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I am 14. Im going to be a Freshman this year. But just becuase im younger doesnt mean im not super helpful. I am. Ive been through alot with my friends. More things then any one would ever know. I SPEICIALIZE IN: Self help like; Self esteem, Cutting, Suicidalness, and coping with a loss: Relationships: Boyfriend/Girlfriend problems, friendship problems, Family issues: People problems: Ideas for revenge, bullies, steriotypical people, and how to get more friends: AND ACUAL HELP; For Drugs, sex, and everything in between. Ive been through it all. I can really turn your life around. *I PROMISE* Ive "saved" 3 ppl from suicides, Ive helped someone get off drugs because her life was going down fast, ive made thee most depressed people happy for the first tim in years. If you ever want to talk like one on one my email is: Chicka376@aol.com.I want to help you..
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ok so. back in october me and my friend charlie were walkin back from ffa (future farmers of america) and we were joking around and we said i had a penis pump in my truck. it's not true like i said we were "joking" and now gay people like to spread it around school. ruining my life. and people keep sayin stuff about it. and it's not true. i' ignored it for a long time. but now it's getting on my nerves. what do i do???
Thee only thing you can do. Ignore it some more. Or just say we were only joking. And i garentee youve done it already so Just move on. Sooner or later people will find it not amusing anymore and stop. :)
Im not fat, but my legs do carry a lot of my weight. ive been trying super hard to work it off( i eat very healthy, i run at 2 miles every day, i have volleyball practice for 3 hours and its all running). the weight just doesnt seem to go off. i really want to loose the weight because im starting high school and i dont want to be critized because of my legs. please help.
If your running so much and eating healthy then all that wheight in you legs is muscle. You just have a lot of muscle. (probably) :)
My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive?
Perfect website for you: Wix.com/shelbysworld/TEST
But other than that.. Life will get better if you seperate yourself from everyone that makes fun of you and make new friends and have a fun life. Just dont let people get to you. They're lame anyways. But you shouldn't think of hating life before you have acually lived one. :)
alright so me and my boyfriend dated 8 months, broke up, and 3 months later got back together (which was about a month ago)...he said "i love you" after about 4 months. he hasn't said it yet since we got back together but we've been doing alot of ehh fooling around i guess you can call it, more than we did when we dated for the first time. so i need some opinions...should i stop fooling around with him and wait for him to say it? or should i just keep doing what i'm doing
and anyyy other opinions on any of this
he's my first bf i've been sexual with soo idk how guys work really haha
we haven't actually had sex yet though and i know he's not just in it for sex cause i was drunk one time and said "get a condom" and he said no i won't let anything happen.
If he makes you happy, keep doin what your doin. If you just really want him to say it then stop. ITs easy.
my friend just told me that she has cut her wrist twice in the past week and she has tried to make herself throwup. She keeps telling me how she wants to die, and when I confront her about it she says how she would never do that, but how am I supposed to believe her? I care a lot about her, probably more than my own life, but I don't want anything to happen to her and it be my fault that I didn't tell anyone. I'm the only one she trusted to tell this to, and I really don't know if I can keep my promise not to tell anyone. Shouldn't I keep my promise to her though? We are all going to be juniors in high school, and I thought this was going to be a great year for us, but now I just want my friend to stop hurting herself. Please help me out, I don't know what to do to help her.
Go to this website: Make her go to this website. It makes thee world of diffrence.
wix.com/shelbysworld/TEST
ok i have these to friends a and b there both guys there fighting over this 1 girl (c) and a)wants to fight b) a) drew this picture of himself and b) b was on the floor and a was up in the air with his fist up punching b then above a it said die he handed to 1 of his friends d and d showed me i took it from d and folded it up and put it in my pocket i then took it to the princeipl do u think that was a good idea
No, i dont think so. If they were your friends you should of just talked to the one that drew the picture because it might end bad for you. People hate "tattilers" Even if your just trying to help.
ok so i wrote this poem and i want some feedback on it. If u dont like it, please be nice about it. lol. Thanks. Also tips and suggestions are welcomed. :) and also, it has no name so....here it is;
The overwelming feeling you get in your chest.
