about

well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




advice

My boyfriend wants to have sex. I think I love him, but I just don't feel ready yet. How can I tell him and not lose him?

well first of tell him your not ready to ahve sex with him... he needs to respect the fact your not ready if he doesnt then he doesnt respect you or even care as much for you. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Do you think it is okay for a young person to have plastic surgery? I really don't like my nose but I don't know if I should say something to my mom now or just wait until I'm older. What do you guys think?

i think you should wait until ur 16 because your your body will grow and it will keep growing so what if you have your surgery and your nose still growing?? i think you cant get any kind of surgery until your either 16 or 18 i am not sure. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Do you think its okay to teach your child to hit someone back if they hit him first?

it is if you look at it as self defense but you better becareful because he might use that on an adult.. just becareful what you teach a lil kid because they really learn fast... hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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My boyfriend sits by like all girls in most of his classes, and he always seems to be flirtin with them. It also doesnt help that they're prettier than me. I was wondering if it's normal to feel jealous about this, and if so what should i do? I already tried talking to him about it, and he just kind of blew the subject off saying 'o no we werent flirting', evne though it looked like him and the girls were. Help please!

what your going through is totally normal! every girl gets jealous if her boyfriend isnt flirting with her and firting with other girls. you need to sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel.. or you can play him at his own game start flirting with some other guys and then when he asks where you flirtign be like NOPE i was just doing what you were doing to me... hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Hey
I was wondering..today i ran the mile in 8:47 minutes today. Do u think that is goos, bad or average? just wonderin because our coach didnt tell us. thanks! xoxo

that is actually really good. compared to mine 9:58 lol... but i think you did a really good job. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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my best male friend and i have been friends for 8 years he is my everything i love him as a friend, and anything else you can love your friend as he is one of the greatest people i know i thought iwas in love in love with him but then i met my boyfriend and he is one of the sweetest guys i know but things are changing between me and my boyfriend its like everytime we talk he gets this sound in his voice as if its hurting him to talk to me my best friend would never do that to me he would be honest and upfront with me about how hes feeling i love my boyfriend but i have strong feelings 4 my friend my friend alredy knows how i feel about him so what should i do? sorry so long

what you should do is see if your friend feels the same way as you maybe you to should hook up.. i mean if you feel strongly about it then you should.. if you oyfriend is acting werid talk to him about it and ask him what is up?? dont let him hide anything from you. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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i didnt know what to put this question under. but if you shave like "down there" are you supposed to put lotion on..or is there a certain way to shave. cause i get little red dot and i dont know if its normal

i used to have the same thing it is a razor burn and you should try shaving the way the hair grows.. what you should do is use a good razor and a lot of shaving cream because down there it is really sensative and it isnt like your legs. and when your down you should put lotion on it.hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Okay, well my name is Beccah and i really like this boy named Alex and in the 6th grade he had a girfriend named Jen and he had liked her since the 2nd grade and she finally started liking him in the 6th grade and he asked her out and they went out for about 5 months and then he dumped her and a few months later is when i started liking him and he was such a jerk to me and then in the 7th grade we became really good friends and i was finally over him for a good 5 months or so and in that period of time he went on and off liking me and then towards the end of the year i started liking him again and he liked me too and we would kiss and hug but he never asked me out and he was never my "boyfriend" and the last day of school we made it clear that we didnt want to go out over summer and we would see what would happen between us when school starts again and over the summer its really easy for me to concentrate on other things.. seeing how i travel a lot and i do summer basketball and im always with my friends, but now that school is starting and we have 3 classes together and because our lockers are close its going to be hard for me to get my mind off him. I already know that he doesnt like me anymore he made it clear and he says that i should get over him because there is better guys out there for me and hes not the one. I need advice.. should i continue liking him and see if everything i've done in the past was worth waiting for? or should i just try to stop thinking about him and try to find someone else for me? I'm graduating this year and after this, there is a good chance i wont see him anyways. But i just really want to be with him. Everyone tells me that hes not over Jen yet and she never really got over him either and i see it too.. Urghh i just need help.

aww! if i guy made it clear to me that he didnt like me after everything that happened between the two of us then i would be heartbroken..lol... but anyways back to you. you need to forget this guy. he sint worth your time and he shouldnt be treating like shit and telling you stuff like that but if he still isnt over his ex from 2 years ago then this guy really needs to hit reality soon.. because he was the one who broke with her... omg i hate it when people do that.. they break up with someone and then they feel all heartbroken it is like damn then why did you break up with them if you need them that much.. but hey that isnt me so yea..

my advice is to 4get him and move on.. yea it will be hard but it is for the best.. i mean you dont want to like someone if they dont liek you back and waste time.. you know what i mean?? hope this helps you out. and if you still cant figure it out LISTEN AND FALLOW YOUR HEART it will show you the way.

