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Well me and this boy have been talking and we were bout to go out... but he hasnt called me in almost a week!!!! also i went to i club dance on friday that he was also supposed 2 go to but he didnt show up (he was talking bout it al week!!! b4 it) so i asked his friend n he said dat he wasnt coming so i told him to tell him to call me later on !!! he never did!!!!!!!!! sooo should i call him or just forget about him???? wat should i say if i do call him or if he finally calls me!!!?????? plz help!!

What's wrong with calling him? It won't make you seem desperate, you told him to call & he didn't. So just call & check up on him, ask him about the club. If he doesn't seem interested then let him go.

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Thursday i told my friends i was going out with my crush in my gym class. when i told them one of my friends ask me praivtely if me and him are going to kiss. i look at her and said "ummm yeah why?" she respond "well you know i dont like when people kiss"

(because she told me she hated when she see people kiss in movies or in person she thinks its gross)its odd cause we are all teens but why would she seem gross out when people kiss?

anyways i couldnt belive she said that and that made me think 'is she jealous of me or him? or does she want a realtionship too with soemone?' she never met the guy before and he is new to the school. so what do you think?

She might be jealous or most likely she just doesn't like it. If you want to go out with him & casually kiss, don't invite her with you. Try hanging out with her seperately or something. That is a bit weird, but you have to respect both your friend & your crush. Maybe ask her why she thinks its gross. Plus, if you guys are out on a date, you shouldn't take her with you anyways. If you kiss in school thats up to you. Maybe do it when she isn't around or tell her to let it go & that its a normal thing to do.

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i have acne scars on my face i mean they arnt that bad but i want to get rid or them...how could i get rid of them

thanks in advance

Here's a website for you to check out-

http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/skin_stuff/acne_scars.html

This will give you a lot of useful information. It also gives you things that you can do.

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what is polyunsaturated fat and monounsaturated fat? and what are calories from fat? like if something had 78 calories and calories of fat was 48 or something, what would that mean and what does it do for your health?

Here's a very helpful website-

http://www.americanheart.org/presenter.jhtml?identifier=532

If you scroll down, there's a brief explanation on those types of fats. For any type of food you eat, the fat calories should be 40% or less. So lets say the thing you're eating is 100 calories total. If the fat calories were 40% less, that would be ok. So, if there's 15 calories of fat out of a 100 calorie product, that would be 15% of fat in the product, meaning it's less than 40% which is good. The website will give you a good explanation of this.

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ok im going to get a job this summer. possibly at Limited Too. not sure yet. whats the minimum that they can or allowed or will pay me? anyone know? i live in New Jersey if that helps

It all depends. Some places its $6.75 where others its a lot less. Here's a website-

http://www.state.nj.us/labor/lsse/lsgenfaq.html

Q. What is the minimum wage in New Jersey?

A. Effective October 1, 2006, the minimum wage rate in New Jersey is $7.15 per hour.

It will probably be around there.

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For advicers who were featured or if you know for sure, how do you know if you're featured? do you get an email telling you?

No. If you check the main page regularly you'll see yourself as the featured columnist. There's no email or message. If you think that would be a good idea, email DangerNerd with your suggestions.

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hey im new on this i just wanted to no how to like add a background and stuff

To add a background its pretty simple. On the side bar, go under "WELCOME ADVICENATORNAME" & there should be a link called Column Settings. After that, there should be blank spots to put all kinds of information. One of them says Page Background Image [URL]. There you can put whatever background you like. If you have a background you already want to use, upload it at either of these sites-

www.photobucket.com
www.tinypic.com

If you don't have one, find one on google [or those sites] & save it & then upload it.

You can also fill in whatever else you want. You can go to the Profile Settings option also located under Column Settings on the left bar.

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does anyody know sanjaya malakar's personal actual real myspace?

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No, most likely it is not given out to the public. I would not believe all of the fakes there are either. The only true myspace you should believe is if he said on tv "this is my real myspace website" which is probably doubtful. Sorry but it doesn't seem like its going to be advertised anytime soon. You can always befriend the fakes though.

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and he likes me too, well, used to. That's part of the problem. I'm not too sure what's going through his mind anymore. We've been hanging out alot and we talk everyday and this has been going on for the past 2 months and at the beginning of those 2 months he told me he liked me and I liked him back. Well, we've kissed and everything, and I'm just confused. I don't get why he hasn't asked me out by now.