The tear jeaking moments of joy.
Unforgetable Happiness,
The long, endless nights together.
Little trivial things in life
Butterflys fluttering around in your tummy, the feeling of being able to fly light as air.
The never ending feeling of pure joy.
Knock Knock Knock.
The stomach droping moment they leave forever.
The tears and heartache day after day never ending pain.
The endless nights crying and wishing they'd come back.
Empty, Empty, Empty is all you feel.
The hollowed out place youe heart once was.
Until finialy, You feeling nothing ar all except pain. Then you relize what really happened...and its to late to change it back.
Until...It starts all over again.
-Callie
I LOVED IT. Your an awsome writer. its good write more.
Ok i have these two girls that like me and i dont know who to choose i was hoping to get some opinions or advice
girl number one: i went out with before but it ended pretty quickly because she still loved her old boyfriend but we have remained really close friends since and there has always been something. now she said she always liked me and broke up with her bf to go out with me and i said ok but im afraid it will happen again. but we get along great, alot in common, lots of communication.but im not sure if i can readjust to becomeing more than friends again. even thought i keep thinking this is my chance to get her back,what iv wanted for so long...but im not sure if i want it.
girl 2: a girl that broke up with me a month ago. because she thought it was for the best and didnt want to hurt me, but she did alot because of the way it happened because she is really bad with communicating. I like her more that girl one but im so afraid ill get hurt again and im pretty sure i will. but she said she would really try and it feels right with her, even though i think it will just be temporarily happy because shes so complicated. she only told me all of thise when she saw me with girl one and it hurt too much and she realised etc.(we live in the same house)
but now im still going out with girl one and i have to choose but im so afraid of hurting girl one because i value her so much as a friend and in general. and im afraid im going to lose one of them so im not sure what to do
thanks
you should keep dating girl 1 until you think it will work with girl 2. other wise you lose both of them. So just wait till the time is the right time.
i say i like a guy but when another guy comes along and i start to think we are just friends. He tells me he likes me! i want at least one guy to be my friend (sounds weird). Then he'll ask if i like him. And some how i always have to say "maybe or i don't know" because im scared that if i say no they won't want to be friends anymore. How can i get over this? and do the right thing??
If you really like the first guy, like really like, and this other guy comes along and asks you if you like him (and you do but just in a friend way) say " Of course!" In a friend way...
Unless this guy YOU like isnt as kewl or doesnt like you back go for the guy who likes you instead of chasing one you cant get.
But if they both like you.... Either chose OR tell them you want to be just friends with both... Then you have two friends and no confusion! AWSOME RIGHT?!! ;)
Go for the guy YOU REEEEEEEEEAAALLLLLLLLYYY LIKE!!!!
-Shelby ;)
Okay, I love to sing. I sing 24/7. But I really need some tips. Maybe some on trying to control my voice? But really, any tips on anything thing. thanks:)
Try to use a piano to match your pitch. But if you sing 24/7 it must be natuarlly good. ;)
See, my crush Kyle he's my age (15) & super ccuuttee! Where good friends now, I've told him before that I like him(a year ago) at the time he just wanted to be friends...All are friends & me think he likes me now, I wanna bring it up but I don't know if he knows he likes me...I see him once to three times a week...How do I bring up my crush on him again whith-out messing up such a great friend-ship we have now?(Names: Gabriella, Age: 15 & Gender: Girl).
So....
