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age gap relationship
My boyfriend and I have been dating for half a year now, Im almost 15 and he's almost 20. He is a very hardworking man, who understands me like my own dad (I never had one). We did not have sexual intercourse because he respects my desicions and doesnt mind waiting. He works, and I go to school. I hang on well with school with good grades like a normal Teenager and plan on moving to America to study. My bf works and plan on moving with me. My mam is starting to be okay with him because he likes to help out in my house and help my mam with house chores. although my Adult siblings think he has no future so they're not okay with us being together. His family dont mind the age gap,and treat me like im part of their family already.:) He smokes, but when we met, I told him not to, so suprisenly he stopped. his family was shocked.
So as you see, were madly in love with eachother, he's perfect for me and dont plan on braking up.
But there is one problem.. Statutory rape.
Im scared that someone will sew him to prison for dating an underage girl.
what will I do so the age wont matter?!?! :(
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As long as statutory rape is a problem it will remain a problem as there is no way around that law. If you two being together offends someones sensibility and they report him he can go to jail.
Here in America the age of consent is in most states now 18, the same age you are considered an adult. That would make him 23. Not only would you be violating state laws on statutory rape but a Federal Law called the Mann Act. Here again there is no way around these laws. Plus there are a number of other laws a prosecutor could add which could put your boyfriend in jail for life.
My advice is that if you love him tell him & if he loves you tell him to look you up whenever you reach the age of consent for wherever you live. If you plan on moving to America for school tell him not to move here to find you again until you reach 18 years of age.
I know this is not the answer your looking for. The only option would be to marry and even with parental permission, at least here in America, you are to young to marry an may be the same where you are. So your only option to keep him out of jail is to separate until it is legal for you two to be together.
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I don't really agree with the answers below. Even though the age gap is substantial, it is your decision entirely as long as you are not breaking local laws (which I am assuming is the case).
Where I live the age of consent is 15, so your relationship would be nobody's business.
Now, all this being said, this will indeed become a huge problem once you move the US, where they are totally wound up about this sort of thing. Honestly, I only see two choices: 1. Do not go to study in America or 2. Do not go together.
If you do not go together, unfortunately the odds are the relationship will fall apart. This is not me being pessimistic it is just a fact that long distance relationships rarely last.
What you choose is entirely up to you, but as far as I see it those are your choices.
Good luck.
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I just recently got out a long distance relationship with a 19 year old, and I'm 16. She lives in the U.S, and I live in Canada. I didn't start thinking about it until now, but we could and could not of got in trouble as well. I mean in Canada the legal age is 16, but not in the U.S...
ANWAYS you can't change the law. You are considered a minor and you guys, more so him, can get into trouble even if you guys aren't doing anything sexual. I kno he may seem perfect and everything you've ever wanted, but you have to think about what could happen. Maybe wait for each other until you're legal age, and then there is no chance of you getting into trouble.
And his parents shouldn't be condoning this either. They're adults and should know better.
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In the eyes of the law he is an adult and you are a minor. Despite having sexual relations or not he can get himself in a lot of trouble for just be associated with you.
This man is clearly to old for you and just dating you he is putting himself in some hot water. You cannot change the law even if you think he is your prince charming.
To allow him to be with you knowing he is too old for you is enabling. You are allowing it too happen and if he gets in trouble you would also be partly to blame. Move on
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