If a girl always responsive to any attention you throw her way, that is a good sign. She will smile at you, make clear eye-contact and find excuses to be near you. Be friendly in a non-sexual harassment way of course, but in a sweet and polite way that you greet her and speak with her. No touching! It is still work, and you have to be careful. You might suggest that as a group, you all go for a drink or whatever after work sometime, where the atmosphere is casual and fun. If she likes you, she will respond.

The only person who can really answer that is this guy himself. Maybe he is trying to meet newer people or wants to appear cool by ignoring you for some reason. We can only speculate, but I would ask him directly, and tell him you feel dissed. If he is really a friend, then he will understand why you feel like you do. If he does not care, then he is a jerk.

You have a right to your feelings, as confusing as they are. Don't try to analyze yourself or him. Just move on, and ignore this guy and any girls that he may seem interested in flirting with in front of you. Cheating is never justified in my book, because the respectable thing to do is break up with the person before you go after another. You just need more time to get over him completely. Even when we are past liking someone, it is still hurtful when they have rejected us. Soon though, you won't even think about it!

Being Christian is not an excuse to be anti-gay. Anyway, you need to be honest about who you are. It is nothing to be ashamed of, and neither should they be. We can't control other people's reactions, but give them a chance. They may open their minds and hearts concerning the issue, because of your willingness to come forward. If they do not, it is their loss. Being gay or straight is not a choice that I am aware one can make, but an internal factor, one of many that makes us who we are. Never let someone else's ignorance define how you live your life. Check out this site:http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Heights/1734/bible.html

http://www.kypros.org/cgi-bin/lexicon
I tried the lexicon greek to english translator, but could not find it. Good luck!

Hmmm...a clubbing holiday in ibiza? Never heard of that one. She sounds like she is not thinking of the consequences of partying around and hanging out with druggies. She may have to learn the hard way, poor thing. Anyway, protect yourself from being around the same scene and know that you can be her friend without being her savior. People sometimes want to go on that ride without hearing the warnings. Your best bet is to live what you know is good for you and don't fall into her bad habits. Don't preach at her, but don't ignore the dangerous behavior. Tell her that you have concerns and hope that she is being careful, because she is a valuable friend and you worry about her.

Update***
I caution everyone of any sexual preference to use condoms and of the risks of having sex in general. I have friends who are bisexual and I know that they prefer monogamy and do not sleep around or have threesomes etc..so I did not mean to imply otherwise. Sorry for the confusion, I was just covering the bases, because I don't know you. If you just wanted to find out about his sexual curiosities in any area, I would still give it time. Even fantasies that people have can be difficult to share, and don't mean that they would want to actualize the fantasy into reality. Most everyone has probably thought about bisexuality or other fantasies, and for many it is just a passing thing, and obviously for others, it is much more. He has chose to be in a straight relationship and so have you, so any desires you or he have for anyone else probably should not be encouraged, if you want to stay in a monogamous relationship.
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You may be right or wrong, but it is up to him to figure it out himself and choose the time to bring it up if he wants to. Sexuality is personal and private business. If you are wanting to have an open relationship or experiment, then go ahead and be open about what you want. Just don't try to pressure him into anything or talk him into something he does not want. It could easily backfire, if you do. If you need to be with someone who is bisexual like you are and he is not, you might want to leave him now, before you waste each other's time even more. Two people need to really be on the same page and I agree that you should not be dishonest with him. Remember that the more partners you have or share, the greater the chance for getting various sexually transmitted diseases, so please be careful and use protection every time.

First, use condoms everytime. Young guys have this problem frequently due to overexcitement, and inexperience. Also, this can be the result of hurried masterbation...basically training the body to orgasm as fast as possible to avoid getting caught. Not having sex often may increase the rate of orgasm for a male, because he is sensitive to the stimulation.
As far as you are concerned, the best way to discover your own orgasm is without him. Then, you will be able to transfer your knowledge of what helps you orgasm alone, to when you are with your partner. Females usually orgasm easier on top during sex, because you have more control of your own stimulation. Him not lasting is not a good excuse for him to get out of giving you your turn at orgasm. He probably is just clueless. Figure it out alone and teach him, or ask for oral. That should do it if he does not give up after five minutes. A last note*** Oral sex will also spread sexual transmitted diseases, so know your partner and take precautions. Hopefully you are already using condoms, which will also help him last longer! Some types are made especially for this, so try some.