You have two options
1.)If your friends with one of his guy friends ask him to "Bring it up" in a convo...
or
2.) If anything is brought up about relationships or something go for it.. in a sneaky way.. (and if there not talking about it then bring it up "Did you hear so n so were....") and then ooohhh speaking of "Whatever you were speaking of" i was wondering if you liked me.. in like a girlfriend kind of way... if he says yeeesss... THEN ASK HIM OUT
no.. then
1) you could tell him " I was just wondering" and go on with your friend ship
or
2) tell him what is EXCACTLY on yourr head.. if you want...
but if your heart is thomping and you just cant ask him, have a friend do it. a friend of his mabey...
:) itll all work out the way its supposed to be...
like if he says no.. u guys are still friends.. BUT good thing he said no.. because AN EVEN AWSOMER GUY came around.. yah know? it all works out ;)
-Shelby :D
does anyone have any stories or tips on weight loss? im not fat but i wanted to loose about 5-20 pounds before summer and was wondering if anyone had any helpful hints or motivations. thanks!
Acai Berries is thee new Hot Diet. It helps you lose that fast. Very simple. Im going to get it soon. Its very heathy with no side effects. JUST WHATCH OUT FOR FAKES. Some are scams, Some dont work AT ALL. Heres a Website Of EVERYTHING you need to know...
http://www.acaiberrystudies.com/
Hope you lose it... XD
i am an asian american, 15/f by the way. i was born here in the u.s so i'm an american citizen. my parents were not born here though. they were born in Vietnam. so pretty much, i have this dream to go to South Koreal to the beautiful city of Seoul. I mean i've been studying the korean language for 3 years now. but there's one thing i'm absolutly unsure of, is it possible for a u.s citizen to live in another country? if not then are there any options or possible ways that can give me the chance to stay there, like a certain job? i'm dying to go there and live my life there in the future!
please tell me if and you have any clue i would very much appreciate it!
:)
you could deffinatly live in a diffrent country. just like how when othere ppl come here, the have to "Become" a us citizen. so its the same way.... but backwords :)
So for the past couple of months some things have been happening to me that are starting to make me worry.
I've always had the most amazing memory, I've always been able to remember small details about everything. Like what the weather was like that day or what I was wearing, how I felt, etc.
But for the past couple of months my memory has been bad. I still remember things from a long time ago but I can't remember recent events anymore. And it's not normal for me.
I don't remember what I did over the weekend and who I talked to and what about.
I don't do drugs so that's not why my memory is slipping.
Also, I keep feeling like after I say something or do something, that I didn't really do it.
Like for an example, if I'm having a conversation and I say something, right after I feel like I really didn't say it, like I just thought I did but didn't.
I have to ask the people if I actually said or did anything.
I know I'm not explaining it all that well, but I'm trying to the best I can. It's hard to explain.
And I'm constantly questioning things that I know are for certain.
Example: Someone tells me that they want to talk about something. I start to wonder what they want to talk about. My heart starts pounding, I start to think about what they could possibly want to talk about and then start to think anything I could have done wrong.
If it's after the weekend I try to remember my weekend. If I stayed home all weekend I start to wonder "Maybe I went out." Even though I KNOW I stayed home ALL weekend. I sit there and think "Well, maybe I did go out...but I know I was home all weekend... but maybe I'm wrong?"
It's driving me crazy.
My slipping memory is affecting my life.
I don't feel in control of myself anymore
Thats pretty much normal for me. i have thee WORST memory ever. But if its not normal to you, and it doesnt sound normal, than you should problably get that checked out. you could of accidently got a concusion or tumor or something. get it checked. :)
how can i stop being depressed.
All i want to do is sit home
and listen to music..and imagine if i was thinner and prettier..
i havent had a boyfriend in 3 years and my mom told me today that she thinks im wasting away the best years of my life
i dont want to do anything..i think my weight is holding me back im 5'3 and i weight 176 pounds..
i have been gaining weight left and right because i dont want to do anything..yeah sometime i go out with friends and with my family..but right now they went to see the miley cyrus movie..and i didnt want to go..my mom said that i need help and i need to snap out of it..but i dont know what to do..HELP what can i do..i dont think i can afford mental help..!