He also always talks about these girls and ex-girlfriends and stuff to me. Like he tells me how his one girlfriend used to cook for him and how he thought that was cool and how his other old one used to be a real good dancer [ I don't know if he's trying to hint to me I should pick up on these things or what or if he's just making converastion about his past ]. But then he'll tell me about how he went to the mall and two girls gave him their number and everything. And I know this is a common thing to make the person you like jealous, but he's going a little overboard, now. He knows I like him, so rubbing 3940 girls in my face isn't making me too happy, but I can't say nothing because we're not girlfriend or boyfriend or anything. He's single, he has the right to flirt and do things with whomever he pleases.

It just feels like we're dating already, though. I mean we talk EVERY DAY and hang out as much as we can, so I'm practically the only girl he sees anyways and we have such fun when we're together and I love kissing him and everything. It's great.

But that's where I get confused, like I said earlier. I don't know if he's lost feelings for me [ but then why would he still be kissing me and everything? ] or what because I figured he would've asked me out by now.

Well anyways.
Last night I was thinknig about it and I got a little moody cause it's been upsetting me for the past week now and I was on the phone with him and he asked what was wrong, and I told him nothing. He asked continously and I gave him the same answer continously and we both got aggrivated with eachother. So today I texted him back apologizing for being so moody and hoping he'd forget about it, move on, but he didn't. He started asking all over again what was the matter and what was on my mind last night and I told him once more,"really, it's nothing I don't want to talk about it." Cause I don't have the courage to confront guys about things, I'm a wuss.

Well he hung up on me and texted me back saying,"I thought we were friends and could tell eachother anything. I know you hate secrets being kept from you just as much as I do. You call me when you wanna tell me, but if you don't tell me, don't call me at all."

I don't know what to do!

I want to just say it, but I get all nervous and I'm just so worried about how the outcome's gonna be. Him say he doesn't like me anymore and we're just friends and I'm all sad, or him say all that and then it's too awkward to be friends. Or then he ask me out out of pity or something. But now I feel even MORE pressured to say something because he basically just gave me an ultimatium. I don't even know if everything I've just written makes sense, but if it does, someone give me your opinion, please?

You have to talk to him about it. It seems like he thinks that telling you about all these girls & playing hard to get makes you want him more. That is definately not how it goes, but he probably doesn't know that. You should tell him how you feel. Seriously, if you keep your feelings from him, things just go downhill from there. You are friends & it does seem like you're almost dating. Think of it this way, if the situation was flipped, wouldn't you want him to tell you? Call him, let him know. If you start having a real bf/gf relationship, you need to be open & honest. It's all about trust.
None of us can tell you if he likes you or not, but since you do talk daily, there's a good chance he still has the same feelings for you.

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This moring i woke up from my cell phone cause it rang. i pick it up and it was a text message from a friend of mind. she send me a message that read:
"hahahaha your a dork"
I reply "geeek"
we kept sending insulting comments back to each other. till i ask her why was she sending me these texts.
"boredom" she reply
"YOU WOKE ME UP CAUSE YOU WERE BORED! your going 2 get it!" I reply
"thank you thankyou" she reply
"thank you for what?"
"4 saying im going to get it" she reply
then she send a message that she had something for me i reply with a joke "what my soul?"
she said Im not getting that back.

I know it sounds like kiddish game playing but we always do this to each other. I tell her that she is evil and she gets happy about that even when i say to her i hate you.

So is that a form of flirting or playing around?
she send me anthoer text that she was bored in class i reply "I wish i was there, but you might kill me hehehe" "sooo sweet" she reply

it might be nothing but what do you all think?

It sounds pretty much like flirting, but no one can say for sure. Girls that do flirt either are extremely nice & touchy or make jokes & laugh with the guy they're flirting with. Since it does sound like a kiddish game, it is most likely flirting.

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Yeah is there anything I can do to become a better high school safety? Any drills and tips would be fine. Also what is the average size for a high school safety?

Oh football! I read this question quite a few times & i was like "high school safety drills what?" I thought you meant like earthquakes or fire drills or something haha. Anyways, this website has drills-

http://www.howtoplay.com/football/drills/defensive_back.html

If you scroll down to the bottom they're there. I thought this was helpful also-

http://www.knowledgehound.com/topics/football.htm

Check those out. Sorry if they aren't exactly what you're looking for. My friend plays safety for 12th grade on his high school team. There isn't a set average but he told me once [im not sure why he did] that the height is usually somewhere in the 5'8+ range who weighs 150+ and also who's quick on their feet since it is the teams last line of defense.

