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friend/party
hey. 14/f. so last year in 7th grade there was this girl, and we were pretty good friends, because we had all of our classes together. well, this year (8th grade) we have 1 class together and we still talk, but only in that one class. well, shes like in the really "popular" croud and on the 13th her and her friend (really really popular) are having their b day partys together. so in this 1 class we are in together, we are the only people to talk to each other. cause like all of the other kids are 7th graders and we just never talk to them. and she was telling me about their party and how they are inviting pretty much everyone in the 8th grade. and she told me that i was gonna get an invitation. so today i go to school and everyone is talking about how they got an invatation and how excited they are for the party. but of course, i did not get one. and she told me i would! tomorrow is when we have our 1 class together, but i'm not sure if i want to talk to her because i'm really kinda pissed. and no, its not just the mail or anything. i live in HER town-the exact same town as her, and people that live like 20 min away already have hers. and i just don't know what to do. i feel like ignoring her, but idk. i just think it is rude how she said i would be invited, yet i did not get an invite. so what should i do?? thanx!
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I think I would give her a chance to get you the invite, before you assume you aren't getting one. The party isn't for three days, and you share that class tomorrow. Maybe she is going to personally deliver yours during class?
If you don't get the invite, next time you have class together after the party, ask her "how did the party go? I would have come to join in the fun, but the invitation may have gotten lost in the mail..."
That will give you a chance to ask why you didn't get one, without sounding rude, in a beat around the bush manner, and give her a chance to explain herself as well. Because you definitely want to give her a chance to explain her side of things before you jump the gun and be pissed off.
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Don't be too quick to judge. maybe she doesn't know your address, or maybe there was a problem with the mail. maybe she wanted to give it to you personally. maybe after inviting so many people she forgot to write out your invitation. give it a little time. If you wanna find out for sure, maybe bring up something about the party to her. by the way she reacts to you bringing it up will be easy to tell her reason for u not getting an invitation. if you really weren't invited, i wouldn't have any respect for her regarding the fact that she told you you were getting invited. good luck.
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Well, maybe she's just too caught up in being "popular" i know exactly how you feel and i've been where your "friend" is now. sometimes you just really want to fit in and you don't invite your true friends. I did that for my 13th birthday and it was a humungo mistake i really wish some of my real friends would've slapped me across my face and just told me that i was too busy trying to be popular. Don't ignore her. I would get even more mad it my friend ignored me...she might not even know what she's doing wrong. Even though your pissed talk to her not like aww i really wish...blah blah no. You can be kinda ticked it'll show her that she's hurting someone. And tell her i thought you said i'd be invited...but how come i never got one? and if she said well i sent one to you. Just say i want another one or something...just to be sure. Follow your gut but don't go too far.
hope i helped!
-stephanie
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Try ignoring it. Yes, it is rude that she was going to give you an invitation & didn't, but I think if you bring it up with her, you may come off as rude also. Leave it go for tomorrow. Don't start talking to her. If she talks to you, you can mention the party. She shouldn't have mentioned it to you if you weren't invited for sure. Maybe it was an honest mistake & she thought you were or just forgot about it. Maybe she was going to personally give you an invite, who knows. Just see how things go by themselves & you might want to mention it to her later.
-hope that helped!♥
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