Thats so normal. And 170 pounds really isnt "Fat" Im 270ish and im always happy. Do you know what you need to do?!?!!! you need to go have fun. You wouldnt be depressed if you were having fun. If you want to not be "depressed" then you have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Go have fun. go out with friends. These are the best years of your life and they wont come back. You cant really "stop" being depressed. you have to do something. You should go hang out with friends. Or take up a new hobby. Im so good at this subject of advice. So if you really need help then email me chicka376@aol.com im pretty much so happy because.. i dont take crap from anyone. i live to have fun. im only 14 and i figured out life already... most ppl dnt figure that out until there 40 and then they see "woh" whered my life go? ha.. im a talker.. email me whenever :)
14/f
Well I'm going to get my hair cut soon but I don't know if I should do anything different. My hair is almost down to my elbow kinda length. My hair is dark brown and I have tannish skin. I'm indian so I have thick hair. I have an ovalish face too. My hair is long layered too, plain straight. Oh and I have side bangs. So is there any ideas on what I should do?
Second, I was thinking of maybe getting highlights. But I don't know if any would be a good color for me. Since my hair is dark like almost black. So I wouldn't want anything to stand out too much. Like no blond. And another question, what are low lights? I've heard people talk about it but I don't know what it is. Thanks!
i think it would look super cute way shorter like not to your face. only some people can pull that off... and scince i dont know what you look like... just go up a little longer than your shoulders.
Your rite about the blonde tho. that would look stupid. and low lites are just dark colored high lights. it would be VERY cute if you got some *natural* looking low lights. so if you have alot of them and there a shade or two up from you hair color.. It would be very cute!!! :]
Hi guys ATTENTION!!!
FAKE SPAMS have been going around and trying to get ADVICENATORS.....dont be caught in penpal spam
Young women (pretending to be from west africa like senegal or dakar) will send you emails stating something along the lines of "my father was a millionaire, my mom died and i'm the only one that survived, and now i'm in a refugee camp"
DO NOT BELIEVE THIS.
her email is julietnkaje2007@yahoo.com
here's a website where other people have had similar situations if you wanna check it out, and here's the email i got and decided to check up on.
http://www.419scam.org/419-penpal.htm
this is what she sent me
""HI
My name is Juliet nkaje ,i saw your profile today in (www.advicenators.com) and became intrested in you,i will also like to know you more,and i want you to send an email to my email address so i can give you my picture for you to know whom i am.
Here is my email address (julietnkaje2007@yahoo.com)
I believe we can move from here!
I am waiting for your mail to my email address above..
(Remeber the distance or colour does not matter but love matters alot in life) yours "
and again :
"My dear,
Am happy in your reply to my mail. How is your day over there in your country i hope you are fine? My name is Juliet nkaje ( 24 ) single and never married, i am 5.6 height 49 wight, fair in compilation nice looking understanding and sincere young girl.i am from Liberia in west Africa but presently i am residing in refugee camp here in Dakar Senegal,as a result of the civil war that was fought in my country then i found my self in UN refugee camp and i am writing you with the hope that you be a help hand to me over my situation.
My late father Mr Morgan nkaje was the one in charge of the diamond sales in Government in monrovia the capital of Liberia and he is also the personal advice to the former head of state before the rebels attacked our house one early morning and killing my mother and my father,
It was only me that is alive now and i managed to make my way to near by country Senegal where i am living now as a refugee under UN refugee camp in Senegal so .I will like to know more about you. Your likes and dislike,your hobbies and what you are doing presently you work all about you as. I will tell you more about myself in my next mail . Attached here is my picture and i will like to see your picture too, Hoping to hear from you
Yours Juliet"
OMG THAT HAPPENED TO ME TOO. I didnt think of anything of it tho. she gave me a "Weird vibe" tho. So i didnt send back.... That is so weird... ppl these days!!!!!!
