Erinn_the_bamf's advice column

so i have had discharge for 2 years. i wanna no when i will start. please tell me i am not lucky. i want to start. someone please tell me ALL about the period

You should start pretty soon. Within the next few weeks to a month you should get it.

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what brings out green eyes?

Iredescent(sp?) purples, greens, and golds and good for eye shadow. Then, to top it off, just some black eye liner and mascara.

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Okay so like I have a friend Named Christen and she's kinda being whoreish by goin to the movies with this one kid(dominic) while she's dating another(anothony) and than she said she was dating Dominic too... and she just like blew dominic off tonight after the movies and i feel really bad....
Not the point but it kinda goes with the question...

Okay so me and dominic havn't met in person but like we have talked alot and i feel realyl bad for him and like i'm kinda starting to like him... 1 time christen told me to ask him out and i did and he said he liked christen and my heart sank...

What should i do to tell him i like him?
What should i do about christen?
-Lauren

First, you need to get Christen in line. Tell her she can't date two guys at once. Tell her you like Dominic and maybe she'll lay off.

Next, tell Dominic you like him. That's the only way you can get things moving. But wait until things get straighteded up with Christen and him first.

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what are some good jobs that a 15 year old girl can do? i really need to money, my mom mainly needs it. were going through a tough spot and i want to be able to help out, but i dont know where they hire people my age other than a supermarket, and i dont want to work there.

thanks

You can always babysit. But you should try working at a fast food restuarant. Such as:

McDonalds
Burger King
Dairy Queen
Baskin Robins
KFC
Taco Bell
Nathans
a pizza place
White Castle

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Well you see, I have (naturally) VERY curly hair. It is wild.. and not in a good way. It is very hard to handle. I do own a very good flat iron, and I do straighten my hair at least 3 times a week. But now that the weather is getting warmer, and more HUMID, my straight hair goes frizzy and starts to curl. Do you know of any good products or ways to keep my hair PIN straight, even when the humidity is 100%? Thank you very much!

I have the same promblem. Try using Bumble and Bumble's Bb tonic (sorry! I don't know if the brand is Bb tonic or if it's the product name). It's a syrum that you put on before you straighten your hair. It works very well.

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Okay well I'm 13 and I'm in the 7th grade and I'm worried about my friend. Okay shes pretty much drop-dead gorgeous and could get any guy she wants. Well I mean she's not like a slut or anything (Okay she kissed her ex boyfriend(corey) 4 times he was her first kiss ... and then shes made out with her current boyfriend once. ).

Anyways she has had family problems. She has two little sisters and they get favored and her mom pretty much yells at her 24/7 and ignores her all the time.

Then recently, about 2 weeks ago, she went to her neighbors house(AJ) and Corey was there. Well Corey grabbed her and she was sitting on him ..., hes like really muscular so she couldn't get away, anyways Corey started rubbing her body and then AJ's like on top of her and hes unhooking her bra. She finally got away and ran into the bathroom and Corey comes in and he was all like awwl hilary i'm sorry for being a jerk i'll help you. So Hilary believed him and he ended up unhooking it again. This kept on happening she was there for about 2 hours.

So shes pretty tramatized from that and her mom. Well to make things worse her mom was yelling at her Tuesday night and she wasn't really paying attention because she hates being yelled at. Her dad then asked her if she was paying attention and she was like it's kinda hard not to dad when shes screaming at me. Then her dad comes over and punches her jaw(and her neck cracked).

Now Hilary is one of my bffae and I don't know what to say to her to help her or anything. Please help me on what I can do for this situation to help her out.

Ohh and we were going to call child abuse people if her dad hit her again.

Either you or her need to call the police. Right now. Tell your parents. Both these situations are illegal. There's no we'll call the police if it happens again because you're giving him a chance to punch her again like that. And also unhooking her bra and feeling her is molestation. Go pick up the phone right now, call the police, and get your friend the help she needs.

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how do i delete the websites that come up when i click the down arrow? like if i have been the www.advicenators.com ....and if i click the down arrow than the website will be down there...how do i delete it?

Hit crtl+h at the same time. A window will pop open with a list of sites you've been on. You can delete the ones you want to.

Or you can hit tools at the top of the screen, then internet options, then hit the button that says clear history. This way all your history is deleted.

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does anyone know what age it is legal to get a belly button ring in new york?
gracias!

Any age as long as you have a parent sign a slip or have a parent present. I'm not usre which it is though so just bring a parent.

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Hey everyone!
For some reason I feel like reading I would really apreciate if you people would recommend some of your favorite books and a little bit on what it is about =)
Thanks,

I like the Harry Potter series. It opens up your imagination.

Animal Farm and 1984 by George Orwell are two great classics. 1984 is about what George Orwell thought it would be like in 1984. I'm reading Animal Farm right now and it's good. It's about policts but with animals! Woot!

I loved Of Mice and Men. I forget who it was by sorry! Anyway, the ending really makes you think. It's sad but you have to think "Was it the right thing to do?" It's about two friends, one is mentally retarded, trying to make money in the 1930s.

Memories of Summer is extremely short (50 or 60 pages). However, it brought tears to my eyes. It's about a girl's sister slowly going insane.

The First Five People You Meet in Heaven is great. It's a bout a man who dies and his journey to his heaven. He meets five people who played important roles in his life.

The Divinci Code. Mind opening. Talks about different theories of Christ.

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that chatroom on here works at any time of the day, correct? if so, can ppl please go in it? im insanley bored. THANKS

Go in now. Fun chat going on. It's 9:38 eastren so adjust from there =].

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is it wrong to want to have sex at the age of 13?

Nope, not worng to want it. It's natural. However, it would be wrong to do it.

