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Okay well I'm 13 and I'm in the 7th grade and I'm worried about my friend. Okay shes pretty much drop-dead gorgeous and could get any guy she wants. Well I mean she's not like a slut or anything (Okay she kissed her ex boyfriend(corey) 4 times he was her first kiss ... and then shes made out with her current boyfriend once. ).
Anyways she has had family problems. She has two little sisters and they get favored and her mom pretty much yells at her 24/7 and ignores her all the time.
Then recently, about 2 weeks ago, she went to her neighbors house(AJ) and Corey was there. Well Corey grabbed her and she was sitting on him ..., hes like really muscular so she couldn't get away, anyways Corey started rubbing her body and then AJ's like on top of her and hes unhooking her bra. She finally got away and ran into the bathroom and Corey comes in and he was all like awwl hilary i'm sorry for being a jerk i'll help you. So Hilary believed him and he ended up unhooking it again. This kept on happening she was there for about 2 hours.
So shes pretty tramatized from that and her mom. Well to make things worse her mom was yelling at her Tuesday night and she wasn't really paying attention because she hates being yelled at. Her dad then asked her if she was paying attention and she was like it's kinda hard not to dad when shes screaming at me. Then her dad comes over and punches her jaw(and her neck cracked).
Now Hilary is one of my bffae and I don't know what to say to her to help her or anything. Please help me on what I can do for this situation to help her out.
Ohh and we were going to call child abuse people if her dad hit her again.
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Both her AND you shouldn't be around them unless your in public. If you are a great friend, then if you know shes going to their house for some reason, go with her, and bring something to defend yourself. NOT like a gun or knife, but like rings on your fingers for defense. Basically one choice is to be her bodygaurd.
Another that requires less defending and more offense is going straight up to ONE of the guys in public and "talk" to him. Don't play the nice girl card, be mean. Don't ASK if he can stop; DEMAND that he stops and never does it again.
Or there is always a less involed approach. Simply always be there for her if she is having nightmares and such about the incidents involving her parents or the rape. Let her know it will never happen again and everything will get better soon.
As far as her dad goes, you pretty much did all you could do by reporting him in if he hits her again.
-brittany
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well you should tell your parents because if you are best friends with her your parents must no her pretty well you should talk to your mom and dad or who ever you live with and they should call aj and coreys mom and dad because they should not have done that. that is sexual abuse so talk to your parents and if you dont and her parents hit her agian call your local child abuse hot line right away and if aj and corey bother her agian call the police.i hope your friend finds some help. (trina)
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She really needs help. I think you need to call child abuse, or the NSPCC child protection helpline (the number for the nspcc one is 0808 800 5000). I also think Hilary should talk to her mum about the fact that she feels ignored and that she's always being yelled at. If she feels too shy to do that then suggest she talks to another relative, and if she doesnt want to do that either, then she could just tell a cousin, who would hopefully pass the message on to Hilary's parents. What AJ and Corey did was molesting Hilary and it will help if you phone the police.
Hope I helped xxx
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ok she REALLY needs to get help.
she needs to talk to your student counseler about the boys and she needs to talk to her mom and tell her that she feels ignored and yelled at to much. and if her dad hits her or hurts her again then yes contact child abuse.
you just need to be there for her and love her like a bffe would.
----caitlin----
hope i helped and keep me updated =)
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Either you or her need to call the police. Right now. Tell your parents. Both these situations are illegal. There's no we'll call the police if it happens again because you're giving him a chance to punch her again like that. And also unhooking her bra and feeling her is molestation. Go pick up the phone right now, call the police, and get your friend the help she needs.
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your friend really needs to stop talking to this boy first then you should tell her to call the cops and tell them what her parents has been doing to her. if she says she doesn't want to you do it no matter what she says.
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Okay; as for the first problem, with the boyfriend, make sure that your friend breaks up with this boy. I know it sounds obvious enough, but you wouldn't believe what some girls put up with.
As for the thing with her father; it's not as easy as everyone makes it seem! It's not as simple as calling the police. Does she want him put in jail? Does she feel that he'll try to hurt her again? Does she want to split up her family? I had to make all of these choices against my will when my friend called the police after my dad hit me. It was the hardest day of my life, and all that ended up happening was that my family didn't get along for months; they all blamed me. Please don't call the police without the consent of your friend, because it really is a lot harder to deal with than you may think.
Try to get her in to see a guidance counsellor at school, though, and they can help her deal with any trauma.
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ok i'm 13 too and there is no way i would wait for a next time you should call the child abuse people now or well fair. you can ask her to spend some time with you and ask for those boys i would let them have it but don't do that.does your mom know?answer this question. tell a teacher and your mom if she doesn't know.
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dnt wait for it to happen again you have to tell someone because the longer you leave it he harder it will be to speak out. She should also tell someone about what corey did to her it wasnt right or acceptable.
if her parents are always shouting at her then maybe you shudl suggest to her maybe about talkin to her family about it. there are a lot of people who can help her if it is really getting her down. it will help if she knows if shes got someone there for her so make sure sh eknows shes got a friend
i hope shes ok
kim
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Ok this is a really hard situation but all of this goes to TELLING SOMEONE. DONT wait to call child abuse you have to call them now!!
call them now!!
call them now!!
call them now!!
call them now!!
call them now!!
call them now!!
And about corey he can be charged by the police for sexual abuse and assault, tell the police.
TELL THEM NOW.
TELL THEM NOW.
The more you wait the harder it gets to defend yourselfs.
I have no advice on what to do with her mom unless your friend want to talks to her about it, or maybe she can have her sisters talk to her.
Hope I helped and good luck to your friend.
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You need to tell someone. If you guys are such friends you need to tell a school counsilor--it helps to talk about things and this guy corey good get charged with assult. so you should tell the po po (police) on him or he will do it again. trust me, me and your friend can relate.
mucho love
hopee ur friend getss helpp
ps-call child abuse people now, my dad absuses me. and i dunno why i let him. he will do it again--no matter what.
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