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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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What are the chances that you can get pregnant from engaging in unprotected anal intercourse while on your period with a tampon in? I know that the chances are not high with anal sex and let alone being on my period; however, I am a bit nervous and need reassurance! Thank you!

Also, as far as I know, the semen did not leak on to the vaginal area after intercourse, as I was sure to wash up immediately after.

I think you should be okay. You can't get pregnant from anal UNLESS cum leaks down & goes into your vagina. However, since you had a tampon in, the tampon may have absorbed it, & you made sure you washed yourself immediately after, so I think you're okay.

Next time just use a condom okay? :)

Okay, i asked a previous question about this, but if you havent seen it, this is basically what happened. there was a party, my girlfriend went with her friends, i was working so i didnt. at the party some guy was hitting on her, then grabbed her ass, she pushed him off, he pushed her over onto the pavement, shes got a big bruise and scraped up her arm and hands. yeah well so i wanted to beat the shit out of him, but my gf told me to leave it alone, and forget about it. yeah. i didnt. i found him a few days later, and tried to kick his ass. hes a big fellow, but i walked away better which was what i wanted. my girlfriend found out and is PISSED at me. she doesnt get it though. i couldnt leave it alone. she wouldnt even let me talk her into pressing charges(which is what i was planning) she refused so i pretty much had to do what i did. but she doesnt get it. i tried to explain to her that when someone messes with your girlfriend, they cant just get away with it. she doesnt understand, but i did apologize. shes still pissed though and i do feel bad because i guess i made her feel guilty which is crazy, because if anyone should feel guilty, its me. i mean if i had been at the party, this would never have happened. i dont know what to do now. she feels bad, and shes mad as hell at me. any help?

16/m 15/f

I completely understand why you did what you did, trust me. I would do the same exact thing if I was in your situation (though roles would be reversed because I'm a girl with a boyfriend). However, while I think you had every right to fight him, I don't think you should've. I understand that it would be unfair to let him put his hands on her negatively & get away with it. Trust me, I really do understand.

But, if your girlfriend doesn't want you to fight someone & wants you to let it go, you need to respect her decision. She is your girlfriend, and this anger that she feels toward you could've completely been avoided. I think you really need to sit her down and explain how you felt, and why you did what you did - but you also need to let her know that you will respect her decisions from now on. Make sure she knows that you won't let this happen again.

I'm sure this whole thing will blow over soon. :)

I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her?

Yes, I think you should break up with her.

If the way she talks about sex is making you uncomfortable and if she's pressuring you into it, then that is a no-no. She knows what you've been through and is still making things difficult for you. You've told her no, and she still keeps on.

Also, she wants you to keep cutting yourself even though you've stopped? That doesn't sound like love to me. People who love each other want the best for each other, and they would never want the other person to hurt - whether they did it themselves or not.

You need to break up with her and get her help. I understand that she's at a dark place in her life and is having a rough time, but it isn't fair of her to pressure you or make you uncomfortable knowing your past. And it most certainly isn't fair of her to want you to harm yourself. That's a big no-no. She's gotta go. Get her help, and break up with her. This relationship is dangerous to your health - both of you.

ok my boyfriend and i had sex and he never jizzed in me but i am scared i could still be pregnat?? am i?

There is definitely a chance. You guys had sex, and that puts you at risk. I don't care if he came or not, there is a chance you could be pregnant.

Next time use protection.

my friend is goin out with this lad for about 4 months now and she want to have sex with him and she is still a virgin! but she told him that she wasnt so she wants to know is there a way of hiding the fact that she is?..

Is this guy a virgin as well? If so, he won't know what a virgin girl feels like, but it will be tight on her & there's probably no hiding it simply because it'll hurt.

She shouldn't have lied about her virginity to begin with. It's such a stupid thing to lie about. Make sure you tell her to use protection & to make sure she's ready when she has sex or she will regret it!