*~Stephanie~*

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Even though I am currently dating my boyfriend, would it still be right for him to properly ask me to Home Comming? Or is it just an obligation and we both know it so there for he doesn't need to ask.

it is an obligation he can ask you on it to make it like exciting for you or he doesnt have to since he is your boyfriend but he might just to make it a lil interasitting.. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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This school year I started late because I was on vacation. Well, the first day I walked into my Physics class he smiled at me so I smiled back thinking "wow this guy is pretty hott" During that week we looked at each other in class and smiled but never talked. Today we had a fire drill and he was the fisrt out the classroom and I wasn't too far behind. He got to about half way where we were supposed to be and waite until I caught up and started walking again. When we got to out standing point, I was standing with another girl in my class and him and one of his friends stood by us. Then, HE STARTED TALKING TO THE GIRL I WAS WITH. This really made me made so I left and started talking to other people. I don't know if I was jealous or what but now I don't feel like tlaking to that girl at all. What am I supposed to do?


I know this sounds pretty kiddish but I've never been in this situation. I'm a senior by the way.

i dont think you should be mad at the girl because she really didnt do anything. maybe he did want to talk to you but then when he got over to you didnt know what to say and started talking to the other girl.. i think you got to choice..
1) 4get him
2) try talking to him and be like friends and then maybe becomin more then friends... hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok well me and this guy met threw my freind sherry and i ended up hooking them up. so then i would hang out with them and then i stopped because id feel like the thired wheel then eventually a year and a half later they broke up and we started talking we ended up having sex and it was my first time and he knew that. he told me he wouldnt hurt me but weve been talking for like 5 monthes.now hes gone to college and he wants me to call him everyonce and a while and he still wants to continue talking but i told him hes going to college and its going to be hard for me to do that but i think he knows we still sorda are. but i dont kno what to do.and to top it off this whole 5 monthes have been a secret.only some of my certin freind kno and he knos they know but still iam confused! help me wut do i do keep talking to him in college or drop him and move on?
stephanie female 16

you seriously need to think this though. you need to think is this guy worth it?? what will happen if you best friend his ex find out you guys did what you did?? last but not least do you LOVE him?? college is a big thing and there are a lot of parties and a lot of chances that he CAN cheat on you but i am not sayin he will but think about when a guy gets drunk do they really think twice be4 doing something??? yea right they most of the time cant control them self.. i mean he isnt the last guy out there... hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months now!! Were pretty close and all but when hhe gets mad at me ill be all like im sorry im sorry and all my friends are like hes got you in check and i dun wanna be mean to him cuz i love him so instead of like sucking up to him what should i say!! ok i would be thankful if you helped thanks all bye!!

i so understand what your talking about. but what you go to do is talk to him and like if he starts to bother you or something then just tell him like sarcastically like in a joking way. you get me?? dont be serious about.. my friends think the same way of my boyfriend and sometimes he tells me to shut up or something in that way and i am always like no i am not goin to shut up because you told me and i always say it like i am laughin never serious and we always like blow it off... talk to your boyfriend about it tell him how you feel he SHOULD UNDERSTAND. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok well, im going out with this guy named james and i really like him. but lately whenever we talk on the phone its really boring and he is really prude so it sucks. so these two guys like me named john and nick. and they think i should break up with him becasue they dont think he is going to change and they think i desurve more. so john asked me if i thought going to a dance with someone im not going out with would be considered cheating. and i said no so he asked me to the dance. and i said yes. so now i dont know if my bf will be mad at me or not. should i break up with him? should i tell him about the dance? what should i do? PLEASE HELP ME!

ok if you dont like the way your boyfriend has been acting then talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. NEVER keep anything away from your boyfriend.. it is better to tell him the truth then to have him find out the hard way... i mean you would want to know if he is going to the dance with another girl or if you sound werid or stupid on the phone.. get me?? if you dont like the way your boyfriend is then dump him. but you know guys arent really supposed to be able to talk to girls on the phone it really isnt there thing. if you noe what i mean..and to a sertain degreee going to the dance with another guy is cheating because you know he IS your boyfriend. think of it like this say for instance James is your husband and you decide to go to a club with a guy that likes you. do you think that would be right??? hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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~guyz only~

