her class.so im confused at why she did what she did that day and what it could mean?



It could possibly mean she likes him and is jealous he associates with you. Hard to tell as I don't know the whole situation. However, if she wants to make a fool of herself then let her. Most people are not attracted to jealousy anyway. Meaning, the guy will very likely get bored of her real fast.

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Me and my wife are Virgins,she feels painful wen i try to insert.so what shall i do..?



Lol these answers made me laugh...

A vagina is made to pass a baby through. No vagina is too small to handle sex.

The first few times its normal for it to be a little painful for the female. Try different positions and look into lubricant which may help it be more comfortable for her.

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Sorry this might be a little long!

OK... so i'm in a long distance relationship with this guy. he is 16 and lives in Illinois, i'm 13 and live in Georgia. we have been going out for about 3 weeks now...

so like he talks about perverted stuff like sex, his dick, my pussy, etc., and he even asked me more than once to send a picture of it to him (of course i said no every time)

so he can be like really sweet and all, and then he gets really perverted. like we can be a sweet mood, and then he gets all perverted all of a sudden, and the sudden change in his mood is kind of awkward to me... and he talks perverted most of the time...

so my question is why does he do this? how can i get him to stop? i don't really want to tell him how i feel if that's even possible...



Dump him

Its clear he is out for more then a relationship. This guy proved he doesn't want to get to know YOU he wants to get to know your body.


Sending pictures over the phone and internet is child pornography considering you are a minor. A cellphone is like s computer it can be deleted but your cellphone and a computer saves data. Which means its traceable

You can get in trouble also for allowing someone to be in possession of child pornography.


So yes, dump him and move on. Find someone who likes you and not your body

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I have been invited to have a threesome with one of my friends and his girlfriend (I'm a girl) so it will be two girls and a guy.

I'm really excited. I'm experienced with sex so I don't necessarily need advice on that but I have never done anything with a girl. I can imagine how its done cuz Ive seen porn and since I'm a girl I know what they like... BUT I don't know if I know how to include another person into the sex scene.

So my questions are How do you have a threesome? What are some tips and tricks? How can I please her? What do guys like to experience in threesomes. Any advice will be greatly appreciated ;)



This Is a difficult to answer as there are missing details.

Who invited you? How long have you known them?

There are things to keep in mind while doing a threesome.

1, all parties need to be on the same page and fully trust one another.

The cons can be it may not go the way you expect it too.

It could cause awkwardness

It could cause a bunch of drama

I would not recommend it personally

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See I am currently sixteen and I have been crushing on the same guy since I was fourteen...I never made a move for him though. We are basically the opposite. He's the outgoing, fun guy while I'm the usual "cute" wallflower girl. Lately I have been more outgoing but not as far as the wild partying type. He had a crush on this girl when I was fourteen so I passed it off as a temporary crush. When my fifteen party came, I was expecting only my close friends to come - which at the time weren't many - and was surprised when I saw "him" come too. He even danced with me and apologized for stepping on my dress but I brushed it off saying that everybody had done it. After that I couldn't stop thinking about him.

Then 10th grade came and we were in the same classroom. He was closer to me than ever. We talked more, played cards and he was always making me jump and scream when he scared me. When he did a presentation, they had to pick four students to make a dinamic game and he was the first to choose - he chose me. Then my friends kept saying I was "Laura Pausini" and one day he was with us when they showed a photo of her to compare us more. He said that I was going to be very hot in the future - since she is older than me - and I sware all I did was laugh, completely embarrassed and shocked - I didn't know what to say, no boy had ever said that to me before. Then came halloween and we all dressed up real funny and eveything and see I am camera shy. He wanted to take a photo of me but I hid and didn't let him. Then we were with a group for a competition we got into. He started teaching me how to "shuffle" in the middle of the "reunion" then he got me to get on his shoes - literally while he still had them on and started movig around so it looked like we were dancing but he was the one moving. We looked kinda robotic but all I could think about was the fact that we were so close. Then I got into a salsa dance for the christmas presentation and he got in too. He couldn't get a twirl the right way so I showed him how he was supposed to do it and he said the girl that was making the dance "See? She actually has patience for me!"

There was another time in which he dropped a study guide for a test and when i gave it to him he saud i was a great woman. Remember I never took any of tiis to heart - visibly - because he always said this in a funny, joke kind of way. When we were in the competition, seated, waiting for our turn to come, I got up real quick to talk with one from our group, not looking back when I sat down. The dang boy had silently taken my seat - on purpose - and I sat on his lap, but quickly jumped and moved to the other one, startled. He and my friend started laughing at me. Then after we got into the 11th he had barely talked to me - we are in different groups now - but today during the little party the 11th grade was having my best friend accidentally elbowed me - hard - on the face. Right on my nose and mouth. I covered my face with wide eyes, staring at my friend's equally shocked face, and next thing I knew everybody was around me, asking if I was alright. Then I saw him looking at me with concern, but never talked to me dxcept when I first came in with a bag of barbecue lays and a gift for my friend. When he saw the gift he started joking and asking where was his gift. Then "demanding" that i give him the lays. Oh and in 10th grade he supposedly had a crush on someone else :/


So do you think he might like me back, or is he just being friendly.



Sounds like he likes you as a friend at this time but if you really want to know ask him.

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i would like to k now how can i ignore my boyfriend even if we live together



If possible move out or have him move out.: ignoring him is not going to make him care or feel guilty. He cheating knowing he cheated and was aware of his actions and did it anyway. Shit can him and move on. Living together is only going to stir more chaos and stress

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