I will soon be entering my freshman year and am looking for a cute canvas tote. I prefer one that's pink with a peace sign, but that may be too much. Can anyone give me specific links to cute college totes that are
1. under $30
2. not something that says make pink or any crap like that from VS
3. and are big enough to hold a laptop

I used to own an abercrombie one that was a pink canvas and 30 dollars but that one has a hole in it and the new abercrombie ones are way too expensive :/
Thanks

You could try getting a tote from either American Eagle, or Target! American Eagle is quite inexpensive if you compare it to the likes of Abercrombie or Hollister. Target also has really cute stuff & they're also pretty inexpensive so you may wanna give them a look. :)

You can even try Wal*Mart because I see decent totes there all the time. Maybe try Aeropostale as well. I'm sure you'll find the right one for under $30. And hey, if you do find them for cheap, maybe you can even get 2 so you can switch it up. :)

My boyfriend and i of one year all we do is fight and sometimes it's for no reason,i really love him but i don't think he wants to be with me anymore? well example this happened the other day well i wanted to go city today with a friend and i invited him along this was on Thursday,when i invited him he asked who's going i sai my friend and i and her friend she wants to meet for the first time he just came from America,then he goes oh what you're still going to without me aren't you i'm like why can't i go he goes because there's going yo be2 guys there that you don't even know and its her first time ever meeting them i said doesn't mean i'm going to talk to them he goes so you even say hi and i said well obivously i'm gonna say hi but doiesn't mean i'll start a conversation he goes okay what if they asked you how are you would you tel them i said yes then he goes there you that's a conversation.he told me it's not jealousy he's just scared anyways i didn't up going for him because i was scared if i was to loose him he couldnt come he has something on and i got upset cause i really wanted to see him then we just started arguing and all and we just argue for nothing he always tell me we shouldn't be together then he says i can't break up with you and he just says so much crap and honestly all i want is for us to stop arguing and fighting and suggestions?

I think you guys need to have a serious talk about what you each want out of the relationship & where you think it's headed.

To me, it doesn't really seem like your relationship is headed anywhere good. If all you're doing is fighting with each other over stupid issues such as hanging out friends, then that's a problem. Chances are it's not even about friends. He has something else on his mind (which could possibly be breaking up) and he figures that by arguing with you over stupid things, he can make you break up with him.

You guys really need to sit down and have a talk about this. If the relationship isn't going well and the fighting doesn't look like it'll ever end, then the relationship has to end. I think that everytime he says you guys should break up, it's actually him wanting you to dump him. I think he wants out of the relationship but doesn't want to hurt you, so he'd rather that you dump him so it makes it easier. But what he doesn't realize is that breaking up is hard no matter who does it.

Seriously though, sit down & talk this out. In my opinion though, the relationship isn't headed anywhere good & I really feel like you guys should break up. Fighting is healthy, but you guys are fighting so much over such tiny things & that makes it really unhealthy and bad. Your relationship isn't growing & prospering. It's time to let go.

19/f

I don't really have a certain style at all and I'm sick of it. All my clothes are plain and boring because I have no idea what sort of style to wear because I dont have a style at all. Even my room, has no style or theme. Its just a bit of anything really. My sister for example wears girly clothes, like lace and pale colours, she would enever wear punky sort of stuff. I'm going on a shopping spree and I need some help!!

You should just buy what you like. It doesn't have to be any specific style. If you see something you like, buy it. :)

I would suggest Target, Forever 21, Wet Seal or American Eagle. They all have really nice clothes & I'm pretty sure you'll find something you like from them easily.

There's nothing wrong with not having a set style & just incorporating a bit of everything into your life. I'm like that and I like it. :) Besides, just doing one style doesn't really give you many options & you're not always going to like what that style has to offer.

Just buy what you like and you can just mix & match from there. :) Good luck!

My friends drawer was short 500 dollars at work after getting it count... should she be worried about loosing her job? She just got hired completed her 30 days last week & this is her first mistake..help?

I don't think she'll lose her job, but she will definitely get in trouble for it.

I understand that she's new but $500 is a lot to be short, and not exactly acceptable when someone is running a business. She should definitely expect to be scolded about this, and she'll probably be watched carefully by the manager to make sure she's meeting her quota or whatever for the day.

Just tell her to try harder next time, because I'm pretty sure with an amount that much the manager will probably only deal with this situation once.

Hi,
I Had a affair (touching and oral only) with a long time friend 1 time.

He came into my mouth and I swallowed.

I later kissed my husband then then had oral sex with him then intercourse. it's been three weeks since then and I am late on my period by 5 days. I took 2 pregnacy test both very light pink line in test window and dark in the control window.

Now History on both my husband and I. I have PCOS and had RNY gastric bypass 21 months ago, I was 400.5 pounds and now am 194 pounds I have lossed over 200 pounds in 21 months. I never had regular periods before this surgery and now do. My husband had very low sperm count that was tested years ago, but is now on testostrone replacement, (shot) We are TTC (trying to conceive) we have been married 10 years but together 12 years, I have never cheated on him until this one time, he knows I told him, but there was NO INTERCOURSE with this other man. My husband is 40 and I am 30.

