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I promised my friend I wouldn't tell anyone what she was doing
my friend just told me that she has cut her wrist twice in the past week and she has tried to make herself throwup. She keeps telling me how she wants to die, and when I confront her about it she says how she would never do that, but how am I supposed to believe her? I care a lot about her, probably more than my own life, but I don't want anything to happen to her and it be my fault that I didn't tell anyone. I'm the only one she trusted to tell this to, and I really don't know if I can keep my promise not to tell anyone. Shouldn't I keep my promise to her though? We are all going to be juniors in high school, and I thought this was going to be a great year for us, but now I just want my friend to stop hurting herself. Please help me out, I don't know what to do to help her.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
When someone does what your friend has done to herself it is a cry for help. The fact that she confided in you and asked you to keep her secret is also a cry for help as she trusts you and your judgment to do the right thing.
What I suggest you do is talk to your parents tell them what your friend has told you. Ask your parents to call your friends parents to tell them what has been told to you. Should your parents not want to get involved or for some reason you do not want to involve your parents, you could go to another trusted adult and ask them to contact her parents. If you are unable or do not want to talk with someone you know you can always talk to your local police. If you live in the US you can also go to your local Fire Station for help. All Fire Stations in the US are Safe Havens; Tell them what you have written here and they will contact the appropriate agency to check into your friends well being.
Will your friend be upset with you for revealing her secret? At first, then after she gets the treatment she needs she will understand your concern was for her safety and well being. When someone does what you friend is doing to herself it is because of a deeper hurt that she cannot or will not bring to the surface. She may or may not be totally aware of just what the hurt is; this is a classic sign of depression which can be treated with medications to help her feel better. Then through therapy with a trained therapist she can work to find out or workout what it is that is causing this deep hurt and how to handle it properly.
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No. Do not keep your promise to her. If you don't say anything and she continues her behavior, things will only get worse for her, and she will end up really hurting herself a lot more than she already is.
Your friend is on a destructive path and it'll only get worse if you let this continue. Tell an adult ASAP. She is crying for help, and she needs it. If she gets mad at you for telling, just remember that she'll thank you in the end for saving her life.
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Personally i think you should tell someone it's like she's trying to warn you she'll hurt her self think about it this way,what is she commits suicide (hope to god she doesn't ) or she gets her self into trouble wouldn't you feel guilty for not telling someone ? especially when you knew that you could've done something to stop her from hurting someone i think stuff like that should be taken seriously she may not be your friend,but sooner or alter she'll realise why you did it and she'll thank you [:
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I've had personal experience with this kind of problem. And I think even though you feel like she trusted you enough to tell you, she really is crying out for help. She prob. doesn't want anyone to know because then they'd make her stop. But I know you'd feel guilty if something bad happened to her or it went to far and you knew and never said anything. She needs help. It will be best in the long run.
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