It was a stupid remark and not to be taken seriously. The average size is much smaller than most people realize and not that important an issue. I suggest you do something about the teasing if it bothers you, which I am sure it does. People usually change after highschool, and the "popular" kids are not usually so great after graduation. Many "nerds" and other kids who are teased find that they bloom after highschool and become successful and very happy with themselves. You may be overweight now, but I am sure you have a lot of things to be proud of. If you want to get help with a weight loss plan, then see your doctor first. It is a decision that is only in your control.

You know the reasons you should not do this already, but your feelings are powerful. You need to discuss this problem with your therapist in session the next time you go. He will help you deal with your feelings in the appropriate way. It is crucial to your therapy that you are completely honest and open to talking about your feelings for him, because it is likely that it is getting in the way of your total health. The SETI thing may be weird, but even more weird is your obsession with him, that you googled him! Talk to him, or switch therapists immediately. Do not trade in your wellness for a temporary attraction that will fade in time!

Take a deep breath and know that you are not alone. I know from experience (four kids of my own!) that motherhood is the hardest job and least appreciated in the entire universe! There are free financial and parenting advisors available in many communities through government agencys and local churches. Many cities offer safe places to drop off kids with no questions asked to give overstressed parents a much deserved break.
You are cleary feeling overwhelmed and I feel your pain. So many moms have been in your position and you deserve help and a break. The kids are probably stressed out, too. Spanking never worked for my kids either, so I stuck with time outs. One minute for every year seemed good, but a kid needs to be at least two years old first. You need to be so careful that you do not do anything rash, or that you will regret while you are upset. Ask a neighbor or friend to watch the kids even in your own house for a couple hours while you take a nap or straighten up the mess. You are not a failure. You are a woman who needs a little assistance, and that is okay.
We all need support and you will get through this, I promise. Look in your local phone book and make it your mission today to find as much help as possible. It really is out there and people will really help if you ask. I know in many communities and churches there are lots of volunteers that would be happy to come over and help you out by playing with the kids or going over other options with you. Just having support and people to talk to helps. Join a mom's or working mom's group to talk with other women who have been where you are, and can offer solutions and friendship. You are doing the right thing by asking for advice already, and I will say a prayer for you to get the real help in your life. God Bless!
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The nurse probably knows what she is doing, but you should call the doctor to ask if you are worried. The effects or symptoms of taking the shot should be similar to other birth control pills, but your doctor should have given you all that information. Please call the doctor and get all your answers from her/him. Do not ever be embarrassed or afraid to ask follow-up questions after a visit to clarify things. Women do it all the time, and it is expected!

Wow, a bigger butt. I think you want a perkier butt, and not just adding flabby pounds, so do lots of squats while tightening your stomach muscles. That should tone and add muscle to both areas. Fat has to be burned, and abdominal fat has to be burned off metabolically to disappear. Sit-ups won't do it, but aerobic activity will generally help. Running, dancing anything that makes you sweat for about an hour everyday will burn the fat. Eat healthy and never diet! Drink at least 8 glasses of water to stay hydrated, or your body will not function or burn calories efficiently.

Wow, that is a huge question and widely debated even by biblical scholars. Many different churches have varying views on what and when and where anything like that takes place. The book of Revelations discusses in seemingly metaphorical form, many prophecies concering the return of the Christ, judgement of sin, and Satan being thrown into an eternal fire.

There are many signs to come, before the return of the Christ, but these also can be interpreted differently. Some predict many wars, wild weather changes, natural disasters, and vast disease. Some say that the world will see many false prophets and even the anti-Christ will come to deceive the masses and rule the Earth for a time. The Rapture is a biggie, also. That is when Christ comes and takes his followers with him to Heaven. No one can know for certain anything that requires faith. Faith is about believing what is not known or evidenced, except by the heart.

