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Is it normal??
15/F
Okay, well me and D (the guy I like) have liked each other for 4 years now. But, we haven't actually dated. A year ago he moved away like 4 hours away. He does keep saying we will date “soon”. I ask him why not now he says the distance and he's scared? I'm willing to date him when we live this far away... Why isn't he? Is it natural for him to be scared of distance or no? Why would he be scared?
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Long distant relationships barely ever work. D may like you but may not want to do a long distant relationship.
Long distant relationships take time, trust and a lot of money. You are only 15, You should not be putting all your time into someone who lives a few hours away. Reality, it is just not going to work.
I dated someone who lived 3 hours away and as much as it was a hassle in distance we both tried everything to make it work. It didn't.
The traveling is expensive and exhausting. While 3 hours didn't seem outrageous it was 3 bus rides and 2 trains away up and back. Over time the distance played a big part of us just growing apart and wanting different things in life. I wanted someone I could see and spend time with on a regular basis without the distant hassle. Online relationships are also nothing but just a fantasy. Its not real, its not in person and most of all it is not a real relationship. I knew this person in person as I have attended classes but in the end we weren't meant to be together and neither are you and D.
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Hes probably scared & doesn't want to do the long distance thing because it usually doesn't work.
At 15 you should be going to school dances and having fun. You should be dating many different people until you find the right one for you. D may be the right one for you. If so, you will find one another again when the time is right.
It sounds like you have an awesome 4 year friendship so far. Keep that up, but also have fun where you are with those around you. He is politely telling you that he is going to be doing that too.
I know you hate to hear it, but, 15 is to young to be in a serious committed relationship. Have fun & you guys will be together one day if its meant to happen.
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