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WELL I know this may be kind of wierd but, I like this girl. I met her Online and that's it. We talk everyday and flirt all the time, She's even told me she likes girls also. I told her I had a crush and she wanted to know who it was and I lied to her saying it was my OTHER friend, but it was really her. I feel bad but not at the same time because...I don't know how she'll react. I keep dropping hints and everything but either she doesn't get it or doesn't want to get it. I'm a mess about this..cuz I really do like her. What should I do??

If she likes girls too then you have a good chance. Next time you talk to her just come out and tell her. It's best to open up.

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can I get pregnant on my period if I'm on birth control?

It's highly unlikely, but there is always a chance. You probably aren't, but take a pregnancy test just in case.

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You know the music they play in Hollister, can anybody tell me some of the bands/song titles that they play? I'll rate 5's if you answer my question! Thanks!

I was just in Hollister today lol. Anyway they have several songs by each artist.

Jack's Mannequin
Hellogoodbye
Blink 182
All American Rejects
Green Day
Relient K
Motion City Soundtrack
The Killers

There are many others but that's all I can remember right now.

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Besides Phantom of the Opera, Sweeney Todd, Evita, Rent and Les Miserables, does anyone know any good musicals that are entirely sung through?

Rent and Phantom of the Opera are not completely sung through. Anyway, try Joseph and the Amazing Technicoloe (sp?) Dream Coat.

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ok so i REALLY love my boyfriend..but lately since i told him that his best friend rapped me..he started getting...controlling and like now whenever i say somthing hell scream and say BITCH SHUT UP...then hell say "oh im sorry baby" and everything is fine but he hit me a couple of times..i told my best friend and she told me to break up with him..but i LOVEE him! and..if i i do decide to break up with him..im scared hell like..kill me or somthingg!

plz help me.i dont know where else im going to get help!

~lila

What he is doing is against the law. It's domestic violence, and it's extremely serious.

Tell your parents. They will take action. You should call the police and tell them about you being raped and your boyfriend abusing you.

Also from this it doesn't sound like you love him. The best thing to do is tell your parents then break up with him.

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ok heres 1: im your not average but not that bad 14een year old and recently ive been like hating my life and wanting someone elses life like ages ago i wanted to be paris hilton (im a guy weird ) then frankie muniz and now martin spanjers and devon werkhiser of tv is it normal or should i just go ahead and sit in a hole.

second realated to the first

i want to be recognized and be a idol and stuff and i kinda wanna act but im s**t scared in case i go to acting school go in one of there weird productions and suck ALOT aaaaaaaaaaa

now either i need a shrink or im just a normal 14 year old

No, your normal. In teen years hormones create these emotions and many others.

However, if you have these feelings when you're twenty you may want to see a shrink. But you have six years to wait until then so try not to be too stressed out.

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Why do they ask you if your pregnant when you get x rays? What happens if you are pregnant and you get x rays done?

X-rays can cause birth defects to your baby. In the past few monthes I've gotten about 12 x-rays so I had to ask lol. Anyway, the chances are very small that something could happen to the baby, but it's possible. They give you a special apron to wear.

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14/f

Okay, here's my problem. You see, I really like guys, I really do. I go on dates with them, have crushes on them, they are the ones I want to have a relationship and all that.

But recently I have felt something new. You see I have my friend friend, let's call her Katie. Katie and I are inseperable, always going places together, hanging out whatever. I enjoy being around her so much. I've always felt just fine around her, until about three months ago.

I don't know what happened but soon I felt like I always needed to impress her, look pretty in front of her, and I saw how beautiful she is. I swear she is the most gorgeous person I know! And when she comes over now I just want to be close to her and hug her and touch her. I mean I caught myself starring at her chest the other day and having some daydream that she was kissing me! I don't know what's going on!

Like last night she spent the night at my house, and we sleep in the same bed. Normally it's a double bed, but since I'm rearanging my room it got reduced to a twin. So we srunched together close and I felt so guilty because I enjoyed her body pressed up against mine. And while we were talking all I wanted to do was just lean in and kiss her. It's so weird! And half the time I just want to hold her and know that she is mine and she like me as more than a friend.

But the thing I don't get is that all my guy friends say that they could see us together as lesbiens and i always brush it off because I like guys but her and I always play around kiss each other on the cheek and spoon (the sleeping poission) while we're sleeping, and strattle each other when we're play fighting, just being silly. And some days she says "Sometimes I swear I am a lesbian." and she says it in a joking way, but does she mean it as a joke? I just want her so bad, she's like my other half.

So am I bi? Can you just someday wake up and feel sexual towards someone of the same sex? And if so, if I am bi, how do I tell her? Because she knows me so well and she'll figure it out soon. So what do I say to her? Do I ever tell her that I like her in that way? Thanks for any advice you can give me. I rate high.

During puberty there are hormones running around like crazy. You are bound to have feelings towards the same sex. Many people do, it's normal.

You still have the same chance for being any orientation. Don't worry about this in a few years it will be more clear to you.

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hi i'm 13 years old, almost 14..and i've never been kissed before in my life. not on the cheeks or lips or ANYWHERE! and i've never even had a boyfriend in my life either. but i want one SO badly! i dont care if my first kiss isnt "real" or whatever..i just want puppy love! i dont care! i just want it to happen..i dream about it so much everynight. and i feel like such a loser because it feels as if every other 13-14 year old girl in the world has been kissed except me. even some of my more unattractive friends have...idk. i dont think i'm hideous or fat or mean or any of hte above...but i dont know ..something about me must turn guys off..just please help idk what to do. and if i'm ever going to get my first kiss soon

You really don't care? Then it's very simple. Just start asking guys out. Yes, some will say no. Find one you like and ask him out. You may need to make the first move. And believe me many people who are 13 or 14 haven't been kissed.

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