Okay the man I had oral sex with is 49 and VERY FERTILE and has never had problems with conceiving children with the woman he has been with well married to married 3 times.

I am just wondering could sperm of been in my mouth and transfered to my husband by the way of kissing or oral and then when we had intercourse then other mans sperm lived that long to get in side of me, IS THIS POSSIABLE? Thanks so much for any advice you could give my husband and I.

No. You swallowed the sperm and have since been taking care of oral hygiene. There is no way you'll get pregnant.

my friend just told me that she has cut her wrist twice in the past week and she has tried to make herself throwup. She keeps telling me how she wants to die, and when I confront her about it she says how she would never do that, but how am I supposed to believe her? I care a lot about her, probably more than my own life, but I don't want anything to happen to her and it be my fault that I didn't tell anyone. I'm the only one she trusted to tell this to, and I really don't know if I can keep my promise not to tell anyone. Shouldn't I keep my promise to her though? We are all going to be juniors in high school, and I thought this was going to be a great year for us, but now I just want my friend to stop hurting herself. Please help me out, I don't know what to do to help her.

No. Do not keep your promise to her. If you don't say anything and she continues her behavior, things will only get worse for her, and she will end up really hurting herself a lot more than she already is.

Your friend is on a destructive path and it'll only get worse if you let this continue. Tell an adult ASAP. She is crying for help, and she needs it. If she gets mad at you for telling, just remember that she'll thank you in the end for saving her life.

I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now.

I feel like I shouldn't be in this relationship at all anymore. He's always so clingy. Like I have to be at his house every night and if I'm not by a certain time he starts freaking out calling and texting like crazy..And if I tell him one night "hey I just want to sleep at home tonight" he freaks out like "why?? you act like it's so horrible coming over here".....well YEAH it is because all my stuff is at home and everything I have to do in my life and take care of is at MY HOUSE. Sometimes I just want my space and I don't want to sleep in your bed where you want to cuddle and cuddle until I can't breathe and I can't sleep with someone on top of me.

I can't hang out with my friends anymore and I hate it I feel like I have no life anymore. And I've tried telling him this and he freaked out he was like "Well wtf now I'm not a part of your life?? Fine well if you'd rather hang out with your friends then whatever" and he always talks about how he's not just a stepping stone and whatever and he talks like he thinks we're going to be together forever....when I don't want to be! Even if these problems didn't exist I'm 20 years old I'm not trying to get married I'm young I want to have fun and live my life not be tied down to some psycho!

Also he does this whiny high pitched voice all the time and I know it's just him trying to be cute but it bugs the hell out of me. I can't stand it. You're a man act like a man not like a little girl....it's not attractive....and on that note I'm not physically attracted to him at all...when we first started dating I was attracted to him because we had fun together...but now all he wants me to do is after work shower and come over just so we can sit around and watch tv until we go to bed....and then he has the nerve to ask me why I never dress up for him anymore....(DUHH BECAUSE WE NEVER GO ANYWHERE!! I'm not gonna dress up to sit on your couch!)
So that attraction I had for him is now gone and I'm left with somebody that I don't want to be with....

I made the mistake of telling him I loved him when I wasn't really in love. He kept saying it and saying it and I kind of felt obligated.....well now I don't mean it and every time he says it if I don't say it back he freaks out like "what you don't love me???" I just want to be done with it.

And on top of all this I'm going back to college in two weeks and I'm not going to have time for him....but he's still acting like he's gonna want me to come over every night and I don't even WANT to have time for him.

I just want to be done with this relationship but I don't know how. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to sugarcoat it so that it seems like we're gonna get back together, because I don't want to...and he has anxiety attacks and every time I get mad at him he has one and once I got so mad that I just left his house and he got REALLY angry started kicking his car and screaming and yelling then sent me like 100 text messages about it.

I just know he's going to freak out and get super pissed and I don't know what to do please help me.

I need advice on what to say and how to bring it up. Should I blame it on school? I'm still going to be working while going to school so I really wont have extra time to deal with his needs.

You have to tell him straight up (but nicely) that you're just not into the relationship anymore. There is no way to do it without hurting his feelings. But you need to be honest, and I wouldn't even give him the chance to respond.

Just tell him it's over and then leave.