I wanted to know how many guys around 14 or 15 would like a 14 yr old who is 5'4, highlighted hair, thin, and very developed for her age. :) thanks.

hey i just wantewd to tell you LOOKS ARENT EVERYTHING.. i mean yes guy don look at look but when it comes down to it looks arent everything. PERSONALITY IS. you can be the prettiest girl every but have the worst personality and be a snobby stuck up person ( i am not saying you are) but yea looks arent everything and big boobs arent either. i mean yea it is good to be in shae but it is also good to have a great personality so that people will want you for more then just your looks. unless you want guys to go out with you only for your looks then that is a a different story. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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is there anything wrong with being a guy and listing to britney spears.

no i dont think there is anythign wrong with it. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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13/f
there's a guy I like a lot. I met him online. we are good friends and have a lot in common. I sorta have a crush on him. should I tell him? I'm afraid it will ruin things between us. I don't think he's into online dating and I don't know if he likes me in that way. I don't feel like I'm good enough for him. what should I do? I don't want to screw everything up but I'd luv to be his girlfriend. he's awesome.

ok i dont think it is a good idea if he doesnt live by you because think about it. you will never be able to see this guy, never be able to kiss this guy never be able to do anything except talk to him. my advice is to not say anything because it really isnt worth it. and you dont know if twho he is is even the truth i mean it can all be a lie.. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok..i have this guy friend and he is really flirty towards me but i cant tell if he likes me or not..should i ask him if he likes me or should i get someone else to find out?((i like him))
thanks
i rate

i think you should ask him yourself because other people no matter who the are can change the words and can start rumors. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok..you know how 143=love? ok how does that come out to love?, because it's really been bugging me for awhile! why 143=love?

thanks!!

i = 1 letter
love =4 letters
you= 3 letters.
hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Okay, what are some turn ons for girls?
WHat does a girl look for in a guy?
what do they like in a conversation??

thanks lots!
I rate high!

* great personality

* funny

* good looking

* noes how to have fun

* doesnt only go out with a girl to get in her pants
* Don't ever lie to us. We always find out.

* We don't enjoy talking dirty as much as you enjoy listening.

* Don't say you understand when you don't. Ask us if you would like to know. We love explaining things.

* Girls are pretty; get over it but that doesn't mean you should look at other girls besides me.

* You don't have PMS. Don't act like you know what it's like.

* Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get off the hook.

* If you talk about having a big dick, we know you don't.

* Size does matter.

* We don't like it when you act like Mr. Big. We like it when you are Mr. Big.

* A system in your car only impresses your homeboys.

* No matter what you say, your ex girlfriend is a ho.

* It's good to be sensitive sometimes.

* If you did something wrong or even if you didn't... apologize.

* Be spontaneous, dinner & a movie won't always cut it.

* We are self-conscious by nature; we can't help it.

* We are drama queens.

* We like it when we know you're paying attention to us when we talk on the phone.

* Sometimes when playing a game with us, let us win but don't let us know you're letting us.

* We absolutely do not care about monster trucks, paintball, or anything you and your friends talk about like how much you now about the east or west side, sex, computers, Star Wars, & video games. (Just because you may know more than us, don't rub it in.)

* Hugs & kisses must be given at all times. We love it when you can hug & kiss us in front of your friends!

* We don't shave our legs everyday. Get over it.

* Don't make bets about us; we always find out. Plus that's just wrong & mean!

* Shave-no matter how cool you think it looks, we hate it.

* Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emit other strange gases from your body, it's not.

* Don't compare our breasts to Pamela Anderson's. Hers are fake & ours are real & you'd probably be able to get closer to ours then you ever will to hers!

* It is not cool to shoot snot rockets.

* We are beautiful, but make-up helps. (Some us don't like make-up but hey!)

* We will always think we are fat so humor us and tell us we aren't.

* You can shoot hoops, score a goal, knock down big fat guys, and hit a little baseball with a stick so why the hell can't you piss in the toilet and not on it?

* Most importantly-we are always right-so don't forget it. (At least 3/4 the time-haha)

* Call us. Don't always have us call you. It makes a feel like we shouldn't call at times.

* You can make the plans sometimes too you know.

* We don’t really mind if you invited yourself over.

* If we're scared & you can tell, give us a hug or just hold our hand.

* We love it when you hold us.
hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok this is werid ... i was watching meet the fockers ... an like gregs mom sayed to his sooned to be wife that her boobs our bigger an she can smell that shes pregnet?? can you really smell somthing if your pregnet..

nope there is no way to smeel that someone is pregnant..lol. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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