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hey you answered my ? about the uneven boobs. do you really think he won't notice? because when i do it myself i can tell a huge difference. do you really think he won't care? i mean its not like he would stop liking me or anything, he cares about me a lot. but he always says i am perfect and i dont want him to stop thinking that

He most likely won't notice. You can tell because you know they are uneven and you see yourself every day. To him, he doesn't know because you haven't told him & doesn't see them every day. If you seriously think it's too big of a difference and he might notice, I doubt he'd even care. If he cares about you like you say, there shouldn't be a problem. It's not like he's going to make fun of you or something. If he does mention it or notice, just laugh it off & be like "yeah sorry i don't know, it's a girl thing" or something. Plus, he'll probably be too busy thinking about other things.

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soo, im 17/f and started growing boobs in basically 5th or 6th grade, so its not like i just started. but they are SO uneven. and they ALWAYS have been. my mom says that they will eventually even out, but i've had them for over six years and they are still uneven, although bigger. my left is a B and my right is an A. i dont mind it that badly, except i have a bf and we just progressed to the whole "feeling up" stage. so far hes only felt the left, and i dont want him to realize that they are two different sizes. what should i do and are there any ways to make the other one grow? anything at all?

No, you can't do anything. Unfortunately, a lot of girls are uneven & there's nothing they can do. Your mom is right though, they will even out eventually. I highly doubt your boyfriend will notice. If he makes a big deal out of it [which is unlikely because most guys wont notice/dont care] then he isn't the best boyfriend. He shouldn't care about that anyways.

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Okay well..Im a 16/f, but really has nothing to do with my question. Well I have liked this guy for about 2 years now.. and hes a 2 years older then me. and we always go on and off with our relationship. but we've never been offical! we've fooled around a stuff, which was my first time for all that. and then he tell me that he can't stand being with me cause our personalitys clash. or something like that. and now im having a really hard time getting over him, cause he really ment alot to me. and i really like (( well liked him )), and i jus wanna know the best way to get him off my mind. I mean hes gonna be graduating soon, which will help.. but i need to know now! we're still friends and talk and stuff.. but its jus so hard for me.. and then another way to make it worse is he's going to prom with one of my friends.. well kinda my friend, and im having the hardest time with this.. so please help me! i really need it! Thanks in advance! :)

Best way to get over someone, stay away from them. Yes, it isn't the best thing for a friendship, but if you are friends with him, talking to him will probably help you like him. You don't want that, so you should probably stay away for now. Explain this to him though. Don't blow him off & ignore him without an explanation. Just flat out say that you cannot be friends with him for previous reasons such as you having a crush on him. If he doesn't know that, then just say it's a personal thing. You should date around. Take someone to prom/ask on a date & see what happens. If you are dating other guys, they'll keep your attention & you won't pay as much attention to him anymore.

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Well I have a crush on this boy and he knows since everyone told him. I saw him look at me like a 1000 times and so has my friends. He did the whole things where he tells his friend and the friend looks at the person to approve, at least it looked like it. But he asked my bff out, he asked her out 3 months ago and then he found out she likes him so he asked her out. So does that mean he doesnt like me now?

That's a difficult question. None of us on advicenators can tell you if he likes you or not [no matter how great at giving advice we are] because we are not him & do not know him. By the looks of things, if he asked your bff out, he might see you as a friend. Another option could be that he thought he didn't have a chance with you or he thinks people are making it up that you like him. You might want to talk to him about it. A lot of people don't have the confidence to do that, so if not, you might just need to move on. If he wanted to date you, he wouldn't have asked out your bff, right? You won't know for sure unless you ask him though.

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13/f my best friend and i have know eachother for 3 years. We had two major fights that lasted atleast 1/2 a year each and i know her to well and i noticed shes changed. In the sixth grade we both made a promise to eachother as to not let eachother turn into a preppy know-it-all b***h. and now we dont talk as much as we used to and she started hanging out with the people she said she hated (preps) she tried to go anorexic too because she thought she was fat, and shes not even close to it, but i made her eat. Shes been really bitchy latly too. the other day we were texting and then she started saying how she was fat and i told her she wasnt fat at all. then she says well atleast i care about how i look unlike someone. and she was refering to me because im not one of those girls who spends 2 hours on hair, make-up and all that stuff, more like 30 minutes. Well she said sorry after and she made up the crapiest excuse ever and said that she was just moody and i know that she only says that when shes lieing to i have no idea what to do because i've tried talking to her and that just ended up with us yelling at eachother so please help me i dont want to lose my best friend

You just need to talk to her. Tell her all of this or else she won't know how you feel. If you keep your feelings away from her, you won't be able to change anything because she wouldn't know. If you talk to her & she keeps it up, it might be in your best interest to stay away for awhile until she starts acting herself. Try to help her out though. She might just need someone to vent her feelings to.