Im 15 female and virgin. i heard that the first time u have sex it hurts! well if u pop Your cherry would it hurt less your first time? and what would be the safest way to pop it? using a tampon???

Sex is going to hurt whether your hymen is broken or not.

can someone help me with some band names like what to call a new one .. thanks in advance.

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Can someone tell me what ANY of this means? And what language it is? That would be nice.

s: thanks
wondermom: dito n ko
wondermom: asan ka na invite mo ko
s: what language is that?
wondermom: ano ka ba naandito na ko sa farm mo
s: japanese?
piper halliwell: badeth galaw na
wondermom: wala akong pang harvest wePON
piper halliwell: what is ur nationality
wondermom: france invite mo ko
wondermom: assan ka ba sa frm mo
s: cha cha
wondermom: wala me recieve
piper halliwell: invite uli kta
piper halliwell: o ayaw padin?
wondermom: im still waiting
wondermom: oo nga
piper halliwell: oo nga kanina pa kta n invite

That is Tagalog. It's spoken in the Philippines. My boyfriend is actually fluent in it. I'm not sure what this says, but from what I do know of Tagalog, it appears to be something about being invited to a farm & they're waiting to be invited. It's more than likely about a farming game.

I just asked my boyfriend and he said it says:

s: Thanks
wondermom: I'm here already. Where have you been? Invite me already.
s: What language is that?
wondermom: What's up with you? I'm here at your farm.
s: Japanese?
piper halliwell: Come on already.
wondermom: I still don't have a harvest.
piper halliwell: What is your nationality?
wondermom: France. Now invite me. Where are you on your farm?
s: Cha cha.
wondermom: I haven't received anything.
piper halliwell: I'll invite you again.
piper halliwell: It still won't invite you.
wondermom: I'm still waiting.
wondermom: Oh yeah.
piper halliwell: Okay, well I've been sending invites since earlier.

There you go. :)

when having sex, if the girl gets really wet, really easily it's most likely going to be more enjoyable, more easily to get in right?

and does that mean you don't have to use lube?

Yes, and yes. You shouldn't need lube but you can still use some if you like.

It seems like every year on the news I see how California has these terrible fires that consume everything in their paths, including homes and businesses at some points. I am always shocked and amazed at how the fires are so uncontrollable.

Now, I know that California gets hot and stuff but why do they have SO many wildfires? I mean, other states don't seem to have as many--or, at least, they aren't publicized like California's fires. Why is California a more at-risk state?

As far as I know, they're caused by heat, wind & the brush in the nature. Maybe this article can help clear things up:

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/what-causes-wildfires.html

My mom said she went to her doctor and they were concerned about her possibly having osteoporosis because of her age and "other factors." Well, I'm not really sure what osteoporosis actually is and I want to tell my mom more about it, as I'm sure she has questions about it as well.

Isn't osteoporosis bone loss or something like that? Like I said, I'm not entirely sure, and these medical websites make things sound really complicated. Could someone just please explain to me what it is and if my mom should be really concerned about it?

Osteoporosis is the weakening of bones. It happens when people don't take care of their bodies, or even when they don't get enough Calcium.

I'm not sure it's something she should be too worried about because more than likely the doctor can give her something, but in the mean time have her drink plenty of Milk & to take some vitamins. :)

Im 14 and have always loved cooking I hope to grow older and go to college for it. Does any one know any baking sites I could start learning from

I'm not sure if you're on LiveJournal, but I am and I joined a baking communuity. People usually post recipes, ask for recipes that work, OR they post pictures of things they've made. It's a bad community to join because it makes you incredibly hungry, but it's also a really good community to join because some of the bakers are professional & make really good stuff. It's a lot of help and it has definitely inspired me to be a better baker.

As for sites:

http://www.joyofbaking.com/

http://www.pillsburybaking.com/

http://www.bakingobsession.com/

I would definitely check those out. Also, if you do happen to have a LiveJournal, the community is called 'bakebakebake' :).

I`m 14 nd I met my 17 year old boyfriend online , he lives in a differant country ! Is that bad ? I really do love him but I have some doubt deep inside me .

It's not bad, but it's not good either.

Online relationships aren't really good because you never know what the other person is up to. You never know if they're who they say they are. This 17 year old boy could actually be a 50 year old man from another state who's posing as a 17 year old boy online. I'm sure it isn't always the case, but it's definitely not something you should get into. You're 14 and impressionable. That's why there are internet predators.

And besides, if you have doubts, you need to end it & go out with someone in your own town, your own age.

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