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How do you know if....
14/f
Okay, here's my problem. You see, I really like guys, I really do. I go on dates with them, have crushes on them, they are the ones I want to have a relationship and all that.
But recently I have felt something new. You see I have my friend friend, let's call her Katie. Katie and I are inseperable, always going places together, hanging out whatever. I enjoy being around her so much. I've always felt just fine around her, until about three months ago.
I don't know what happened but soon I felt like I always needed to impress her, look pretty in front of her, and I saw how beautiful she is. I swear she is the most gorgeous person I know! And when she comes over now I just want to be close to her and hug her and touch her. I mean I caught myself starring at her chest the other day and having some daydream that she was kissing me! I don't know what's going on!
Like last night she spent the night at my house, and we sleep in the same bed. Normally it's a double bed, but since I'm rearanging my room it got reduced to a twin. So we srunched together close and I felt so guilty because I enjoyed her body pressed up against mine. And while we were talking all I wanted to do was just lean in and kiss her. It's so weird! And half the time I just want to hold her and know that she is mine and she like me as more than a friend.
But the thing I don't get is that all my guy friends say that they could see us together as lesbiens and i always brush it off because I like guys but her and I always play around kiss each other on the cheek and spoon (the sleeping poission) while we're sleeping, and strattle each other when we're play fighting, just being silly. And some days she says "Sometimes I swear I am a lesbian." and she says it in a joking way, but does she mean it as a joke? I just want her so bad, she's like my other half.
So am I bi? Can you just someday wake up and feel sexual towards someone of the same sex? And if so, if I am bi, how do I tell her? Because she knows me so well and she'll figure it out soon. So what do I say to her? Do I ever tell her that I like her in that way? Thanks for any advice you can give me. I rate high.
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loads of people get feelings like yours, sometimes it's because they are lesbians and sometimes they are just seeing what it's like. I think you should tell your friend how you feel she will understand, she could be going through the same thing but you won't know unless you tell her
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Sexuality can change at any time. Our brain chemistry and socio-cultural influences are continously evolving. So sexual feelings can change too, and often.
Let yourself explore these feelings, and don't feel ashamed of them. At 14, you are far too young to label yourself. You sound lucky to be blessed with liberal and understanding friends. Open up to your closer friends about your feelings. Never let anyone make you feel ashamed of your sexual feelings.
Be sensible and careful, but enjoy yourself too!
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During puberty there are hormones running around like crazy. You are bound to have feelings towards the same sex. Many people do, it's normal.
You still have the same chance for being any orientation. Don't worry about this in a few years it will be more clear to you.
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uMm .. i dont really think that your lesbian because you said that you would only wana be with her if you were a lezbo .. so i think that you just feel that way because your always hangin out with her & playing around & having fun .. i dont know for that your a lesbian for a fact but if you are then you could just go up to Katie & just explain to her that your a lesbian .. & hopefully she will really understand !! well hope i helpd ..
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Hey I understand I have gone throught the same thing, dont worry your just in a experimental age, those guys remarks probably put those thoughts in your head and now you are thinking about it. You probably arent bi and your friend has probably thought about it too just next time she makes a comment about being a les ask her if she is seriouse cause you think you are. From there what ever happens happens, dont worry about being bi or not cause at the end you should just do whatever you feel comfortable with, and remember dont label yourself this just away to learn more about your sexuality. So what if your bi or strait, the truth is you are not sure right now.
If you need more advice feel free to ask, I know what you are going threw.
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