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my boyfriend has me 9th in his top friends for myspace and like 4 other girls are in front of me. and he never puts me in his AIM away message and it kinda pisses me off. one day he'll be like "i love you soo much i couldn't live without youu." then he'll be like ehh whatever the next day and not as sweet. some days he calls me and some times he doesn't. i just want him to call me every day and put me in his away messages and tell me he loves me all the time. some times he does, but other times he just doesn't. it would be kind of stupid being like "yeah you have to call me every day and always say you love me and put me in your AIM away message." but i don't know how else to get the message across..

he's a very loving boyfriend but sometimes i feel that he likes to play hard to get. =(

every other day he's wicked nice and sweet to me. but how come not EVERY day?

You definately need to talk to him about this. Like any other girl, it would probably make me a bit angry if girls were put infront of me. He should tell you how he feels a lot, but only if its true of course. He shouldn't be off & on with his feelings so quickly & they shouldn't change so frequently. Seriously, sit down & talk to him. Basically mention everything that you just asked. Don't make it a command. Just say "well i was wondering why you do this..". That way it won't seem like you're demanding or controlling him to do things. If he seems distant or even gets mad about you asking, then you might want to reconsider dating him. He should at least treat you evenly with other people in his life, you are his girlfriend. So, just talk to him about it & see how things go.

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hey. 14/f. so last year in 7th grade there was this girl, and we were pretty good friends, because we had all of our classes together. well, this year (8th grade) we have 1 class together and we still talk, but only in that one class. well, shes like in the really "popular" croud and on the 13th her and her friend (really really popular) are having their b day partys together. so in this 1 class we are in together, we are the only people to talk to each other. cause like all of the other kids are 7th graders and we just never talk to them. and she was telling me about their party and how they are inviting pretty much everyone in the 8th grade. and she told me that i was gonna get an invitation. so today i go to school and everyone is talking about how they got an invatation and how excited they are for the party. but of course, i did not get one. and she told me i would! tomorrow is when we have our 1 class together, but i'm not sure if i want to talk to her because i'm really kinda pissed. and no, its not just the mail or anything. i live in HER town-the exact same town as her, and people that live like 20 min away already have hers. and i just don't know what to do. i feel like ignoring her, but idk. i just think it is rude how she said i would be invited, yet i did not get an invite. so what should i do?? thanx!

Try ignoring it. Yes, it is rude that she was going to give you an invitation & didn't, but I think if you bring it up with her, you may come off as rude also. Leave it go for tomorrow. Don't start talking to her. If she talks to you, you can mention the party. She shouldn't have mentioned it to you if you weren't invited for sure. Maybe it was an honest mistake & she thought you were or just forgot about it. Maybe she was going to personally give you an invite, who knows. Just see how things go by themselves & you might want to mention it to her later.

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okay well i want to replace all my junkie foods with
healthy foods. like cookies & chips. i know fruits &
veggies, but anything in parcicular that's superr good
for me? like help burn fat? boost metabolism? & any
excercises for my thighs?

There's a lot of food choices you can choose from. Here are a few I would suggest-

Apples
Basic fruits & veggies
Cranberry juice
Beans
Cheese
Skim milk
Yogurt
Fish/Lobster
Almonds
Walnuts
Peanut Butter
Rye Crackers
Whole wheat pasta
Salmon
Soy
Anything Green!
Berries
Whole Grains

Those are just a few foods that will help you burn fat faster & are really good for you. Here are a few recipes for you to try-

http://allrecipes.com/Recipes/Healthy-Living/Main.aspx

You can pick out the exact kind of food you want to eat. Also, remember that eating healthy is very important, but you definately don't have to cut out foods you do like. You just need to have portion control & watch how much junk food you do eat.

Thigh Exercises-
http://www.lhj.com/home/Thigh-Exercises.html

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