There is no reason for those who love God to fear the coming return of Christ or even judgement. God is defined as Love itself in the Bible, and Christ is defined as the way, the truth, and the life, sent by God to save the world. That is pretty awesome stuff in itself, and if that is your faith, you should not have to worry about the rest.

A doctor can tell, but it is not a big deal if you have. Many virgins have a broken hymen due to non-sexual activity or injury. It does not mean that you are not a virgin, so as long as you are not in pain and everything returns to normal you don't need to worry. If there is any indictation of injury, pain, or infection, it would be a good idea to see a doctor.

You need to see a doctor to know for sure, and to get on birth control if you are not already. Plan to use condoms everytime to protect you from rampant sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. You probably are okay, but you should definately make an appointment with a gynocologist to answer all your concerns and only she can tell you for sure.

No. You need to trim every 6 weeks on average. You can reduce splitting by not brushing out wet hair (hair is weaker when wet) and using a wide pik with detangler instead. Also avoid overdrying, sun and other damaging factors like irons. Hair will continue to split up, and make hair thinnner appearing, so trim at least a little every couple months. Eat a healthy diet and take a mulitvitamin to increase new hair growth.

I found this advice on the net from someone's dentist, supposedly. "If you brush back and forth, floss first. If you brush up and down, floss after." I guess it makes sense, but the best thing is to do it before bedtime. Also, if you brush first, you won't be pushing up more bacteria into the gumline when you floss. After flossing I usually do a quick extra brush, tongue scrape and listerine. So nice to have a sparkling fresh mouth!

Sounds like flirting. I hope you realize that just because it is labeled as "christian," there is no guarentee that stalkers and liars are not there. It is still an internet chatroom, so do not give out ANY personal information at all!!! Take it as slow as possible, and do not send photos or encourage sex-talk. Guys do not generally develop feelings and attachments like girls do. They do like phone and internet sex-talk a lot and flirting and most are there for selfish reasons. Some creeps who are really old stinky men use someone else's picture and pose as a young attractive guy in order to lure a girl. I hope this is not your case, but please be cautious. It may be better to meet guys the old fashioned way!

You have a huge burden to deal with and I understand the frustration your whole family is putting on you. Your sister is crying out for attention, and help. She must have a lot of pain inside and it is probably eating her alive. Please be patient with her and thankfully she is getting the help she needs. Someday, she will thank you for being there for her. You are not a mean sister, just a human one. You need support to get through this, too. Talk to your parent, a friend, teacher, counselor...whoever. It is important for you to have people to hear you out, too. Try to remember that the tantrums, although manipulative, stem from a dark place of torment and possibly self-loathing. Be as patient and compassionate as you can with her, and you will find yourself less burdened and angry.

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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http://www.coolnurse.com/

http://www.4woman.gov/violence/

http://www.childhelpusa.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child

drug/alcohol abuse help go here: http://www.4drugabuse.com/addiction-treatment.html

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The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis. If you need help, please dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential. -----------------------------------

http://www.kidscrisis.com/

http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html

You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day, free & confidential. 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

For info. on birth control etc.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline is the only hotline that children and parents can call with any problem at any time:
Open 24-hours a day, every day at 1-800-448-3000

Spanish-speaking counselors available; translation services for 100+ languages

TTY line available for the hearing-impaired at 1-800-448-1833

Counselors can help find services and agencies in the callers' local community

Help at the End of the Line
Callers talk to highly-trained, professional counselors who listen and give "right now" answers. They're sympathetic people who have expertise dealing with these and other problems:

depression

suicide

running away

parenting problems

relationship concerns

physical, sexual, and emotional abuse

chemical dependency

mental health

anger

aggressive behavior

Toll Free
Operated by Father Flanagan's Boys' Home, hotline services are free of charge to every parent and child in all 50 states, the District of Columbia, U.S. territories, and Canada.

Toll-Free: 1-800-448-3000

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http://www.anorexicweb.com/anorexicweb.html

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Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
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