can anyone find a flat pic of this tattoo(not on someones body)
if not thats ok i'll just have to try and draw it...
http://media.photobucket.com/image/gothic%20rose%20tattoo/correav7/shit/Side-Tattoo-Gothic-Rose-Vine-tattoo.jpg?o=28
well i found something like it... but the other one was a design the tatoo artist made.. you can show them the pic with it on the girl but this is the closest i got to it :)
http://runeflame.deviantart.com/art/Gothic-Black-Rose-Back-Tattoo-57097494
ok so I really really like one of my good friends. Im pretty sure that she likes me back, but the thing is is that I have no idea what to say to her when I tell her because I choke up everytime i try to say somethign to a girl that involves me liking them. Do you think it would be alright if I texted her or is that out of the question? I want to do something really nice but not embarrassing like flowers or anything and also Im going to my Junior prom with her. She is 19 and IM not sureif the two age year difference would be too much for her please I need you advice!
if you guys are good friends, then the two year age diffrence wont be "too much" for her. and if your going to the prom with her what are you trying to do? if you want to ask her out do it in a cute spontaneous way likkee.... write her a note... tape it to her locker.. yah know yah know..? or you could ask her while your dancing. be more spontaneous and nice, than think am i going to be embarresed type of thing.. JUST DO IT :)
heyy
i like this guy, lets call him Pete. and we were at school camp last week together. okay well he is new at our school and hes really shy. we had a dance party there and he asked me to go to his cabin room with him instead, and i did. we were sitting down and then he goes "Can i kiss you?" and i was shocked because he doesnt talk that much and hes shy so i went all red and didnt say anything and just hid my face and then i stood up and ran away and sat on the top bunk, and he was leaning against the ladder, and then a teacher came in .. xD. we got put on 1 hour of after school detention and he got upset about it because hes only been new for a month and didnt want his reputation with teachers to be ruined, and i tried to cheer him up and then i said If you want to be alone then i can leave and he said Yes please, so i left. He talked to me the day after and said Sorry about ignoring you last night and then we talked for a bit and everything was fine. That night we got back to school and everyone was getting picked up, and my best friend Andrew came to meet me. I got him to carry all my luggage for me lol so we were walking and we walked past Pete, so i said bye to my friend and sat down with Pete. He didnt talk at all so i got a bad vibe and so i asked "Do you hate me or something..?" and he just shook his head no and didnt say anything. I felt abit weird so im like Okay what the hell so i got up and walked off. I didnt talk to him since then and today i had a double class with him, and my friend sat down next to me just do that Pete would have to sit next to me or there would be no seats left. Well that didnt work because he didnt talk to me at all. the next day we had detention for what happened at camp so as we were going inside i turned around and stood right in front of him and i was like "Are you gonna ignore me forever?" and he just shook his head no. and then after the detention i walked up to him and he said "Im sorry for ignoring you its just that im new and i dont want to give a bad image and teachers now give me dirties and everyone is making a big deal out of it" and i said "Yeah i know but you should ignore them because its just stupid rumours"
then hes like "Next term everyone will get over it so it will be better" and i was like Okay so you say you like me, then you ignore me for a week, and now you say next term we will be better for us?!!" and he said "Yeah i just cant talk to you this week .." so i just said Whatever then see you next term. and i walked off..
i dont know whether i should wait for him or if i should just forget about it during the 2 week holidays ? please helpp :)
sorry that its longg lol
thankss
....
You should do what you feel fit. But on the other hand he does sound like he is getting that new guy shock. Most ppl do go through that. He sounds all right. but just do something.. like wave a guy in his face. make him jelous.. and then he will prolly talk to you bout it and then you guys could sort stuff out everything would be all good.
or mabey he isnt worth waiting for and you should just ignore him... that would probalbly drive him crazy also...
either way you guys do need to figure some stuff out.
but just give him a chance.. Hes new ;)